FabSwingers.com forum: How long do you wait for a reply to a message you send ?

By *dinburghWoman OP Woman
7 weeks ago

Edinburgh

As post, some of the messages I’ve sent in reply to one I’ve received haven’t been read a week later, if they get in touch do you continue the chat or say no longer interested ?

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By *ootnootboopCouple
7 weeks ago

Cheshire

We leave it as long as it takes. People can get swamped with messages and it might get buried. Or just busy.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
7 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

As I get up to 389 messages per day, sometimes it can take me a whole 5 minutes to give a detailed response.

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By *oomlMan
7 weeks ago

Fareham

"We leave it as long as it takes. People can get swamped with messages and it might get buried. Or just busy."

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By *r SensualMan
7 weeks ago

London

A week at maximum or sometimes within a few days. If it’s been left unread and I’ve seen the profile has been online in that time, I’ll just delete from my sent items.

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By *parkle1974Woman
7 weeks ago

Leeds

I've usually forgotten that I've sent one in the first place.

I know it can take me ages sometimes to reply (fabmin has taken a back seat lately) due to one reason or another and I presume others have a life off here too so don't give it much thought x

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By *isskxxyvWoman
7 weeks ago

Reading

Not long at all, because I’m impatient and needy.

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By *oiluvfunMan
7 weeks ago

Penrith

I don’t ‘wait’ for a reply to a message I’ve sent, if I do get a response, I’ll just go with the flow with what has been sent to me?

If it’s the ubiquitous female one word response like “Lol x”………I’ll simply delete and move on

Waiting around for replies in Fab is a quick fire route to Unhappiness Street…..

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By *iss DevilWoman
7 weeks ago

Bedford

All depends on who the message was to and whether they have been online or not, though I hardly ever send messages anyway.

If it's a woman, I'd say a week, no more than 2 weeks. Couple- probably no more than a week. Man- a day or two.

If they haven't been online, those deadlines do get pushed, obviously. However, if they have been online and just left my message on unread, or worse, read but not replied, than a week is absolutely maximum I'd wait before blocking. My situation is though that I am not looking for any more play partners at present, and prefer to meet in a club, by chance, so that impacts my patience

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
7 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

If a message is Opened & they don’t reply, then I block & delete. And I make a note so I know they’re not interested & not to message them again future.

Maaany a lady’s profile says to - “Take my No Reply, as a Reply” 🤷🏽‍♂️

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I'm shit at messaging I can leave them a week, two weeks, it all depends what's happening in real life because let's face it sex isn't right up there in my priorities.

Recently I've been scrolling the forums and ignoring the inbox because I don't have the time to offer decent replies or conversation, when I do I'll open and reply.

Some people expect daily texts and that just ain't me.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
7 weeks ago

Staffordshire

If its a profile that sounds lots of time online and they don't reply, we take it as a no thanks and they get blocked.

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By *aizyWoman
7 weeks ago

west midlands

I tend to forget msgs I've sent, I don't have a time limit. If I enjoy chatting to someone I don't mind chatting daily or just picking up the conversation weeks or sometimes months later. If I am left on read though I just leave it don't message again unless they do.

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By *hunky GentMan
7 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Not reply to a message from Chunky????

Never happened.

Well..... the odd one

Errrrrm ...... OK, ok, ok. A few a week.

After a week I tend to delete them.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I don’t look in my sent messages to have a clue how long it’s been not read. Or indeed if it has.

And old messages end up so far at the bottom of the page it wouldn’t occur to me to look. The beauty of being an inbox slob and not deleting stuff. It’s carnage and chaos.

Reply/Don’t reply. I’m not losing any sleep over it 🤣

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By *scobar67Man
7 weeks ago

glasgow

6 month

After that I decide they are never going to reply

All seriousness prob 2 weeks because I know how many messages females and couples receive so to expect them to reply straight away is unrealistic

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Chichester

"As post, some of the messages I’ve sent in reply to one I’ve received haven’t been read a week later, if they get in touch do you continue the chat or say no longer interested ?"

