FabSwingers.com forum: Accommodate

By *one_maverick OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leeds/Bradford

How do so many people expect to accommodate if they put down that they can't?

I understand everyone has their own circumstances but it seems like nobody but single guys can accommodate... I can't due to living with family before anyone says haha, but I am willing to meet in clubs etc

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By *allySlinkyWoman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

Single women often choose not to accommodate for reasons of safety. I don't always want a stranger to know my address.

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
10 weeks ago

scunthorpe

We never accommodate at our house. We have children and wouldn’t dream of inviting strangers into their home.

We’re quite happy to meet and clubs or hotels though.

Donna

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By *ollyPocket75Woman
10 weeks ago

Aberdeen

I can accommodate but prefer a hotel meet. Some people may not want to open their homes to strangers, they may have families, or want to keep that side of their lives separate. It's completely up to the individual and they shouldn't have to explain why they don't want to accommodate.

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By *one_maverick OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leeds/Bradford

Yeah I understand the safety and security side of things along with the discretion.

So how do couples and single FEMS meet then? Clubs and hotels only?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

"How do so many people expect to accommodate if they put down that they can't?

I am happy to meet in hotels or clubs. I don't assume the man or couple can accommodate.

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
10 weeks ago

Hatfield

are club and hotels not enough?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

"are club and hotels not enough? "

Dogging ?

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By *ussyslave4youMan
10 weeks ago

corby

Im happy to acomodate, but can understand why a lot dont for safety reasons

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By *os19Man
10 weeks ago

Edmonton

I’m a single guy who can’t accommodate for family reasons which is on my profile.I have met in club and spa.Would also meet in a hotel as long as costs are shared.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I would never accommodate, my children come 1st ain't no stranger coming into my house or even knowing where I live.

Hotels exist as do clubs.

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
10 weeks ago

Hatfield

"are club and hotels not enough?

Dogging ?"

I assumed single females would think this is dangerous too .

If I had chance to meet a female off here and she said hotel or club I’d consider this . I’d never assume accommodation from either party

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By *urry BlokeMan
10 weeks ago

I won't accom at all

Whilst I am in a fully open relationship, one condition we have is that we never have other people in our home

That's our space

"Fuck who you want, but don't bring them home" is very much the order of the day

If we played together, that might change, but we don't, so it won't

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I don't accommodate because I don't want to...

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By *erfHerder74Man
10 weeks ago

Inverclyde

I can accommodate but I don’t to men who want a right now meeting.

Only for those I met before or make the effort to meet in public

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Hotels for us though we would go to a club

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
10 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

Clubs, hotel. My home is my safe space

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Why are single men at any less risk of inviting woman or couples in to their houses?

Statistics are one thing but there is still a risk attached to it

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By *rystalsswingCouple
10 weeks ago

Galway / Midlands

We can, if we really want to 😇

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
10 weeks ago

Halloween Town, Dudleyish.

I dunno, if someone doesnt want people in their gaff that's pretty reasonable regardless of the reason.

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By *viatrixWoman
10 weeks ago

Redhill

I have children at home. I will never, ever meet at my home.

However, the expectation from many single males is that I should accommodate.

I remember planning a meet with someone who I was very attracted to- I suggested a hotel, he couldn’t afford his half. I made the mistake of paying for hotel rooms with other people before and if it is not 50/50, I’m not getting there. Then I suggested a club- do they give out condoms? Also the number of men who ask me to bring condoms because they don’t have any… fucking hell.

I prefer a wank. I can buy fancy, expensive toys without paying for these losers to be able to meet me 🤣🤣🤣

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By *luebell888Woman
10 weeks ago

Glasgowish

My home is my private space. I don't even like going into a strange mans home as feel it's an intrusion into his private space. Love outdoor sex, club and hotel meets so plenty other options available.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

I can't accommodate as my daughter lives with me. But even if I could I would have several meets before I'd feel safe to invite them home.

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By *oiluvfunMan
10 weeks ago

Penrith

Meeting at home involves a huge level of trust, for many reasons. You need to know someone really well before allowing them in to your home.

Hotels are the best option in my opinion, they’re ‘disposable’ and it’s easy to separate your normal life from this fun side of our lives.

Outdoor fun for cheeky, risky, quick meets, but very weather dependent.

Car meets……for the ‘Eeh, when we were teenagers’ trip down memory lane…. :-

Clubs if you enjoy a distracting, non private, noisy atmosphere, with strange guys wandering around in towels, and stinky, sticky, gaffer taped judo mats as a nod to ‘comfort’……

But yes OP; many demands put on the lowly single guy in Fab…..

