FabSwingers.com forum: Are you a swinger?

By *inkyycurvyy OP Woman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

Quite a simple question really.

Would you describe yourself as a "swinger"? (that is, you yourself, regardless of whether others may agree or disagree)

Fab seems to be many things to many people, and people are on here for a variety of reasons. So I'm curious, how many forumites would consider themselves to be an actual swinger?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eoBloomsMan
6 weeks ago

Springfield

No.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ellinever70Woman
6 weeks ago

Ayrshire

My instinct would be to say no, but I've had more than two handfuls of threesomes over the last several years

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *onderWomanWlvWoman
6 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Nah

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *vaRoseWoman
6 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

No not really. Poly, Kinky, ENM are better fits for me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ustforfun246893Man
6 weeks ago

All over

As a single man I wouldn't

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
6 weeks ago

kent

We are not swingers, we just sometimes sleep with our friends.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *issolvedOrdersMan
6 weeks ago

Bristol

In the grand scheme of it, no, probably not

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *all me FlikWoman
6 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

Yes, with my partner.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *B..Woman
6 weeks ago

Wiltshire

No not at all

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eyond PurityCouple
6 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I think we are possibly on the cusp.

We tend to play with a third person rather than couples and when we go to clubs we don’t tend to play with others.

From our definition of a swinger, we aren’t but we like to invite others to play, so maybe 🤷🏻‍♂️

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hellebelleWoman
6 weeks ago

ashford

No… just a single girl floating about on a swingers site

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Yes, not a very good one lol, but I do meet couples with my partner.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ussy licking champMan
6 weeks ago

Blackburn

I would say no, just a randy sod

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *viatrixWoman
6 weeks ago

Redhill

These days I think I am more one of those bloody timewasters SOME single makes whinge so much about! 😂😂😂😂

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *acantMan
6 weeks ago

Isle of Wight

Can't say I'd consider myself a swinger as a single man on here. Just someone who loves sex that wants to engage with similar minded folk.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ea monkeyMan
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

Yes. Poly and kinky too but definitely a swinger

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *assing Fancies xCouple
6 weeks ago

Sherwood Forest

We wouldn't put ourselves in the "swinger" category....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ggdrasil66Man
6 weeks ago

Saltdean

I used to be, nothing is happening these days though. I guess I’m relegated to ‘wannabe’ swinger now. Guess I’m too old now, shame…

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *imon_hydeMan
6 weeks ago

Stockport

No I wouldn't class myself like that

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ong-leggedblondWoman
6 weeks ago

Next Door

I was and a very active swinger before covid. Im not so much now.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Nah. I’m a swingle

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *HUSH-Man
6 weeks ago

London

I don’t consider myself a swinger. If I get into a relationship it’ll be monogamous. I’m open to the idea of opening it up in time but not right away.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *omfun500Man
6 weeks ago

Burton

I would like to be lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *J_OuizziCouple
6 weeks ago

Nottingham

Think we'd say we are kinksters who play well with others.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

No, I don't think so

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uninlondon69Man
6 weeks ago

Southwark

"Nah. I’m a swingle "

I'm going to be using that word!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eliWoman
6 weeks ago

No. I can count on a couple of fingers the amount of times I've been attracted to someone before there's been a friendship. I've had a few ffms, never done group sex, orgies, club antics... many things.

It's more than sexual acts though, it's my mindset. How I view certain things. I'm poly. A lotus eater if I have to put a term on this side of things but it's a wanky one.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r SensualMan
6 weeks ago

London

Yes, I do believe myself to be a swinger. That was when I was here as a single guy and now as part of a couple

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inky_coupleNWCouple
6 weeks ago

Manchester

I'd say we were more exhibitionist/voyeuristic.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *exyDiversCouple
6 weeks ago

Surrey / Hants

No I’m not sure we do, as the lifestyle to us is a fun hobby that we dip in and out of to keep it fun, exciting and fresh … I guess if it’s your default setting I think we would get bored very quickly.. not sure what everyone else thinks …

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oeBeansMan
6 weeks ago

Derby

HA! No

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orgetmeKnotCouple
6 weeks ago

Gillingham

No...we're not swingers! But on occasion, we do like to swing 😅

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *heTattooedDomMan
6 weeks ago

