FabSwingers.com forum: Reading profiles ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are thinking of leaving as so many idiots are wasting our time by not reading our profile.

Is it just us us or are people becoming illiterate ???? .......!!!

We had to amend our profile 3 times this week - Added some pictures (no face pictures) and people just see the photo and think 'Yes' great (It just me (f) in a meshy Basque type dress -okay, but raunchy we admit), but do people bother to read profile? - the answer is a big "NO"

We have had replies or friend invites from people saying, that they won't meet smokers (I smoke 5 a day, but only outside).

We are not looking for life long 'relationships' just plain fun with normal minded people who can read and enjoy a laugh.

Please let us know if you are thinking the same, that 80% of Fab users just go by the pictures and not use their brains

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could be bothered reading your whole thread as I get the jist. People will never read all your profile. Fact if you're getting messages you don't like what's wrong with the delete button? I'm delight to get one message a day from a dude who sends me pictures of himself with root vegetables up his bottom. Count yourselves lucky. It ain't to bad in here

onwards and upwards says I x

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Filter and block all messages, then search the ones you do want to meet yourself.

Simple, hassle free solution to your problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filter and block all messages, then search the ones you do want to meet yourself.

Simple, hassle free solution to your problem

I agree with Ryan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is so stunningly negative. Its all no this, not that.

Seriously, all you will attract with that level of negativity is chancers and those who are 'blanket bombing' the masses for meets.

You mention very little about what you are about, what you want and what you have to offer. You spend your profile pushing people away. I would re-think your approach if you're not getting what you want.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

I got bored after the first two paragraphs of your profile.

No wonder people don't read it.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Your profile is so stunningly negative. Its all no this, not that.

Seriously, all you will attract with that level of negativity is chancers and those who are 'blanket bombing' the masses for meets.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I got bored after the first two paragraphs of your profile.

No wonder people don't read it."

sorry but if things like people not reading a profile is winding you up this much maybe you should leave because its never ging to change.

In fact if i was a single male i wuld probably message you because of your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is so stunningly negative. Its all no this, not that.

Seriously, all you will attract with that level of negativity is chancers and those who are 'blanket bombing' the masses for meets.

Yes this...... You say your a relaxed couple, but your profile Is far from relaxed....., try and be a bit more positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filter and block all messages, then search the ones you do want to meet yourself.

Simple, hassle free solution to your problem

I agree with Ryan

I agree with Ryan and Kevs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If profiles are to long people get bored reading it, keep it short, sweet and to the point

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By *ooking4you69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Personally I don't think there is anything wrong with your profile, I put a similar thread on the forum and got a lot of negative feedback, one saying our profile is quite negative, which I don't feel it is. We have set out what we want, why waste people's time.......personally if they can't be bothered to read the profile and message then they just get deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the comment about the negativity especially in the opening paragraphs,, the rest of the profile is dull and has nothing to hold my interest, just keep thinking if I message you im going to get blocked,, cheer up a little add some humour maybe,, put pictures of you both on there

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By *ooking4you69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

People are entitled to their own opinions, what doesn't appeal to one appeals to others. Why does humour need to be added?? And why put both our pictures on when it's clearly not needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not going to comment on your profile as you haven't asked for feedback on it.

However - if you're not happy with the messages you're getting and convinced the senders are not bothering to read - you have a few simple options.

Put filters on blocking the biggest culprits (more than likely single males due to sheer numbers) from messaging and seek them out yourselves.

Or just utilise the tools available - if a sender has totally disregarded your preferences then delete the message and block them.

They won't do it again!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a long profile, it takes 30 seconds to read it, or 1 minute if youre a slow reader.

1 Minute of your time to see what we like, what we dont like and how we arrange meets could save lots of wasted time. We dont meet smokers, thats our choice, our profile says "wont meet smokers" and yep, we get meet requests off smokers.

We have this profile after 3 yrs of swinging, its come to this because of the number of crap meets we have had. Im not going to go into a rant about why they were bad, but having a profile that clearly defines what we want, you would think would lead to more successful meets.... in general it does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh, and we welcome comments on our profile.

good or bad we take an interest in them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the people that dont take the time to read your profile just use the delete button. Most do tend to chance look at pics and send friends invite. We delete and move on.

I have read your profile (custard), all you are doing is pointing out what you are looking for, nothing wrong with that. If people dont have the time to read your profile maybe they are not the kind you want to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are entitled to their own opinions, what doesn't appeal to one appeals to others. Why does humour need to be added?? And why put both our pictures on when it's clearly not needed."

Im not looking for couples, but if I was I would expect to see pictures of both of you, and face pics too. they can be private for you to send

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Personally I don't think there is anything wrong with your profile, I put a similar thread on the forum and got a lot of negative feedback, one saying our profile is quite negative, which I don't feel it is. We have set out what we want, why waste people's time.......personally if they can't be bothered to read the profile and message then they just get deleted

If you think there's nothing wrong with your profile, then there's no reason to ask for feedback is there?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I read your profile. It doesn't attract me at. Yet you describe yourselves as 'relaxed' - that doesn't come across in your style of writing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If profiles are to long people get bored reading it, keep it short, sweet and to the point"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The profile is extremely negative and dull, no wonder people aren't reading it and certainly is not because they are illiterate, just simply bored.

If I wrote a profile which contained all the messages I'd received from those who are outside my preferences I would close the server down. Instead I simply write a little about us and what we like. If people message whom I have no interest in, I simply ignore the message.

In answer to your 'should we go' then judging solely on your profile and this thread them I'd say yes. You're clearly not enamoured by the people who are messaging so why stay if it's bothering you. It won't change so do what's best for you to stop yourselves becoming upset as you seem to be far fr relaxed.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"We have a long profile, it takes 30 seconds to read it, or 1 minute if youre a slow reader.

We have this profile after 3 yrs of swinging, its come to this because of the number of crap meets we have had. Im not

going to go into a rant about why they were bad, but having a

profile that clearly defines what we want, you would think

would lead to more successful meets.... in general it does. :-

Yours is a good profile IMO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have a long profile, it takes 30 seconds to read it, or 1 minute if ......

Yours is a good profile IMO.

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its always going to happen i get the idiot mail and don't really have a public pic as such.

Don't let them put you off though there are some very cool people about also x

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

I don't think its too bad, might just be a case of Yorkshire honesty, straight to the point outlining what you like,don't like and pointing out where things have gone wrong to date and because of such you hope to avoid and deter similar.

I'd hope though when you do chat and meet you're more upbeat and leave that stuff behind, on the profile and concentrate on the fun !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do! Our meets love us - well they say they do - they wouldnt lie would they? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've hidden mine due to personal reasons lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I've hidden mine due to personal reasons lol

So you have.....hope all is well and your profile comes back at some near future point. I still don't fancy ya, van

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is so stunningly negative. Its all no this, not that.

Seriously, all you will attract with that level of negativity is chancers and those who are 'blanket bombing' the masses for meets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its always going to happen i get the idiot mail and don't really have a public pic as such.

Don't let them put you off though there are some very cool people about also x"

Thanks

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