FabSwingers.com forum: Drinking

By *emonochrome OP Man
4 weeks ago

Watford

I don’t drink anymore and I’m surprised by the reaction that gets. Genuine things people havr said to me

- that’s boring

- oh, did you have a problem?

- you must be a nasty d*unk

- people need to relax more

- come out with me I’ll get you pissed

Is it that big a deal, really?

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By *enda83Man
4 weeks ago

newcastle

I rarely drink these days only 3 times in the last year and a half the thought of waking up feeling like utter shit and wasting the entire day after a night out just fills me with dread, it’s hard finding social things to do though as all my mates want to do when they have time away from family is get hammered but honestly I wouldn’t care if never drank again as boring as that may be

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By *obilebottomMan
4 weeks ago

All over

I drink occasionally and very sensibly, always have done. Except that one time

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By *WANDTGCouple
4 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

Gave up drink in 2005, I have my reasons and if anyone asks I'll tell them. Don't miss it, I thought you had to get d*unk to enjoy yourself, how wrong was I !

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

I quit drinking a few years ago and it’s the best thing I did for my physical and mental health.

I personally don’t give a fk what others think of me quitting the alcohol it’s my decision and it’s right for me.

We don’t live our lives for others.

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By *peedyGMan
4 weeks ago

Telford

I used to get similar reactions as you've mentioned, I stopped drinking for a few years in late 20s early 30s.

It doesn't bother me if someone drinks or not personally, you don't or should i say shouldn't need a drink to have a good time.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
4 weeks ago

little house on the praire

One of my circle of friends doesn't drink. Noone says anything just accept it

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By *Clem-Fandango-Woman
4 weeks ago

Yarm

I haven't drank in 5 years. Used to run hotels and pubs so was a big drinker.

I find it a real turn off if a guy drinks on a meet with me and then wants sex. There's something really creepy to me about one person being sober and one person d*unk and having sex.

So i find it really difficult to meet people.

Most reactions I get are " what you don't drink AT ALL?"

and

" So like, what do you do if you don't drink?"

Sit in an empty room with a glass of water and three heads apparently.

* Yawn *

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
4 weeks ago

Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish.

I (Mr) am teetotal.

The reaction I usually get is "what AT ALL?" followed by then telling me that they don't drink that much and yadda yadda.

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By *hunky GentMan
4 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

I like a drink (lager) if I'm socialising.

Especially bbqs etc.

I don't drink at home and I don't go to pubs often.

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

No it's really not, or it shouldn't be.

It's rude to ask why not or imply someone's dull etc.

Each to their own and all that.

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By *eneralKenobiMan
4 weeks ago

North Angus

I drink quite a bit compared to most people but I wouldn’t judge someone for not doing

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By *idssissyTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

In the past I have not been invited to socials because I don't drink and they were afraid I would remember every stupid thing they did

Would have been a different story if I could drive

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By *avenNightsMan
4 weeks ago

Canvey Island

I stopped drinking about 16 years ago. I get zero joy out of it and to me, alcohol tastes horrible.

I too get the same comments levelled at me like you do OP, and it’s frustrating.

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
4 weeks ago

Sunderland

I stopped drinking completely for almost all of my 30s. Never had any comments really bar the odd raised eyebrow and comment about a sober irishman.

I drink again now but only occasionally and then its 1 or 2 at most. No one seems to care really. It's getting more and more common to not drink.

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By *parkle1974Woman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

It shouldn't be a big deal.

I very rarely drink these days, I do enjoy a glass of wine every now and then or a cheeky little fruit cider.

Long gone are the days of getting hammered.

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By *2000ManMan
4 weeks ago

Worthing

Most people in family and friends rarely drink if at all. So noone ever encourages others to go over the top.

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By *oodmessMan
4 weeks ago

yumsville

It's part reason I lost the my long term friends, they were big weekend and mid week drinkers. I didn't realise at the time, only when I moved that I wasn't drinking to enjoy a night out, it was more a game of last man standing. They're probably still at it

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By *ack 55530Man
4 weeks ago

cardiff

"I don’t drink anymore and I’m surprised by the reaction that gets. Genuine things people havr said to me

- that’s boring

- oh, did you have a problem?

- you must be a nasty d*unk

- people need to relax more

- come out with me I’ll get you pissed

Is it that big a deal, really? "

I have alcohol in my room and I see it every single day, but don’t feel like drinking, but if I’m with my friends then I lose count. If there is a good drinking partner and a good tea or catching up with things things can go out of control

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
4 weeks ago

Altrincham

Hubby doesn't drink, he was a heavy drinker for years and when our youngest two were born very close together he just stopped drinking and hasn't drank for 15yrs

I drink but I know when to stop

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By *arl50Man
4 weeks ago

Sheffield

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By *ealitybitesMan
4 weeks ago

Belfast

I'm been teetotal by choice all my life. I've never once tasted alcohol and have no wish to.

It's not a religious thing and there is no family history of alcoholism. It was a decision I took as a teenager, in spite of the fact every one of my friends drank.

I've been told I'm not a real man because I don't drink and replied that it takes a bigger man to not rely on it.