Winnersh

No, I’m a kinksters that occasionally swings.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *unsexual MemelordWoman
6 weeks ago

Midlothian

I'm not sure. I'm single, but had an open relationship when I wasn't. I'm not poly, ENM is fine with me but for romance, I only want one person. Happy to share bodies but not hearts, I typically say. I enjoy the club scene, and the other people in the lifestyle get me... but am I a swinger for that? Idk, maybe.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inkyycurvyy OP Woman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

Lots of interesting answers, thank you

I'm intrigued by the amount of you who've said no! It does seem like fab is a way for lots of people to connect in different ways, all looking for different things. Which can also mean difficulties finding compatible people sometimes I imagine.

Would possibly be easier if fab has an option for you to select what "relationship type" you're looking for or something similar. But I guess that's where bios come in useful

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inkyycurvyy OP Woman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

"I'm not sure. I'm single, but had an open relationship when I wasn't. I'm not poly, ENM is fine with me but for romance, I only want one person. Happy to share bodies but not hearts, I typically say. I enjoy the club scene, and the other people in the lifestyle get me... but am I a swinger for that? Idk, maybe.

I think I am in a similar mindset. I am a single woman atm and like the club scene too, I "play" in clubs and have group sex, and join couples etc. But I am really just a single woman exploring her sexuality who likes meeting new people. Does that make me a swinger? I'm not entirely sure.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ootnootboopCouple
6 weeks ago

Cheshire

Hmmmmmm! That's a very thought provoking question!

Kinky-yes

ENM- yes

Poly- probably (never been in the right place at the right time(

Swingers- well if the definition is partner swapping between two couples, the yeah, we suppose. But definitely not the kind to rack up notches on the bedpost.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rettCoolMan
6 weeks ago

Dunfermline

No I don't think so .. just looking for fun with swingers in recon .. lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mmaleiaWoman
6 weeks ago

Trowbridge

No.

I’m here for sexual openness, I’m happy to be in an open relationship, but this site gives me more of a chance to meet people on my wavelength

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ortney FoxxxWoman
6 weeks ago

Honeysuckle lane

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lym4realCouple
6 weeks ago

plymouth

Nope we aren't more of a open relationship kind of thang and way to many negative thingies around and even assumptions if you say your are swingers ( basically you'll bang everything ) or as Mrs4 calls it being a greedy cow ( sometimes) xxx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eliWoman
6 weeks ago

Yes, I'd say so. It's how you approach things, what you do, view certain things. If you're happy to share bodies not hearts? You're not polyam. I think swinging is the sharing of bodies rather than hearts.

There's no one clear definition really - getting across what's important to you with those you're interested in is the most important thing.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *weet and SpiceCouple
6 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

" Swingers- well if the definition is partner swapping between two couples, the yeah, we suppose. But definitely not the kind to rack up notches on the bedpost. "

We are the same as this

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ony MannMan
6 weeks ago

South Newton

Yes, I swing. I have two partners and we play with others, separately and together. We enjoy sex and I enjoy my partners enjoying sex. I think I'm a swinger.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *alcon2Man
6 weeks ago

North

No. Not really.

Had a few modelling pics. This place fulfilled an exhibitionist streak.

Stayed for the forums.

Not saying I don't or won't indulge, but if you're rating my swinging prowess, I'd probably score quite low..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *agertha73Couple
6 weeks ago

Cardiff

No, not a label we'd apply to ourselves.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iFruityCoupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Watermouth

Yes, we swing. We have favourites and we are looking for more. We love to hear each other having fun and we love take each other back.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inkyycurvyy OP Woman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

"Yes, I'd say so. It's how you approach things, what you do, view certain things. If you're happy to share bodies not hearts? You're not polyam. I think swinging is the sharing of bodies rather than hearts.

There's no one clear definition really - getting across what's important to you with those you're interested in is the most important thing. "

Then there is the discussion about "can single people swing"

I just find it interesting the labels we use to identify ourselves.

I would say I'm "ENM". I have practiced solo polyamory in the past (before I found fab and the world of clubs etc). I also dated someone recently who was poly and partnered. I decided I'm not sure if a polyamorous relationship is what I want right now, and we are now friends instead. I am certain I want sexual openness and non-monogamy, whether I want romantic openness fluctuates. Or whether I want any romantic relationship at all!

