FabSwingers.com forum: Favourite dynamic

By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

Sorry, sex pest is at it again.

Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

If you’re sub; how sub?

Anyone into topping from the bottom? Or vice versa.

I want all the filthy scenes and favourite dynamics 🥵

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By *parkle1974Woman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm too headstrong to be submissive..I've tried, just can't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"I'm too headstrong to be submissive..I've tried, just can't."

Do you prefer to be in charge? Or a neutral ground type?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
9 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

I've tried being submissive couldn't hack it for laughing.

God definitely meant it for other people.

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By *parkle1974Woman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

"I'm too headstrong to be submissive..I've tried, just can't.

Do you prefer to be in charge? Or a neutral ground type?"

A bit of both x

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By *ude LawMan
9 weeks ago

Harrogate

I'm Ken, she's Deirdre.

🔥

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"I've tried being submissive couldn't hack it for laughing.

God definitely meant it for other people."

This made me giggle.. I’ve been that girl when I try to go past my submissive limits.

I’m definitely more a, push your boundaries and want punished and to have to beg for it type sub..

I could never be a polish your shoes and give you everything sub🙈

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"I'm Ken, she's Deirdre.

🔥"

Where’s Barbie?

Hope Steve and Tracy don’t walk in.

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By *vaRoseWoman
9 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Switch who leans to the Domme side.

Absolutely a pleasure Domme, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t a sadistic streak in me. On the other end I’m a service sub, free use.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Sorry, sex pest is at it again.

Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

If you’re sub; how sub?

Anyone into topping from the bottom? Or vice versa.

I want all the filthy scenes and favourite dynamics 🥵"

None of the above.

I just like mutually enjoyable sex. It's nice to mix it up of course and I've plenty of restraints, I.pact toys and a whole gamut of sex toys. But I can't do the whole dom/sub thing. 🤷‍♂️

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By *ude LawMan
9 weeks ago

Harrogate

"Hope Steve and Tracy don’t walk in."

It was the Steve and Karen pairing I wanted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"Hope Steve and Tracy don’t walk in.

It was the Steve and Karen pairing I wanted."

Sorry to disappoint.. 😭

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
9 weeks ago

North West

Depending on who I’m with I lean to more submissive/neutral ground but I do love to switch and be more dominant too 🍭

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I don't do Domme - and obviously my profile gives off that I do, judging by the men calling me Misstress and offering to serve me. Sigh.

In the bedroom, I'm not sub. That whole D/s dynamic just doesn't really do it for me, it feels silly. I like the guy I'm with to take the lead a little, but that's all, really. Just have sex with me, and don't wait for me to tell you what to do...

😌

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By *aizyWoman
9 weeks ago

west midlands

"Sorry, sex pest is at it again.

Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

If you’re sub; how sub?

Anyone into topping from the bottom? Or vice versa.

I want all the filthy scenes and favourite dynamics 🥵

None of the above.

I just like mutually enjoyable sex. It's nice to mix it up of course and I've plenty of restraints, I.pact toys and a whole gamut of sex toys. But I can't do the whole dom/sub thing. 🤷‍♂️"

I'm with you Obi, I can't either.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

Pretty switchy.

I prefer to be bratty and sub. But I enjoy being dominant too.

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By *ea monkeyMan
9 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’m a pleasure Dom mainly, sometimes a bit of a sadist but that depends on the person and situation.

I don’t have a subby bone in my body.

Generally I don’t talk about it on here as people often get the wrong impression or attach various connotations

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"Sorry, sex pest is at it again.

Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

If you’re sub; how sub?

Anyone into topping from the bottom? Or vice versa.

I want all the filthy scenes and favourite dynamics 🥵

None of the above.

I just like mutually enjoyable sex. It's nice to mix it up of course and I've plenty of restraints, I.pact toys and a whole gamut of sex toys. But I can't do the whole dom/sub thing. 🤷‍♂️

I'm with you Obi, I can't either."

This is pretty much how I feel, too.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
9 weeks ago

North West

Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

I'm switchy, I won't be sub for just anyone. I do enjoy being a good little fuckpet for the right people though.

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If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

When I'm in charge it's mainly pleasure. I enjoy making someone ride the edge. But I discovered a sadistic side recently when I did some micro-bondage with B. When I'm a rope top it very much brings out my Domme side.

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If you’re sub; how sub?

When the collar goes on then I'm a good girl. And can go completely non-verbal in subspace. Until that point I'm playful and sparky. Only bratty when misunderstood. There was a whole 'maybe/make me' confusion that totally brought out my brat side when the reaction was unjust 🤣

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Anyone into topping from the bottom?

It's been known. 😇🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

"I've tried being submissive couldn't hack it for laughing.

God definitely meant it for other people."

Love this. I like a confident man willing to take the lead but I'm definitely not submissive.

And I don't think I could be dominant without giggling too much.

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
9 weeks ago

Prestwich

I don't know I've taken the dominant position a few times, when roleplaying etc and tbh I have found it very silly.

