FabSwingers.com forum: Vanilla friends

By *upanova OP Man
14 weeks ago

Sheffield

How many of you shared your lifestyle with your vanilla friends and family?

How did they accept it?

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By *mmaleiaWoman
14 weeks ago

Trowbridge

They’re my friends because they don’t judge me & love me as long as I’m happy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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14 weeks ago

East Sussex

Wouldn't dream of it. My private life is none of their business.

If I was single I'd tell at least one person enough details so they could act as my safety net when I was out on a date of any sort, swinging or otherwise.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
14 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

None. They’d all die of shock!

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By *iss_FickleWoman
14 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

Generally I'm a very private person, but mainly for safety reasons I do have a couple of friends who know where I'm going/I share my location with etc

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
14 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

My business is no business of any ones. I like that this lifestyle is a secret side to me

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By *rHotNottsMan
14 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yeah, most of mine know what I’m like, but not specific details or anything. A few friends & family have met people from here.

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By *EAT..85Woman
14 weeks ago

Nottingham

I don't think anyone is surprised when it pops up in conversation. I've been open about my life style for years.

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
14 weeks ago

North Somerset

Most of my friends and family know what I get up to, I have no shame in it, they are all inquisitive, some accept it more than others 🤷‍♀️ they don't really care as long as I'm happy and safe, and find some of the stories hilarious. J

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By *estructionDollyWoman
14 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

My mum, siblings and many of my friends non-work related friends know. They've all been nothing but supportive, and if anything a bit curious.

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By *utteredBreadMan
14 weeks ago

Manchester

I've ever shared it with anyone. Firstly because I'm really private and don't like throwing out too much info about myself. Secondly I like to pretend I'm Heisenburg or something.

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By *upanova OP Man
14 weeks ago

Sheffield

It is interesting to read the different answers. I totally understand the privacy reasons.Bit it great to ready that some family and friends know and are supportive.

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By *vaRoseWoman
14 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

One or two friends know, my kids know I’m poly… the rest is none of anyone’s business

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By *IXEN200Woman
14 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

Those family members I care about and care about me know and they were ok with it as long as I'm safe and happy and I only have two friends that I'm really close with and they know

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By *viatrixWoman
14 weeks ago

Redhill

Most of my vanilla friends know. I am just an open book

Most are ok with it I think. They just let me be.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

A few yes, they are my safety net top, they know where I go, who I meet, when.....

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By *alm_one4Man
14 weeks ago

RM16

These days, I keep myself to myself in all respects so don’t have the need or the urge to tell anyone.

Previously I’ve always been open about my history early in any relationship, mostly in case they wanted to join in! I was also open with a lady I worked closely with for quite some time, but that was a two way conversation, while she wasn’t a swinger she was quite partial to picking up Guys in pubs, bars and clubs for one night stands.

Outside of that, no one knows other than one Guy I know away from here who had a profile and worked it out.

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By *xfordjohnMan
14 weeks ago

Oxford

Certainly not my family but I have mentioned my sexual history to a very small number of friends (invariably younger than me) who I knew would not be judgemental as they had already said something that hinted they would be sympathetic. It was one of these much younger friends who introduced me to Fab.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
14 weeks ago

Castlebar

3 of my good friends know. 2 were a bit surprised, one is from Holland and knew more about the lifestyle than me...although she isn't in it herself. She is thrilled for me and we chat about it a lot. She is like my sensible inner voice.😇

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Family know, but not friends

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By *bi HaiveMan
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14 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Most of my friends these days are within the swinging community so they obviously know.

Family and vanilla friends? I don't discuss my sex life or activities with them. I wouldn't ask any of them about theirs so feel no obligation to tell them anything about mine. 🤷‍♂️

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By *upanova OP Man
14 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Most of my friends these days are within the swinging community so they obviously know.

Family and vanilla friends? I don't discuss my sex life or activities with them. I wouldn't ask any of them about theirs so feel no obligation to tell them anything about mine. 🤷‍♂️"

That's a good viewpoint.

Thank you everyone for your replies.

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By *oftandgentleMan
14 weeks ago

South London

This is my secret, my escape. It helps me get through the stresses of normal life.

I'd love to meet more often, but I enjoy being part of the FAB community anyway. Amongst lots of fakes and time wasters, there areplenty of diamonds

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
14 weeks ago

South Wales

Absolutely none of my friends know…..I’m not sure they would be very understanding! Xx 😄

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

I have one friend who I have to tell when I go meet guys incase I disappear! All she knows is I meet them online though.