I like the fact that the "ethical non-monogamy" umbrella encompasses a lot of different dynamics. Agree the sharing of hearts is polyamory, I feel the sharing of bodies can have a few different labels though.

I think when I posted the question it was more about our own self identities and how we see ourselves, than definitions on what swinging is, but it is making me think

This is all a bit thought provoking for a Friday, apologies

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eviant loversCouple
6 weeks ago

walsall ish

Yes we are

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orksRockerMan
6 weeks ago

Bradford

No....

I'm a rocker first looking to find others who I get along with... If naughtiness happens, cool. If it doesn't - cool.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
6 weeks ago

West Suffolk

No, we are not swingers in the traditional sense. But what we offer seems to be of interest to quite a few people judging by our inbox.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"I'd say we were more exhibitionist/voyeuristic."

This is what we’d describe us as there’s a few other things we would like to try but only if we meet people /person we get on really well with (mr)

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ore_Please81Woman
6 weeks ago

Edinburgh

No not at all x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *odgerMooreMan
6 weeks ago

Up Your Frock!

Im single so strictly no - im an overly fussy rarely available morally corrupt filthpot. I don’t think I can get that on a tshirt though. But i have high standards … maybe fussy filthpot will fit on one?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ophieslutTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Central

Yes

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ellhungvweMan
6 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I would say I was.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *weetiepie99Woman
6 weeks ago

cardiff

I would say not remotely

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *irthmasterCoolMan
6 weeks ago

Leeds

Depends what you class as swinging I'm bi Vers never had long time partner

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ammanMan
6 weeks ago

Tamworth

100% I would temporarily in a less active phase of my life.

But definitely a swinger at heart

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ortyairCouple
6 weeks ago

Wallasey

Yes we are swingers, Mrs x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ewboy50Man
6 weeks ago

Carlisle

Yes, to other people, but to me, I’m just normal who enjoys sex

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *fffunCouple
6 weeks ago

Somewhere just outside London

Not really

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *antasticMrFucks07Man
6 weeks ago

plymouth

"Quite a simple question really.

Would you describe yourself as a "swinger"? (that is, you yourself, regardless of whether others may agree or disagree)

Fab seems to be many things to many people, and people are on here for a variety of reasons. So I'm curious, how many forumites would consider themselves to be an actual swinger? "

Interesting question!

I’d say yes—I do consider myself a swinger, but with a bit of nuance. For me, it’s not just about the sex (though that’s definitely fun); it’s also about the connections, the freedom, and the trust involved. I’m here for genuine experiences, shared kinks, and respectful exploration—whether that’s with singles, couples, or anything in between.

Fab might mean different things to different people, but I’d say I’m definitely in the swinger camp.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Probably not. I've dipped my toes and had some adventures, and I'm open to the possibility of further adventures in the future, but I wouldn't class that as swinging particularly.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Chichester

Nope I don’t Personally I only think couples are actual swindlers I. The original context of swinging / wife swapping

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"Nope I don’t Personally I only think couples are actual swindlers I. The original context of swinging / wife swapping "

That’s maybe how it started but like everything else in life things evolve into something completely different to how it originally started

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ensual 2Couple
6 weeks ago

Blackpool

We try against the odds sometimes.. but we try .. being fussy sods doesn’t always help

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eroLondonMan
6 weeks ago

Mayfair

No.

It's my common answer when I post on the forums and also when I engage in private messaging with women.

I classify myself, in my self-coined term, as "enhanced vanilla".

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *EAT..85Woman
6 weeks ago

Nottingham

Nah.

Were I to need a title it would probably be poly.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ansoffateMan
6 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

In my experience conversations that start this way usually end in some form a no true Scotsman fallacy.

So I'll just say, ask your questions, decide for yourself and I'll learn how you define swinging in the process.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *Silver-Man
6 weeks ago

North Wales

Not really into labelling myself, I'm just a guy that adores women and loves sex

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *sWyldWoman
6 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Nope. Apparently only here as no one would look twice at me in the real world

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *s-twoCouple
6 weeks ago

Hampshire

We’ve come to the conclusion that we are not. We are nudists, exhibitionists, and would probably not be against a spontaneous play if the opportunity presented itself again.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r MzchiefMan
6 weeks ago

Middle Earth

Not a swinger no, exploring poly though.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inkyycurvyy OP Woman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

"In my experience conversations that start this way usually end in some form a no true Scotsman fallacy.

