FabSwingers.com forum: What are the main things that puts you off someone on here?

By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
27 weeks ago

North West

I think to me being pushy and demanding is the number one

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By *urry BlokeMan
27 weeks ago

Holier than thou / better than you attitudes

Creeps and crawlers

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Someone lacking in any personality or conversation.

And being disrespectful.

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By *eroLondonMan
27 weeks ago

Covent Garden

Their apathy and poor conversational skills — especially when they have messaged me first and their profile mandates that they are looking to chat extensively and not in a rush to meet. The irony is lost on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

When the conversation feels like pulling teeth.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Had a few gaslighters on here this week.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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27 weeks ago

East Sussex

Soooo many things.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
27 weeks ago

cardiff

Arrogance, cockiness

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By *ristol_nicolaTV/TS
27 weeks ago

Bristol

Rude, disrespectful, close minded.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

The forum arse kissers.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Pushy/demanding people, people who don't respect me or my boundaries and rudeness

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By *ealitybitesMan
27 weeks ago

Belfast

Inconsistencies.

A bio that doesn't match their pics or verifications.

Demands.

Everyone has and is fully entitled to preferences but that doesn't give them the right to send introductory messages telling the recipient what they must change about their profile and their physical appearance before being added to their to-do list.

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By *elix SightedMan
27 weeks ago

Cloud 8

If they’re not exactly like me.

And

If they’re exactly like me.

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By *ibLeiMan
27 weeks ago

Manchester

Poor grammar, conjugation.

Low effort first message (it’s not just single men, who would have thought?!).

The ‘attitude’ (looking at you, couples).

Asking for things while not doing ‘it’ themselves.

Zoomed in pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

"I think to me being pushy and demanding is the number one "

I would have to agree with this, alot of 'must have this, must do that' etc.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
27 weeks ago

Brum

Poor footwear or fashion choices.

We love to see dressed or teasing pictures that reveal a bit of the posters style.

If there’s even a hint of a croc in a profile we’re completely out.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
27 weeks ago

Brum

"The forum arse kissers. "

Oooh friend… friendly friend.

Be nice friend.

Ooh friend…

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By *etterdays2021Man
27 weeks ago

PETERBOROUGH

Please read my profile..

And dont reply??

Wy bother then

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
27 weeks ago

North West

- Personality, or lack of

- Profile full of peen

- Profile full of women with said peen (if a single guy account)

- Profile name (BeaverBatterer, KingFannyFlogger and the likes)

- Sending me unflattering pics of your peen in your first message (I only want to see it when I want to see it)

- The wanna meet now fellas

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By *obilebottomMan
27 weeks ago

All over

"Arrogance, cockiness"

definately that and anyone abusive or disrespectful whatever their reason. Ways to do things, hiding behind the internet and flexing muscles (metaphorically speaking) is not one of them.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
27 weeks ago

Reading

Dirty talk in first message

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By *ollyPocket75Woman
27 weeks ago

Aberdeen

People that don't take no for an answer

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
27 weeks ago

Merseyside

For us it’s people who don’t read our profile cos they can’t be arsed and ask stupid questions

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By *ikeRodickMan
27 weeks ago

London

Starting a conversation dirty. At least start with a "hi"

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By *edSirenWoman
27 weeks ago

magic mountain

"The forum arse kissers. "

What’s wrong with kissing ass?? Especially if it’s a nice ass 😏🤤

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By *weetWithATw1stWoman
27 weeks ago

MiddleofMyStreet

people who don't read the profile (Or they have and thought fuck it shall chance it), then message doing what I say not to in profile (say calling me babe is one thing or "meet now)... then complain when i have deleted the message....

or those who send 3 messages before I have had the chance to reply to the first message.

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
27 weeks ago

North West

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
27 weeks ago

North West

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
27 weeks ago

North West

Another one is saying ????. Come on make an effort at least 😂

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By *tagge_fyxeCouple
27 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Any reference to my pussy or their cock in the first message.

Pictures of them mid deed

Filthy dick pics. At least tidy up you scruffy sods!!

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By *edSirenWoman
27 weeks ago

magic mountain

If they come to play with a list to tick off. Or aren’t willing to let go and be in the moment because they’re too focused on what they think should happen.

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By *rHotNottsMan
27 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I think to me being pushy and demanding is the number one "

I think I agree with you, when they treat you like you’re the same as the bad experiences they’ve had on FAB. Or when they expect you to do all the work.

