FabSwingers.com forum: Self care

By *carletts OP Woman
9 weeks ago

Harpenden

Self care and looking after your mental health is so important, how do you self care?

I take a long bath and pamper myself or read a good book to escape from reality for a bit

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By *ikestokissMan
9 weeks ago

london

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9 weeks ago

Go to the gym, daily cold water immersion, drink coffee and listen to heavy metal.

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By *peedyGMan
9 weeks ago

Telford

I take myself off for long walks at weekends, enjoy a couple of beers on occasions too.

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By *an8iMan
9 weeks ago

Bilston

I try and go to the gym 3/4 times a week really helps my head

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By *andydan69Man
9 weeks ago

south west nr you mmm

Scarlet u are my self care mmmmm looking good x

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By *ikestokissMan
9 weeks ago

london

Hi OP

I like to self care with my hotlist 👀but a more grown up response 😇 any activities that puts me in autopilot and that engages the right side of the brain, for example mowing the lawn, reading and drawing works for me, activities which helps me which off and Reduces anxiety.

The right side of the brain activities also Increases happiness, Eases physical pain,Makes you more resilient, Improves concentration And makes you more creative.

Out of interest OP what other activities help you?

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By *linyMan
9 weeks ago

Manchester/London

Anything that involves getting out into the hills/mountains and nature. Mountain biking is my stress release, snowboarding, walks with friends. Doom scrolling through Fab forums can be fun! I’m a mental health first aider so have to really look after my own health but I have the tools and resources to help others which in turn brings me some happiness

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
9 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

Driving, the gym, spending time outside in the forest, beach or up s mountain x

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By *ackformore100Man
9 weeks ago

Tin town

"Self care and looking after your mental health is so important, how do you self care?

I take a long bath and pamper myself or read a good book to escape from reality for a bit"

Great thread op. Sadly it requires skill effort and practise and changing to better habits and I'm not strong at any of those. It's great to read what others do though and hopefully some ideas will help.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
9 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"Go to the gym, daily cold water immersion, drink coffee and listen to heavy metal.

I do the listening to heavy metal thing , occasionally coffee 🤣

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By *luebell888Woman
9 weeks ago

Glasgowish

I do alot of walking. A great way to clear the head.

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By *carletts OP Woman
9 weeks ago

Harpenden

"Hi OP

The right side of the brain activities also Increases happiness, Eases physical pain,Makes you more resilient, Improves concentration And makes you more creative.

Out of interest OP what other activities help you? "

I like painting, I'm not very good at it but does relax me. Ialso go for long walks with my dog.

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By *EAT..85Woman
9 weeks ago

Nottingham

Self care is really important and many people only acknowledge their mental health when it dips and becomes mental ill-health.

I used to walk my children to primary school through the park every morning. They're in secondary school now and that's not a thing any more. I decided a few weeks ago that I will detour a few minutes after work and walk home through the park as it's just such a wholesome and pleasant thing to do, even though it is adding extra time onto my day. All of the pond birds have babies ATM 🦆🧡

Music and meaningful human contact is also a big wellbeing boost for me. I make sure I do little things that I enjoy here and there so that life isn't all work and no play.

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By *ellhungvweMan
9 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Gym, walking and set my life up so I generally don’t have to do things other people want me to do if I don’t want to do them.

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By *nkedIrishMan
9 weeks ago

Bideford

Gym, running, and outdoor activities - paddleboarding, surfing, hiking, wild camping. Mostly alone as that's what I need to recharge

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By *assy69Man
9 weeks ago

sussex and Wales

"Self care and looking after your mental health is so important, how do you self care?

I take a long bath and pamper myself or read a good book to escape from reality for a bit"

I try and vanish for a while, the mountains are a favourite spot, just switch off and reset myself away from the craziness……. Have had a few medical things to deal with this year, and job role slightly changed so struggling a bit just now, my diary schedule means I won’t get away now until at least October this year

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

I’m a bath guy. Spend hours in one. So that’s one form.

I also enjoy masturbating, watching a favourite film or eating a favourite food/snack.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
9 weeks ago

Leeds

Reading.

Mrs

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

"Reading.

Mrs "

Reading THIS DICK.

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By *osmicRobMan
9 weeks ago

Chorlton cum Hardy

any sporting activities to keep you occupied. Paddle boarding is great to relax and become one with nature.

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
9 weeks ago

Sheffield

Mine is kind of complicated (cPTSD and lots of other stuff I won't bore people with). If people want to talk about mental health I'm happy to go into more depth.

But helpful stuff for here.

Communicating and getting stuff out of my head. If you bottle stuff up it spirals. Your imagination can be your own worst enemy and it is remarkable how many problems can disappear when you talk about them, write them down and get them out of your head.

Setting boundaries. Again this is big in communication. If something is hurting then you need to protect yourself. So speak up.

Exercise. If I'm not active I'm a mess. But I need a target I can't just go to the gym. This year it's the Tough Mudder Holy Grail on behalf of MIND (sponsorship donations more than welcome

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The other big ones are food and sleep. If you're not sleeping well or you're not eating regularly it's easier for the 'black dog/brain weasels' to get you.

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By * aime la biteWoman
9 weeks ago

wonderland

It's a difficult one when you have a busy life and people relying on you.

I too like to have a bath to relax. Doing things where I have to concentrate, like reading aren't easy for me as I have adhd.

I'm long overdue some time on my own without being made to feel guilty about it!