So I'll just say, ask your questions, decide for yourself and I'll learn how you define swinging in the process."

Its really not that deep. The site is called fabswingers, I was bored and wondered how many forum users actually self identify as a swinger. Seems the majority don't. I got my answer.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eoBloomsMan
6 weeks ago

Springfield

"In my experience conversations that start this way usually end in some form a no true Scotsman fallacy.

So I'll just say, ask your questions, decide for yourself and I'll learn how you define swinging in the process.

Its really not that deep. The site is called fabswingers, I was bored and wondered how many forum users actually self identify as a swinger. Seems the majority don't. I got my answer."

How about yourself OP ?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *zChiefWoman
6 weeks ago

middle of somewhere

I dont think i am ...as much as i hate labels they do seem to serve a purpose on here. I think i crave connections and repeat visits in my encounters and this wouldnt fit with the swingers label . As much as i enjoy sex beyond marriage.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

No, I'm just a tart

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *issolvedOrdersMan
6 weeks ago

Bristol

"No, I'm just a tart

Verified

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rofessionallyfilthyMan
6 weeks ago

Nottingham

Yes i am....my ex calls me a " man slag"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *enandjerryCouple
6 weeks ago

Dumfries

No just people that like something to escape the mundane life as a treat to ourselves!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *londebiguyMan
6 weeks ago

Southport

I go to swingers parties and events but I've never actually described myself as a swinger that I can think of.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inkyycurvyy OP Woman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

"In my experience conversations that start this way usually end in some form a no true Scotsman fallacy.

So I'll just say, ask your questions, decide for yourself and I'll learn how you define swinging in the process.

Its really not that deep. The site is called fabswingers, I was bored and wondered how many forum users actually self identify as a swinger. Seems the majority don't. I got my answer.

How about yourself OP ?"

I think I (sort of) answered further up the thread. I do say I "swing" as a verb, as its an easier/quicker way to say I go to swingers clubs and exist within the world of that. But I would probably describe myself as ethically non-monogamous (ENM) as I am also open to dating as much as sexual encounters 😊

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eoBloomsMan
6 weeks ago

Springfield

"In my experience conversations that start this way usually end in some form a no true Scotsman fallacy.

So I'll just say, ask your questions, decide for yourself and I'll learn how you define swinging in the process.

Its really not that deep. The site is called fabswingers, I was bored and wondered how many forum users actually self identify as a swinger. Seems the majority don't. I got my answer.

How about yourself OP ?

I saw your answer after I'd posted 🤦 but thanks for clarification.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inkyycurvyy OP Woman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

"No, I'm just a tart

Perfectly sweet

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inkyycurvyy OP Woman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

"In my experience conversations that start this way usually end in some form a no true Scotsman fallacy.

So I'll just say, ask your questions, decide for yourself and I'll learn how you define swinging in the process.

Its really not that deep. The site is called fabswingers, I was bored and wondered how many forum users actually self identify as a swinger. Seems the majority don't. I got my answer.

How about yourself OP ?

I saw your answer after I'd posted 🤦 but thanks for clarification.

Haha no worries

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *illy-ButcherMan
6 weeks ago

Brigstock

Dunno...can a single person describe themselves as a swinger?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inkyycurvyy OP Woman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

"Dunno...can a single person describe themselves as a swinger? "

If you chose to, yes. You can self identify how you like. I asked how you see yourself, regardless of how others might see you.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"No, I'm just a tart

Verified

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *issolvedOrdersMan
6 weeks ago

Bristol

"No, I'm just a tart

Verified

As tarts go, you’re unequivocally my favourite 🖤🤣

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"No, I'm just a tart

Perfectly sweet

I was thinking more bitter lemon

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *issolvedOrdersMan
6 weeks ago

Bristol

"No, I'm just a tart

Perfectly sweet

I was thinking more bitter lemon

A fine curd? 🤔

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"No, I'm just a tart

Verified

As tarts go, you’re unequivocally my favourite 🖤🤣"

I'm your favourite full stop, as you tell me daily

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *illy-ButcherMan
6 weeks ago

Brigstock

"Dunno...can a single person describe themselves as a swinger?