And just negativity in general, unless it’s authentic, funny & they can really pull it off well - there’s only one or two people do that well.

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By *1bttmMan
27 weeks ago

Shoreditch east London

Poor communication, or lack of it when things change.

Ignoring preferences but continuing to discuss their own when it's clear they haven't read yr profile and it's not a match.

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

People who are demanding, demeaning, entitled, arrogant.

Messages I need to translate from txtspk.

Anatomical photographs

"Party supplies" or "spoiling" talk

Unwillingness to engage as a human being rather than a set of engorged holes or genitals

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By *upersonic SamMan
27 weeks ago

wigan

A sense of entitlement.

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By *eoBloomsMan
27 weeks ago

Springfield

Profile text that's longer than Dante's Inferno.

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By *ustcallMan
27 weeks ago

Glasgow

Got to be a lack of respect, also I won’t do this and I won’t do that. My rules 🙄 the biggest turn off smoking 😱

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By *unthum62Man
27 weeks ago

Benidorm

Pushy people, predatory people, people who demand, people who are evasive.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
27 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

One liner messages when trying to have a conversation.

Blank/bland profiles

Profiles who just see us as sex workers

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By *estructionDollyWoman
27 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

Pushy, demanding, really bad spelling, all their photos are genital close ups that's just not for me

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By *eliWoman
27 weeks ago

People who write really bad erotica.

The I hate/I love everything brigade. Both are a sad facade - I'd much rather see the real person.

Pushy people.

People who don't have a genuine interest in me - whether it's seeing me as some holes or only talking about themselves.

People who are twunty. A bit twunty? Great, everyone is. Too much and I'm dry.

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By *elly and daveCouple
27 weeks ago

gateshead

Men who treat this site like a 'Meat Market' and expect every woman to jump into bed with them. Some of the terms they use are downright disgusting

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Wanting to meet after 1 message

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By *tsJustKateWoman
27 weeks ago

London

Guys who clearly haven't read, or choose to ignored my profile.

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By *aveonMan
27 weeks ago

Dartford

Constant chatting when you have said you are not available or can’t chat and not interested

Those that are just full of their own self belief

Constant asking questions when you have said something many times in your profile like … can you accom !

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By *viatrixWoman
27 weeks ago

Redhill

The assumption that they’ll be balls deep inside me by just sending a message 🤣🤣🤣

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
27 weeks ago

Glasgow

Guys who have very clearly either not read or have read but message saying “I know I don’t fit what you’re looking for but…” 😬

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

People that judge, impolite people and not reading profiles. I always respect what someone puts in their profile it's just good manners and saves wasting both time and effort

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By *oodtoshare2Couple
27 weeks ago

harrogate

People saying that they want to meet when they have no intention of doing so. If it's just chat that's wanted. Then just say so.

But I'd say number one turn off is pushiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Now days most it’s most of the people who write in the forums. Whether purposely or not what they write gives a great insight to their personality which seems different to what their profile pertains them to be

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

"People who write really bad erotica.

The I hate/I love everything brigade. Both are a sad facade - I'd much rather see the real person.

Pushy people.

People who don't have a genuine interest in me - whether it's seeing me as some holes or only talking about themselves.

People who are twunty. A bit twunty? Great, everyone is. Too much and I'm dry."

Omg 😂😂😂😂 that first one

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

People who are not honest about their time

People who have QOS tattoos

People that don’t ever message me first.

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By *layfulGentMan
27 weeks ago

Doncaster South Yorkshire

"Profile text that's longer than Dante's Inferno."

😂😂 I like this one

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By *issmorganWoman
27 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Lying or inconsistent bios ie they state non smoker, but recent pics show them with a fag in mouth.

Being entitled, thinking they deserve a reply or meet because they're local or the right age.

People who don't read bios then get pissy when you point out you're not looking for people miles away etc.

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By *eliWoman
27 weeks ago

"People who write really bad erotica.

The I hate/I love everything brigade. Both are a sad facade - I'd much rather see the real person.

Pushy people.

People who don't have a genuine interest in me - whether it's seeing me as some holes or only talking about themselves.

People who are twunty. A bit twunty? Great, everyone is. Too much and I'm dry.

Omg 😂😂😂😂 that first one"

It's so true though! 😅 Some of the stories would easily beat the winners of the Bad Sex in Fiction award. I am messy.