I've been told by 2 different people that I'm lying about being Irish because all Irish people drink.

I've never had any issue being out with friends or work colleagues even when they are getting blocked they still respect my choices.

I have nothing against anyone who does drink and all my kids and siblings do but I have zero interest.

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By *ndymac888Man
4 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I get more more weirded out when someone doesn’t drink tea or coffee, total suspicion follows.

Aliens are among us and that’s how we find them.

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By *lasgowPandaMan
4 weeks ago

Hotel in Heathrow

Funny how you don't get the same reaction for socially acceptable but still illegal substances...

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By *ortySwitchMan
4 weeks ago

london

"I don’t drink anymore and I’m surprised by the reaction that gets. Genuine things people havr said to me

? "

I’m in the same boat. When ever I tell people I don’t drink, they always ask my why and assume I had a problem. They can’t accept that I don’t like alcohol, being d*unk, or hangovers!

Also, I really really hate having to explain it to everyone. No one questions you when you tell them you’re going to pour literal poison into yourself and ruin your health.

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By *emonochrome OP Man
4 weeks ago

Watford

"I don’t drink anymore and I’m surprised by the reaction that gets. Genuine things people havr said to me

I’m in the same boat. When ever I tell people I don’t drink, they always ask my why and assume I had a problem. They can’t accept that I don’t like alcohol, being d*unk, or hangovers!

Also, I really really hate having to explain it to everyone. No one questions you when you tell them you’re going to pour literal poison into yourself and ruin your health. "

Madness isn’t it!

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By *eordieJeansCouple
4 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It’s funny but I find when you’re destroying your body with drugs, alcohol, bad food and whatever else nobody bats an eyelid but as soon as you start looking after yourself everyone becomes concerned.

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By *ub with a ChubbMan
4 weeks ago

Southwest & Cork City

"I don’t drink anymore and I’m surprised by the reaction that gets. Genuine things people havr said to me

- that’s boring

- oh, did you have a problem?

- you must be a nasty d*unk

- people need to relax more

- come out with me I’ll get you pissed

Is it that big a deal, really? "

Nah, it's not.

What's strange is that people only seem to react this way about drinking, never about smoking.

Never have I heard someone say "what, you don't smoke???"

I drink occasionally.

Whiskey usually, but I seldom if ever go out.

If it was a straight up choice between losing alcohol or coffee, alcohol would lose, no question.

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By *electableicecreamMan
4 weeks ago

The West

I really enjoy drinking but I rarely do and almost never get d*unk. But fine alcohol with fine food is a particular joy

I wouldn't bat an eyelid at anyone I know or meet not drinking. It's way more common now anyway.

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By *itnkatCouple
4 weeks ago

in lincs between lincoln grantham boston

As you get older drinking has less affect or is that because you did all the hangovers when you were younger

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By *electableicecreamMan
4 weeks ago

The West

"As you get older drinking has less affect or is that because you did all the hangovers when you were younger "

That's just sorosis

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I rarely drink, and if I do it's usually two to three as a maximum when it's time for a girly cocktail night.

The majority of people I know are either completely teetotal or have an occasional one or two rather than regular or binge drinkers.

If someone thinks I'm boring for not wanting to get hammered, that's okay. They can go do that with people who enjoy it instead of wasting time with my boring arse 💜

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By *sTiqueWoman
4 weeks ago

Ilkley

"I get more more weirded out when someone doesn’t drink tea or coffee, total suspicion follows.

Aliens are among us and that’s how we find them."

With you in this….

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By *bby1110Woman
4 weeks ago

Gloucester

"I get more more weirded out when someone doesn’t drink tea or coffee, total suspicion follows.

Aliens are among us and that’s how we find them."

I feel seen 👽 Don’t drink tea, coffee or alcohol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex

I know people who don't drink alcohol at all, some who have a poor relationship with it and people like me who drink now and again and don't care if others do or not.

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By *ongAndThick123Man
4 weeks ago

I cut down my drinking a lot this year. Someone close to me called me boring when I turned down a drink, and it really surprised me how much that comment hurt.

There’s so much pressure to drink alcohol it’s mad.

I’m not 100% sober, but I definitely hardly drink now. For example I had a friend over from the US for a week just now, and we didn’t have a single alcoholic drink the entire time and I didn’t even notice. It wasn’t intentional.

Once you stop drinking you realise that it actually didn’t give you confidence, you just thought it did.

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By *peedyGMan
4 weeks ago

Telford

"I cut down my drinking a lot this year. Someone close to me called me boring when I turned down a drink, and it really surprised me how much that comment hurt.

There’s so much pressure to drink alcohol it’s mad.

Once you stop drinking you realise that it actually didn’t give you confidence, you just thought it did. "

Agree with that last sentence.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think if you drink for the effect it has on you rather than because you like the drink itself you're going to have trouble understanding why others don't.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
4 weeks ago

West Suffolk

Mr can take it or leave it. If he does drink it’s for the taste, not to get the effect. So it’s only ever 2-3 drinks and that’s probably only once per week.

Mrs doesn’t drink.

Piss heads don’t understand why people aren’t like them. Same for those who smoke .