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By *parkle1974Woman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

I take myself to the coast, nothing more calming than sitting watching the sea...

If I can't get there, I pick up a good book and get lost in the story x

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By *asilyled1Man
9 weeks ago

ogmore valley

Going to the sea and just sit there watching it and listening to the sound it makes.completely relaxes me. Also taking the dog up the mountains and forests by me helps

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By *enda83Man
9 weeks ago

newcastle

2 best ways for me are gym and a long country walk with dog on a summers day seeing as little people as possible

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By *avenNightsMan
9 weeks ago

Canvey Island

Reading, riding the motorbike or going gym are my go to things to look after my mental health, especially in this day & age!

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
9 weeks ago

Altrincham

"Self care and looking after your mental health is so important, how do you self care?

I take a long bath and pamper myself or read a good book to escape from reality for a bit"

I swim, take myself off shopping, go for a coffee but the best one for me and my mental health is crochet, it helps me massively, I can free my mind of everything and everyone and just concentrate on the stitches

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By *inger_SnapWoman
9 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Go for a walk, feed the wildlife, stop and talk to every dog I meet. It really is the little/simple things in life 💘

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I like to do a jigsaw

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By *uffhoundMan
9 weeks ago

Bourne, Lincolnshire

Don't really do self care but I do enjoy my drive to and from work through the open countryside. No radio on, just me and my thoughts enjoying the view.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
9 weeks ago

Leeds

"Reading.

Mrs

Reading THIS DICK. "

Haha, I prefer sapphic reads rather than dick.

Mrs

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By *vaRoseWoman
9 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Read smut and get my voodoo doll a massage

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By *rdimpsMan
9 weeks ago

Hull

I care for myself every day, sometimes two or three times.

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By *host63Man
9 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

Gym

Ride my motorbike

Read

A good series or film

Dance West Coast Swing

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By *aturefit62Man
9 weeks ago

derby

Exercise and the great outdoors.

Eat well, so with the above you sleep well

Mental health and physical health are inextricably linked

Find optimistic people to be with who have positive energy

Moderation in all things, including moderation

Only my view and what helps me

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By *ambo1450Man
9 weeks ago

Newport

I work from home which can get lonely, so I make sure I walk every lunchtime. I live in the country so don’t always see anyone but I just make myself think about other things apart from work.

I also take long trips on my motorbike, that clears my head and centres me a bit.

Reading that has made me a bit sad actually!!

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By *oldsteel007Man
9 weeks ago

jarrow

"It's a difficult one when you have a busy life and people relying on you.

I too like to have a bath to relax. Doing things where I have to concentrate, like reading aren't easy for me as I have adhd.

I'm long overdue some time on my own without being made to feel guilty about it! "

I can relate to that been single parent don’t get much chance to chill or do my stuff and if do feel guilty sound sad I know

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By *oeBeansMan
9 weeks ago

Derby

Yeah, I think I'm pretty good at it even if it only distracts me for a little bit to focus my attention elsewhere. Going to the gym, walks while listening to a podcast, playing table tennis or going to a coffee shop to read. It all helps with that bit of escapism.

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By *ecadentDeviantsCouple
9 weeks ago

Preston

Most of the above, gym, walking, cycling, reading, listening to music, finding solitude...

We’ve also engineered our lives -as far as is possible- so other people aren’t reliant on us & us on them.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
9 weeks ago

Castlebar

Meditation 😇

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By *ilva69Man
9 weeks ago

stockport

I found walking the dog and chatting with people, best therapy,social interaction is key.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
9 weeks ago

Wirral

I'm shit with the self-care. All my coping strategies are unhealthy and then I wonder why I feel like crap!

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By *izmo321Man
9 weeks ago

wigan

Can anyone help a polite genuine guy get more attention on here

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By *rHotNottsMan
9 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Self-care to me is about healthy habits and lifestyle in general rather than one off treats.

Good healthy food, regular exercise, good selection of friends who speak the truth to me, managing my calendar properly, getting out of bed early 6 days a week & doing some form of productive work or helping others, having a social life.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
9 weeks ago

Reading

I go on walks with my dog. Read. Music helps a lot. I'm currently rewatching an old tv programme because it helps with emotional regulation.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
9 weeks ago

South Wales

I like to walk when I get the time but the best for me is reading…..I can’t go a day without spending some time reading, completely absorbs me so very relaxing xx

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By *idssissyTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

Considering how dark my thoughts are maybe not as good at this as should be.

Try and get out every day, go to the cinema.

Wish could get into walking but find it a chore

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By *ansoffateMan
9 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Oh a bath, good call.

I shall have one today my muscles are aching.

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By *r Man45Man
9 weeks ago

North West

I go to the gym and listen to music, music has a way of soothing the mind and soul and putting you mentally in a good place.

Also talk, we all need someone to sound off too.

Take FAB friends...

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By *r Man45Man
9 weeks ago

North West

Sorry missed the care from "take FAB friends" stupid fat fingers

"Take care FAB friends"

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
9 weeks ago

Reading

I'm having to learn how to do this having just suffered a crisis when my mind and body became totally overwhelmed and collapsed on me.

I've taken the time to read, watch tv and films, take myself out for walks, sleep when I need to and trying to eat better. Alongside that I'm also learning about myself through therapy, not always easy but a very necessary part of my healing so that I can learn how to prevent myself getting to the same state again.

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By *ellhungvweMan
9 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"Self-care to me is about healthy habits and lifestyle in general rather than one off treats.

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