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By *ggdrasil66Man
10 weeks ago

Saltdean

Nah, can’t invite anyone to mine. All my kids are grown up now, but three still live with me, and they don’t know anything about this side of my life.

It doesn’t make things easy, but hey ho!

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By *oiluvfunMan
10 weeks ago

Penrith

"Why are single men at any less risk of inviting woman or couples in to their houses?

Statistics are one thing but there is still a risk attached to it "

It was bad enough the psycho bitch from Hell I met from here, sending me a Google Earth screenshot of my house, which she tracked down through social media, never mind inviting a complete stranger in, who could turn out to be another loony tunes….

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

I always accommodate...in hotels. ☑️

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By *oeBeansMan
10 weeks ago

Derby

I would expect a social first so going for a drink and then if all goes well, meeting up at a hotel or a club after although if we've chatted enough, then a hotel meet straight away would be good enough.

I do think there's a double standard though where if a woman can't accommodate then it's for safety of her own private space, but if a man can't accommodate, he must be a cheating scum bag

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By *allySlinkyWoman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

I am suprised how many men on Fab are single dads whose children live with them full time.

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By *electableicecreamMan
10 weeks ago

The West

"I am suprised how many men on Fab are single dads whose children live with them full time. "

People are often surprised when I tell them I'm a full time single parent.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
10 weeks ago

Brum - ish

I have been happy to have people I know come to mine but only once I’m comfortable with them. Otherwise it would be clubs ideally or potentially hotels.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

People are often surprised when I tell them I'm a full time single parent."

Do you accommodate when they're at school ?

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By *a LunaWoman
10 weeks ago

o o OO o o

I tended to meet in hotels.

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By *infullyObedientWoman
10 weeks ago

Woodley

I can and do accommodate but not without a social first.

But it's back fired before when a guy just turned up after we had met before, unarranged and expected me to invite him in. And he still walks his dog past my house most days. Creepy.

So I'm a bit more cautious about who I let know where I live now.

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By *electableicecreamMan
10 weeks ago

The West

People are often surprised when I tell them I'm a full time single parent.

Do you accommodate when they're at school ?"

I'm happy to host partners I know very well. Once the trust level is there I've no problem having someone over if the house is free.

I don't fuck random people one way or the other so if I'm inviting someone around we are on a level of friendship.

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By *idssissyTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

I have a room I have used in the flat but need to be safe

Have had people turn up at all hours expecting to be let in which doesn't happen

Careful who I give my number and address to

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

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By *oodmessMan
10 weeks ago

yumsville

I don't expect anyone to accom, if they can't, a hotel is easy enough to arrange. I've had zero issues, in fact nobody from memory has asked why I can't and I've not asked them - It's never been a talking point

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Central

Clubs and hotels give lots of potential for meeting. Many want a social first, so you get the potential to discuss it

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Not one single guy that I’ve met can accommodate.

They come to my house instead

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By *VANDYMan
10 weeks ago

Dawlish

OP do you ever search for members that do accommodate. I do, as I can’t, (carer for my dad),

there maybe more than you think.

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By *each needs some creamWoman
10 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

As a single woman I wouldn't be anyone in the hotel on my own.

Definitely not one that he has payed for.

I value my safety to much.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"As a single woman I wouldn't be anyone in the hotel on my own.

Definitely not one that he has payed for.

I value my safety to much. "

I don't do hotel meets either.

I can't afford to pay half and if the man has paid he is going to want his monies worth and probably want more sex or sexual acts that I am up for.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I’m

Happy to accom living out in the sticks I’m also very happy to travel or hotel and having a big motorhome is an option too once the trust is there

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By *iss DevilWoman
10 weeks ago

Bedford

"Single women often choose not to accommodate for reasons of safety. I don't always want a stranger to know my address."

Exactly this. Once I met someone in a club or similar, I am happy to accommodate, just not overnight.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"As a single woman I wouldn't be anyone in the hotel on my own.

Definitely not one that he has payed for.

I value my safety to much. "

If I was worried about my safety I wouldn't be meeting them. Do no people not talk beforehand?

He can pay and I'll let him have all the free biscuits.

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By *iamond couple twoCouple
10 weeks ago

Wakefield

We accomodate and meet in clubs, hotels etc

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
10 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Not happening with me 🤚🏽

Saw a Channel4 doc a while back. This bloke had a T*nder hook-up at his place. Got r*bbed & murdered by a gang of blokes who showed up after

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