I've tried contracts, rope play, roleplay etc etc and after it all , imo, good sex, when both people are having fun doesn't need bells and whistles, games etc just honesty and connection.

That said I do love spanking and arse until it red, so that when she out later, and sit down later, then winces, we both know why

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

I'm switchy, I won't be sub for just anyone. I do enjoy being a good little fuckpet for the right people though.

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If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

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If you’re sub; how sub?

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Anyone into topping from the bottom?

It's been known. 😇🤣

Topping from the bottom is this brats speciality😇 until I make it too obvious.. and it goes straight back to.. punishment🤭 but maybe.. that’s the plan being well executed!🤪

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By *ea monkeyMan
9 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

I'm switchy, I won't be sub for just anyone. I do enjoy being a good little fuckpet for the right people though.

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If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

***

If you’re sub; how sub?

***

Anyone into topping from the bottom?

It's been known. 😇🤣

Topping from the bottom is this brats speciality😇 until I make it too obvious.. and it goes straight back to.. punishment🤭 but maybe.. that’s the plan being well executed!🤪"

Punishment for brats is a different thing

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By *oeBeansMan
9 weeks ago

Derby

I always feel nd this sort of discussion interesting and whether it only applies in kink scenarios compared to more casual sexual encounters. Like, I just enjoy sex and probably want to o my best to make sure they have as nice a time as I'm having 😅

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
9 weeks ago

Reading

"Sorry, sex pest is at it again.

Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

If you’re sub; how sub?

Anyone into topping from the bottom? Or vice versa.

I want all the filthy scenes and favourite dynamics 🥵"

In the right situation and with the right person, I am totally submissive and don't have a dominant bone in my body. I am currently exploring this with a partner i met on here. I can totally relinquish control of my body to him, and lose myself in the feelings and sensations. We have talked long and hard about limits and what we both want to achieve, I actually wrote a blog post about it on a more kink site to explain it better.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
9 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

I don't like to be pigeonholed into a role. I describe myself as a "switch" for ease, but it really depends on the person I'm "playing" with, how we work/fit together, and how I and they are feeling on the day.

I like variety.

I used to think I was submissive when I was younger but I've discovered I'm actually not that submissive. Though I love to "bottom/receive", I have been called a brat more times than I care to mention and get told off for "topping from the bottom" all the time. I've come to realise I don't like to relinquish control and do what I'm told very easily, and I need to really trust someone and feel the right dynamic with them to fully give them control. Service Tops/Pleasure Doms are my fave to play with as I prefer tease and denial as punishment, but I also have a lot of fun with sadists when the dynamic is right. But my relationship with pain is complex.

I also sometimes like to be the dominant partner, and I have some sadistic tendencies. I like being in control of/denial of my partners pleasure (and discomfort/pain to a degree).

And sometimes I like to switch between being the top and the bottom in the same session. I enjoy a power struggle.

I feel like every time I meet someone different and find a new dynamic, I discover something different about myself too, which is why I love this world and meeting new people.

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By *verageHoesCouple
9 weeks ago

Leeds

Generally, none. But on occasion I love being a brat with the right person.

I tried to be sub a couple of times, but I kept arguing

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By *vaRoseWoman
9 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

"Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

I'm switchy, I won't be sub for just anyone. I do enjoy being a good little fuckpet for the right people though.

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If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

***

If you’re sub; how sub?

***

Anyone into topping from the bottom?

It's been known. 😇🤣

Topping from the bottom is this brats speciality😇 until I make it too obvious.. and it goes straight back to.. punishment🤭 but maybe.. that’s the plan being well executed!🤪

Punishment for brats is a different thing "

Damn right

Funishment is not punishment

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By *ir tootMan
9 weeks ago

Raccoon city

I honeslty don't know, suppose I'm kinda still exploring that.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
9 weeks ago

Kent

I find I'm more dominant with ladies but submissive with my husband. I like him to be rough and manhandle me. I love it when he slaps my face sometimes x

Mrs x

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By *zeroMan
9 weeks ago

Glasgow

Switch I guess. I like being a bit dominant but I enjoy when a woman goes on top from time to time.

I'm not big into the whole sub/domme dynamic. Similar to what Joebeans said earlier I just want the person I'm with to be having as much of a good time as I am

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
9 weeks ago

North West

"Switch I guess. I like being a bit dominant but I enjoy when a woman goes on top from time to time.

I'm not big into the whole sub/domme dynamic. Similar to what Joebeans said earlier I just want the person I'm with to be having as much of a good time as I am"

I don't see a woman going on top as a D/s thing at all. It's just a sexual position. He can just as easily take charge of the rhythm with his hands on her hips. Control her pleasure with his hands or a vibe.

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By *vaRoseWoman
9 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

"Switch I guess. I like being a bit dominant but I enjoy when a woman goes on top from time to time.

