FabSwingers.com forum: Do others see you...

By (user no longer on site) OP
25 weeks ago

...the way you see yourself? In any way. Do they see a version of yourself that you project but isn't quite you, or are you totally open but people interpret you in ways that surprise you?

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
25 weeks ago

Reading

I am endlessly fascinated by the difference in how I view myself and how others view me. Fascinated.

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By *ealitybitesMan
25 weeks ago

Belfast

In my daily life the only image I project is the true one.

Online it's exactly the same but others choose to interpret it differently.

Any compliments I receive are always without fail for the exact same attributes that some are critical of and I'm good with that.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
25 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

I really hope others don’t see me the way I see myself - it’s why I shower and put on clothes before leaving the house

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By (user no longer on site) OP
25 weeks ago

"I am endlessly fascinated by the difference in how I view myself and how others view me. Fascinated."

Is it usually the same view other people have of you or do different people see you differently?

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
25 weeks ago

Reading

"I am endlessly fascinated by the difference in how I view myself and how others view me. Fascinated.

Is it usually the same view other people have of you or do different people see you differently?"

It usually follows similar themes.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
25 weeks ago

London

People see a version of me that I have difficulty with.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Probably not as I’m quite well liked for someone that despises most of humanity maybe I’m not trying hard enough haha

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By *icecouple561Couple
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25 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't really know how other people see me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
25 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think for most of us we give away our true self únconsciously and people interpret that through the lens of their own experiences.

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By *oeBeansMan
25 weeks ago

Derby

I think they do but I don't think it's their fault. There's a certain front that I have when speaking or getting to know people that isn't quite who I think I really am and so people can be a bit shocked when that comes out.

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By *inkShyWoman
25 weeks ago

near Windsor

I'm not sure. I think I project a more confident version of me, whereas I'm really not.

Only my closest friends know the real me and my darkest thoughts, or fears.

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By *ussexualMan
25 weeks ago

Brighton

The image you see in a mirror is slightly different to how others see you because nobody has a perfectly symmetrical face. Obviously some are more different than others. So for the vast majority of human history, people were not able to see or indeed hear themselves as others do. It is only with recording technologies that we have been able to do this.

P G Wodehouse once said he tried dictating a book into a recently invented device that recorded onto a wax drum. He was shocked when he heard his voice. He said he always imagined he had an authoritative, headmaster style voice, but actually it was nasally and whiny!

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By *midnight-Woman
25 weeks ago

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We sometimes do an exercise at work where you get feedback from people and it's always been a pleasant surpris

I think people view me more positively than I view myself

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By *i_alternative_coupleCouple
25 weeks ago

cradley

C here (male half)

Honestly I struggle a lot with self image and G is amazing at helping that but part of me whenever I have a complement just feels imposter syndrome or that there must be an angle. But that's as a result of past experience in relationships sadly but getting through that slowly!

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
25 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

I suspect how I see myself and how others see me are quite different lol

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By *eepBlueSeaMan
25 weeks ago

somewhere north east

Everyone sees me as the quiet, polite man that I am.

Scratch the surface a little and you will find that I am a quiet and polite pervert lmao.

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By *ony MannMan
25 weeks ago

South Newton

I'm shy, not everyone thinks so.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I think there’s a variety of reasons why people that meet/know me see me differently to how I see myself.

- some of if is in part how I choose to present myself and the slight front I can initially present as a protective thing for myself

- some of it is context, for example I do some voluntary work that requires me to be more outgoing, people that meet me through that would be surpised at how introverted and happy to sit in silence I am 😅

- some of it is their own history, bias’ and opinions shaping their interpetation of what they experience into their view of me. I don’t think any two people would describe me exactly the same.

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By *TRAY-CATMan
25 weeks ago

I come off as confident,outgoing and sarcastic.( purely a false facade). where in reality I'm very self conscious and reserved .

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I don't think I'm all that?

But I'm surprised with the compliments I get from some amazing women on here when they see what I look like.

Maybe we are all our own biggest critics 🤔

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I get told a lot that I have a very feminine face, but can't see it myself

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
25 weeks ago

Voldsøy

Gosh, I hope not! 😬

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Dunno. I portray myself honestly. I’m very aware of who I am & im fairly sure that’s how others see me….

