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"If someone asks about your body count just tell them they won’t be adding to it. " This is very true | |||
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"Lots answering above are only looking at this as referencing the female player's body count. If we're gonna talk about it as a topic let's mention that men have a 'body count' too. That's where the hypocrisy lives." I’m trying to get everyone opinion on this. It’s not just on here that I get asked this it’s in day-to-day life especially on dates | |||
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"Lots answering above are only looking at this as referencing the female player's body count. If we're gonna talk about it as a topic let's mention that men have a 'body count' too. That's where the hypocrisy lives. I’m trying to get everyone opinion on this. It’s not just on here that I get asked this it’s in day-to-day life especially on dates " None of your chuffing business is a valid reply. Where did you get your outlandish ideas from is another. | |||
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"Lots answering above are only looking at this as referencing the female player's body count. If we're gonna talk about it as a topic let's mention that men have a 'body count' too. That's where the hypocrisy lives. I’m trying to get everyone opinion on this. It’s not just on here that I get asked this it’s in day-to-day life especially on dates " It's definitely something people use to judge a person by. When in reality it's no reflection on their character. Of course there are shitty people doing triple digits. There are shitty people in double and single digits. There's all sorts of shitty people I'd swerve as a date or otherwise with low/zero sexual experience. In response to a jokey status I posted, a guy on here just last week tried to tell me what kind of guys be on fab. That I'd not find a good or great guy on here.... I flipped it round to ask him what that said about him. Cue more BS 🙄 Some people live in a bubble | |||
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"Hello just wanted to ask this here and get peoples opinion on this topic. Some guys say yes but when it come to these it don’t matter how many they have " • Those "Some guys" aren't worth a tuppence of anyone's time. Their hypocrisy knows no bounds. | |||
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"Hello just wanted to ask this here and get peoples opinion on this topic. Some guys say yes but when it come to these it don’t matter how many they have • Those "Some guys" aren't worth a tuppence of anyone's time. Their hypocrisy knows no bounds."  | |||
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" In dating I see a woman's sexual history like a CV of their life. In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Although if it didn't matter women wouldn't lie about it. " This is the kind of view that irks me. Why can't women enjoy sex as much as men if they're not looking for a relationship at that particular time? Why do they need to be judged as doing something wrong, choosing the wrong person or not being 'loyal'? And the assumption that women lie about it is quite offensive. Maybe if some men didn't raise the question with a preconceived notion that a particular number was a cut off point then there'd be no worry on their part that a woman wasn't being honest? How would you even know if they were fudging a number? 🤔 | |||
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" In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. " Wow. This analogy. Just wow. | |||
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"I find how many people have had sex with interesting (because my figure was 1 for most of my adult life!) but it literally means nothing. And anyone that thinks different probably hates women." Yeah, I can still count mine on one hand. I've always had FWB's or long-term, monogamous relationships. 🤷♀️ | |||
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"For me... It depends on the connection I want with a woman. On here I don't care. In dating I see a woman's sexual history like a CV of their life. In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Although if it didn't matter women wouldn't lie about it. People say that it's just as bad for a man to have a high body count than a woman. But... All a woman has to do is open her legs and ask for it. A woman could go on a night out tonight and have 10 guys around her in a bedroom. Bonnie blue proved this after all. Where as for a man... For him to have that 10 women around him, he'd have to be a billionaire on a yacht or a celebrity status figure. The average Joe, or even above average joe is never going to have sexual market value as a woman. " The job analogy is both untrue and inappropriate in this context 👍🏻 | |||
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"For me... It depends on the connection I want with a woman. On here I don't care. In dating I see a woman's sexual history like a CV of their life. In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Although if it didn't matter women wouldn't lie about it. People say that it's just as bad for a man to have a high body count than a woman. But... All a woman has to do is open her legs and ask for it. A woman could go on a night out tonight and have 10 guys around her in a bedroom. Bonnie blue proved this after all. Where as for a man... For him to have that 10 women around him, he'd have to be a billionaire on a yacht or a celebrity status figure. The average Joe, or even above average joe is never going to have sexual market value as a woman. " I enjoyed reading about the sweetcorn in the plughole more than I enjoyed reading this. | |||
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"For me... It depends on the connection I want with a woman. On here I don't care. In dating I see a woman's sexual history like a CV of their life. In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Although if it didn't matter women wouldn't lie about it. People say that it's just as bad for a man to have a high body count than a woman. But... All a woman has to do is open her legs and ask for it. A woman could go on a night out tonight and have 10 guys around her in a bedroom. Bonnie blue proved this after all. Where as for a man... For him to have that 10 women around him, he'd have to be a billionaire on a yacht or a celebrity status figure. The average Joe, or even above average joe is never going to have sexual market value as a woman. " Oof. | |||
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" In dating I see a woman's sexual history like a CV of their life. In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Although if it didn't matter women wouldn't lie about it. This is the kind of view that irks me. Why can't women enjoy sex as much as men if they're not looking for a relationship at that particular time? Why do they need to be judged as doing something wrong, choosing the wrong person or not being 'loyal'? And the assumption that women lie about it is quite offensive. Maybe if some men didn't raise the question with a preconceived notion that a particular number was a cut off point then there'd be no worry on their part that a woman wasn't being honest? How would you even know if they were fudging a number? 🤔" The point of body count for women is different for many men. There are a lot of men that will make pornstars as their wife. Look at Riley Reid after all... Multi award winning pornstar and has a husband and at least one kid. A lot of women also look down on men with high body counts. At least that's what they say. Men with high body counts tend to be very good looking and/or very successful. This means that he has the pick, just like women have the pick of men. How many women do you see on yachts, private planes, VIP sections of clubs and events just because they know a guy and are attractive? Men will never have that kind of market value unless he has the above mentioned traits. And even then there will be a man that gets more attention than him for various reasons. This is not meant to come across as bitter as I am not. People will choose who they choose. Women have biased opinions on men as men have on women. Women tend to think that all men are fucking women left and right because they see a select amount of men doing that. The average guy will have maybe 5/10 women in his life if he's lucky. And the number of male virgins in their 20s is growing too | |||
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"For me... It depends on the connection I want with a woman. On here I don't care. In dating I see a woman's sexual history like a CV of their life. In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Although if it didn't matter women wouldn't lie about it. People say that it's just as bad for a man to have a high body count than a woman. But... All a woman has to do is open her legs and ask for it. A woman could go on a night out tonight and have 10 guys around her in a bedroom. Bonnie blue proved this after all. Where as for a man... For him to have that 10 women around him, he'd have to be a billionaire on a yacht or a celebrity status figure. The average Joe, or even above average joe is never going to have sexual market value as a woman. The job analogy is both untrue and inappropriate in this context 👍🏻" Explain please | |||
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"To the misogynists it does. " She asks if I miss her I tell her that I never miss. | |||
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"Until January 2023 I'd had PIV sex with precisely two people. A one night stand where I lost my virginity and my husband. Since then that number has increased, probably beyond what some here would consider 'acceptable'. I've had a bloody amazing time with men and women one to one and in groups. Is my worth really any different? Really? This place can be so fucking judgey considering it's purpose 🤣" So cross my grammar went to shit. Its not it's | |||
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"To the misogynists it does. She asks if I miss her I tell her that I never miss. " Bullseye! 🎯 | |||
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"Until January 2023 I'd had PIV sex with precisely two people. A one night stand where I lost my virginity and my husband. Since then that number has increased, probably beyond what some here would consider 'acceptable'. I've had a bloody amazing time with men and women one to one and in groups. Is my worth really any different? Really? This place can be so fucking judgey considering it's purpose 🤣 So cross my grammar went to shit. Its not it's" No need to correct yourself. We know you’re smart ❤️ | |||