I'm not big into the whole sub/domme dynamic. Similar to what Joebeans said earlier I just want the person I'm with to be having as much of a good time as I am

Yeah cowgirl is not an inherently Dominant position, just like man on top isn’t inherently Dominant either

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"I find I'm more dominant with ladies but submissive with my husband. I like him to be rough and manhandle me. I love it when he slaps my face sometimes x

Mrs x"

This is like me! 😇

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By *FNsFan46Man
9 weeks ago

Out and About

The hotwife dynamic for sure

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By *aron_xMan
9 weeks ago

London

70% Dominant / 30% Submissive

All depends on the chemistry though - why restrict yourselves?

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By *hat.coupleCouple
9 weeks ago

Kent

"I find I'm more dominant with ladies but submissive with my husband. I like him to be rough and manhandle me. I love it when he slaps my face sometimes x

Mrs x

This is like me! 😇"

We should team up x

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"I find I'm more dominant with ladies but submissive with my husband. I like him to be rough and manhandle me. I love it when he slaps my face sometimes x

Mrs x

This is like me! 😇

We should team up x

Mrs x"

Anytime beautiful😏 a force to be reckoned with!!

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By *ndymac888Man
9 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I’m more of a responder as in tell me what you need and I will fill the role, i enjoy more of an authority dynamic than out right dom/sub.

I haven’t been asked to do many outright submissive roles, a woman on here asked if I could sex robot, basically turn up and be told to carry out whatever she demanded, she enjoyed the “take your clothes off” and “stroke you cock hard for me” orders in the beginning but at some point she would hit some sort of switch that would allow me to manhandle and fuck her like a slut like some sort of mode control lol.

It never went beyond messaging but I was deffo into it.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Sorry, sex pest is at it again.

Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

If you’re sub; how sub?

Anyone into topping from the bottom? Or vice versa.

I want all the filthy scenes and favourite dynamics 🥵"

You’ll not get any filthy scenes from me OP… they’re all in the book 😉

I’m 100% Alpha submissive with sl@ve leaning tendencies 😘

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By *hat.coupleCouple
9 weeks ago

Kent

"Sorry, sex pest is at it again.

Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

If you’re sub; how sub?

Anyone into topping from the bottom? Or vice versa.

I want all the filthy scenes and favourite dynamics 🥵

You’ll not get any filthy scenes from me OP… they’re all in the book 😉

I’m 100% Alpha submissive with sl@ve leaning tendencies 😘"

Sounds like my kind of woman xx

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"Sorry, sex pest is at it again.

Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

If you’re sub; how sub?

Anyone into topping from the bottom? Or vice versa.

I want all the filthy scenes and favourite dynamics 🥵

You’ll not get any filthy scenes from me OP… they’re all in the book 😉

I’m 100% Alpha submissive with sl@ve leaning tendencies 😘"

A book? Where can I buy🤪

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Sorry, sex pest is at it again.

Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

If you’re sub; how sub?

Anyone into topping from the bottom? Or vice versa.

I want all the filthy scenes and favourite dynamics 🥵

You’ll not get any filthy scenes from me OP… they’re all in the book 😉

I’m 100% Alpha submissive with sl@ve leaning tendencies 😘

Sounds like my kind of woman xx

Mrs x"

Mwah 😘

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Sorry, sex pest is at it again.

Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

If you’re sub; how sub?

Anyone into topping from the bottom? Or vice versa.

I want all the filthy scenes and favourite dynamics 🥵

You’ll not get any filthy scenes from me OP… they’re all in the book 😉

I’m 100% Alpha submissive with sl@ve leaning tendencies 😘

A book? Where can I buy🤪"

I’ll let you know 😘

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By *electableicecreamMan
9 weeks ago

The West

I think I just like sex and play in all it's myriad possibilities. I like restraints and spanks and role playing in both directions but as soon as technical descriptions are needed to describe the sex I've checked out.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

I also love being spoiled by an older woman. Love being looked after including sexually.

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By *ohnboy9Man
9 weeks ago

leominster

I quite enjoy being submissive and obeying a strong woman who’s in control

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By *eroLondonMan
9 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I always feel nd this sort of discussion interesting and whether it only applies in kink scenarios compared to more casual sexual encounters. Like, I just enjoy sex and probably want to o my best to make sure they have as nice a time as I'm having 😅"

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I would say this is the same for me, certainly as someone who is comparatively vanilla'ish. I'm dominant in the bedroom, taking charge, taking the lead...but nothing like what's been described above.

I've only once explored the submissive 'role', more around edging. I couldn't rate her highly. She was...amazing.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

From my own personal point of view it’s not just in kink scenarios. I can’t change it even if I wanted to - which I don’t.

For some, the Dom /sub / brat thing is just a kink / sex thing 😘

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By *ansoffateMan
9 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Primal

yes we do.

pleasure but if pain pleases..?

sublimely sub

top, bottom, switch... Bratty scrap. Wherever it goes.

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
9 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

"Sorry, sex pest is at it again.

Do we like to be dominant? Submissive? Bratty?

If you’re dominant; pleasure or sadist?

If you’re sub; how sub?

Anyone into topping from the bottom? Or vice versa.

I want all the filthy scenes and favourite dynamics 🥵"

None of those. Different dynamics with different people which happen organically but I can't really put a label on what I am into

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