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By *oughmanMan
14 weeks ago

Sunderland

I don't have anyone close that I could probably tell.

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By *B..Woman
14 weeks ago

Wiltshire

I have a couple of friends that know about this side of my life

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
14 weeks ago

Reading

My family know and have no problems with it.

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
14 weeks ago

Hoddesdon

Everyone knows, and it’s a close net town we live in, most people think we’re insane others think we’re one of the happiest couples they know x

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By *iddle ManMan
14 weeks ago

Walsall

The swing side only a few people know, the kink side a few more, I have a few friends in that scene I meet with. As for vanilla friends, only a couple of male friends know, and then they are always surprised at some of the scenes I have done.

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By *enatton2Couple
14 weeks ago

West Midlands

A few of Tani’s friends know, all found out individually. Once they get over the initial shock, they all asked many questions

They even know not to cock block her on nights out lol

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By *afkaMan
14 weeks ago

Nottingham

Went out for a couple of beers and dinner with a Vanilla friend last night and as we were leaving casually mentioned that I had planned to go to a nearby "club" after but it was a litle late now. He immediately guessed which club I'd meant and was a little shocked and surprised but intrigued.

I'll be seeing him again on Friday and he's already warned me he's got a loooong list of questions about the place. He said that if only I'd told him earlier on we could've gone to the club together instead of chatting shit in the restaurant.

Looks like I might've accidentally recruited a new member.

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By *entleman JayMan
14 weeks ago

Wakefield

Nope. My little secret.

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By *arierWoman
14 weeks ago

birmingham

I told two of my friends in a group chat which ended in them sending me nudes and naughty videos and finding out one used to be on the scene herself 😂 so yeah, I’d say it’s brought us closer 👀

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By *JandCMCouple
14 weeks ago

cardiff

Told one friend n hinted to another friend what we were upto.

The wife told her best friend only.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Ended up having to tell a friend as I (Mrs) was out on a solo meet with another man and she happened to be working at that venue unexpectedly that night and I knew it would raise some eyebrows and questions if she didn’t realise the situation but luckily there was no judgment or strange tension! Just acceptance!

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By *anyaTgirlTV/TS
14 weeks ago

manchester

Would love to tell a few freinds

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By *olds CoupleCouple
14 weeks ago

Louth Lincolnshire

The couples who know always make me laugh, the husbands say they'd love to try swinging but their wives wouldn't be up for it and the wives say the same about their husbands. Which seems to me that neither party wants the other to do it or they just don't talk or dare broach the subject. R

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By *avej500Man
14 weeks ago

Stevenage

This is not a joke or looking sympathy I don’t have friends

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By *tlanshiaWoman
14 weeks ago

Chatham

Most of my friends know I'm kinky in some type of way.

I'm lucky they're great people

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
14 weeks ago

Voldsøy

Only 2 of my close friends circle know, because I can trust them not to accidentally out me, like the others might 🙊 They're both very intrigued.

My sister knows for childcare reasons. She's happy enough to be nosy and ask questions, then has a very judgey undertone.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
14 weeks ago

Leeds

My friends and family all know. I don't think swinging between consenting adults is anything to be ashamed of.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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14 weeks ago

East Sussex

"My friends and family all know. I don't think swinging between consenting adults is anything to be ashamed of. "

Neither do I but I still don't tell my friends and family about it

To be honest they're more interested in what I'm having for tea than my sex life

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By *allySlinkyWoman
14 weeks ago

Leeds

I don't go into details or show them pics !

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By *icecouple561Couple
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14 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I don't go into details or show them pics !"

I do go onto detail about my tea. I even show pics.

If they asked I'd answer truthfully but they don't ask 🤷‍♀️

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By *allySlinkyWoman
14 weeks ago

Leeds

I do go onto detail about my tea. I even show pics.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
14 weeks ago

Coventry

It's not top secret, but neither is it something we need to share with everyone (why would you out of context or if the conversation never come up). Its definitely not something we'd lie about or be ashamed of. Some freinds know, some don't. Some family know some don't. It's just not really a big deal either way. Everyone who knows just accepts us and loves us for who we are (it's never changed anything). Although I guess that says a lot about our family and the freinds we keep.

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