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" In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Wow. This analogy. Just wow. " What's wrong with it? Genuine question. I would also view a guy the same way | |||
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"For me... It depends on the connection I want with a woman. On here I don't care. In dating I see a woman's sexual history like a CV of their life. In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Although if it didn't matter women wouldn't lie about it. People say that it's just as bad for a man to have a high body count than a woman. But... All a woman has to do is open her legs and ask for it. A woman could go on a night out tonight and have 10 guys around her in a bedroom. Bonnie blue proved this after all. Where as for a man... For him to have that 10 women around him, he'd have to be a billionaire on a yacht or a celebrity status figure. The average Joe, or even above average joe is never going to have sexual market value as a woman. The job analogy is both untrue and inappropriate in this context 👍🏻 Explain please " Job placements in close succession could be interim work, change of location, terrible employer etc etc. They are no longer a “terrible affliction” instead can be a sign of adaptability, resilience and change management. As there are no longer lifetime careers with guaranteed pensions, there are many different approaches to work. In terms of it being inappropriate your diatribe basically likened “body count” to “job-hopping” Not appropriate. Out of context and tbh I hope you can see it as such. If not, enjoy my explanation to you 👍🏻 | |||
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" In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Wow. This analogy. Just wow. What's wrong with it? Genuine question. I would also view a guy the same way " You're basically saying that sex with lots of people within a short period of time equals disloyal or not good at relationships. It's just not true. It's total bullshit in fact and entirely a monogamous lens. | |||
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" In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Wow. This analogy. Just wow. What's wrong with it? Genuine question. I would also view a guy the same way You're basically saying that sex with lots of people within a short period of time equals disloyal or not good at relationships. It's just not true. It's total bullshit in fact and entirely a monogamous lens. " I like that he'd judge men the same way, except it's special when men do it because it's hard for them, or something 💜 | |||
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"When it comes down to it... People have drastically different views on sex and number of partners based on their life experience. As the years have gone on the sexual stigma has definitely changed. Women are more free to do what they please sexually and more men are going along with it. The swingers scene wouldn't be so big after all and there wouldn't be a huge number of couples that are looking to share that kind of lifestyle. But I'd say that's more in the minority of the world population. Sure a woman's single lifestyle is her's to live just like a man's but... As this opinion is the minority of the world population the majority will still hold more traditional values. This is why we have a huge dating problem. Men are literally walking away from ever dating in their lives all in huge numbers for various reasons that are too in depth to fill a thread with (you don't have to look far on the internet to find out the reasons why). I have seen numerous posts on social media asking why men don't approach or want to date. Women are even throwing dating events that are only attracting women and no men are attending. " Double double wow!!! | |||
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" In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Wow. This analogy. Just wow. What's wrong with it? Genuine question. I would also view a guy the same way You're basically saying that sex with lots of people within a short period of time equals disloyal or not good at relationships. It's just not true. It's total bullshit in fact and entirely a monogamous lens. " Yes... In dating I am a monogamous person. As is I'd guess 90% of the planet | |||
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" In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Wow. This analogy. Just wow. What's wrong with it? Genuine question. I would also view a guy the same way You're basically saying that sex with lots of people within a short period of time equals disloyal or not good at relationships. It's just not true. It's total bullshit in fact and entirely a monogamous lens. Yes... In dating I am a monogamous person. As is I'd guess 90% of the planet " Did Sydney University give you this data? | |||
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"I have seen numerous posts on social media asking why men don't approach or want to date. Women are even throwing dating events that are only attracting women and no men are attending. " Men are less likely to show up to speed dating or general in person events. Women are less likely to spend as much time online dating. It's more a medium difference than a lack of people looking on either side 💜 | |||
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" In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Wow. This analogy. Just wow. What's wrong with it? Genuine question. I would also view a guy the same way You're basically saying that sex with lots of people within a short period of time equals disloyal or not good at relationships. It's just not true. It's total bullshit in fact and entirely a monogamous lens. Yes... In dating I am a monogamous person. As is I'd guess 90% of the planet " And you see your own hypocrisy here? Searching for threesomes and yet decrying the worth of the women you'd do that with. 🤯🤯🤯 | |||
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"When it comes down to it... People have drastically different views on sex and number of partners based on their life experience. As the years have gone on the sexual stigma has definitely changed. Women are more free to do what they please sexually and more men are going along with it. The swingers scene wouldn't be so big after all and there wouldn't be a huge number of couples that are looking to share that kind of lifestyle. But I'd say that's more in the minority of the world population. Sure a woman's single lifestyle is her's to live just like a man's but... As this opinion is the minority of the world population the majority will still hold more traditional values. This is why we have a huge dating problem. Men are literally walking away from ever dating in their lives all in huge numbers for various reasons that are too in depth to fill a thread with (you don't have to look far on the internet to find out the reasons why). I have seen numerous posts on social media asking why men don't approach or want to date. Women are even throwing dating events that are only attracting women and no men are attending. " Women are often called slags for having a sex life. I think you'll find men get away with being called a legend for the more women they've fucked. For some reasons people think of women have a lot of sex our holes gape like an old leather boot lol. Women are finding they are becoming more free to fuck who they want and don't want to settle. | |||
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" In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Wow. This analogy. Just wow. What's wrong with it? Genuine question. I would also view a guy the same way You're basically saying that sex with lots of people within a short period of time equals disloyal or not good at relationships. It's just not true. It's total bullshit in fact and entirely a monogamous lens. Yes... In dating I am a monogamous person. As is I'd guess 90% of the planet " But “body count” refers to sex. Only sex. We aren’t discussing dating 🤷♂️ | |||
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" Yes... In dating I am a monogamous person. As is I'd guess 90% of the planet " In dating... interesting. What's your aim on here then? Who is your target demographic? You don't have to answer. Just always so curious how guys have the madonna/whore attitude. Fk the 'whores' then marry the sweet, clean-sheet girl. Then return to fkg and cheating coz they married a bad sexual match. And it's NOT FAIR to them to live with a sexless marriage 😭😭 Wahhhhh wahhhh wahhhhh! | |||
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" In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Wow. This analogy. Just wow. What's wrong with it? Genuine question. I would also view a guy the same way You're basically saying that sex with lots of people within a short period of time equals disloyal or not good at relationships. It's just not true. It's total bullshit in fact and entirely a monogamous lens. I like that he'd judge men the same way, except it's special when men do it because it's hard for them, or something 💜" Oh no. I definitely look down on men that do the same thing. They have the pick sure. But there are many men in that same level of attractiveness that choose not to as well. The men that sleep with lots of women tend to not treat all the women the best. I've had female friends at uni which have literally been in tears and felt used when the guy has gone home with them from a club, had sex and then within the same half an hour tried to hook up with her roommate and then say. "What did you think? We were doing to get married?" I view men in the same lens as women. Sure it's maybe 20% of men that are viewed in that lense. But it would also be 100% if it was 100% of men doing that. I'm not saying it's 100% of women either but it is a higher percentage as the generations go on | |||
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" Yes... In dating I am a monogamous person. As is I'd guess 90% of the planet In dating... interesting. What's your aim on here then? Who is your target demographic? You don't have to answer. Just always so curious how guys have the madonna/whore attitude. Fk the 'whores' then marry the sweet, clean-sheet girl. Then return to fkg and cheating coz they married a bad sexual match. And it's NOT FAIR to them to live with a sexless marriage 😭😭 Wahhhhh wahhhh wahhhhh!" *Standing ovation* GIF | |||
