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"With all the talk of “I’m not getting any responses to messages” I thought I’d start a thread of messages we’d like to see pop up in our inboxes. I know a lot of people ignore messages and skip straight to the profile, but personally I’ll skip the messages that are shit. Good chat will always be one of the sexiest things to me." Ones that don't waffle on, don't start with babe, your the most beautiful woman on here. I love an icebreaker and if you can make me laugh or smile as a first message and polite  then I'll probably read and reply | |||
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"With all the talk of “I’m not getting any responses to messages” I thought I’d start a thread of messages we’d like to see pop up in our inboxes. I know a lot of people ignore messages and skip straight to the profile, but personally I’ll skip the messages that are shit. Good chat will always be one of the sexiest things to me. Ones that don't waffle on, don't start with babe, your the most beautiful woman on here. I love an icebreaker and if you can make me laugh or smile as a first message and polite then I'll probably read and reply"Yes! I love a fun icebreaker! Or something that’s randomly funny like a dad joke. Opposite to the wafflers- I hate the one word “hello” messages, especially from accounts with no info lol | |||
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"With all the talk of “I’m not getting any responses to messages” I thought I’d start a thread of messages we’d like to see pop up in our inboxes. I know a lot of people ignore messages and skip straight to the profile, but personally I’ll skip the messages that are shit. Good chat will always be one of the sexiest things to me. Ones that don't waffle on, don't start with babe, your the most beautiful woman on here. I love an icebreaker and if you can make me laugh or smile as a first message and polite then I'll probably read and reply
Yes! I love a fun icebreaker! Or something that’s randomly funny like a dad joke.
Opposite to the wafflers- I hate the one word “hello” messages, especially from accounts with no info lol"The ones that have "Will fill in later in their bio" Haha x | |||
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"With all the talk of “I’m not getting any responses to messages” I thought I’d start a thread of messages we’d like to see pop up in our inboxes. I know a lot of people ignore messages and skip straight to the profile, but personally I’ll skip the messages that are shit. Good chat will always be one of the sexiest things to me." If she expects every man who messages to read a 50 paragraph profile before messaging, the the first message should be equally long and you can get offended if she hasn’t read it properly.  | |||
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"I personally have not sent a first message to a woman in over 3 years. In the past when ever I did sent the first message I always felt like I'm now in direct competition with all the other guys fighting for for attention of the woman and it just made me feel horrible, always second guessing if my message was good enough or if it will be ever read or if I will ever get a reply, to the degree it effected my self esteem. So I decided to change the approach and took all that energy and effort of writing a message and put it into my profile (the pictures and videos I take, the way my bio is presented) and ever since I'm the one getting approached by women (which is an amazing feeling honestly). I'm not saying that all men should take the same approach, but me personally will never send a first message again...the right women will find me 👌. Also all the women I interacted with from fab said the same thing - the profile of the man is more important than the message..." I’ve been told I have a nice profile and had a little joy here but never been approached first….but then I haven’t got a body like yours lol | |||
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"I had a perfect first message. I really really liked it. But it and the following reply were a little too perfect. And then the next reply was so very different in style that something felt weird. So I fed my profile text into chatGPT and asked it to create a charming introductory message. A few tweaks later and I had my answer. So I’ve taken pretty much all of my profile text away. I felt a little embarrassed for not instantly realising but it’s also a sorry state of affairs when AI is doing better than 99% of men on fab." Wait are you expecting men to be better at words than AI? The entity that literally has all the information of the Internet at it's disposal within a fraction of a second? 🤭 I understand what you're trying to say...men shouldn't rely on AI to make themselves look better, but the way you said it sounds like men need to be more efficient at communicating than AI ...are we in competition with AI now as well 😅 | |||
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"I had a perfect first message. I really really liked it. But it and the following reply were a little too perfect. And then the next reply was so very different in style that something felt weird. So I fed my profile text into chatGPT and asked it to create a charming introductory message. A few tweaks later and I had my answer. So I’ve taken pretty much all of my profile text away. I felt a little embarrassed for not instantly realising but it’s also a sorry state of affairs when AI is doing better than 99% of men on fab." Hey Julie, Your profile made me smile right from the first line — glad to hear your plans are probably fun (confidence level: excellent). 😄 You seem like someone who knows exactly what she wants, and I really admire how clearly and joyfully you talk about your relationships. It’s refreshing to see openness and warmth like that. I’d love to get to know you better if you think we might vibe. At the very least, I promise not to start any messages with blah blah blah — unless it's strictly for comedic effect. Happy fabbing indeed! Nude x | |||
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"I personally have not sent a first message to a woman in over 3 years. In the past when ever I did sent the first message I always felt like I'm now in direct competition with all the other guys fighting for for attention of the woman and it just made me feel horrible, always second guessing if my message was good enough or if it will be ever read or if I will ever get a reply, to the degree it effected my self esteem. So I decided to change the approach and took all that energy and effort of writing a message and put it into my profile (the pictures and videos I take, the way my bio is presented) and ever since I'm the one getting approached by women (which is an amazing feeling honestly). I'm not saying that all men should take the same approach, but me personally will never send a first message again...the right women will find me 👌. Also all the women I interacted with from fab said the same thing - the profile of the man is more important than the message..." Yeah, it kinda helps that you're FAF right? Just saying is all.... | |||
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"I had a perfect first message. I really really liked it. But it and the following reply were a little too perfect. And then the next reply was so very different in style that something felt weird. So I fed my profile text into chatGPT and asked it to create a charming introductory message. A few tweaks later and I had my answer. So I’ve taken pretty much all of my profile text away. I felt a little embarrassed for not instantly realising but it’s also a sorry state of affairs when AI is doing better than 99% of men on fab. Wait are you expecting men to be better at words than AI? The entity that literally has all the information of the Internet at it's disposal within a fraction of a second? 🤭 I understand what you're trying to say...men shouldn't rely on AI to make themselves look better, but the way you said it sounds like men need to be more efficient at communicating than AI ...are we in competition with AI now as well 😅" 
Not better at words than AI. But I don’t think I realised quite how good it is at that sort of thing because I don’t use it much and especially not in that way.
