FabSwingers.com forum: Hot Topic: Free Use

By *arksideofthemoon OP Man
1 week ago

Manchester

Hey this one is for the couples, have you ever done a free use challenge with your partner and how did it feel?

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
1 week ago

North West

Not yet but we're looking to explore this.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
1 week ago

North East Scotland, mostly

We dabble. It’s fun

Mrs TMN x

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
1 week ago

kent

I don’t know what this is.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
1 week ago

3rd Rock from the sun

"I don’t know what this is. "

Me neither!

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By *orseman82Man
1 week ago

Marlborough

"I don’t know what this is.

Me neither!"

Me neither. Explain.

Sounds interesting 🧐

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
1 week ago

3rd Rock from the sun

Sounds kinda like a " borrow my partner" ... Don't want to go to IKEA, get someone else to go in your place ? 🤣🤣🤣

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By *vaRose43Woman
1 week ago

Forest of Dean

Free use as in available to their partner whenever or wherever they want?

Or free use by being punted out to strangers for their benefit?

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By *ootnootboopCouple
1 week ago

Cheshire

"Free use as in available to their partner whenever or wherever they want?

Or free use by being punted out to strangers for their benefit?"

For us it would definitely be the first! There's no enjoyment at all for us if there's no attraction to the people we are interacting sexually with!

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By *eddedwandererMan
1 week ago

Swindon

"Free use as in available to their partner whenever or wherever they want?

Or free use by being punted out to strangers for their benefit?"

Yeah, I'm interested to know if it is also empowering for the one who is being "used".

I think it might take the pressure off. I mean if you know it's available then you don't have to force connection xx

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
1 week ago

kent

"Free use as in available to their partner whenever or wherever they want?

Or free use by being punted out to strangers for their benefit?"

The former we’ve been doing off and on since we were teenagers. The latter is something we are unlikely ever to do.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
1 week ago

North West

In a free-use dynamic, one partner grants the other the freedom to engage in sexual activities without the need for explicit, moment-to-moment consent.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
1 week ago

3rd Rock from the sun

"In a free-use dynamic, one partner grants the other the freedom to engage in sexual activities without the need for explicit, moment-to-moment consent."

Ah ha, that makes sense, almost open relationship kinda

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
1 week ago

North West

"In a free-use dynamic, one partner grants the other the freedom to engage in sexual activities without the need for explicit, moment-to-moment consent.

Ah ha, that makes sense, almost open relationship kinda"

Not with others. Between themselves. So making a sandwich, be used... Watching TV, be used... Basically free use within the boundaries that have been discussed beforehand. So for me, anything in front of non-consenting people would be a no.

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By *eoBloomsMan
1 week ago

Springfield

"In a free-use dynamic, one partner grants the other the freedom to engage in sexual activities without the need for explicit, moment-to-moment consent.

Ah ha, that makes sense, almost open relationship kinda"

See it did involve meatballs of a kind.

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By *arksideofthemoon OP Man
1 week ago

Manchester

When I said free use I meant the ability to take your partner or spouse whenever you choose as pre-agreed consensual act

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By *arksideofthemoon OP Man
1 week ago

Manchester

"In a free-use dynamic, one partner grants the other the freedom to engage in sexual activities without the need for explicit, moment-to-moment consent.

Ah ha, that makes sense, almost open relationship kinda

EXACTLY

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By *orthern StarsCouple
1 week ago

Durham

This wouldn't interest me. I want my husband to have sex with me because he wants to, not just because I want to have sex.

We aren't always in the mood for sex at the same time so I would feel awful if my husband felt he had to have sex with me because of 'free use '.

Ruby

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
1 week ago

North East Scotland, mostly

As some of the previous posters have said, it’s a power play within an existing dynamic, or that’s my understanding of it at least. This could extend to other consenting parties being involved, following discussion. Obviously this kind of set up is ripe for abuse so ongoing conversations about consent and boundaries are important.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
1 week ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"This wouldn't interest me. I want my husband to have sex with me because he wants to, not just because I want to have sex.

We aren't always in the mood for sex at the same time so I would feel awful if my husband felt he had to have sex with me because of 'free use '.

Ruby "

It’s definitely not for everyone. As in any power dynamic, there are always boundaries and ways to say a definitive no.

Mrs TMN x

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By *annabe StagMan
1 week ago

Purbeck

"Sounds kinda like a " borrow my partner" ... Don't want to go to IKEA, get someone else to go in your place ? 🤣🤣🤣"

I absolutely hate IKEA, more than happy for someone to stand in for me next time my wife wants to go 😆

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