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"I have seen numerous posts on social media asking why men don't approach or want to date. Women are even throwing dating events that are only attracting women and no men are attending. Men are less likely to show up to speed dating or general in person events. Women are less likely to spend as much time online dating. It's more a medium difference than a lack of people looking on either side 💜" You'd like to think that is the case but I have seen more than enough to convince me otherwise | |||
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" In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Wow. This analogy. Just wow. What's wrong with it? Genuine question. I would also view a guy the same way You're basically saying that sex with lots of people within a short period of time equals disloyal or not good at relationships. It's just not true. It's total bullshit in fact and entirely a monogamous lens. Yes... In dating I am a monogamous person. As is I'd guess 90% of the planet And you see your own hypocrisy here? Searching for threesomes and yet decrying the worth of the women you'd do that with. 🤯🤯🤯" Not at all. As I've mentioned above, those women are more than welcome to live life as they please. I don't judge those women for have a relationship like that nor do I think any different of the men that choose to live that way. Everyone is an individual and have their own way of living life. Are there a few things that I would like to experience? Sure. | |||
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"For me... It depends on the connection I want with a woman. On here I don't care. In dating I see a woman's sexual history like a CV of their life. In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Although if it didn't matter women wouldn't lie about it. People say that it's just as bad for a man to have a high body count than a woman. But... All a woman has to do is open her legs and ask for it. A woman could go on a night out tonight and have 10 guys around her in a bedroom. Bonnie blue proved this after all. Where as for a man... For him to have that 10 women around him, he'd have to be a billionaire on a yacht or a celebrity status figure. The average Joe, or even above average joe is never going to have sexual market value as a woman. The job analogy is both untrue and inappropriate in this context 👍🏻" I’m glad I’m not the only one that thought that. Wasn’t really a helpful comment | |||
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" Yes... In dating I am a monogamous person. As is I'd guess 90% of the planet In dating... interesting. What's your aim on here then? Who is your target demographic? You don't have to answer. Just always so curious how guys have the madonna/whore attitude. Fk the 'whores' then marry the sweet, clean-sheet girl. Then return to fkg and cheating coz they married a bad sexual match. And it's NOT FAIR to them to live with a sexless marriage 😭😭 Wahhhhh wahhhh wahhhhh!" 🚑 Whaaambulance on it's way. oh wait there's a 12 hour wait we will have to get a 🚕 Driver. Someone should clean the scum off these streets! 😆 | |||
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" In dating I see a woman's sexual history like a CV of their life. In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Although if it didn't matter women wouldn't lie about it. This is the kind of view that irks me. Why can't women enjoy sex as much as men if they're not looking for a relationship at that particular time? Why do they need to be judged as doing something wrong, choosing the wrong person or not being 'loyal'? And the assumption that women lie about it is quite offensive. Maybe if some men didn't raise the question with a preconceived notion that a particular number was a cut off point then there'd be no worry on their part that a woman wasn't being honest? How would you even know if they were fudging a number? 🤔 The point of body count for women is different for many men. There are a lot of men that will make pornstars as their wife. Look at Riley Reid after all... Multi award winning pornstar and has a husband and at least one kid. A lot of women also look down on men with high body counts. At least that's what they say. Men with high body counts tend to be very good looking and/or very successful. This means that he has the pick, just like women have the pick of men. How many women do you see on yachts, private planes, VIP sections of clubs and events just because they know a guy and are attractive? Men will never have that kind of market value unless he has the above mentioned traits. And even then there will be a man that gets more attention than him for various reasons. This is not meant to come across as bitter as I am not. People will choose who they choose. Women have biased opinions on men as men have on women. Women tend to think that all men are fucking women left and right because they see a select amount of men doing that. The average guy will have maybe 5/10 women in his life if he's lucky. And the number of male virgins in their 20s is growing too " I'd say my'bidy countries more than likely higher than average. I'm not particularly good looking. I've had fuck all hair since my 20's, haven't been in a gym since I had to quit playing rugby around the same time. I don't exercise, my diet sucks and I have a battered and scarred body. Nor have I ever been 'successful' in a career sense. Never been a massive earner and I pretty much live hand to mouth most months now. I've been married three times. They ended for various reasons. The notion that women are just interested in looks, status and money are quite frankly hilarious. Whether it's for short term company or long term relationships. This kind of theory is exactly what is causing young men to behave the way they do. It's wrong, it's dangerous and it should be shouted down at every opportunity. 🤦♂️🤦♂️😬😬 | |||
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"Lots answering above are only looking at this as referencing the female player's body count. If we're gonna talk about it as a topic let's mention that men have a 'body count' too. That's where the hypocrisy lives. I’m trying to get everyone opinion on this. It’s not just on here that I get asked this it’s in day-to-day life especially on dates " That’s a weird q to ask on a date. I’ve been asked how many others I’m speaking to but only because she’s cautious of guys not seeing others | |||
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"When it comes down to it... People have drastically different views on sex and number of partners based on their life experience. As the years have gone on the sexual stigma has definitely changed. Women are more free to do what they please sexually and more men are going along with it. The swingers scene wouldn't be so big after all and there wouldn't be a huge number of couples that are looking to share that kind of lifestyle. But I'd say that's more in the minority of the world population. Sure a woman's single lifestyle is her's to live just like a man's but... As this opinion is the minority of the world population the majority will still hold more traditional values. This is why we have a huge dating problem. Men are literally walking away from ever dating in their lives all in huge numbers for various reasons that are too in depth to fill a thread with (you don't have to look far on the internet to find out the reasons why). I have seen numerous posts on social media asking why men don't approach or want to date. Women are even throwing dating events that are only attracting women and no men are attending. Women are often called slags for having a sex life. I think you'll find men get away with being called a legend for the more women they've fucked. For some reasons people think of women have a lot of sex our holes gape like an old leather boot lol. Women are finding they are becoming more free to fuck who they want and don't want to settle. " Yes and that is just immature guys that don't know what they're talking about. And having done research into the difference of opinions in men and women over body count. It all comes down to the amount of work a man has to put in Vs the amount of work a man has to put in. If an average women wants to get with a guy that is her type, she doesn't really have to look far on a night out and she'll have that guy if she's purely looking for sex. But for a man, he'd probably not even have any chance at all with the girl of his type unless he has done what I have mentioned above. Should the woman be put down for that? No as that's the way she wants to live her life. If she wants to have sex with 100 guys in a years. So be it. But not all men will want a woman with. Just like there are plenty of women out there that will reject the same in a man. I have had these conversations with women before | |||
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" In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Wow. This analogy. Just wow. What's wrong with it? Genuine question. I would also view a guy the same way You're basically saying that sex with lots of people within a short period of time equals disloyal or not good at relationships. It's just not true. It's total bullshit in fact and entirely a monogamous lens. Yes... In dating I am a monogamous person. As is I'd guess 90% of the planet But “body count” refers to sex. Only sex. We aren’t discussing dating 🤷♂️" But sex and dating go hand in hand. People are interested in a persons sexual history when dating. Did you not? | |||
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" In a job you're more likely to be rejected if you have a lot of job placements in a short amount of time. It shows that you aren't loyal to one place or that you aren't good at holding a job down for whatever reason. Wow. This analogy. Just wow. What's wrong with it? Genuine question. I would also view a guy the same way You're basically saying that sex with lots of people within a short period of time equals disloyal or not good at relationships. It's just not true. It's total bullshit in fact and entirely a monogamous lens. Yes... In dating I am a monogamous person. As is I'd guess 90% of the planet But “body count” refers to sex. Only sex. We aren’t discussing dating 🤷♂️ But sex and dating go hand in hand. People are interested in a persons sexual history when dating. Did you not?" No. I ask about their sexual health. | |||