If you chose to, yes. You can self identify how you like. I asked how you see yourself, regardless of how others might see you. "

Yeah you're right...I mistakenly gave the impression that I cared about labels applied by others...dunno what i was thinking

...

Well i guess I do then, given that a swinger would mean a sexually free, hedonistic, happy shaggy kinda person that cares little for mainstream uptight views on sexuality.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *issolvedOrdersMan
6 weeks ago

Bristol

"No, I'm just a tart

Verified

As tarts go, you’re unequivocally my favourite 🖤🤣

I'm your favourite full stop, as you tell me daily

Haha, keep your friends close…

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *teff_RedTV/TS
6 weeks ago

travel

No just a filthy tranny

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ansoffateMan
6 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"In my experience conversations that start this way usually end in some form a no true Scotsman fallacy.

So I'll just say, ask your questions, decide for yourself and I'll learn how you define swinging in the process.

Its really not that deep. The site is called fabswingers, I was bored and wondered how many forum users actually self identify as a swinger. Seems the majority don't. I got my answer."

Apologies, I think the way I phrased it sounded like it was directed at you. I do wish we'd adopt the y'all Americanism as it's a bit of a void in English, at times.

I do think it is quite deep a topic though. Your deeper responses elsewhere, definitely interested me.

Swinger is not a self-identification I find helpful, for amongst several reasons, just how much variation in people's perspectives exists on the subject.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *wist my nipplesCouple
6 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I’d say yes. I fit in a few places - kinky, emotional and sexual connections, pure hedonistic group sex. I’ve started using ENM as a catch-all term, it feels like a good fit for various aspects of my sexuality and relationships. I think I shy away from using swinger as a label as it still carries the seedy keys in a bowl, pampas grass connotations for many.

Mrs TMN x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oralltherightreasonsCouple
6 weeks ago

WELLINGBOROUGH

Not sure, I mean wife sure gets to play with guys, but not the other way round, but the playing is only as a straight played threesome

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *antasticMrFucks07Man
6 weeks ago

plymouth

"Nope I don’t Personally I only think couples are actual swindlers I. The original context of swinging / wife swapping "

I disagree with the idea that you have to be a couple to swing. The original context of swinging or wife swapping may have been more couple-centric, but the lifestyle has evolved. Plenty of single individuals—whether men or women—are active and respected members of the community. It’s about mutual consent, respect, and a shared experience, not necessarily the relationship status of the participants. Being open-minded and communicative is far more important than whether you’re in a couple or not.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ealitybitesMan
6 weeks ago

Belfast

I've never considered myself a swinger.

In the 9 years I've been on fab I've been to one party where I only played with the woman I went with.

I've never experienced a threesome or group play and every meet I've had has been one to one.

I didn't join fab to network or engage in a lifestyle. It has never been anything more than a hobby where I have met people on a similar journey to mine.

The first time I can remember giving this response on a similar thread years ago, I was challenged by quite a few people who got very agitated and asked why I was on fab if I didn't consider myself a swinger.

At least 30 others had said likewise on that thread, mostly women but none of them were challenged on their choices and when I drew attention to this fact, I was told by an established forumite that single women are a valued commodity and can therefore choose to describe themselves as anything they wanted whereas single men were disposable and were obviously all pandas.

It looks like those attitudes have improved for the better.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aron Van WinkleMan
6 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

I guess so, as the description covers alsorts.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *enis ColadaMan
6 weeks ago

Totnes

This is what I question.When with my ex we used to swing,we both got upsidedown pineapples tattooed,now im a single man am I a swinger,or just a bloke who has sex with women.?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uvs2snogMan
6 weeks ago

Now living in Spain - Vistabella

No but I’m keen to try

No for my misses too but she fantasies about a 3-some with me and a female friend of ours

I’d say I’m currently a fantasist exhibitionist

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *evilpoolMan
6 weeks ago

Southwest

I think of swinging mainly as a couples activity for MF couples swapping partners with other couples and my partner and I have done that a lot last year. Now we both play solo and do more FFM and MFM threesomes I personally don’t call that swinging. I know everyone has a different terminology but that’s just my thoughts.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
6 weeks ago

your head

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *antassack889Man
6 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

Define swinger lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tsJustKateWoman
6 weeks ago

London

"Quite a simple question really.