I delete all sent messages after sending them so I don’t see if read etc. very much fire and forget person me

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By *adtaffladMan
7 weeks ago

Rhyl

As long as it takes. If someone is interested then they will get back to you in their own time

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
7 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"I don’t look in my sent messages to have a clue how long it’s been not read. Or indeed if it has.

And old messages end up so far at the bottom of the page it wouldn’t occur to me to look. The beauty of being an inbox slob and not deleting stuff. It’s carnage and chaos.

Reply/Don’t reply. I’m not losing any sleep over it 🤣"
I know. There's 218 of mine currently unread by you. I've had to camp outside yours now.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
7 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Eternity

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Central

I generally let them go and forget about them, unless a tentative date has been set for meeting. I might send mail to question whether it's going ahead but often just leave it.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
7 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We keep our inbox relatively low - if we chat to people and then there’s no reply within a few days after the last message is opened, we take it that it’s not likely to carry on, so we’ll delete the chat. If they reply after, it’s all good and we’ll carry on the chat but don’t like half chats to clutter up our inbox.

If a chat goes on for a bit we take them onto telegram as 3 way chatting on here is too hard/slow - also feels like you’re competing with loads if its ladies you’re chatting to.

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By *asty tatsyMan
7 weeks ago

london

I don’t have a time limit, sometimes we all get busy and forget to reply back or check messages. 1,2,3 or 7 days if I enjoy talking to that person there is no expected time frame 😁

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By *egDaySkipperMan
7 weeks ago

Liverpool

Depends how long my match of PUBG lasts

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By *reedomcapturedMan
7 weeks ago

Mulbarton

I wait as long as they take, I look forward to hearing from them(anyone) but understand everyone is busy and majority won't be interested so never take offence if anyone reads and doesn't reply or doesn't read my messages. Patience is key.

I do hate that so many are impatient or get upset if the person says no.

Everyone isn't for everyone, be nice and move on!

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By *reggSausageMan
7 weeks ago

derby

Wait …..you lot get messages

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By *orny PTMan
7 weeks ago

Peterborough

months.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
7 weeks ago

little house on the praire

If it's just someone message me who I don't know then I'd send a reply and not think about it.

If it's a friend I've always worked on waiting until they've replied to me until I send them another message. Van be anything from straightaway to a few days I don't generally notice I don't rely on messages from just one person

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By *hill1965Man
7 weeks ago

Camberley

Tend to respond quite quickly, but I don’t monitor if my responses have been read or how long they take to reply!

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By *ife NinjaMan
7 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Send, forget, and if it's replied, it's a bonus 🤓

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By *exxyyDy11Man
7 weeks ago

North West

Probably a few days or a week. After that, might send another. If still no reply, when it shows they've been online. I just move on, I can clearly take a hint and it is fine. I'm not everyone's cup of tea.

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By *edSirenWoman
7 weeks ago

magic mountain

I really don’t think about it. There’s a reason I’m on here and not a dating site. They don’t need to answer to me, and I certainly won’t be to them.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
7 weeks ago

North West

"I really don’t think about it. There’s a reason I’m on here and not a dating site. They don’t need to answer to me, and I certainly won’t be to them. "

But I thought you're the Empress and all us mere mortals answer to you? 🤔😂

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By *ansoffateMan
7 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

if they take over a week then they get ditched.

However if they submarine over a year later then they are treated like returning dignitaries.

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By *ooBulMan
7 weeks ago

SNottingham

I send a message then delete it from my sent box.

If they are truly interested - then a surprise...

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By *edSirenWoman
7 weeks ago

magic mountain

"I really don’t think about it. There’s a reason I’m on here and not a dating site. They don’t need to answer to me, and I certainly won’t be to them.

But I thought you're the Empress and all us mere mortals answer to you? 🤔😂"

If I’ve messaged then theyyy can reply 😝 or not… that is the topic is it not 😜

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
7 weeks ago

North West mainly. Sometimes London/SouthWest

No response, no problem … always other options.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
7 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"No response, no problem … always other options. "

Yep. Wotsits and porn

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

"No response, no problem … always other options.

Yep. Wotsits and porn"

Is that why you have an orange cock?

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
7 weeks ago

North West mainly. Sometimes London/SouthWest

"No response, no problem … always other options.