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" Yes... In dating I am a monogamous person. As is I'd guess 90% of the planet In dating... interesting. What's your aim on here then? Who is your target demographic? You don't have to answer. Just always so curious how guys have the madonna/whore attitude. Fk the 'whores' then marry the sweet, clean-sheet girl. Then return to fkg and cheating coz they married a bad sexual match. And it's NOT FAIR to them to live with a sexless marriage 😭😭 Wahhhhh wahhhh wahhhhh!" By no means am I aiming to rack up a roster of notches. I am very picky with who I have sex with and especially with who I date. My aim here is mainly just to have a 2 girl threesome really and have a few (not 20 or 50) encounters. Maybe have a fwbs as that would suit me more than having 100 women in a year. Would make me a bit of a hypocrite to judge my future gf on the same basis if I was no better. | |||
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"Lots answering above are only looking at this as referencing the female player's body count. If we're gonna talk about it as a topic let's mention that men have a 'body count' too. That's where the hypocrisy lives. I’m trying to get everyone opinion on this. It’s not just on here that I get asked this it’s in day-to-day life especially on dates That’s a weird q to ask on a date. I’ve been asked how many others I’m speaking to but only because she’s cautious of guys not seeing others " This is a more relevant question for sure. Along with sexual health. What's happening in the guys life now that would affect me. | |||
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"To the misogynists it does. She asks if I miss her I tell her that I never miss. " Did you just reply to yourself? 😂😂😂 🥪 | |||
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"I’m still a virgin, I have no comparison! 🤷🏼♂️" A man of principles and values. Amen. | |||
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"I have seen numerous posts on social media asking why men don't approach or want to date. Women are even throwing dating events that are only attracting women and no men are attending. Men are less likely to show up to speed dating or general in person events. Women are less likely to spend as much time online dating. It's more a medium difference than a lack of people looking on either side 💜 You'd like to think that is the case but I have seen more than enough to convince me otherwise Oh? I know tinder and hinge have much higher male ratios. This place certainly does. The few that come up searching for higher female ratios are either femme leaning queer specific or focused on coffee meets or in person interaction sooner rather than later. Where are you seeing otherwise?" Let's be real. Why does a woman need a dating app or even this site? The average woman gets 100x the amount of attention as the average man (sure she might not like it/or wants it). She's constantly getting asked out (maybe not by guys she wants to date). I've noticed that in the younger dating scene more men and women aren't dating. I've seen that more men and women aren't even going to clubs. Sure we think that all women and all men are sleeping around. But the loudest voice is the one that everyone notices. A site like this is a prime example really. It's a small minority of the population that are looking for niche activities. There is a reason that majority of people on this site and apps similar are all for discretion and privacy. | |||
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"I have seen numerous posts on social media asking why men don't approach or want to date. Women are even throwing dating events that are only attracting women and no men are attending. Men are less likely to show up to speed dating or general in person events. Women are less likely to spend as much time online dating. It's more a medium difference than a lack of people looking on either side 💜 You'd like to think that is the case but I have seen more than enough to convince me otherwise Oh? I know tinder and hinge have much higher male ratios. This place certainly does. The few that come up searching for higher female ratios are either femme leaning queer specific or focused on coffee meets or in person interaction sooner rather than later. Where are you seeing otherwise? Let's be real. Why does a woman need a dating app or even this site? The average woman gets 100x the amount of attention as the average man (sure she might not like it/or wants it). She's constantly getting asked out (maybe not by guys she wants to date). I've noticed that in the younger dating scene more men and women aren't dating. I've seen that more men and women aren't even going to clubs. Sure we think that all women and all men are sleeping around. But the loudest voice is the one that everyone notices. A site like this is a prime example really. It's a small minority of the population that are looking for niche activities. There is a reason that majority of people on this site and apps similar are all for discretion and privacy. " Dating apps are a way of controlling who you want to date, reading them before you meet them. We don't all want to get attention in our everyday activities like going to the gym at work or socialising. | |||
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"But “body count” refers to sex. Only sex. We aren’t discussing dating 🤷♂️ But sex and dating go hand in hand. People are interested in a persons sexual history when dating. Did you not? I don't think I've ever dated someone who asked the question. I've never asked it of any of my partners 💜" I reality you don't have have to outright ask the question. You know within a few dates really. This is both for men and women. People with higher counts are more likely to run the bedroom on the first date or when they're texting are more likely to sexualise the conversation faster than those that are less experienced let's say | |||
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"I have seen numerous posts on social media asking why men don't approach or want to date. Women are even throwing dating events that are only attracting women and no men are attending. Men are less likely to show up to speed dating or general in person events. Women are less likely to spend as much time online dating. It's more a medium difference than a lack of people looking on either side 💜 You'd like to think that is the case but I have seen more than enough to convince me otherwise Oh? I know tinder and hinge have much higher male ratios. This place certainly does. The few that come up searching for higher female ratios are either femme leaning queer specific or focused on coffee meets or in person interaction sooner rather than later. Where are you seeing otherwise? Let's be real. Why does a woman need a dating app or even this site? The average woman gets 100x the amount of attention as the average man (sure she might not like it/or wants it). She's constantly getting asked out (maybe not by guys she wants to date). I've noticed that in the younger dating scene more men and women aren't dating. I've seen that more men and women aren't even going to clubs. Sure we think that all women and all men are sleeping around. But the loudest voice is the one that everyone notices. A site like this is a prime example really. It's a small minority of the population that are looking for niche activities. There is a reason that majority of people on this site and apps similar are all for discretion and privacy. " I'm really not sure what your point is. That more people are finally realising how much better life is without a codependent relationship basis is an absolutely wonderful thing as far as I'm concerned. You said you'd seen evidence against men preferring online and women preferring in person as a general thing within dating, I was asking about that. | |||
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"I have seen numerous posts on social media asking why men don't approach or want to date. Women are even throwing dating events that are only attracting women and no men are attending. Men are less likely to show up to speed dating or general in person events. Women are less likely to spend as much time online dating. It's more a medium difference than a lack of people looking on either side 💜 You'd like to think that is the case but I have seen more than enough to convince me otherwise Oh? I know tinder and hinge have much higher male ratios. This place certainly does. The few that come up searching for higher female ratios are either femme leaning queer specific or focused on coffee meets or in person interaction sooner rather than later. Where are you seeing otherwise? Let's be real. Why does a woman need a dating app or even this site? The average woman gets 100x the amount of attention as the average man (sure she might not like it/or wants it). She's constantly getting asked out (maybe not by guys she wants to date). I've noticed that in the younger dating scene more men and women aren't dating. I've seen that more men and women aren't even going to clubs. Sure we think that all women and all men are sleeping around. But the loudest voice is the one that everyone notices. A site like this is a prime example really. It's a small minority of the population that are looking for niche activities. There is a reason that majority of people on this site and apps similar are all for discretion and privacy. Dating apps are a way of controlling who you want to date, reading them before you meet them. We don't all want to get attention in our everyday activities like going to the gym at work or socialising. " Dating apps are also rigged for men, it has been proven many times that the top percentage of guys will be shown more regularly to the majority of women. There was a study that stated that the average man has to swipe 50 times to get a match and 10x that to get a date. That can be months of swiping and only have the preface of a singular date. | |||