Would you describe yourself as a "swinger"? (that is, you yourself, regardless of whether others may agree or disagree)

Fab seems to be many things to many people, and people are on here for a variety of reasons. So I'm curious, how many forumites would consider themselves to be an actual swinger? "

No, I'm just a women who loves cocks and cum!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *KTim61Man
6 weeks ago

Tipton

"As a single man I wouldn't "

Ditto but had 2 x 3 somes

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eparated_galWoman
6 weeks ago

Salford

As a single women I wouldn't

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ildbillkidMan
6 weeks ago

where the road goes on forever

Nope, says so on my profile, not meeting anyone,

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Walsall

Yes wel that's what me and my partner are looking for but has to be where we all play together and are both turned on but that's like finding a needle in a hay stack on here

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *avlo29Man
6 weeks ago

carlisle

noun: swinger; plural noun: swingers

2. informal

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

"a twilight world of swingers and wife-swapping"

Cricket

a bowler who makes a delivery of a ball deviate sideways from a regular course in the air.

As you asked was interested to look up the definition.

Answer to 2. Don't know

But to 3. Yes can swing the ball both ways.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *osweet69Couple
6 weeks ago

portsmouth

We would say no.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hirleyMan
6 weeks ago

somewhere

🙋‍♂️

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hirleyMan
6 weeks ago

somewhere

"Dunno...can a single person describe themselves as a swinger?

If you chose to, yes. You can self identify how you like. I asked how you see yourself, regardless of how others might see you. "

This

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *each needs some creamWoman
6 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Yes I would say I am a swinger.

I meet other for sex.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aveyougotmymarblesMan
6 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

Nope just a sad wanker taking up bandwidth

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orkshirebear74Man
6 weeks ago

Sheffield

Definitely a swinger

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *yorks4couplesMan
6 weeks ago

doncaster

Good question. Though curious id not class myself as that. If you regularly attend parties clubs wct then i think thats a true swinger

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mandoMan
6 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

"Quite a simple question really.

Would you describe yourself as a "swinger"? (that is, you yourself, regardless of whether others may agree or disagree)

Fab seems to be many things to many people, and people are on here for a variety of reasons. So I'm curious, how many forumites would consider themselves to be an actual swinger? "

I do like being on the swing in the garden.

On a serious note, I'm single and just looking for some fun.

But when I was in a relationship, we never swung .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lasphemousGirlWoman
6 weeks ago

Cambs

Poly/ENM would better describe me I think, I wouldn't say I'm a swinger, but who doesn't love a threesome! X

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

No.

Great question and think it should be a mandated category to fill in. The reason you're here. Are you a true swinger? etc.

would obviously need to define those descriptions as everyone sees things/labels differently.

Anyway, to answer your question. No I'm not a swinger.

I'm a frustrated married man who really wants to explore the swinging lifestyle with my partner but I'm too scared and stupid to bring it up with her. I believe I it will be more the social side I'd enjoy.

Making friends, being able to openly discuss sex and rarely /sometimes share partners with good people.

But alas my wife will probably never go for it. Xx but working on discussing things. Xxx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *utteredBreadMan
6 weeks ago

Manchester

I'm not a swinger, mostly here for social reasons.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *annyandwalterCouple
6 weeks ago

south London

We think we want to be, but as yet probably not. Maybe we're just dirty sods! So far we havnt enjoyed playing separately, even next to each other. Gotta be a free for all. So I guess we're not swingers

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rust a TradieMan
6 weeks ago

Burntwood

Wouldn’t class myself as a swinger, just someone that has a very high sex drive and a very dirty mind

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Chichester

"Nope I don’t Personally I only think couples are actual swindlers I. The original context of swinging / wife swapping

That’s maybe how it started but like everything else in life things evolve into something completely different to how it originally started "

Still doesn’t change the fundamental core of swinging it was a wife swapping / couples hobby And Singles just get to play in it as extras for them How I view it anyway.

