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" I've noticed that many people seem quick to block others online, sometimes even after a simple question. It feels less about the actual interaction and more about a need to feel empowered or in control. In some cases, this might stem from struggles in their personal lives,perhaps they're facing rejection, being bullied at work, or dealing with toxic dynamics within their family. Blocking becomes a tool to reclaim a sense of authority or emotional safety that they lack elsewhere. Unfortunately, this reaction can come across as defensive or even unfair, especially when no harm was intended. It’s a reminder that people's online behavior often reflects much deeper, unseen battles. " I don't think about it as empowerment or control. I simply don't want to hear from someone and the site provides that option 💜 | |||
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" I've noticed that many people seem quick to block others online, sometimes even after a simple question. It feels less about the actual interaction and more about a need to feel empowered or in control. In some cases, this might stem from struggles in their personal lives,perhaps they're facing rejection, being bullied at work, or dealing with toxic dynamics within their family. Blocking becomes a tool to reclaim a sense of authority or emotional safety that they lack elsewhere. Unfortunately, this reaction can come across as defensive or even unfair, especially when no harm was intended. It’s a reminder that people's online behavior often reflects much deeper, unseen battles. " Or it could have nothing to do with any of that and they just can't be arsed. The last few profiles I've blocked have been because I've seen that they have blocked me so I just counter block and that's the end of it. No feelings about it either way | |||
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"I don't block lightly but there is always reasons valid to me behind it " we’ve been pestered by an allegedly bi guy recently who wanted to visit our house but wasn’t prepared to show a face photo. We’re not sure why anyone would think it’s ok to come into your home but not share a face pic. We were interested in him but after asking the same question twice and a refusal both times with a message saying you won’t regret it came the block. | |||
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" I've noticed that many people seem quick to block others online, sometimes even after a simple question. It feels less about the actual interaction and more about a need to feel empowered or in control. In some cases, this might stem from struggles in their personal lives,perhaps they're facing rejection, being bullied at work, or dealing with toxic dynamics within their family. Blocking becomes a tool to reclaim a sense of authority or emotional safety that they lack elsewhere. Unfortunately, this reaction can come across as defensive or even unfair, especially when no harm was intended. It’s a reminder that people's online behavior often reflects much deeper, unseen battles. " That's all rubbish. I block people I don't want to keep getting messages from, because often men can't take no for an answer. | |||
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"Think I've managed to be interpreted incorrectly. It's always interesting to read other people's opinions though. Thank you all for showing me that I wasn't clear with what I was trying to convey. B x" What were you trying to convey ? | |||
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"Anyone else feel suprisingly satisfied after blocking someone? B x" Yes if they've been annoying or rude or disrespectful or deceitful which most of the messages I get PS - love your user name! | |||
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience woukd be so much nicer. "Yep! I agree 👍🏼 | |||
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience woukd be so much nicer. "Absolutely 
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience woukd be so much nicer. "This should be a feature in a future update. Mods take note | |||
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience would be so much nicer. "In my case the forum would be totally desolate and eerie for me. And that's just from those who have blocked me.  | |||
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience woukd be so much nicer. "I often wish I didn't have to suffer through the misogyny, the rants, the irritating and repetitive stuff that certain users post 20 times a day. But there's no simple way to make that work though. Not without losing other functions. Even if they blurred out their own posts on your feed you'd still see them in a 'Reply+Quote' as that comes via another forumite so 🤷🏼 And the thread would be all messed up for certain topics/chats. | |||
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience woukd be so much nicer.
I often wish I didn't have to suffer through the misogyny, the rants, the irritating and repetitive stuff that certain users post 20 times a day. But there's no simple way to make that work though. Not without losing other functions.
Even if they blurred out their own posts on your feed you'd still see them in a 'Reply+Quote' as that comes via another forumite so 🤷🏼
And the thread would be all messed up for certain topics/chats."Not necessarily. Facebook does a good job with this | |||
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience woukd be so much nicer.
I often wish I didn't have to suffer through the misogyny, the rants, the irritating and repetitive stuff that certain users post 20 times a day. But there's no simple way to make that work though. Not without losing other functions.
Even if they blurred out their own posts on your feed you'd still see them in a 'Reply+Quote' as that comes via another forumite so 🤷🏼
And the thread would be all messed up for certain topics/chats.
Not necessarily. Facebook does a good job with this "How so? | |||
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience woukd be so much nicer.
I often wish I didn't have to suffer through the misogyny, the rants, the irritating and repetitive stuff that certain users post 20 times a day. But there's no simple way to make that work though. Not without losing other functions.
Even if they blurred out their own posts on your feed you'd still see them in a 'Reply+Quote' as that comes via another forumite so 🤷🏼
And the thread would be all messed up for certain topics/chats."Yes, agree with you there. If some posts were invisible it would lead to a complete lack of context for subsequent posts that were replying too or elaborating on those posts, making a thread pretty near unreadable. | |||
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience woukd be so much nicer.
I often wish I didn't have to suffer through the misogyny, the rants, the irritating and repetitive stuff that certain users post 20 times a day. But there's no simple way to make that work though. Not without losing other functions.
Even if they blurred out their own posts on your feed you'd still see them in a 'Reply+Quote' as that comes via another forumite so 🤷🏼
And the thread would be all messed up for certain topics/chats.
Not necessarily. Facebook does a good job with this
How so?"If you block someone or they block you. The replies from them don't show. Doesn't matter if someone replies to them, tags them or whatever else. It doesn't show | |||
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience woukd be so much nicer.