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By *issmorganWoman
27 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Also to add no public pics and one line profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

"The forum arse kissers.

Oooh friend… friendly friend.

Be nice friend."

I’d rather be honest 🙂

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By *acktar74Man
27 weeks ago

leeds

False advertising of free hugs. Or if they don't like cheesecake

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By *ibLeiMan
27 weeks ago

Manchester

"Lying or inconsistent bios ie they state non smoker, but recent pics show them with a fag in mouth."

To rebound on that one: vaping = smoking. Or at the very minimum, if they indicate ‘non-smoker’, they should mention vaping in their bio.

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By *anonfire96Man
27 weeks ago

Mansfield

Over confident, saying I'm the best fuck you'll ever have. I'll make you cum so many times.

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By *issmorganWoman
27 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"Lying or inconsistent bios ie they state non smoker, but recent pics show them with a fag in mouth.

To rebound on that one: vaping = smoking. Or at the very minimum, if they indicate ‘non-smoker’, they should mention vaping in their bio."

Agree, my other half vapes and we have it stated on our joint profile. It's only right.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Tattoos

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
27 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

For me it's straightforward.

1. They carn't spell.

2. They're grammar is atrocious.

3. Trying to be clever and using words in the wrong contest.

5. They struggle numerically.

6. Shallow people, but I don't mind if they're a bit of a cunt and speak their mind as long as they've got great tits and arse.

There's more I'm sure.

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By *ripfillMan
27 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

An Insincere attitude, this platform above all

Others, offers a real chance for an “honesty” which is rare, and in theory, the non judgmental code of ethics ought to make it possible, for real communication to exist - authentic and real

Fab stands for so many positive things for me as an individual .. we ought not dilute it …

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By *ora the explorerWoman
27 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Too many to mention but the white knights and “all women are beautiful” types make my teeth itch

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By *uri00620Woman
27 weeks ago

Croydon

"For me it's straightforward.

1. They carn't spell.

2. They're grammar is atrocious.

3. Trying to be clever and using words in the wrong contest.

5. They struggle numerically.

6. Shallow people, but I don't mind if they're a bit of a cunt and speak their mind as long as they've got great tits and arse.

There's more I'm sure."

I'm terrible with numbers. Good with grammar and spelling though and I like books - even if I can't tell what page I'm on.

I'm put off by neediness and sycophants.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

"For me it's straightforward.

1. They carn't spell.

2. They're grammar is atrocious.

3. Trying to be clever and using words in the wrong contest.

5. They struggle numerically.

6. Shallow people, but I don't mind if they're a bit of a cunt and speak their mind as long as they've got great tits and arse.

There's more I'm sure."

Bet you hate lists as well

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
27 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"For me it's straightforward.

1. They carn't spell.

2. They're grammar is atrocious.

3. Trying to be clever and using words in the wrong contest.

5. They struggle numerically.

6. Shallow people, but I don't mind if they're a bit of a cunt and speak their mind as long as they've got great tits and arse.

There's more I'm sure.

Bet you hate lists as well"

Yep. How did you know.

7. Lists

8. Londoners

9. Croydoners

*There are some major exemptions and exceptions that fall under #6 though.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Using the word "yous" or "youse" welds my legs shut instantly

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
27 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

Sycophantic arse lickers of both sexes, turns me right off.

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By *otuseater11Man
27 weeks ago

kilwinning

For me is the ones who think they are better than the rest of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Smokers, poor hygiene, entitlement, being a dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

"For me it's straightforward.

1. They carn't spell.

2. They're grammar is atrocious.

3. Trying to be clever and using words in the wrong contest.

5. They struggle numerically.

6. Shallow people, but I don't mind if they're a bit of a cunt and speak their mind as long as they've got great tits and arse.

There's more I'm sure."

The wrong contest?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
27 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"For me it's straightforward.

1. They carn't spell.

2. They're grammar is atrocious.

3. Trying to be clever and using words in the wrong contest.

5. They struggle numerically.

6. Shallow people, but I don't mind if they're a bit of a cunt and speak their mind as long as they've got great tits and arse.

There's more I'm sure.

The wrong contest?"

Please ..please don't say it 😂

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By *outhernC0mfortMan
27 weeks ago

Cumbria

Wearing cheaply manufactured supermarket underwear made in Asia in their pics

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By *THENRAIMan
27 weeks ago

sindlesham

Easy for you to say - I've just peeked at your very fine example.....

