FabSwingers.com forum: Why do men do this

By *ornyczechwife OP Couple
10 weeks ago

Close To You

Last few days we have had abuse randomly from men for no reason.

One send a pic of his dick and said can I fuck your slut so you can imagine why he didn’t get a reply it then followed by tits are fake anyway.

I’d never do this if I was single.

Does this happen often to other couples?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
10 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

It happens to everyone.

Report and block the abusive ones. Just block the unpleasant ones 💜

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By *sStephenPickleMan
10 weeks ago

Ends

Incels

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
10 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

Yes every now and then!

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

100% what Prey and Pickle said.

Report and block. Incel mentality.

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By *aomilatteCouple
10 weeks ago

Midlands

In 8 years we've never had an abusive message 🤞

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By *izzy69Man
10 weeks ago

London

"Last few days we have had abuse randomly from men for no reason.

One send a pic of his dick and said can I fuck your slut so you can imagine why he didn’t get a reply it then followed by tits are fake anyway.

I’d never do this if I was single.

Does this happen often to other couples?"

It's the internet!

People can get away with being nasty and illogical without repercussions because of anonymity.

We just have to take advantage of that anonymity and move on because we don't have to know them or engage with them any further.

Do not let them occupy space in your head rent free!

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By *ad-BodMan
10 weeks ago

Leicester

Does anyone read messages like that and think "Oh, wow. I need your dick!"

Must be sad to have no social skills

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By *ndymac888Man
10 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I got a few before I found out that I could filter the messages lol.

I honestly think they just joined the site to wind people up.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Not in your area

Report then mark as unread.

The only do that because the only way they can get noticed is by being rude.

They feel it in their souls more when they're not acknowledged at all

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By *issmeltingpotWoman
10 weeks ago

Darlington

"In 8 years we've never had an abusive message 🤞"

You shouldn’t be left out

It’s a form of discrimination 😛

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By *ansoffateMan
10 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Pretty standard as a couple in my experience, doesn't seem like much has changed.

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By *alm_one4Man
10 weeks ago

RM16

Not just to Couples. I had a Guy message me about meeting up. I replied, quite politely I thought, that he wasn’t my type unfortunately but I was flatted by his approach. He messaged back saying he was after big muscle types (I was a gym rat at the time) but that wasn’t me anyway. It made be wonder why he got in touch in the first place!

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By *dalisqueWoman
10 weeks ago

land of make believe

"In 8 years we've never had an abusive message 🤞

You shouldn’t be left out

It’s a form of discrimination 😛

😅😅

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By *atwick_CougarWoman
10 weeks ago

Unknown

I have so many messages that are so crude and abusive, I have been forced to hide my profile when I am offline. There should be more stringent rules and punishment for some of these people x

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By *ootnootboopCouple
10 weeks ago

Cheshire

"Last few days we have had abuse randomly from men for no reason.

One send a pic of his dick and said can I fuck your slut so you can imagine why he didn’t get a reply it then followed by tits are fake anyway.

I’d never do this if I was single.

Does this happen often to other couples?"

People can sadly be idiots! Block, report and move on, happy in the knowledge that your having a lovely sex life and they are probably not....

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
10 weeks ago

West Midlands

Frequently ,want to meet then after a polite no get abusive , one charmer "wouldn't want to catch anything off the slag anyway"

Strange way of attracting mates eh

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
10 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

Probably 99% of couples have.

Yesterday we got it from a couples account, then after we blocked them we got more from both their single accounts.

Must be nice to have that much free time.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

Immediately block anyone who talks to you like that.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
10 weeks ago

Ends

"In 8 years we've never had an abusive message 🤞

You shouldn’t be left out

It’s a form of discrimination 😛

Straight up racism

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By *issmorganWoman
10 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

We have men blocked on our couple profile , as we're only looking for couples.

However on this account I've had numerous dick pics and the attitude sometimes that well it's a sex site, why wouldn't I want to see their dick.

It's a swinging site and many of us need to have attraction to someone before we want to see their bits and bobs.

Sure, there are ladies and couples that like to see the goods, but unless a profile specifically states that, it's best to keep it to yourself.

I think some genuinely think a cock shot is going make all the women drop their pants. Others just like the thrill of showing it off to others, whether they want to see it or not.

