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By *iddler83 OP   Man
over a year ago

barnet

I am sending loads of messages there are no dick pics. Just me and a message-nothing rude just a general message.

Don’t know why I’m not getting many if any replies

If anyone can offer any advice I would be much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try adding some more pics

Of not just forget messaging and go to clubs.

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By *eppipWoman
over a year ago

Lancs

Personally, I would be put off by the lack of profile picture. The one public photo you have is quite blurred, too. Other than that, it may be down to what you're actually putting in the message. Women can tell when it's a mass copy and paste message.

Best of luck 💕

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By *ootnootboopCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

To be honest, we send maybe 1 message a week off the bat to someone.

If your relying on fab to find connections, your going to be extremely disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You were verified by meet 2 days ago so someone saw you

Search the forum as plenty of similar posts with great advice

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By *rs GGWoman
over a year ago

Up North

If there isn't a profile pic, I delete messages straight away.

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

When I am deleting messages to reduce my inbox,the blank profile pictures go first along with the penis pictures .

Maybe having a picture up would help.

🩵

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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Text seems fine. Visuals need work.

And it could be the message content given we'll never know what's sent, or maybe you're just trying to contact the wrong people.

There's no magic wand. No tried and tested guaranteed system.

It really is a case of just being the best 'you' possible and working with that. 🤷‍♂️

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Garden of Eden

I don't open messages from profiles with no profile picture.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Do you cast a wide net or only message people you are interested in? I'd suggest reading profiles, regardless of how much of hard work it can be, tailor the message to the profile and take it from there. Way too many men come here with expectations they'd be swimming in pussy without making any effort.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

If you're sending loads of messages that's probably half the problem.

If you're going with something you can copy paste out to everyone it's unlikely to connect with anyone. If you're doing loads then you're unlikely to get making the effort to actually connect with the person on the other side.

Also, as mentioned, no profile picture can often mean messages aren't even opened 💜

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just chill out with the messages. Don't send messages out everyday. Also bear in mind, most women here get hounded with messages. So take that into consideration.

Also change your profile pic. A silhouette puts most people off.

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By *iddler83 OP   Man
over a year ago

barnet

Each message is tailored x

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Each message is tailored x"

Possibly not well tailored if you're getting no response 💜

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sending loads of messages there are no dick pics. Just me and a message-nothing rude just a general message.

Don’t know why I’m not getting many if any replies

If anyone can offer any advice I would be much appreciated

"

It's just the way it is mate...the life of the single guy on fab..just try and be interesting and varied in your approaches.

Expect to be ignored and you can only be pleasantly surprised when eventually you get a response!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each message is tailored x

Possibly not well tailored if you're getting no response 💜"

lol

I don’t get any responses. I actually thought I was trying with some

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By *estructionDollyWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Having no profile picture may be going against you. I don't even open/look at messages from people who don't have a profile pic. I like to see a variety of pics of the person I'm talking to as well so I can get a sense of them as a person

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Each message is tailored x

Possibly not well tailored if you're getting no response 💜

lol

I don’t get any responses. I actually thought I was trying with some "

Some, but not all?

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By *vaRoseWoman
over a year ago

Ankh-Morpork

No profile pic and the one pic you do have is a screenshot of another photo…. I wouldn’t bother replying. A screenshot of a photo tells me that either it’s a fake account or you’re too lazy to crop your own pics. Neither is a good look

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

The blank profile pic is definitely not helping OP. Haven’t looked at your profile so can’t comment on it but I wouldn’t either - because you don’t have a profile pic. Do you see my point? 🤷‍♂️

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each message is tailored x

Possibly not well tailored if you're getting no response 💜

lol

I don’t get any responses. I actually thought I was trying with some

Some, but not all?"

I try harder with profiles that actually have a well written bio.

The rest of the profiles I send a generic feeler:

Anal?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Each message is tailored x

Possibly not well tailored if you're getting no response 💜

lol

I don’t get any responses. I actually thought I was trying with some

Some, but not all?

I try harder with profiles that actually have a well written bio.

The rest of the profiles I send a generic feeler:

Anal?"

It should be FAF 😉

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each message is tailored x

Possibly not well tailored if you're getting no response 💜

lol

I don’t get any responses. I actually thought I was trying with some

Some, but not all?

I try harder with profiles that actually have a well written bio.

The rest of the profiles I send a generic feeler:

Anal?

It should be FAF 😉"

Ok I’ll try that but if I still don’t get any replies I’m handing in a transfer request

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Each message is tailored x

Possibly not well tailored if you're getting no response 💜

lol

I don’t get any responses. I actually thought I was trying with some

Some, but not all?

I try harder with profiles that actually have a well written bio.

The rest of the profiles I send a generic feeler:

Anal?

It should be FAF 😉

Ok I’ll try that but if I still don’t get any replies I’m handing in a transfer request"

Ha ha ha ha ha. Dickhead 🤣

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