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By *avtrophy OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Bourne End

Lots of bios say no married men or married only with permission. I’m married but my wife decided she never wants sex again and has said I should find it elsewhere as long as she doesn’t find out. So am I considered married with permission even though I have to act like I don’t have permission?

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By *sStephenPickleMan
10 weeks ago

Ends

What a conundrum.

But good for you OP for going out and getting what you deserve

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
10 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I do not like to engage with don't ask don't tell dynamics.

Primarily because there's no way to check consent without breaking the dynamic 💜

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

East Sussex

You have half hearted permission. She doesn't want sex ever again and doesn't want to know if you're having it either. You're in a position where you have to go without or lie to her.

Easy for her, difficult for you

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
10 weeks ago

Niche

^^^ this, you'd never know.

And I dabbled with the notion of couples on here as a way to at least know they both are in the lifestyle.

But there's just too much to juggle.

Can't be bothered to manage a situation with more than just 1-1.

His likes. My likes. Done.

Simples.

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
10 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders


"Lots of bios say no married men or married only with permission. I’m married but my wife decided she never wants sex again and has said I should find it elsewhere as long as she doesn’t find out. So am I considered married with permission even though I have to act like I don’t have permission?"

So has she given you permission? Because if you're still having to lie then I don't think that's how it works

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
10 weeks ago

North West

For some people it will be enough. I need clear enthusiastic consent from all parties even if they're not present.

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By *ndymac888Man
10 weeks ago

Dumbarton

Sounds like she’s hedging her bets and will use it against you down the line.

It’s a shit position to be in sorry pal.

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By *avtrophy OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Bourne End


"I do not like to engage with don't ask don't tell dynamics.

Primarily because there's no way to check consent without breaking the dynamic 💜"

In a nutshell… who would believe I have permission when I act like I don’t

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
10 weeks ago

Midlothian


"I do not like to engage with don't ask don't tell dynamics.

Primarily because there's no way to check consent without breaking the dynamic 💜"

Same. I'm fine with meeting people whose partners know and fully consent, but I will not knowingly be a part of cheating. I know that requires me to trust folk, but I can't function under the assumption everyone is a liar.

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By *ansoffateMan
10 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"I do not like to engage with don't ask don't tell dynamics.

Primarily because there's no way to check consent without breaking the dynamic 💜"

That is a very persuasive argument.

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By *ineapplePixie69!Couple
10 weeks ago

Neverland/Wales


"Lots of bios say no married men or married only with permission. I’m married but my wife decided she never wants sex again and has said I should find it elsewhere as long as she doesn’t find out. So am I considered married with permission even though I have to act like I don’t have permission?"

It's a trapp! 😅😅

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
10 weeks ago

Altrincham


"married with permission - Lots of bios say no married men or married only with permission. I’m married but my wife decided she never wants sex again and has said I should find it elsewhere as long as she doesn’t find out. So am I considered married with permission even though I have to act like I don’t have permission?"

I'm not looking at the moment as I have what I came on here to find but I wanted a married man and I don't care if she knows or not - I know it's not the norm and other women frown on it but that makes it even better 😁

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
9 weeks ago

Brum

You could get her to write you a note.

Works for P.E.

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By *entleman JayMan
9 weeks ago

Wakefield

There are lots of men on here who are married and their wife is not interested in sex. They take that as a green light to get it elsewhere. Theirs wife would be horrified if they found out.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
9 weeks ago

Niche


"married with permission - Lots of bios say no married men or married only with permission. I’m married but my wife decided she never wants sex again and has said I should find it elsewhere as long as she doesn’t find out. So am I considered married with permission even though I have to act like I don’t have permission?

I'm not looking at the moment as I have what I came on here to find but I wanted a married man and I don't care if she knows or not - I know it's not the norm and other women frown on it but that makes it even better 😁

"

Can I ask a genuine question?,

You talk often about your lovely husband. And your bf and having hubby's consent. But that you don't give him permission to have another partner.