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"I have seen numerous posts on social media asking why men don't approach or want to date. Women are even throwing dating events that are only attracting women and no men are attending. Men are less likely to show up to speed dating or general in person events. Women are less likely to spend as much time online dating. It's more a medium difference than a lack of people looking on either side 💜 You'd like to think that is the case but I have seen more than enough to convince me otherwise Oh? I know tinder and hinge have much higher male ratios. This place certainly does. The few that come up searching for higher female ratios are either femme leaning queer specific or focused on coffee meets or in person interaction sooner rather than later. Where are you seeing otherwise? Let's be real. Why does a woman need a dating app or even this site? The average woman gets 100x the amount of attention as the average man (sure she might not like it/or wants it). She's constantly getting asked out (maybe not by guys she wants to date). I've noticed that in the younger dating scene more men and women aren't dating. I've seen that more men and women aren't even going to clubs. Sure we think that all women and all men are sleeping around. But the loudest voice is the one that everyone notices. A site like this is a prime example really. It's a small minority of the population that are looking for niche activities. There is a reason that majority of people on this site and apps similar are all for discretion and privacy. Dating apps are a way of controlling who you want to date, reading them before you meet them. We don't all want to get attention in our everyday activities like going to the gym at work or socialising. " Ok, so clubs, bars, restaurants, the street and the gym are out of the equation... Then where else is there? What happened to old fashioned cold approaching become so bad? | |||
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"I have seen numerous posts on social media asking why men don't approach or want to date. Women are even throwing dating events that are only attracting women and no men are attending. Men are less likely to show up to speed dating or general in person events. Women are less likely to spend as much time online dating. It's more a medium difference than a lack of people looking on either side 💜 You'd like to think that is the case but I have seen more than enough to convince me otherwise Oh? I know tinder and hinge have much higher male ratios. This place certainly does. The few that come up searching for higher female ratios are either femme leaning queer specific or focused on coffee meets or in person interaction sooner rather than later. Where are you seeing otherwise? Let's be real. Why does a woman need a dating app or even this site? The average woman gets 100x the amount of attention as the average man (sure she might not like it/or wants it). She's constantly getting asked out (maybe not by guys she wants to date). I've noticed that in the younger dating scene more men and women aren't dating. I've seen that more men and women aren't even going to clubs. Sure we think that all women and all men are sleeping around. But the loudest voice is the one that everyone notices. A site like this is a prime example really. It's a small minority of the population that are looking for niche activities. There is a reason that majority of people on this site and apps similar are all for discretion and privacy. Dating apps are a way of controlling who you want to date, reading them before you meet them. We don't all want to get attention in our everyday activities like going to the gym at work or socialising. Dating apps are also rigged for men, it has been proven many times that the top percentage of guys will be shown more regularly to the majority of women. There was a study that stated that the average man has to swipe 50 times to get a match and 10x that to get a date. That can be months of swiping and only have the preface of a singular date. " Could always develop an app for the underdog of men then.... | |||
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"I have seen numerous posts on social media asking why men don't approach or want to date. Women are even throwing dating events that are only attracting women and no men are attending. Men are less likely to show up to speed dating or general in person events. Women are less likely to spend as much time online dating. It's more a medium difference than a lack of people looking on either side 💜 You'd like to think that is the case but I have seen more than enough to convince me otherwise Oh? I know tinder and hinge have much higher male ratios. This place certainly does. The few that come up searching for higher female ratios are either femme leaning queer specific or focused on coffee meets or in person interaction sooner rather than later. Where are you seeing otherwise? Let's be real. Why does a woman need a dating app or even this site? The average woman gets 100x the amount of attention as the average man (sure she might not like it/or wants it). She's constantly getting asked out (maybe not by guys she wants to date). I've noticed that in the younger dating scene more men and women aren't dating. I've seen that more men and women aren't even going to clubs. Sure we think that all women and all men are sleeping around. But the loudest voice is the one that everyone notices. A site like this is a prime example really. It's a small minority of the population that are looking for niche activities. There is a reason that majority of people on this site and apps similar are all for discretion and privacy. Dating apps are a way of controlling who you want to date, reading them before you meet them. We don't all want to get attention in our everyday activities like going to the gym at work or socialising. Ok, so clubs, bars, restaurants, the street and the gym are out of the equation... Then where else is there? What happened to old fashioned cold approaching become so bad? " For me I like to go about my daily life without someone wanting to get in my knickers. But that's just my opinion. The world does most of its socialising online now. Dating online is probably a comfort. | |||
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"But “body count” refers to sex. Only sex. We aren’t discussing dating 🤷♂️ But sex and dating go hand in hand. People are interested in a persons sexual history when dating. Did you not? I don't think I've ever dated someone who asked the question. I've never asked it of any of my partners 💜 I reality you don't have have to outright ask the question. You know within a few dates really. This is both for men and women. People with higher counts are more likely to run the bedroom on the first date or when they're texting are more likely to sexualise the conversation faster than those that are less experienced let's say " As someone who's fucked a _lot_ of people, my most recent relationship had about 3 months of weekly dates and getting to know each other and develop that intimacy before we made it to the bedroom. The one that started a year earlier was intended to be entirely sexual and very short term, didn't quite turn out that way, but they're both still going strong and I'm grateful to have them in my life. I'm aware of their major prior relationships as those come up in general conversation, but how many people they've banged before, during and after those has never been something that I cared to know. The only time I care about someone's experience level is if they're a virgin, because I really dislike the teacher role and simply cannot be bothered having to help someone learn the absolute basics 💜 | |||
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" Dating apps are also rigged for men, it has been proven many times that the top percentage of guys will be shown more regularly to the majority of women. There was a study that stated that the average man has to swipe 50 times to get a match and 10x that to get a date. That can be months of swiping and only have the preface of a singular date. Could always develop an app for the underdog of men then.... Women overall don't want the average Joe. Women date in hypergamy. That is where the modern issues lie. It's not women's faults or men's. As equality has advanced (a good thing) the hypergamy gap has become none existent. Women don't see a need for men because they're outearning men and have a higher level of education than men overall. More women go to university than men due to men going into trades and such which doesn't require said university " You're mansplaining what women want Most women I know want to be successful in their own right and want a man who will be her best friend and not trying shagging the woman down the road lol | |||
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"But “body count” refers to sex. Only sex. We aren’t discussing dating 🤷♂️ But sex and dating go hand in hand. People are interested in a persons sexual history when dating. Did you not? I don't think I've ever dated someone who asked the question. I've never asked it of any of my partners 💜 I reality you don't have have to outright ask the question. You know within a few dates really. This is both for men and women. People with higher counts are more likely to run the bedroom on the first date or when they're texting are more likely to sexualise the conversation faster than those that are less experienced let's say As someone who's fucked a _lot_ of people, my most recent relationship had about 3 months of weekly dates and getting to know each other and develop that intimacy before we made it to the bedroom. The one that started a year earlier was intended to be entirely sexual and very short term, didn't quite turn out that way, but they're both still going strong and I'm grateful to have them in my life. I'm aware of their major prior relationships as those come up in general conversation, but how many people they've banged before, during and after those has never been something that I cared to know. The only time I care about someone's experience level is if they're a virgin, because I really dislike the teacher role and simply cannot be bothered having to help someone learn the absolute basics 💜" And this is where fundamentally men and women differ. Women prefer a more experienced man due to him being desirable and more experienced. This is why women date older also | |||
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" Let's be real. Why does a woman need a dating app or even this site? The average woman gets 100x the amount of attention as the average man (sure she might not like it/or wants it). She's constantly getting asked out (maybe not by guys she wants to date). I've noticed that in the younger dating scene more men and women aren't dating. I've seen that more men and women aren't even going to clubs. Sure we think that all women and all men are sleeping around. But the loudest voice is the one that everyone notices. A site like this is a prime example really. It's a small minority of the population that are looking for niche activities. There is a reason that majority of people on this site and apps similar are all for discretion and privacy. For a start this isn’t alway true. I don’t get approached when I’m in a bar or restaurant. " And one of my female friends have said the same. Is she unattractive? No. But this is just how the world is changing. Men are literally not even looking in women's directions half the time. Decent guys respect a women's view and what she does and doesn't like and for years, women have said that they hate being approached, they feel safer with a bear and they are overall scared of men. The decent guys listened and chose to respect that. But the guys that they got into this conversation about don't listen. Because why would they? They never cared before | |||