It was just a hunch. Like I said it was too perfect, the artificial bit quickly became apparent. The message was better than 99% of messages I get when filters are down and that is sad though.
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"I had a perfect first message. I really really liked it. But it and the following reply were a little too perfect. And then the next reply was so very different in style that something felt weird. So I fed my profile text into chatGPT and asked it to create a charming introductory message. A few tweaks later and I had my answer. So I’ve taken pretty much all of my profile text away. I felt a little embarrassed for not instantly realising but it’s also a sorry state of affairs when AI is doing better than 99% of men on fab. Hey Julie, Your profile made me smile right from the first line — glad to hear your plans are probably fun (confidence level: excellent). 😄 You seem like someone who knows exactly what she wants, and I really admire how clearly and joyfully you talk about your relationships. It’s refreshing to see openness and warmth like that. I’d love to get to know you better if you think we might vibe. At the very least, I promise not to start any messages with blah blah blah — unless it's strictly for comedic effect. Happy fabbing indeed! Nude x" You see! That would work for me except there’s a huge AI tell that I’m reluctant to give away. 🤣 FFS. I’m either going to change it to “fill in later” or hook myself up to a dildo and chatbot. 😭 | |||
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"I had a perfect first message. I really really liked it. But it and the following reply were a little too perfect. And then the next reply was so very different in style that something felt weird. So I fed my profile text into chatGPT and asked it to create a charming introductory message. A few tweaks later and I had my answer. So I’ve taken pretty much all of my profile text away. I felt a little embarrassed for not instantly realising but it’s also a sorry state of affairs when AI is doing better than 99% of men on fab. Hey Julie, Your profile made me smile right from the first line — glad to hear your plans are probably fun (confidence level: excellent). 😄 You seem like someone who knows exactly what she wants, and I really admire how clearly and joyfully you talk about your relationships. It’s refreshing to see openness and warmth like that. I’d love to get to know you better if you think we might vibe. At the very least, I promise not to start any messages with blah blah blah — unless it's strictly for comedic effect. Happy fabbing indeed! Nude x You see! That would work for me except there’s a huge AI tell that I’m reluctant to give away. 🤣 FFS. I’m either going to change it to “fill in later” or hook myself up to a dildo and chatbot. 😭 " The AI tell is great, don’t let the secret out! | |||
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"I had a perfect first message. I really really liked it. But it and the following reply were a little too perfect. And then the next reply was so very different in style that something felt weird. So I fed my profile text into chatGPT and asked it to create a charming introductory message. A few tweaks later and I had my answer. So I’ve taken pretty much all of my profile text away. I felt a little embarrassed for not instantly realising but it’s also a sorry state of affairs when AI is doing better than 99% of men on fab. Hey Julie, Your profile made me smile right from the first line — glad to hear your plans are probably fun (confidence level: excellent). 😄 You seem like someone who knows exactly what she wants, and I really admire how clearly and joyfully you talk about your relationships. It’s refreshing to see openness and warmth like that. I’d love to get to know you better if you think we might vibe. At the very least, I promise not to start any messages with blah blah blah — unless it's strictly for comedic effect. Happy fabbing indeed! Nude x You see! That would work for me except there’s a huge AI tell that I’m reluctant to give away. 🤣 FFS. I’m either going to change it to “fill in later” or hook myself up to a dildo and chatbot. 😭 " Yep I know that ai tell and it’s funny, I got it in my blind date answers 🤣 | |||
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"With all the talk of “I’m not getting any responses to messages” I thought I’d start a thread of messages we’d like to see pop up in our inboxes. I know a lot of people ignore messages and skip straight to the profile, but personally I’ll skip the messages that are shit. Good chat will always be one of the sexiest things to me." It’s important for blokes to note, and something I was given a reality check on… your message may be great, but because men are so vastly out numbered even the slightest thing can put a woman off. The options are just vast! So, obviously, put your time in to a message but never, ever take it personally. | |||
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"I had a perfect first message. I really really liked it. But it and the following reply were a little too perfect. And then the next reply was so very different in style that something felt weird. So I fed my profile text into chatGPT and asked it to create a charming introductory message. A few tweaks later and I had my answer. So I’ve taken pretty much all of my profile text away. I felt a little embarrassed for not instantly realising but it’s also a sorry state of affairs when AI is doing better than 99% of men on fab. Hey Julie, Your profile made me smile right from the first line — glad to hear your plans are probably fun (confidence level: excellent). 😄 You seem like someone who knows exactly what she wants, and I really admire how clearly and joyfully you talk about your relationships. It’s refreshing to see openness and warmth like that. I’d love to get to know you better if you think we might vibe. At the very least, I promise not to start any messages with blah blah blah — unless it's strictly for comedic effect. Happy fabbing indeed! Nude x You see! That would work for me except there’s a huge AI tell that I’m reluctant to give away. 🤣 FFS. I’m either going to change it to “fill in later” or hook myself up to a dildo and chatbot. 😭 " Hi, Julie! I couldn't help but be drawn to your profile. It seems like you’ve got some great things going on with that dildo! Looking forward to hearing more about you when you're ready to fill in the details. Nude x | |||
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