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By *herrybakewellCouple
27 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Those accounts asking for a face pic in your first message and they saying they will send theirs when they feel comfortable.

Just fuck off.

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By *THENRAIMan
27 weeks ago

sindlesham

Easy for you to say - I've just peeked at your very fine example!

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Just not taking no as an answer or being overly needy or pushy. Just wrong people

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By *ot so needyMan
27 weeks ago

Galway

"Wearing cheaply manufactured supermarket underwear made in Asia in their pics"

Where were yours made?

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By *outhernC0mfortMan
27 weeks ago

Cumbria

"Wearing cheaply manufactured supermarket underwear made in Asia in their pics

Where were yours made?"

Asia

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By *a LunaWoman
27 weeks ago

o o OO o o

Pushy, demanding, moody, needy, no sense of humour

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By *ongAndThick123Man
27 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

People that are too involved in “the scene”. For me this site is a laugh. I keep a very clear divide between my private/personal life and my sex life.

I find it uncomfortable when people blur those boundaries

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By *olinOfBathMan
27 weeks ago

Corsham

Arbitrary age limits.

If folks at clubs ask my age, I make them guess first. I'm actually 64, but the guesses invariably range between mid 40s and early 50s. As this is typically after a playtime, it's very flattering.

Yes, I know that this sounds like bullshit. But, hey, thank gawd for verifications...

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
27 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

"Pushy, demanding, moody, needy, no sense of humour"

That’s enough about you, what puts you off others 😂😂😂

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Been me

lol

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By *ucka39Man
27 weeks ago

Newcastle

Being up there own bum

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
27 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Pictures on their profile of them getting filled-out, like an application by multiple men at the same time

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By *anchez821Man
27 weeks ago

Warwick

Out of interest what pictures do women like on a man's profile, I've often wondered, as I guess most are dick pics

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By *p4funtimes2Couple
27 weeks ago

weybridge

"For us it’s people who don’t read our profile cos they can’t be arsed and ask stupid questions

Yeah definitely this! And all things that stem from this!

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By *atinaChica54Woman
27 weeks ago

Marlborough

Clowns.

The End

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By *p4funtimes2Couple
27 weeks ago

weybridge

😂😂😂😂👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻😍😍

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By *atinaChica54Woman
27 weeks ago

Marlborough

"Wearing cheaply manufactured supermarket underwear made in Asia in their pics"

Hahaha! This is soooo me!

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By *atinaChica54Woman
27 weeks ago

Marlborough

"For me it's straightforward.

1. They carn't spell.

2. They're grammar is atrocious.

3. Trying to be clever and using words in the wrong contest.

5. They struggle numerically.

6. Shallow people, but I don't mind if they're a bit of a cunt and speak their mind as long as they've got great tits and arse.

There's more I'm sure.

The wrong contest?"

Yup! He said it!

He just had to right?😂

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By *atinaChica54Woman
27 weeks ago

Marlborough

"For me it's straightforward.

1. They carn't spell.

2. They're grammar is atrocious.

3. Trying to be clever and using words in the wrong contest.

5. They struggle numerically.

6. Shallow people, but I don't mind if they're a bit of a cunt and speak their mind as long as they've got great tits and arse.

There's more I'm sure.

Bet you hate lists as well

Yep. How did you know.

7. Lists

8. Londoners

9. Croydoners

*There are some major exemptions and exceptions that fall under #6 though. "

Maybe it's because I'm a Londanaaaa.....

There's actually a Pearly Queen Kink dontchyano?😂

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By *ealitybitesMan
27 weeks ago

Belfast

I initially replied based on what would put me off meeting someone or having sex with them but there is also another side to that question.

What would put me off people on the forums who I will never meet regardless?

The simple answer to that is having so many faces they are in a quandary over which one to post on a Face pic Friday thread?

The public, butter wouldn't melt face or the private hideous one?

The welcome and inclusive one or the backstabbing one?

Tough decisions for some. 😁

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By *uri00620Woman
27 weeks ago

Croydon

"For me it's straightforward.

1. They carn't spell.

2. They're grammar is atrocious.

3. Trying to be clever and using words in the wrong contest.

5. They struggle numerically.

6. Shallow people, but I don't mind if they're a bit of a cunt and speak their mind as long as they've got great tits and arse.

There's more I'm sure.

Bet you hate lists as well

Yep. How did you know.

7. Lists

8. Londoners

9. Croydoners

*There are some major exemptions and exceptions that fall under #6 though.

