FabSwingers.com forum: On your sad days….

By *enegadeM OP Man
3 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

Afternoon fabbers ….

So if you’re having a down day…. How do you motivate yourself out of it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Exercise, positive self talk, talk to a friend.

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By *avexxMan
3 weeks ago

cheshire

workout and nice walk with the dog

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By *reentomato2Couple
3 weeks ago

cambridge

Make myself get out in the fresh air and enjoy a green space

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By *rookedsmileMan
3 weeks ago

Derbyshire

Jyst go with it. Journal before bed, take time out to reflect.

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By *idssissyTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

Depends how bad the day is

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By *apidaryMan
3 weeks ago

Glasgow

Exercise, friends, food, wine. The same recipe as for happiness, but on sad days one must make the effort to relish the identical prescription.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

Talk it out usually with one of my daughters. I am having lots of difficult days lately but they are endlessly patient .

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By *aughty driverMan
3 weeks ago

Romford

Sometimes just ordering some good food and then n walk maybe even some music to go with it

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By *aughty driverMan
3 weeks ago

Romford

Hopefully u have some graet days up ahead

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

"Talk it out usually with one of my daughters. I am having lots of difficult days lately but they are endlessly patient ."

So are my lovely fwbs to be fair.

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By *Bqwerty69Man
3 weeks ago

Stourport

Do things to keep myself busy....gaming, housework, go for a walk or visit friends and family.

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By *a LunaWoman
3 weeks ago

South Wales

I embrace it. Play sad songs, have a quiet day. It’s ok to feel it. For a bit anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Wallow,cry, sleep and talk to mates x

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

And to add it's totally normal to have days like this, just if you find yourself in a series of days like this it's good to seek help x

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By *tsMattyHMan
3 weeks ago

Inverurie

Nothing. Absolutely nothing at all motivates me on my down days. I just kinda become a shell. Just a body that walks and talks. Lights are on but no one's home kind of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Music, food, exercise.

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By *rincipessaWoman
3 weeks ago

your wildest dreams,

I dont. I embrace it. Spend time in my own company away from anyone else and they know to just leave me till I come back round

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
3 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

I put up a "meet me now" on Fab asking for a pokey bum wank

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By *jj2012Man
3 weeks ago

Barry

"Afternoon fabbers ….

So if you’re having a down day…. How do you motivate yourself out of it ?

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look at the positives in my life so my kids, being healthy,roof over my head ect ect a 3 bottles of red wine if that doesn't work jokes

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By *ell GwynnWoman
3 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I don't try to force myself out of it as I'd just get cross and frustrated with myself. I do comforting things, talk to lovely people, and know that it'll pass.

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By *oeBeansMan
3 weeks ago

Derby

I'll let you know when I figure it out 🤷‍♂️

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
3 weeks ago

The Continental

I jump into the ‘cockpit’ of my simulator, and go ‘flying’. A bit of dogfighting, and blowing shit up distracts my mind perfectly.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
3 weeks ago

stanley

The dog can usually tell when I’m down and comes for cuddles and to play with her ball

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By *aybeLadyWoman
3 weeks ago

West Dublin

Stay in the sad space for a while. Then literally get up, put one foot in front of the other and get on with it.

The alternative isnt the way I operate.

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By *uri00620Woman
3 weeks ago

Croydon

I used to wallow in it and not talk to anyone. I liked it like that. Then I'd be fine by the next day.

Now I live with a little person I can't and generally don't have down days anyway.

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By *he ShivsCouple
3 weeks ago

Fife

I don’t, I let myself feel sad for however long I need. I know it’ll pass eventually.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
3 weeks ago

Durham

Fresh air, listen to music, exercise, and finding humour in something simple.

Ruby

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By *afkaMan
3 weeks ago

Nottingham (ish)

So if you’re having a down day…. How do you motivate yourself out of it ?

I don't, I just wallow in it, eventually it'll just go away

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
3 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

"I dont. I embrace it. Spend time in my own company away from anyone else and they know to just leave me till I come back round"

This is my thing too. Some melancholy music, or a film that gets to the heart; cleanse the soul.

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
3 weeks ago

Wolvo

I try to love it and then it leaves 🤣

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By *regS332Man
3 weeks ago

st austell

Gym and walk my dog. Why do you think I workout every day? 🤣🤣

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
3 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

I can choose to sit with sadness. Work out why it's made an appearance and manage that.

Sadness is allowed to hang around for a bit. Then I'll choose to move it on.

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By *ife NinjaMan
3 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"I can choose to sit with sadness. Work out why it's made an appearance and manage that.

Sadness is allowed to hang around for a bit. Then I'll choose to move it on. "

Just flash your awesome physique at it. It can't compete with that

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By *arkus1812Man
3 weeks ago

Finedon ,

Visit my Wine cupboard for a nice bottle of Red wine then sit and listen to 1970s progressive Rock.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
3 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

"I can choose to sit with sadness. Work out why it's made an appearance and manage that.

Sadness is allowed to hang around for a bit. Then I'll choose to move it on.

Just flash your awesome physique at it. It can't compete with that

You're very sweet.

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By *usty kayCouple
3 weeks ago

Burnham

I cry, usually put on a sad film guaranteed to help the tears.

I let myself have a day of wallowing and then I just get on with it.

Cuddles with hubby while I'm wallowing help a lot.

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By *orksRockerMan
3 weeks ago

Bradford

Put a music dvd on or one of numerous go to films or shows that make me feel better:

Cemetery Junction

The Dish

Yesterday

The Commitments

Peter Kay's Car Share

Upstart Crow ... etc

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By *inkylipsWoman
2 weeks ago

Debauchery

Just know I have to keep going for my children, there is no one else for them if I fall apart I have no choice no matter how hard it gets

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
2 weeks ago

Hastings

"Nothing. Absolutely nothing at all motivates me on my down days. I just kinda become a shell. Just a body that walks and talks. Lights are on but no one's home kind of thing "

This and at the moment in pain and can't do to much. So just going with it ..

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar

Recently started writing down 3 things that happened every day that were good. They don't have to be big things...to try to take the focus off the negatives 🥰

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By *vaRose43Woman
2 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Read/watch something that’s an old favourite and eat my body weight in cheese

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By *atinaChica54Woman
2 weeks ago

Marlborough

"I can choose to sit with sadness. Work out why it's made an appearance and manage that.

Sadness is allowed to hang around for a bit. Then I'll choose to move it on. "

This 100% is how I deal with it.

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By *lue collar bi guyMan
2 weeks ago

the shire

I know this sounds as cheesy as feck but.

I stare in a mirror and say today is just tomorrow's yesterday ovèr and over untill I get out of my funk. Usually takes no more than 10 times.

We have to remember as well that there is no point in worrying about something that hasn't happened yet. Or something that has already happened for that matter. We have no control over either. They are both only relevant because we are giving them relevance.

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