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" Dating apps are also rigged for men, it has been proven many times that the top percentage of guys will be shown more regularly to the majority of women. There was a study that stated that the average man has to swipe 50 times to get a match and 10x that to get a date. That can be months of swiping and only have the preface of a singular date. Could always develop an app for the underdog of men then.... Women overall don't want the average Joe. Women date in hypergamy. That is where the modern issues lie. It's not women's faults or men's. As equality has advanced (a good thing) the hypergamy gap has become none existent. Women don't see a need for men because they're outearning men and have a higher level of education than men overall. More women go to university than men due to men going into trades and such which doesn't require said university " But you are a man, how do you know what you think women want, is actually what women want? My experience says the opposite to what you claim. B | |||
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". I'm really not sure what your point is. That more people are finally realising how much better life is without a codependent relationship basis is an absolutely wonderful thing as far as I'm concerned. You said you'd seen evidence against men preferring online and women preferring in person as a general thing within dating, I was asking about that. I didn't mean it in that way. I meant it in the way that men are just completely done. Especially when it comes down to the younger generations. Gen z are literally scared to even approach a woman because they're scared of being seen as a sexual predator or blasted publicly on social media about how bad or cringy etc he was and how she was doing him a favour for when going on a date with him. You have foodie dates, literally women that go on dates for free food at high end restaurants and have zero interest in the guy. (Not saying this has happened to me. But they've definitely tried). The dating scene has become very toxic and men and women in majority are checking out completely "That more people are finally realising how much better life is without a codependent relationship basis is an absolutely wonderful thing as far as I'm concerned." 💜" So you're saying that people just shouldn't date or get into relationships at all? They should just either fuck who they please and move on to the next or just become abstinent? | |||
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"The real truth is that women have never needed men. History has shown that men have worked very hard at keeping women in a subjugated role to control and dominate. Whilst the work/life balance for equality of men v women is improving it's not anywhere close to equal. What you're witnessing is women realising they have a choice. They don't need a man. They can choose a man. And what men can often describe is feeling emasculated by not being needed when imho being chosen is worth more than being needed. Women can choose to marry or date. Often they choose peace. Or the bear." 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 | |||
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"So you're saying that people just shouldn't date or get into relationships at all? They should just either fuck who they please and move on to the next or just become abstinent?" I'm saying that people realising their happiness shouldn't be reliant on someone else is a good thing. It's a wonderful thing to be with someone that contributes joy to your life. But it's better to be alone than to be with someone who brings more negatives than just having your own peace. More people are getting to know themselves and to be happy in their own company. And those people are by far the easiest to love 💜 | |||
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" Dating apps are also rigged for men, it has been proven many times that the top percentage of guys will be shown more regularly to the majority of women. There was a study that stated that the average man has to swipe 50 times to get a match and 10x that to get a date. That can be months of swiping and only have the preface of a singular date. Could always develop an app for the underdog of men then.... Women overall don't want the average Joe. Women date in hypergamy. That is where the modern issues lie. It's not women's faults or men's. As equality has advanced (a good thing) the hypergamy gap has become none existent. Women don't see a need for men because they're outearning men and have a higher level of education than men overall. More women go to university than men due to men going into trades and such which doesn't require said university You're mansplaining what women want Most women I know want to be successful in their own right and want a man who will be her best friend and not trying shagging the woman down the road lol" And to be fair. That's what men want too. Women cheat just as much (if not more) than men do. They just get away with it because they hide it better. There is a huge thing going around now that is men not being the father to their children and that number is huge. I saw a video of a woman that had a friend which worked in a DNA testing center and she said he got very depressed and shut down and she even had to save him from a bad situation. It turned out 40% of the tests that he did... The man was not the father of his kids. This is not just the younger generation. This is the 40+ year olds. The milk man and mail man jokes from the older generations make you think after that statistic. | |||
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"The real truth is that women have never needed men. History has shown that men have worked very hard at keeping women in a subjugated role to control and dominate. Whilst the work/life balance for equality of men v women is improving it's not anywhere close to equal. What you're witnessing is women realising they have a choice. They don't need a man. They can choose a man. And what men can often describe is feeling emasculated by not being needed when imho being chosen is worth more than being needed. Women can choose to marry or date. Often they choose peace. Or the bear." And I think this is a great thing, but you also have to remember that it was a small percentage of men overall that wanted women in that submissive oppressed situation. You only have to look at other parts of the world that have that same thing if not worse than we did 100 years ago. I agree women don't need men just like men don't need women. The issue with men these days is that they don't feel useful (they confuse that for being useful to women and needing a woman). Give a man a tool and an objective he's happy. It's just men and women operate in the world differently than men. Women love the classroom with their sticky notes and making notes. That bores guys. Give me a vocational way of learning and they thrive. It's been proven in boys only schools | |||
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"And this is where fundamentally men and women differ. Women prefer a more experienced man due to him being desirable and more experienced. This is why women date older also I mean, just not a virgin is fine. I'm not particularly fussed if they have more experience than me or not. I tend to prefer slightly older people because they've managed to work out who they are and what they want better than the younger generations. They're more likely to have similar interests to me. For the most part. One of my favourite people is almost a decade younger than me, but has lived more life in that time than most retirees. If most men fundamentally just want a malleable pretty nothing they can mould into whatever they want then I really do hope the scientists hurry up on tuning the AI and getting those sex robot production costs down. I'd much rather only have people who want to date people in the dating pool 💜" That is really not what the vast majority of men want... That is only the manipulators and the abusers. | |||
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"So you're saying that people just shouldn't date or get into relationships at all? They should just either fuck who they please and move on to the next or just become abstinent? I'm saying that people realising their happiness shouldn't be reliant on someone else is a good thing. It's a wonderful thing to be with someone that contributes joy to your life. But it's better to be alone than to be with someone who brings more negatives than just having your own peace. More people are getting to know themselves and to be happy in their own company. And those people are by far the easiest to love 💜" I 100% agree with this. And more and more people are finding peace single and getting on with their own lives. But fundamentally its leaving people just not wanting to date due to a few bad experiences. They have found peace on their own and don't want to disturb that. Not saying that's me... I'm saying that this is just what is happening and this is why we have massive declining birth rates | |||
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"Sickening now the misogyny on this post. I only started this as a simple question. Now it’s changed to something else Yes it turned into an andrew tate convention pmsl" All because of one person  | |||
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"Oh no I do understand this. But a woman does want a roof over her head and her children looked after after all. This is just how women have dated since the beginning of time. Do you know what hypergamy is? I have explained it in a previous post Women weren't allowed bank accounts or to own property back in the day. Thankfully things have moved forward. Now, at least when you do date someone, there's a chance it's because she actually wants to be with _you_, not just because the other option is homelessness and death 💜 I know this. And it's sad that this is still happening to millions of women around the world even today. Hot take here. Women refuse to pay for the first date and even refused a second date and get in a mood if they don't have things paid for by their bf/husband. At least that's the women I have had around me in my life and seen around." Have a day off. | |||