Maybe it's because I'm a Londanaaaa.....

There's actually a Pearly Queen Kink dontchyano?😂"

And rightly so

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By *ensuallover1000Man
27 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

People with five nostrils or else three ears.

That shit really freaks me the hell out!

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By *empest2KMan
27 weeks ago

Derby

"Their apathy and poor conversational skills — especially when they have messaged me first and their profile mandates that they are looking to chat extensively and not in a rush to meet. The irony is lost on them."

This, and non-smoker profiles that turn out to be full-on regular smokers.

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By *ustAnotherMan
27 weeks ago

midlands

"conservatives"

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By *reative-mindMan
27 weeks ago

exeter

99% of people

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

So many things, but to name a few

Persistent messages

Sending random friend invites multiple times

Hypocrisy

Too many graphic verifications on display, we don't need to know everything

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By *elly and daveCouple
27 weeks ago

gateshead

"99% of people "

Just 99%..bit low that

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By *eoBloomsMan
27 weeks ago

Springfield

Too many graphic verifications on display, we don't need to know everything

I did apologise for and delete the one about the naked Morris Dancers and a can of WD40, no need to go on about it.

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
27 weeks ago

Hoddesdon

Persistent messages specifically if they are blunt and boring lol

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By *a1970Man
27 weeks ago

East cork

Asking for face photo after one message and preaching about morals.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Too many graphic verifications on display, we don't need to know everything

I did apologise for and delete the one about the naked Morris Dancers and a can of WD40, no need to go on about it.

Unfortunately, it's engraved in my brain 😬😬 I will never unread it!

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Too many graphic verifications on display, we don't need to know everything

I did apologise for and delete the one about the naked Morris Dancers and a can of WD40, no need to go on about it.

I've had some weird commentary about one of my veris... which was about putting furniture together 🤣

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By *CLM87Woman
27 weeks ago

Derbyshire

People that don't read the profile.

Mine states no crude messages.. but yet I still get crude messages.

When you say I'm sorry your not for me, happy fabbing and get abuse or a begging message back

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

A really messy room in the photo background

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By *each needs some creamWoman
26 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Men that don't understanding what it is I am looking for.

People that want to endless chat.

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By *uffnmuffCouple
26 weeks ago

London

"The forum arse kissers. "

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By *encia VixenWoman
26 weeks ago

Somewhere

Being straight up and saying you like a chat and social to see if the chemistry is there and what you both want aligns.

Then the chat is sidelined completely

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
26 weeks ago

Didsbury

Most recently, a woman who called me 8 times over and over at 1:30am for a booty call. We’d chatted here, swapped numbers and spoken on the phone prior to this but not yet met.

I messaged in the morning to put her straight.

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
26 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

ALL OF THE ABOVE*

(*where it's applicable! Some of that shit I'd be lucky to have so I could then get put off)

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By *ustAnotherMan
26 weeks ago

midlands

"Being straight up and saying you like a chat and social to see if the chemistry is there and what you both want aligns.

Then the chat is sidelined completely "

I've had the opposite of this too...straight to it! No I have a life and not available in half an hour

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

“Shopping lists” of demands, and they’re typed out as demands “I want this, I want that” ok great but what do you offer in return other than a presumed lack of personality and/or lack of any basic emotions.

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By *ggdrasil66Man
26 weeks ago

Saltdean

Men messaging me asking me to let them suck my cock. There is no suggestion on my profile that I am even remotely gay. Many of these guys also have straight profiles. It is no wonder we all get a bad name on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

A total lack of respect, Respect covers a huge area & it's something that people should have & it might be the site that it is but Respect unfortunately is something that not all people here have, some people would want to realise that it's another human being at the other end & not just a piece of meat.

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By *atchmeibiteMan
26 weeks ago

Manchester

HnH

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By *eroLondonMan
26 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"Being straight up and saying you like a chat and social to see if the chemistry is there and what you both want aligns.

Then the chat is sidelined completely "

Indeed, which isn't a million miles from my comment earlier. Lip service prevails on here. 🌈

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By *ubesloverMan
26 weeks ago

notts

Liars, bad breath and bad hygiene, to start.

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
26 weeks ago

Cheshire

That one person who looks at your profile 4 or 5 times a day has fabbed every public pic. Winks more times than we are online has sent the friend request a long time ago, but never once thought to write a message and reach out.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
26 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"For me it's straightforward.