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By *KTim61Man
4 weeks ago

Tipton

I'm on Meds why I dont drink Alcohol now, but I dont miss it I do occasionally have a non - alcohol drink though

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
4 weeks ago

Basingstoke

I've never been a big drinker, and as I tend to drive whenever I go out (can't rely on public transport and cabs are impossible to find here!), no one bats an eyelid when I don't drink.

As someone responsible for her own safety I think it's the least I can do to remain sober when I'm meeting up with people I haven't yet built trust in, and if anyone has a problem with me not drinking then it's definitely their problem, rather than mine!

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By *orphia2003Woman
4 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I drink on social meets. I don't drink and play generally. It doesn't really seem relevant as 90% are time wasters anyway.

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
4 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

I don't drink, and can out for a full on night out and not drink a drop of the stuff and I don't need to drink to find my vibe, I already have that

plus not drinking means I can drive there and can leave when I like knowing I have a safe route home

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By *riel13Woman
4 weeks ago

Northampton

I do drink, once in a while and to somewhere that would be considered excess to alot of people... But I cannot day drink as that is the only time I have ever had anything resembling a hangover so get alot of stick for that, especially from people who know how I drink when I do... I just tell those people to fuck off and mind their own business

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By *ellinever70Woman
4 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I'm having a beer 🍺

Cheers

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By *agneto.Man
4 weeks ago

Bham

When I was younger I'd always drink when out.

I never drink in swingers clubs, as usually drive.

I think perhaps because of that I sometimes don't drink on normal nights out. Or just have one or two.

It does make you realise drink people can be a bit annoying !

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By *riel13Woman
4 weeks ago

Northampton

"When I was younger I'd always drink when out.

I never drink in swingers clubs, as usually drive.

I think perhaps because of that I sometimes don't drink on normal nights out. Or just have one or two.

It does make you realise drink people can be a bit annoying !

I hate d*unk people when I'm sober lol

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
4 weeks ago

Reading

I often don't drink but have never had any reaction.

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By *agneto.Man
4 weeks ago

Bham

"When I was younger I'd always drink when out.

I never drink in swingers clubs, as usually drive.

I think perhaps because of that I sometimes don't drink on normal nights out. Or just have one or two.

It does make you realise drink people can be a bit annoying !

I hate d*unk people when I'm sober lol"

*Nods

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

It's not at all, I gave it up for 3 yrs upto about 2 yrs ago. No t a big drinker though ,don't go for big nights out or a session anymore , just like a few in the pub for the social side of it.

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By *allucinatingGMan
4 weeks ago

Wild West Lothian

Used to be every Saturday night, plus the odd Friday as well, although I rarely drank in the house, it was always a social thing for me. Since Covid it's rare I have a drink more than once a month, habits change I guess and people don't go out as much anymore.

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By *rPunxMan
4 weeks ago

Hull

This all reminds me of Adam ants goody two shoes. You don't drink, Don't smoke what do you do ? Subtle innuendo follows

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
4 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

"This all reminds me of Adam ants goody two shoes. You don't drink, Don't smoke what do you do ? Subtle innuendo follows"

I don't drink or smoke....

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By *hampagne911Man
4 weeks ago

Cannock

I’m a single malt aficionado and my parents and I ( less so) have a diverse vintage wine collection. Having spend 8 months in the Middle East, I had to come off my habit of having a G&T at 17:30hr, half a bottle of red, and a few whiskeys or an Armagnac.

Also, my Latina partner was born with a raging thirst so I considered myself “sensible”. I calculated I must have easily had 40+ units a week, and that’s not good at all.

Anyhow: my libido went up, my cholesterol went down, my skin was better and my fatty liver and occasional gout improved significantly.

My GP said: whatever you’re doing: keep doing it. Back in Europe and here I’ll have a T instead of a G&T, a spicy ginger beer with loads of ice and lemon, or lemon water.

I couldn’t care less what ppl think, tbh: it’s a broad church.

Cheers!

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By *igad999Man
4 weeks ago

wolverhampton

"I don’t drink anymore and I’m surprised by the reaction that gets. Genuine things people havr said to me

- that’s boring

- oh, did you have a problem?

- you must be a nasty d*unk

- people need to relax more

- come out with me I’ll get you pissed

Is it that big a deal, really? "

It’s not the be all and end all but if wife’s had a bit / off her tits she gets that extra bit horny and needs it there and then

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By *apt peteMan
4 weeks ago

Peterborough

Don't need to drink to have fun.. yet I've just had a skin full and scored.

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By *emonochrome OP Man
3 weeks ago

Watford

Thanks everyone for your comments made me feel a lot better now let’s all meet up and not get d*unk!

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
3 weeks ago

newcastle

Don't set a target cause you'll fail and give in. Just one day at a time. Tick it off and you'll be surprised. It's never easy and youll/well always be addicted. I've had 2. Probably 3 now and it's hard. But one day at a time and you'll win xxx

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
3 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

When I fancy a cold Guinness I have one, and when I don’t fancy one I don’t have one, I never discuss this choice with anyone else because it’s got fuck all to do with them, and I feel no need to involve them in my personal choice of beverage.

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