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"So you're saying that people just shouldn't date or get into relationships at all? They should just either fuck who they please and move on to the next or just become abstinent? I'm saying that people realising their happiness shouldn't be reliant on someone else is a good thing. It's a wonderful thing to be with someone that contributes joy to your life. But it's better to be alone than to be with someone who brings more negatives than just having your own peace. More people are getting to know themselves and to be happy in their own company. And those people are by far the easiest to love 💜 I 100% agree with this. And more and more people are finding peace single and getting on with their own lives. But fundamentally its leaving people just not wanting to date due to a few bad experiences. They have found peace on their own and don't want to disturb that. Not saying that's me... I'm saying that this is just what is happening and this is why we have massive declining birth rates " I don't want to breed (apart from liking my body and my peace too much) because this world isn't fit to bring more lives into. The birth rate is in decline because women are more than just broodmares now. Tying myself to not only the human I'd give birth to but the other parent for the rest of my life, what if they turn out to be assholes? Plus, kids are fucking expensive. Adding a whole other dependent in this economy? Pfft 💜 | |||
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"Dating apps are also rigged for men, it has been proven many times that the top percentage of guys will be shown more regularly to the majority of women. There was a study that stated that the average man has to swipe 50 times to get a match and 10x that to get a date. That can be months of swiping and only have the preface of a singular date. This is meant with the absolute best and kindest of intentions. Some of the phrases your using suggests that you're being served content that is designed to alienate you from women and set you in competition against other men. To make you think that women are more bothered about status, looks and wealth. A very small minority maybe. But the vast majority? A person - not an object of value, lovely, nice. Oh no I do understand this. But a woman does want a roof over her head and her children looked after after all. This is just how women have dated since the beginning of time. Do you know what hypergamy is? I have explained it in a previous post Yes. Marrying a spouse of superior sociological, educational or financial standing. It doesn't apply to me. This is because you have built a life for yourself and no doubt a career that doesn't need a man to rely on. This is where things have changed. I appreciate that and I'm happy women can live life that way. Outside of reproduction relationships aren't really needed when you thing about it. Sure there's the sharing life with another person but you can do that with a good group of friends after all. " That guy Beef on this thread? He's my husband. We have kids. We share an awesome life. We also have sex with other people. It's fun ❤️ | |||
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" Dating apps are also rigged for men, it has been proven many times that the top percentage of guys will be shown more regularly to the majority of women. There was a study that stated that the average man has to swipe 50 times to get a match and 10x that to get a date. That can be months of swiping and only have the preface of a singular date. Could always develop an app for the underdog of men then.... Women overall don't want the average Joe. Women date in hypergamy. That is where the modern issues lie. It's not women's faults or men's. As equality has advanced (a good thing) the hypergamy gap has become none existent. Women don't see a need for men because they're outearning men and have a higher level of education than men overall. More women go to university than men due to men going into trades and such which doesn't require said university But you are a man, how do you know what you think women want, is actually what women want? My experience says the opposite to what you claim. B Explain? You assert that woman don't want the average Joe and are only interested in 'hypergamy'. It's up there in mid grey and off white. So last year, 50 year old, mr average here, slept with *checks notes* 21 people, of which at least 15 were female or fem presenting. And currently has * checks notes again* 4 regular fwbs. Now I'm not saying your assertion is bullshit but from my lived experience, it certainly smells a bit off. B" You are certainly doing something better than a good 60% of the male population. Bravo | |||
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"And this is where fundamentally men and women differ. Women prefer a more experienced man due to him being desirable and more experienced. This is why women date older also I mean, just not a virgin is fine. I'm not particularly fussed if they have more experience than me or not. I tend to prefer slightly older people because they've managed to work out who they are and what they want better than the younger generations. They're more likely to have similar interests to me. For the most part. One of my favourite people is almost a decade younger than me, but has lived more life in that time than most retirees. If most men fundamentally just want a malleable pretty nothing they can mould into whatever they want then I really do hope the scientists hurry up on tuning the AI and getting those sex robot production costs down. I'd much rather only have people who want to date people in the dating pool 💜 That is really not what the vast majority of men want... That is only the manipulators and the abusers. " "And this is where fundamentally men and women differ. Women prefer a more experienced man due to him being desirable and more experienced." So you weren't saying that fundamentally men prefer inexperienced? I'm not really sure how else to read that 💜 | |||
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"Dating apps are also rigged for men, it has been proven many times that the top percentage of guys will be shown more regularly to the majority of women. There was a study that stated that the average man has to swipe 50 times to get a match and 10x that to get a date. That can be months of swiping and only have the preface of a singular date. This is meant with the absolute best and kindest of intentions. Some of the phrases your using suggests that you're being served content that is designed to alienate you from women and set you in competition against other men. To make you think that women are more bothered about status, looks and wealth. A very small minority maybe. But the vast majority? A person - not an object of value, lovely, nice. Oh no I do understand this. But a woman does want a roof over her head and her children looked after after all. This is just how women have dated since the beginning of time. Do you know what hypergamy is? I have explained it in a previous post *some women One of my partners has children. The other doesn't. Both have their own homes, as do I and none of us would ever want to live with anyone else. The best advice I could give is to stop assuming all peolle are the same, want the same thing and view relationships and dating the same way. Women aren't a hive mind. They're individuals. And hypergamy is utter bullshit for the majority. Maybe 50-100 years ago, but certainly not now for the vast majority of women. They just want a man that doesn't subscribe to 1950's notions of gender roles and who'll treat them with respect and accept the life choices they make. I don't think you have read my previous posts " Oh I have. I wish I hadn't if I'm honest, as it didn't make for comfortable reading. You've had both many women, and men explain why the views you've expressed aren't the reality of life. They really do seem to spring feom the manosphere and that's not a great place to develop views and opinions re women, what they allegedly want, nor how they view relationships. It's seriously not healthy. | |||
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"So you're saying that people just shouldn't date or get into relationships at all? They should just either fuck who they please and move on to the next or just become abstinent? I'm saying that people realising their happiness shouldn't be reliant on someone else is a good thing. It's a wonderful thing to be with someone that contributes joy to your life. But it's better to be alone than to be with someone who brings more negatives than just having your own peace. More people are getting to know themselves and to be happy in their own company. And those people are by far the easiest to love 💜 I 100% agree with this. And more and more people are finding peace single and getting on with their own lives. But fundamentally its leaving people just not wanting to date due to a few bad experiences. They have found peace on their own and don't want to disturb that. Not saying that's me... I'm saying that this is just what is happening and this is why we have massive declining birth rates I don't want to breed (apart from liking my body and my peace too much) because this world isn't fit to bring more lives into. The birth rate is in decline because women are more than just broodmares now. Tying myself to not only the human I'd give birth to but the other parent for the rest of my life, what if they turn out to be assholes? Plus, kids are fucking expensive. Adding a whole other dependent in this economy? Pfft 💜" I fully understand this and this is why I'm still single. The way the world is now, I couldn't imagine having a child. The dangers a young girl would face even at a young age and not to mention the issues of a boy growing up as well. You did make a few good points | |||