1. They carn't spell.

2. They're grammar is atrocious.

3. Trying to be clever and using words in the wrong contest.

5. They struggle numerically.

6. Shallow people, but I don't mind if they're a bit of a cunt and speak their mind as long as they've got great tits and arse.

There's more I'm sure.

Bet you hate lists as well

Yep. How did you know.

7. Lists

8. Londoners

9. Croydoners

*There are some major exemptions and exceptions that fall under #6 though.

Maybe it's because I'm a Londanaaaa.....

There's actually a Pearly Queen Kink dontchyano?😂

And rightly so

Whaaaaaaat? The only ones I see are about 103 years old.

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By *ustAnotherMan
26 weeks ago

midlands

"Men messaging me asking me to let them suck my cock. There is no suggestion on my profile that I am even remotely gay. Many of these guys also have straight profiles. It is no wonder we all get a bad name on here."

Why haven't you just blocked messages from men?

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

Has to be spelling and grammar for me…

The amount of times I want to correct others, especially your/you’re - instead it’s just BLOCK

I’ve recently seen grate (instead of great) and whether (instead of weather)

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By *ikeC81Man
26 weeks ago

harrow

Liverpool fc shirts

A woman with lots of pics of unprotected sex

Super amounts of gushing

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By *rJandMrsJCouple
26 weeks ago

Stalybridge

We've got a list. So people that write to us with "mmmm" or "yous free".

Those who don't read the profile and message us anyway.

Being offered for sex.

A picture of just a dick being sent.

Multiple messages while we're sleeping and they're pestering asking why we haven't replied.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

Pushy. Straight to ‘when can me meet’? Pics of dirty looking cocks. Lies.

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By *liceDarkTV/TS
26 weeks ago

Worksop

So so many.

Single sentence pushy openers from "straight" guys at midnight stands out.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
26 weeks ago

Holibobs

Drama Llamas

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By *andaloriansCouple
26 weeks ago

Malvern

Yep......pushy, non understanding peckerwoods that dont read the profile, dont ask decent questions and just assume stuff!

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By *rmrsApriliaCouple
26 weeks ago

sheffield

Single men with dick pics as profile picture, if that’s the best thing you can think of as your main picture then your not for us.

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By *oeBeansMan
26 weeks ago

Derby

Women who are too intense with from the off (yes, it happens). Whether that's the flirting or sexual talk, it's just too much, too fast.

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By *att1990xxxMan
26 weeks ago

Plymouth

Fake couples that are obviously single men

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
26 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Stunning women who are really funny, have hot bodies, emotionally intelligent, absolutely desired by men, that continually pester me.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"Stunning women who are really funny, have hot bodies, emotionally intelligent, absolutely desired by men, that continually pester me."

Oh so that's why you blocked me

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
26 weeks ago

near lincoln

10 messages in a row with 2 or 3 of them just being ? Or hello?

Photos of men sticking their tongues out

Socks with sliders

The never ending question girth or length

Bi people with straight on their profile but say it puts women off

That’s just this afternoon niggles lol

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

Not flooding my inbox with tit pics.

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By *wingAway79Couple
26 weeks ago

Surrey

Rudeness

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"Not flooding my inbox with tit pics."

The absolute worst, I agree

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
26 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Pushy and no profile to read with excessive dick pics

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
26 weeks ago

Bristol

"Not flooding my inbox with tit pics.

The absolute worst, I agree

There are tit pics in peoples inboxes? 😳😔

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By *j188Couple
26 weeks ago

aberdeenshire

The list is endless !

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
26 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Stunning women who are really funny, have hot bodies, emotionally intelligent, absolutely desired by men, that continually pester me.

Oh so that's why you blocked me

Nope. That fullstop in your name is really annoying. That's why.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"Not flooding my inbox with tit pics.

The absolute worst, I agree

There are tit pics in peoples inboxes? 😳😔"

I wouldn't know

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
26 weeks ago

Bristol

"Not flooding my inbox with tit pics.

The absolute worst, I agree

There are tit pics in peoples inboxes? 😳😔

I wouldn't know

Evidently nor me 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"Stunning women who are really funny, have hot bodies, emotionally intelligent, absolutely desired by men, that continually pester me.

Oh so that's why you blocked me

Nope. That fullstop in your name is really annoying. That's why."

Always the fullstop, always.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"Not flooding my inbox with tit pics.