People always seem shocked by my height when they meet me though.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
25 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"People always seem shocked by my height when they meet me though. "

You’re taller on the internet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
25 weeks ago

"Dunno. I portray myself honestly. I’m very aware of who I am & im fairly sure that’s how others see me….

People always seem shocked by my height when they meet me though. "

Do you have to reach up and wave so that they notice you?

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I think we're all slightly different versions of ourselves depending on the situation and the company. I have no idea how others see me.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
25 weeks ago

from mars

Don’t know …. Not too bothered neither lol

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"People always seem shocked by my height when they meet me though.

You’re taller on the internet."

I managed to get on the bar stool…

Eventually

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
25 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"I managed to get on the bar stool. Eventually

And without flashing anyone! A challenge in that dress.

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By *arriedminxCouple
25 weeks ago

here

"...the way you see yourself? In any way. Do they see a version of yourself that you project but isn't quite you, or are you totally open but people interpret you in ways that surprise you? "

Nope not at all. I wish I could see myself the way others do! It sometimes makes me feel awkward and not sure how to respond…generally I’m just me!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
25 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I'm not sure, when we have the threads about how people see you I'm always pleasantly surprised but they all seem to say the same thing.

In my day to day life with people I know well they see things I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

People like me more than I like myself

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Central

They get facets of me but only those I'm very close to, get the fuller me. They all view me with some affection and there's no shock

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By *urry BlokeMan
25 weeks ago

Some will

Others won't

I am not kind to myself, at least in terms of looks and body shape

There is a good deal of deeply ingrained dysmorphia

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By *bitofaslutWoman
25 weeks ago

Cannock

What other people see when they look at me, I wish I knew. It messes with my head a bit.

I know what I want peoole to see. Do they, though?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
25 weeks ago

North West

People think I'm all tough and hard as nails and all that sort of thing.

Questionable.

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By *enelope2UWoman
25 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Depends on their view of themselves..

I'm direct, I don't mince my words, I speak honestly and know myself well, so to insecure people or those who usually get over by intimidating those around them they think it's arrogance or aggressive or angry.

To those who appreciate those triggers they appreciate the encouragement, support i share. I'm probably the most caring, attentive sincere, and strongest person many will meet.

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
25 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

Different people see different versions of me. And it's not intentional. I've spent a lot of my life trying to fit in, at work or when I've moved house or whatever. So I mask, and I say what I think I should say, and do what I think I should do.

And it's exhausting.

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By *oughmanMan
25 weeks ago

Sunderland

I don't know. I'm not sure I want to know. I try to be open with people.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
25 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

On here, maybe-maybe not and I'm not that fussed to be honest. We can't like everyone and I'm cool with that.

The people I have connections with either in real life or on Telegram get a better flavour and I have some fantastic relationships with people that make me laugh every day, and hopefully I can bring a little laughter to their lives as well.

They're the people that get me really, and the people that matter to me I guess.

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By *uchessdoeWoman
25 weeks ago

Northampton

Although I'm a very open person with my experiences and thoughts, I've built up a lot of defences around my emotions and how I feel about particular things, so I'm always incredibly surprised and emotional when I find someone who can see through all that and "gets" me.

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By *anonfire96Man
25 weeks ago

Mansfield

If truth be told we all see ourselves differently to how others perceive us. All we can do is be honest kind polite.

And hopefully we'll be seen in a good way.

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By *igboobstCouple
25 weeks ago

barrow

Couldn't care less how others se us we are us and that's what matters xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I don't know about this. I think I'm quite self aware so I hope they see me as I am and as I see myself. The one place I think this may not be true is at work. I do suffer a little with imposter syndrome at work as I really don't feel like a proper grown up sometimes, let alone part of the management team!

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By *idssissyTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

Most friends see a better version of me than I do, hence wanting me around when I don't

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By *rHotNottsMan
25 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yes they see the real me .I dont have the energy or will to try to project anything but me

I have in the past, it’s exhausting

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By *ife NinjaMan
25 weeks ago

Dunfermline

They see me as the baron of efficiency, a reliable father/grandfather and a good boss.

They don't know I'm slightly perverted 🤓

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By *inxy777Woman
25 weeks ago

essex

Same here as elsewhere, but more clothes on!