Yep. Wotsits and porn

Is that why you have an orange cock?"

That’s when his night at the Charlie and the Chocolate Factory immersive event went wrong

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By *edSirenWoman
7 weeks ago

magic mountain

"No response, no problem … always other options.

Yep. Wotsits and porn

Is that why you have an orange cock?

That’s when his night at the Charlie and the Chocolate Factory immersive event went wrong "

I knew he looked familiar!

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By *aizyWoman
7 weeks ago

west midlands

"No response, no problem … always other options.

Yep. Wotsits and porn

Is that why you have an orange cock?

That’s when his night at the Charlie and the Chocolate Factory immersive event went wrong "

So thats why he calls it Oompa Loompa 🤔 makes sense now!

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By *exxyyDy11Man
7 weeks ago

North West

"I really don’t think about it. There’s a reason I’m on here and not a dating site. They don’t need to answer to me, and I certainly won’t be to them.

But I thought you're the Empress and all us mere mortals answer to you? 🤔😂

If I’ve messaged then theyyy can reply 😝 or not… that is the topic is it not 😜"

And if they don't reply, just sentence them to 20 years hard labour 😂

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
7 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"No response, no problem … always other options.

Yep. Wotsits and porn

Is that why you have an orange cock?

That’s when his night at the Charlie and the Chocolate Factory immersive event went wrong

So thats why he calls it Oompa Loompa 🤔 makes sense now!"

Don't you join in D. You're my last bastion.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
7 weeks ago

North West

Actually scratch what I said. If I don't get a reply within 10 minutes, I usually get a pillow and cry myself to sleep. Possible wank inbetween too.

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By *oughmanMan
7 weeks ago

Sunderland

No point in waiting for a response you're unlikely to get. If you ever get a response it's a bonus.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
7 weeks ago

Niche

Eh, life happens yeah but that only works to a point.

I'm 10000% of the opinion that if they wanted to they already would have replied. I mean if you value a connection you feed it not ignore it.

So I delete a chat very sharpish.

Someone returning your interest?

If they're as keen, curious and enthusiastic?

In a world of disillusioned appathetic half-arsed'ness?

Well now, that's very very attractive.

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By *mily36CWoman
7 weeks ago

Bedford... (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"As I get up to 389 messages per day, sometimes it can take me a whole 5 minutes to give a detailed response."

Is that the same copy and paste response message to all though?!

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By *oubleswing2019Man
7 weeks ago

Colchester

I'm the epitome of patience (I like to think anyway!).

If I send, I work on the basis that if they are interested they'll get back to me in their own time at their own leisure. I don't have a fixed "in my heard" of when that might be.

I sent something to a company for repair in November. I was getting a bit concerned so I sent an apologetic email for hassling them last week. They returned it this week. (Actually sent me a new one worth £350, when they didn't have to as it was out of warranty. But they said they felt bad they made we wait for so long). So this is why I am always happy to play the waiting game. It can pay dividends.

Made a Dr Appointment in Sep 2012. They said it might be a few years as it's not urgent and there are waiting lists of some years involved. Not had a reply yet, so persevered with it. It's incurable anyway, so I just live with it, like millions of others.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
7 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"As I get up to 389 messages per day, sometimes it can take me a whole 5 minutes to give a detailed response.

Is that the same copy and paste response message to all though?!

Yes, but some I change the grammar. 😂

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By *odgerMooreMan
7 weeks ago

Up Your Frock!

Maximum of 30 seconds before blocking them ( after the obligatory ‘ who the fk do you think you are!!?’ Message) then ranting in the forums about how shit it is here and everyone is a timewaster

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By *im le2Man
7 weeks ago

AYLESTONE

"As post, some of the messages I’ve sent in reply to one I’ve received haven’t been read a week later, if they get in touch do you continue the chat or say no longer interested ?"

Look to see when the person was last online.

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By *andadbodMan
7 weeks ago

Liverpool

I’ve had messages sit unread for a couple of weeks, even though the user has been online several times since, i’ll never send a second message though, if they reply great if they don’t? well, not so great, but that’s fab for you.

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