The absolute worst, I agree

There are tit pics in peoples inboxes? 😳😔

I wouldn't know

Nor would I 😢

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"Not flooding my inbox with tit pics.

The absolute worst, I agree

There are tit pics in peoples inboxes? 😳😔

I wouldn't know

Nor would I 😢"

Shall we start the no titty committee?

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
26 weeks ago

Bristol

"Not flooding my inbox with tit pics.

The absolute worst, I agree

There are tit pics in peoples inboxes? 😳😔

I wouldn't know

Nor would I 😢

Shall we start the no titty committee?

Bollocks! I was going to slide into your inbox with my unsolicited tit pics! Rumbled again! I’ll be a founding member of the no titty committee 🛑 ✋

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"Not flooding my inbox with tit pics.

The absolute worst, I agree

There are tit pics in peoples inboxes? 😳😔

I wouldn't know

Nor would I 😢

Shall we start the no titty committee?

Bollocks! I was going to slide into your inbox with my unsolicited tit pics! Rumbled again! I’ll be a founding member of the no titty committee 🛑 ✋ "

I'm in.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

The ones that purport to be nice, just and all round decent folk when their behaviour suggests anything but.

It’s all a facade for many.

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By *rand Central CoupleCouple
26 weeks ago

Glasgow

Guys that pound the Mrs from behind for half an hour and ask her if she’s liking it!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
26 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

People with a sense of entitlement, those who expect me to jump through hoops to meet them, folk without pictures asking me for them, Tgirls without face pics asking for a meet

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By *Silver-Man
26 weeks ago

North Wales

Couples thinking they can demand and expect, thinking I will jump and obey because they have a vag to offer lol

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By *Silver-Man
26 weeks ago

North Wales

"Guys that pound the Mrs from behind for half an hour and ask her if she’s liking it! "

She must be liking it if she's letting him do it

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By *ergus1622Man
26 weeks ago

Dundee

One or two word answers, if you are not interested just say so.

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By *iss DevilWoman
26 weeks ago

Bedford

Someone who I have not had any interaction before whatsoever sending me a long-winded, detailed description of what they are going to do to me- nope!

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
26 weeks ago

Swansea

Giving the impression that:-

a) They've completely disinterested in us being a couple and addressing any messages as though it could only ever be the female half that reads them

b) By virtue of being on a swingers site, us wanting sex with them is a given, it's simply a matter of arranging a convenient time rather than making an effort to get to know us, what we want, what we can offer and whether there is any mutual interest/attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

I’m probably going to get some backlash from this…..

Women who are quite clearly a four at best but think they are a solid 10 !!

(I’m running and looking for a good hiding place)

😬🫣

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By *oodmessMan
26 weeks ago

yumsville

Probably me finding a pair of balls.. That'd put me off a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"I’m probably going to get some backlash from this…..

Women who are quite clearly a four at best but think they are a solid 10 !!

(I’m running and looking for a good hiding place)

😬🫣"

Agreed

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By *rucking-HellMan
26 weeks ago

Northampton

Shouty profiles of do's and dont's (most)

If they are self identified "brats"

Tattoos

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"Giving the impression that:-

a) They've completely disinterested in us being a couple and addressing any messages as though it could only ever be the female half that reads them

We get lots of this, plus a spit the dummy out response when I dare to say no.....

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By *iamond couple twoCouple
26 weeks ago

Wakefield

"- Personality, or lack of

- Profile full of peen

- Profile full of women with said peen (if a single guy account)

- Profile name (BeaverBatterer, KingFannyFlogger and the likes)

- Sending me unflattering pics of your peen in your first message (I only want to see it when I want to see it)

- The wanna meet now fellas

Agree 100%

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By *punk n gushCouple
26 weeks ago

deal

Messages only at the women not the both of us

Asking to meet the lady alone not going to happen

Men who think they know what i want and need and tell me what I'm going to do them

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

Long, dirty toenails.

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By *oistknickersCouple
26 weeks ago

London

The thing that really gets me is negativity

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By *umagain58Man
26 weeks ago

London

Rudeness and arrogance. My wife used to be on here but got fed up with some guys who thought could do anything they liked. No decency and just thinking about own pleasure and what they could get out of this. Not discussing what all like or not and not respecting any boundaries set

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
26 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

I hate it when

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
26 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

People just continually

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
26 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Post to close threads

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
26 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

It's so annoying

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
26 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Isn't it?

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