What would your reaction be if you found out he had fully, secretly, cheated on you?

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By *rettCoolMan
9 weeks ago

Dunfermline


"There are lots of men on here who are married and their wife is not interested in sex. They take that as a green light to get it elsewhere. Theirs wife would be horrified if they found out. "

Haha brilliant answer .. am needing 1 as well truth be told

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By *issmorganWoman
9 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I have to agree with some of the others op, I avoid profiles where they say they have permission, but it can't be confirmed with their partner.

In the past I've spoken to men who say their wives know, so I ask to speak to them and they never came back to me.

Thing is you'd still have to sneak around, not be seen in public with meets etc, so you'd probably only appeal to those who don't mind meeting men who are here on the sly.

It's not an easy situation to be in.

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By *avtrophy OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Bourne End


"You could get her to write you a note.

Works for P.E."

😂😂😂

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
9 weeks ago

Leeds

You kind of do have permission but there's no way to check it out since your Mrs wouldn't be happy to confirm this is the case.

Mrs

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By *AYENCouple
9 weeks ago

Lincolnshire


"Lots of bios say no married men or married only with permission. I’m married but my wife decided she never wants sex again and has said I should find it elsewhere as long as she doesn’t find out. So am I considered married with permission even though I have to act like I don’t have permission?"

Not the ideal situation, but better than cheating. I guess she wouldn't 'find out' unless you explicitly told her. Personally I would test the situation by booking a hotel room and disappearing for a night. K.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
9 weeks ago

Niche


"I have to agree with some of the others op, I avoid profiles where they say they have permission, but it can't be confirmed with their partner.

In the past I've spoken to men who say their wives know, so I ask to speak to them and they never came back to me.

Thing is you'd still have to sneak around, not be seen in public with meets etc, so you'd probably only appeal to those who don't mind meeting men who are here on the sly.

It's not an easy situation to be in. "

^^^ Exactly. I have zero interest in acting like a shifty teenager. I'm a grown adult making healthy personal choices and whilst I am very private, I will not behave like I have anything to hide, and I won't be anyone's dirty little secret.

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By *avtrophy OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Bourne End


"Lots of bios say no married men or married only with permission. I’m married but my wife decided she never wants sex again and has said I should find it elsewhere as long as she doesn’t find out. So am I considered married with permission even though I have to act like I don’t have permission?

Not the ideal situation, but better than cheating. I guess she wouldn't 'find out' unless you explicitly told her. Personally I would test the situation by booking a hotel room and disappearing for a night. K."

That wouldn’t be a problem, it’s not unusual for me to spend nights away

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

East Sussex

^^

You have opportunities then.

I think it's like living with someone who is on a diet. They don't want to eat chocolate, they don't want you to eat it either but will tolerate you eating it as long as they don't see the wrappers.

The dieting person gets exactly what they want but leave the other one in a kind of limbo where they have to sneak chocolate in odd moments alone and never talk about how tasty the bar was.

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By *alandNitaCouple
9 weeks ago

Scunthorpe


"Lots of bios say no married men or married only with permission. I’m married but my wife decided she never wants sex again and has said I should find it elsewhere as long as she doesn’t find out. So am I considered married with permission even though I have to act like I don’t have permission?"

We have the view that despite being married, we do not "own" each other. Anita is more than happy for me to meet other ladies if I so wish, and I have no issues with Anita meeting anyone she wants... permission isn't required, just honesty & transparency.

Personally, I personally don't try to get solo meets on fab. There are many "more attractive" guys than me on here & have no appetite for the work that a single guy needs to put in to get a meet.

Cal

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By *utterfly manMan
9 weeks ago

Ringwood Hampshire

Very happily married to a very loving wife..

I believe she has had male sex friends…

We don’t have sex no more…

But if she plays about without my knowledge

Am ok with that…

I go with men occasionally easy sex,

So why spoil her fun…

As long as we are together and happy

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