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By *ou only live onceMan
25 weeks ago

London

On here? Physically, people seem to think I'm in much better shape than I am.

People that know me in real life - they'll know me for who I am, though maybe a slightly less grumpy version of my actual self!

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By *ellhungvweMan
25 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I have no idea how people see me. I don’t really think about what kind of image I project - I feel I am just me and can’t be arsed with pretending I am anything other than that.

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
25 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

I am who I am regardless, some get me, some don't. Some just like to believe the image of me others have portrayed. Do I care? Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

No. I’m always surprised by the way people describe me, but that’s my own fault. It takes me a while to get comfortable enough around someone to be myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
25 weeks ago

"We sometimes do an exercise at work where you get feedback from people and it's always been a pleasant surpris

I think people view me more positively than I view myself"

This sounds like my idea of Hell and unnecessarily stressful.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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25 weeks ago

East Sussex

"We sometimes do an exercise at work where you get feedback from people and it's always been a pleasant surpris

I think people view me more positively than I view myself

This sounds like my idea of Hell and unnecessarily stressful. "

Mine too. I can't be doing with that sort of thing, I'd hate to be required to comment on colleagues like that.

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By *ellinever70Woman
25 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I have no idea how others see me

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"I have no idea how others see me"

I’m with you on that one

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By *leasurePactMan
25 weeks ago

everywhere

Would love to know how others see me. Feedback is great weather negative or positive. Hit me with anything you think and I will see it as a lesson

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
25 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Would love to know how others see me. Feedback is great weather negative or positive. Hit me with anything you think and I will see it as a lesson "

We don't know you.

My lesson to you would be don't base your opinion of yourself on the opinion of other people. Very few know about you or your life and what's shaped you.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

People always surprise me with how they perceive me. I'm quite observant and guarded but I'm also sunny and outgoing. Would I say many people actually know me? No. What someone's perception of me is, is of no consequence to me.

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By *sWyldWoman
25 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I don't see myself very positively, well not my appearance and body. So I'm always surprised when others find me attractive

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By *ubikslongswordMan
25 weeks ago

Rubiksville

I very much try to be the same person online as I am in person even if some people don't like me because I'm too annoying or can be too much, I'm unapologetically me, take me or leave me

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By *reative-mindMan
25 weeks ago

exeter

I've an anxiety disorder so till maybe 2 years ago used to literally worry 99% of the time how others viewed me.

Now I don't really mind as long as I'm OK with how I view myself.

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By *olden PoleMan
25 weeks ago

Bromley

I was shocked to find out that I’m intimidating and nigh unapproachable. This isn’t me, I’m quiet and very considerate of other people. I always wondered why folk were offish with me and thought I just wasn’t likeable.

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By *oodmessMan
25 weeks ago

yumsville

Ive no idea how people view me but people getting a rounded idea from comments on a swingers site is probably quite a feat, as I do "try" to keep some information private. I'd say people's online image is rarely the same as irl as it's essentially an outlet. I'm never going to meet 99.99% of people here, so it's not something that that bothers me much.

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By *oodmessMan
25 weeks ago

yumsville

* or thought about much

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By *uriousscouserWoman
25 weeks ago

Wirral

God I hope not! I don't want people to see me the way that I do - I'm far too critical of myself for that to be a good thing!

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By *mf123Man
25 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

No but i like it that way

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By *exyScientistsCouple
25 weeks ago

Castlebar

"...the way you see yourself? In any way. Do they see a version of yourself that you project but isn't quite you, or are you totally open but people interpret you in ways that surprise you? "

I'd say only 1 or 2 people really know me. I'm projecting an image with people most of the time. Sometimes someone might be able to read me unexpectedly and that makes me pull away. But that would be rare indeed.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
25 weeks ago

Naughty Lane

I might come across as an ass sometimes 🤣 but thats the only way to protect yourself on here and in life in general.

Only few people know that I'm a big softy behind it all.☺️

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
25 weeks ago

from mars

"I might come across as an ass sometimes 🤣 but thats the only way to protect yourself on here and in life in general.

Only few people know that I'm a big softy behind it all.☺️"

This … basically … 💙

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I certainly hope people don’t see me the

way I do

Otherwise it’s the monastery or asylum for me

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