I often wish I didn't have to suffer through the misogyny, the rants, the irritating and repetitive stuff that certain users post 20 times a day. But there's no simple way to make that work though. Not without losing other functions.
Even if they blurred out their own posts on your feed you'd still see them in a 'Reply+Quote' as that comes via another forumite so 🤷🏼
And the thread would be all messed up for certain topics/chats.
Yes, agree with you there.
If some posts were invisible it would lead to a complete lack of context for subsequent posts that were replying too or elaborating on those posts, making a thread pretty near unreadable. "the chat rooms do it I think | |||
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience woukd be so much nicer.
I often wish I didn't have to suffer through the misogyny, the rants, the irritating and repetitive stuff that certain users post 20 times a day. But there's no simple way to make that work though. Not without losing other functions.
Even if they blurred out their own posts on your feed you'd still see them in a 'Reply+Quote' as that comes via another forumite so 🤷🏼
And the thread would be all messed up for certain topics/chats.
Yes, agree with you there.
If some posts were invisible it would lead to a complete lack of context for subsequent posts that were replying too or elaborating on those posts, making a thread pretty near unreadable. "But threads initiated by blocked posters would be invisible altogether… so you’d never even see they’re there in the first place. 
No big deal. It’d be nice, but we soldier on. | |||
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"I also guess we could just self censor what we do and don't want to see or reply to " • Yes, it's called "blocking"*. We seemed to have gone full circle here. *Blocking isn't the panacea to our ills, admittedly, but it's a start. | |||
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"I also guess we could just self censor what we do and don't want to see or reply to • Yes, it's called "blocking"*. We seemed to have gone full circle here. *Blocking isn't the panacea to our ills, admittedly, but it's a start." Yes and no... I'd say it's about having control of your emotions and choosing what bothers you and doesn't | |||
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience woukd be so much nicer.
I often wish I didn't have to suffer through the misogyny, the rants, the irritating and repetitive stuff that certain users post 20 times a day. But there's no simple way to make that work though. Not without losing other functions.
Even if they blurred out their own posts on your feed you'd still see them in a 'Reply+Quote' as that comes via another forumite so 🤷🏼
And the thread would be all messed up for certain topics/chats.
Yes, agree with you there.
If some posts were invisible it would lead to a complete lack of context for subsequent posts that were replying too or elaborating on those posts, making a thread pretty near unreadable.
But threads initiated by blocked posters would be invisible altogether… so you’d never even see they’re there in the first place.
No big deal. It’d be nice, but we soldier on. "Right, you didn’t mention that it was threads started by someone you had blocked, you just said ‘posts’. I can see how not seeing entire threads would work | |||
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"Anyone else feel suprisingly satisfied after blocking someone? B x" Not satisfied but relieved if they have been ignorant and just keep asking | |||
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"Even the people on fab I dislike the most don’t take up this much space in my head. I can still enjoy the forums despite really disliking lots of posters. " Precisely, there are enough comments from people you do want to interact with, without sweating about the ones you don’t | |||
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" I've noticed that many people seem quick to block others online, sometimes even after a simple question. It feels less about the actual interaction and more about a need to feel empowered or in control. In some cases, this might stem from struggles in their personal lives,perhaps they're facing rejection, being bullied at work, or dealing with toxic dynamics within their family. Blocking becomes a tool to reclaim a sense of authority or emotional safety that they lack elsewhere. Unfortunately, this reaction can come across as defensive or even unfair, especially when no harm was intended. It’s a reminder that people's online behavior often reflects much deeper, unseen battles. " There is an answer for the first part of what you said, in my opinion anyway. When someone asks a question it could be them saying can I ask you a question? You say yes and it is something quite taboo which not all of us are into so some people block. It could be something else like them wanting anal or pegged again not all of are interested, so blocking is helpful to save them trying to get you interested in what they want. I Hope I have been clear on what I've said. | |||
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience woukd be so much nicer.
This should be a feature in a future update. Mods take note "It's been suggested many a time over the years. However...here's my take on the idea. Threads would become seriously disjointed and often unreadable if certain posters comments weren't visible. If you couldn't see the whole thread someone you've blocked started, then you may miss out on valuable views and opinions from those you haven't blocked, and also miss out on the chance to air your own. Forums aren't a private conversation between two people, they're an open discussion between anyone that wants to get involved. Using forums to get around message blocks isn't allowed so if they get used for that purpose a simple report of a comment will soon put a stop to that. And just because you've chosen to block someone...so they can't PM you, you can't see their images and vice versa, or for whatever reason you've decided upon, it doesn't mean you can't get involved in the same discussion on a particular thread or topic. It's easy to be an adult and decide whether to scroll past the things people post, respond to them, post your own view or reply to someone else on the same thread. If you've blocked someone because you disagree with the views/opinions/beliefs they've expressed in previous forum posts, then if you couldn't see any future comments you'd lose the chance to offer a counter argument/opinion. And that to me would be pointless. You'd be losing the chance to express an alternative view and potentially leaving whatever they've stated unchallenged. To me blocking a profile doesn't need to be extended any further than removing the ability to PM or see my profile. It's just a permanent filter to the private element of my Fab life, not the public part that comes out in forum posts. 🤷♂️ | |||
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"I also guess we could just self censor what we do and don't want to see or reply to " Yes. You scroll past. | |||
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"I also guess we could just self censor what we do and don't want to see or reply to Yes. You scroll past." This and delete messages and move on. xoxo | |||
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"I find when someone rage blocks me slightly satisfying, some people are way to invested in fab. Mrs " This | |||
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"I really wish you couldn’t see posts from people you’ve blocked. My forum experience woukd be so much nicer. "How ? How would it be 'nicer' ? | |||
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