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Struggling to Get Verified – Catch-22 Situation

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By *lickingFingers OP   Man
29 weeks ago

Wilts

Hi everyone,

I’m having a hard time getting verified, and it feels like a catch-22. I understand verification is about trust and credibility, but without verification, I find it challenging to grow my profile in the ways that seem to matter for eligibility.

I’m open to suggestions! What steps can I take to make my profile stand out and improve my chances? Are there specific elements I should focus on, like forum engagement, messages, or certain types of content?

Any advice or insights from those who’ve been through this process would be really appreciated!

Thanks in advance!

Let me know if you’d like to adjust the tone or focus further!

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By *eardysingsMan
29 weeks ago

Sandhurst and York

I have a similar issue - but I’ve also not clicked with anyone enough to have a meet with them…. And I have a bit of a thing about webcams (Joel Dommett’s experience, etc).

The only answer really, is to be real in your messaging, and when you get to a social, ask that person to make sure they verify…

Or go to a social / event / munch - and ask someone to verify that you’re who you say you are- but again, that’s a huge leap of confidence to go to the meet alone!

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
29 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

Go to a club or social.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
29 weeks ago

Trowbridge


"Go to a club or social. "

This

Or post updates regularly on your profile so they appear on feeds & you’re seen there.

Keep posting on the forums, you’ll get to know folk & who’s in your area

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By *endalshaggersCouple
26 weeks ago

Lake District

What I would say OP, to a degree with verifications on this site: dammed if you do, dammed if you don't.

Like you, we struggled initially when we first joined as verification was everything.

Now we're verified, we still have people complaining that they aren't enough. "Cam meets don't mean anything" and "2 meet verifications is nothing, you could still be a fake couple".

Whilst we take everything with a massive pinch of salt, I wouldn't make it the absolute be all and end all of your time on here to get verified. Have fun, comment on the forums, attend a social if there's one in your area you can attend. But don't let the verification hounds put you down.

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By *naswingdressWoman
26 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'll only speak for myself.

I think meet verifications are a bigger deal for women and couples, than they are for men.

What point is there in pretending to be a man on this site? There's lots of potential for fuckery if you pretend to be a woman or a couple, to mess people around etc. (I'm not suggesting it, I'm not condoning it. It happens, is all)

Being noticed and taken seriously is the more difficult thing for men. We all know you're really men.

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By *eroLondonMan
26 weeks ago

Mayfair

Good afternoon OP, as one or two others have correctly suggested ^ I think you really need to get yourself to a Fab group social/event. Use that opportunity to meet people, without any agenda or expectations, and build your nexus of friends and contacts.

Don't presume that verifications on their own will lead to meets but at the very least a couple of verifications on the back of those socials will 'effectuate' your profile.

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By *ony MannMan
26 weeks ago

South Newton

As has been said, go to a club and chat. Be nice and ask for a veri.

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By *my-blackTV/TS
26 weeks ago

Poole

I have to say that when I was looking to meet people, not having verifications wasn't always a deal breaker but having a few descriptive ones did help.

Always found that it was interesting reading other peoples perspective of the person. Added that verifications indicated that the person(s) actually met up.

Regards your situation OP how about messaging a few guys/couples locally and just asking if there was any possibility of meeting just for a coffee/beer. There are a couple of positives to point out, they will get a veri from you but there may be something positive down the line, eg couples/women looking for more than one reliable guy.

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By *iss KinkWoman
26 weeks ago

Up North

From your bio sounds like your married/attatched so be a no from me

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