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"Dating apps are also rigged for men, it has been proven many times that the top percentage of guys will be shown more regularly to the majority of women. There was a study that stated that the average man has to swipe 50 times to get a match and 10x that to get a date. That can be months of swiping and only have the preface of a singular date. This is meant with the absolute best and kindest of intentions. Some of the phrases your using suggests that you're being served content that is designed to alienate you from women and set you in competition against other men. To make you think that women are more bothered about status, looks and wealth. A very small minority maybe. But the vast majority? A person - not an object of value, lovely, nice. Oh no I do understand this. But a woman does want a roof over her head and her children looked after after all. This is just how women have dated since the beginning of time. Do you know what hypergamy is? I have explained it in a previous post Yes. Marrying a spouse of superior sociological, educational or financial standing. It doesn't apply to me. This is because you have built a life for yourself and no doubt a career that doesn't need a man to rely on. This is where things have changed. I appreciate that and I'm happy women can live life that way. Outside of reproduction relationships aren't really needed when you thing about it. Sure there's the sharing life with another person but you can do that with a good group of friends after all. That guy Beef on this thread? He's my husband. We have kids. We share an awesome life. We also have sex with other people. It's fun ❤️" I'm happy you guys have found eachother and have been able to create your perfect relationship that suits both of you. You're lucky to have that | |||
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"And this is where fundamentally men and women differ. Women prefer a more experienced man due to him being desirable and more experienced. This is why women date older also I mean, just not a virgin is fine. I'm not particularly fussed if they have more experience than me or not. I tend to prefer slightly older people because they've managed to work out who they are and what they want better than the younger generations. They're more likely to have similar interests to me. For the most part. One of my favourite people is almost a decade younger than me, but has lived more life in that time than most retirees. If most men fundamentally just want a malleable pretty nothing they can mould into whatever they want then I really do hope the scientists hurry up on tuning the AI and getting those sex robot production costs down. I'd much rather only have people who want to date people in the dating pool 💜 That is really not what the vast majority of men want... That is only the manipulators and the abusers. "And this is where fundamentally men and women differ. Women prefer a more experienced man due to him being desirable and more experienced." So you weren't saying that fundamentally men prefer inexperienced? I'm not really sure how else to read that 💜 I never said that. For men overall it's an image and ego thing. It stared out as a long lasting thing of maternity for centuries. But now it is partially that but also goes more further into men not wanting what has easily become accessible to others. I've seen a lot of this online (not saying it's my pov). Men are not willing to wait past a date or 2 because they assume that she has given it up on a night out or in a matter or hours to another guy so him being made to wait... Shows that he's not that special to her. Again... This is not my pov " 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Whoever posted that online that sounds like cap. | |||
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"You are certainly doing something better than a good 60% of the male population. Bravo And yet, there he is, Mr average 50 year old. He's already married and loves his wife, so his net worth isn't the draw. No 6 pack or massive Wang in sight. But I'd happily do him again if he wasn't so bloody far away 💜" Woah, woah, woah, hang on a moment... I think it might be a bit girthier than average. Fucking distance 😭 B😘 | |||
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" The best advice I could give is to stop assuming all peolle are the same, want the same thing and view relationships and dating the same way. Women aren't a hive mind. They're individuals. And hypergamy is utter bullshit for the majority. Maybe 50-100 years ago, but certainly not now for the vast majority of women. They just want a man that doesn't subscribe to 1950's notions of gender roles and who'll treat them with respect and accept the life choices they make. I don't think you have read my previous posts Oh I have. I wish I hadn't if I'm honest, as it didn't make for comfortable reading. You've had both many women, and men explain why the views you've expressed aren't the reality of life. They really do seem to spring feom the manosphere and that's not a great place to develop views and opinions re women, what they allegedly want, nor how they view relationships. It's seriously not healthy. " I hate majority of what the red pill and manophere spews. I saw someone bring up Andrew Tate. He's just a billionaire playboy that has the ego of a multi champion kick boxer. When you look at his life. He was made fun of by women and never had any real money growing up and now he has everything he takes advantage of it. That's not the kind of person I am or would ever be. I am not the type to go to a club 5 times a week and have 5 different women a week either. I have explained that in previous posts | |||
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"And this is where fundamentally men and women differ. Women prefer a more experienced man due to him being desirable and more experienced. This is why women date older also I mean, just not a virgin is fine. I'm not particularly fussed if they have more experience than me or not. I tend to prefer slightly older people because they've managed to work out who they are and what they want better than the younger generations. They're more likely to have similar interests to me. For the most part. One of my favourite people is almost a decade younger than me, but has lived more life in that time than most retirees. If most men fundamentally just want a malleable pretty nothing they can mould into whatever they want then I really do hope the scientists hurry up on tuning the AI and getting those sex robot production costs down. I'd much rather only have people who want to date people in the dating pool 💜 That is really not what the vast majority of men want... That is only the manipulators and the abusers. "And this is where fundamentally men and women differ. Women prefer a more experienced man due to him being desirable and more experienced." So you weren't saying that fundamentally men prefer inexperienced? I'm not really sure how else to read that 💜 I never said that. For men overall it's an image and ego thing. It stared out as a long lasting thing of maternity for centuries. But now it is partially that but also goes more further into men not wanting what has easily become accessible to others. I've seen a lot of this online (not saying it's my pov). Men are not willing to wait past a date or 2 because they assume that she has given it up on a night out or in a matter or hours to another guy so him being made to wait... Shows that he's not that special to her. Again... This is not my pov " So women want experience, and men are fundamentally different because they're only interested in the visual and their ego? I think that's actually worse than the first interpretation. Like I said, of my two most recent partners one was instantly sexual and the other was 3 months of dating first. both relationships are still going strong, and in neither situation was I placing value on them determined entirely by how early I provided access to my cunt 💜 | |||
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"You are certainly doing something better than a good 60% of the male population. Bravo And yet, there he is, Mr average 50 year old. He's already married and loves his wife, so his net worth isn't the draw. No 6 pack or massive Wang in sight. But I'd happily do him again if he wasn't so bloody far away 💜 Woah, woah, woah, hang on a moment... I think it might be a bit girthier than average. Fucking distance 😭 B😘" Life has to get less chaotic soon. I'll get back down your possibly girthier than average but utterly delicious penis when I can 💜 | |||
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"You are certainly doing something better than a good 60% of the male population. Bravo And yet, there he is, Mr average 50 year old. He's already married and loves his wife, so his net worth isn't the draw. No 6 pack or massive Wang in sight. But I'd happily do him again if he wasn't so bloody far away 💜" And I'm happy for you. But in this new generation of dating the rules have changed massively. You should do a bit of research into under 30s dating. I blame social media for majority of the issues as it has made so many people antisocial and disconnected. The average person as mentioned in past posts don't want to be approached at all in the real world. But then comes the issue of how you make yourself desirable digitally. Is it a lambo in the picture? Is it a freshly cooked meal? A holiday pic? When it comes to gen z dating it's a huge minefield as a lot of the people are impatient and materialist. That goes for both men and women | |||
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"@ lone maverick You seam to be doing a lot of categorising women into the same category or just judging us from your own personal expediences we aren’t all the same. " To be fair I think he's doing the same to men too. | |||
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"@ lone maverick You seam to be doing a lot of categorising women into the same category or just judging us from your own personal expediences we aren’t all the same. To be fair I think he's doing the same to men too." What his saying has noting to do with the question being asked. | |||
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"@ lone maverick You seam to be doing a lot of categorising women into the same category or just judging us from your own personal expediences we aren’t all the same. To be fair I think he's doing the same to men too. What his saying has noting to do with the question being asked. " I'm not sure what he's saying has to do with anything. I'm trying to see if there's a salient point there somewhere, but I clearly lack the smarts. I must be getting old. | |||
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