His reaction tells me that he knew he'd overstepped the mark and didn't like being called out on it. It's a good filter, either way.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

If you're not actively looking for men then block all incoming mail from them. Problem solved instantly. 🤷‍♂️

It won't prevent you contacting them yourselves, nor continuing chats with any male friends or those you've spoken to before.

And always report abusive messages.

The site gives many tools to help manage an inbox, if people choose to use them of course.

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
10 weeks ago

Coleraine

We get so many terrible messages from men. It’s a rather sad reflection of modern men.

Insults and abuse

Degrading offers of payment

Two word messages

String messages of desperation

Not sure what they think they are achieving

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By *rLicksMan
10 weeks ago

Worcester

Report abusive members and remember the block button is your friend.

Sadly there is always going to be an element of “hopers and dreamers” who are here for nothing more than their own fantasies in their head, seeking wank bank material and chat. Unlikely they would ever meet anyone etc etc.

They invested 45 seconds to send a message to you and feel “butt hurt” that you haven’t responded so decide to get abusive… because that will guarantee your desires for them will increase 10 fold of course

Just a hazard of the territory sadly, don’t let them get to you

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By *layfullsamMan
10 weeks ago

Solihull

I wish it said why do ‘some’ men

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By *sStephenPickleMan
10 weeks ago

Ends

"I wish it said why do ‘some’ men"

I don’t think it needs say that for you to know it doesn’t mean all

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By *olte121Man
10 weeks ago

just up the road and first left

It’s shame that the good men’s reputations on here are often tainted by the absolute twat men on here.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
10 weeks ago

Chatham

I have no idea.

One of my guy friends gets the occasional abusive message because of his review for me. He has sent screenshots of men asking how he got me looking like that.

Weird behaviour

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
10 weeks ago

West Midlands

"It’s shame that the good men’s reputations on here are often tainted by the absolute twat men on here. "

Well the decent guys shine like beacons so carry on doing what you do and let the idiots dig their holes and get blocked.

Think an issue is the effect on one's morale and confidence (we're good but not every one is) by getting unpleasant abuse on occasion

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By *leasingmyhubsCouple
10 weeks ago

Holbeach

It's a Regular occurrence.

My Block and Delete list must be pretty impressive now.

Absolutely No Need for the abuse from certain things on here!!

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By *oodmessMan
10 weeks ago

yumsville

Just a reminder as sometimes people dont ...

have you got filters set for no newbies, no un-verified, and only those within age ranges you are looking for.

You could block all men for a couple of weeks and look around yourself, hiding your profile too lets you be online but reply to those you want and block those being fools

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By *ad-BodMan
10 weeks ago

Leicester

Right? As if it wasn't difficult enough to get verified on here as it is... unless... I was the twat all along??

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"It’s shame that the good men’s reputations on here are often tainted by the absolute twat men on here. "

Nope. Urban myth.

We're all individuals and responsible for our own actions, behaviour and engagements.

Nothing I do will ever have any impact on another single male on here and likewise nothing they do changes my experience. 🤷‍♂️

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By *olly_AmberTV/TS
10 weeks ago

East Sussex

Get so many as well. Wish everyone was just nicer! At least the block button like me

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By *cLovin2Man
10 weeks ago

London

Nob heads, OP ignore the idiots as best you can. Frankly we need to have more laws to deal with such abusive behaviour. Internet is awash with idiots who think it's perfectly ok to abuse someone.

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By *erry bull1Man
10 weeks ago

doncaster

Idiots , if they were stood next to you in a pub , they wouldn’t dare say that , but because they’re online they think it’s acceptable , they should be kicked off the site , it spoils for decent chaps

Have a good weekend all

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By *amuelsquestMan
10 weeks ago

Sutton at hone

Got

To up there game

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By *inky PerkyCouple
10 weeks ago

Kingston

We've had a few that got pissy when rejected but nothing abusive. Then again I usually block the obvious wrong-uns early on

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

The vast majority of the messages I get from men are respectful. Yes I get the occasional one that is pure filth or offering money but block and delete and they are gone. I know experiences vary tremendously here but that's my experience.

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By *avexxMan
10 weeks ago

cheshire

i have no answer for these people beggars believe

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By *hunky GentMan
10 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

Not every man does this, just the neanderthals.

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