Myself I am single and just like sex, I just happen to use a swinger sure for sex as it’s often faster easier and requires less effort than dating sites for quick one off meets with people.

I am part of the swinging community but not a swinger. Though you are correct in that things change meaning over time to allow expansion of it .

Ultimately only the individual gets to say how they view it and themselves within it .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *urvelover87Man
6 weeks ago

London

No. I am kinky and ENM, but not a swinger.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ommyone99Couple
6 weeks ago

liverpool

yes been swinging for years on and off

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ust a little bit moreWoman
6 weeks ago

kendal

I think I'm a swinger yes I'm a single female, who goes to swingers clubs, plays with couples, singles n groups etc. I will play as part of a fm couple with male friends too.

Depends who you ask though, coz some people are adamant swinging is only for couples.

And those singles who they bestow the pleasure of thier 'true swinging couple' play with, are infact just accessories! 🙄

Like a walking talking fleshlight 🤣🙈

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Chichester

"I think I'm a swinger yes I'm a single female, who goes to swingers clubs, plays with couples, singles n groups etc. I will play as part of a fm couple with male friends too.

Depends who you ask though, coz some people are adamant swinging is only for couples.

And those singles who they bestow the pleasure of thier 'true swinging couple' play with, are infact just accessories! 🙄

Like a walking talking fleshlight 🤣🙈"

Yes but the single is also using the couple in same manner equally. As long as both parties get laid and what they want then the end result is same

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
6 weeks ago

"Wouldn’t class myself as a swinger, just someone that has a very high sex drive and a very dirty mind "

This

Even though I’m a private person myself I like to watch/view other people and I’m interested in their sex lives

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
6 weeks ago

Hull

I’d say I’m not, I have a very sexual kinky side, had occasional meets and have been to a club and played in the group room but in terms of if I wasn’t single I don’t think I’d be comfortable playing as a couple unless it was a hot wife situation hahaha.

Not sure what that makes me. Whatever it is I’ve enjoyed what I’ve done so far….

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *en_Dover79Man
6 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle

yea i am

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *histle do nicelyMan
6 weeks ago

Glasgow South

More an exhibitionist

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *antricSeeker60Man
6 weeks ago

Durham

A few years back would have said yes 100% more of a tantric explorer now!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *linky1Couple
6 weeks ago

Sittingbourne

More hotwife as our preference is mfm or maybe the f having solo meets.

So not really swingers but definitely adventurous.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *K herts mMan
6 weeks ago

Fleetwood

I would say yes not that I get much opportunity.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ack and MiriCouple
6 weeks ago

Portsmouth

We are swinger curious been to 3 clubs nights soft swapped once but had really good night's the other 2 times. Looking forward to when we can next get out to a club.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ust a little bit moreWoman
6 weeks ago

kendal

"I think I'm a swinger yes I'm a single female, who goes to swingers clubs, plays with couples, singles n groups etc. I will play as part of a fm couple with male friends too.

Depends who you ask though, coz some people are adamant swinging is only for couples.

And those singles who they bestow the pleasure of thier 'true swinging couple' play with, are infact just accessories! 🙄

Like a walking talking fleshlight 🤣🙈

Yes but the single is also using the couple in same manner equally. As long as both parties get laid and what they want then the end result is same "
exactly! You get it.... unfortunately some don't, and think it's a couples only enterprise where us singles are just here for thier pleasure, when actually, sometimes, they're feeding my pleasure, just as much, if not more than I am, thiers!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hat.coupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Dartford

We aren't considered proper swingers as we are only interested in doing things with bi ladies. A true swinger is where an mf couple straight swap technically. It didn't used to be common place back in the olden days for the ladies to swap.

You'll be surprised how many couples get angry or stick their nose up at us when we tell them how we play. They seem to think that my husband is forcing me to it this way but it's actually completely wrong! It's was my idea to join and how we play, I came out a few years back and hadn't been with a woman and wanted to explore my sexuality. I couldn't think of a better way to do that than with the love of my life next to me x and I get to see him having a great time too x

I would say we enjoy the swinger scene rather than consider ourselves swingers x

Mrs x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *atnip make me purrWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

No I wouldn't.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread