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"For me - no labels, if you like you fuck if you don't you don't. " Yes but you could say that about a dating website - I'm asking what your take on being a Swinger is ? What differentiates it from a general vanilla hook up site? | |||
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"I've been swingers clubs and my wife's ended up with single men. I still class it as swinging" 100% as you are welcoming someone into your swinging relationship | |||
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"Singles are swingers if they interact with more than one person over time . The query is often directed at single men as if it was different to single women on swingers sites and in clubs.A moments thought would make people realise there is no difference between single men and single women who embrace and participate in the lifestyle. " Im in no way saying their is a difference between singles guys and ladies | |||
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"You're not a swingers unless you're putting keys in a bowl, let's be honest here." Haha definitely 😆 | |||
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"If couples seek a single man or a single woman for swinging sex. Surely 'the' person they have sex with is a swinger in those encounters ?" The couple involved have invited someone into their relationship and shared each other, the singleton has not shared any of his/her closest people, they don't have the same experience So yes the couple has had a swinging experience but the singleton has had a threesome I know I may be wrong, im just seeking what other people's views points may be | |||
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"Lost count of the times I’ve been told we’re not ‘real swingers’ because my husband doesn’t play with others "Just because your husband doesn't physically play does not mean your are not a swinging couple. Any couple who invites anyone else into their sexual relationship is a Swinger The emotional side of it Plays far more heavily than the physical | |||
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"If couples seek a single man or a single woman for swinging sex. Surely 'the' person they have sex with is a swinger in those encounters ? The couple involved have invited someone into their relationship and shared each other, the singleton has not shared any of his/her closest people, they don't have the same experience So yes the couple has had a swinging experience but the singleton has had a threesome I know I may be wrong, im just seeking what other people's views points may be " Collins definition of swingers.... informal, old-fashioned] 2. countable noun. Swingers are people who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other people's partners. So couples are not swinging if not swapping with another couple. | |||
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"I've been swingers clubs and my wife's ended up with single men. I still class it as swinging 100% as you are welcoming someone into your swinging relationship " love watching her get fucked with single guys | |||
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"My traditional view of swingers is couples swapping with couples " We've always thought the same to be honest. Those who don't swap partners, are they more exhibitionist? I must admit though, I'm often told my opinions are incorrect 
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"Genuine question Are you only a Swinger if you swap and share partners? Are singles looking for sexual interactions any less of a Swinger? Is the swinging lifestyle, community etc whatever you want to call it, used a hook-up site for some and as a genuine partner sharing experience for others What is swinging in your eyes ? Open discussion with no Ill intent just genuine curiosity S xxx" Hook ups | |||
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"If couples seek a single man or a single woman for swinging sex. Surely 'the' person they have sex with is a swinger in those encounters ? The couple involved have invited someone into their relationship and shared each other, the singleton has not shared any of his/her closest people, they don't have the same experience So yes the couple has had a swinging experience but the singleton has had a threesome I know I may be wrong, im just seeking what other people's views points may be Collins definition of swingers.... informal, old-fashioned] 2. countable noun. Swingers are people who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other people's partners. So couples are not swinging if not swapping with another couple. " So this would say swingers are only people who swap partners- ??? According to the dictionary | |||
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"If couples seek a single man or a single woman for swinging sex. Surely 'the' person they have sex with is a swinger in those encounters ? The couple involved have invited someone into their relationship and shared each other, the singleton has not shared any of his/her closest people, they don't have the same experience So yes the couple has had a swinging experience but the singleton has had a threesome I know I may be wrong, im just seeking what other people's views points may be Collins definition of swingers.... informal, old-fashioned] 2. countable noun. Swingers are people who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other people's partners. So couples are not swinging if not swapping with another couple. " And as it says up there ☝️ then it’s a three some not swinging if you invite a single in | |||
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"Lost count of the times I’ve been told we’re not ‘real swingers’ because my husband doesn’t play with others "This is like us we have a couples account but hubby doesn’t play and has no interest in playing with others | |||
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"If couples seek a single man or a single woman for swinging sex. Surely 'the' person they have sex with is a swinger in those encounters ? The couple involved have invited someone into their relationship and shared each other, the singleton has not shared any of his/her closest people, they don't have the same experience So yes the couple has had a swinging experience but the singleton has had a threesome I know I may be wrong, im just seeking what other people's views points may be Collins definition of swingers.... informal, old-fashioned] 2. countable noun. Swingers are people who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other people's partners. So couples are not swinging if not swapping with another couple. And as it says up there ☝️ then it’s a three some not swinging if you invite a single in "  so we're saying swingers are people who swap partners and people who dont swap partners aren't? | |||
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"Interesting that it’s only ever couples who have this dilemma. And no, I don’t class myself as swinger, before anyone asks." Trust me its not a dilema 😆 Just a topic that popped in my mind and I was interested to see other people's takes on it | |||
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"If couples seek a single man or a single woman for swinging sex. Surely 'the' person they have sex with is a swinger in those encounters ? The couple involved have invited someone into their relationship and shared each other, the singleton has not shared any of his/her closest people, they don't have the same experience So yes the couple has had a swinging experience but the singleton has had a threesome I know I may be wrong, im just seeking what other people's views points may be Collins definition of swingers.... informal, old-fashioned] 2. countable noun. Swingers are people who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other people's partners. So couples are not swinging if not swapping with another couple. And as it says up there ☝️ then it’s a three some not swinging if you invite a single in so we're saying swingers are people who swap partners and people who dont swap partners aren't? "No. There are couples where one half doesn’t play for a multitude of reasons. Whilst they physically may not swop there is definitely the allowance of the other half playing and that can be harder than the physical act | |||
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"Interesting that it’s only ever couples who have this dilemma. And no, I don’t class myself as swinger, before anyone asks. Trust me its not a dilema 😆 Just a topic that popped in my mind and I was interested to see other people's takes on it " Swinging has just evolved. It started as wife swapping, then into Wiki's definition. | |||
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"If couples seek a single man or a single woman for swinging sex. Surely 'the' person they have sex with is a swinger in those encounters ? The couple involved have invited someone into their relationship and shared each other, the singleton has not shared any of his/her closest people, they don't have the same experience So yes the couple has had a swinging experience but the singleton has had a threesome I know I may be wrong, im just seeking what other people's views points may be Collins definition of swingers.... informal, old-fashioned] 2. countable noun. Swingers are people who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other people's partners. So couples are not swinging if not swapping with another couple. And as it says up there ☝️ then it’s a three some not swinging if you invite a single in so we're saying swingers are people who swap partners and people who dont swap partners aren't?
No. There are couples where one half doesn’t play for a multitude of reasons. Whilst they physically may not swop there is definitely the allowance of the other half playing and that can be harder than the physical act
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"Lost count of the times I’ve been told we’re not ‘real swingers’ because my husband doesn’t play with others
Just because your husband doesn't physically play does not mean your are not a swinging couple.
Any couple who invites anyone else into their sexual relationship is a Swinger
The emotional side of it Plays far more heavily than the physical "Thankyou xx | |||
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"Absolutely If you're a single man or single female, you can still be classed as a swinger. I have met ladies and couples within a short succession of each other, and been invited to join couples etc.. it's an honour and a privilege for a couple to invite me into their dynamic. Likewise, I have been to clubs with FwB's of mine and done things. I think single people can be discussed and classed as swingers just as much as a couples who share their partners. I mean, if you were single and became a couple, would you swap? Everyone has their own way of navigating and living how they see fit.. it's the taking part that counts but at the end of the day, who really cares? It's the lifestyle we enjoy, not the label" Can I ask, as a single, what are you sharing ? | |||
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"Lost count of the times I’ve been told we’re not ‘real swingers’ because my husband doesn’t play with others
Just because your husband doesn't physically play does not mean your are not a swinging couple.
Any couple who invites anyone else into their sexual relationship is a Swinger
The emotional side of it Plays far more heavily than the physical
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"Lost count of the times I’ve been told we’re not ‘real swingers’ because my husband doesn’t play with others
This is like us we have a couples account but hubby doesn’t play and has no interest in playing with others "Exactly like us. He gets off on my extra-curricular activities xx | |||
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"Lost count of the times I’ve been told we’re not ‘real swingers’ because my husband doesn’t play with others
This is like us we have a couples account but hubby doesn’t play and has no interest in playing with others
Exactly like us. He gets off on my extra-curricular activities xx"I love this - love how much you are pleasing each other | |||
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"My traditional view of swingers is couples swapping with couples " I’d agree with this but its certainly morphed over time. I feel like swinging is a catch all term for all recreational sex related activity | |||
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"No idea what I am and not fussed about the label" I wish I could be like this but often get in my own head. We’ve been to social events, and tried a club too and get overwhelming imposter syndrome x | |||
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"Lost count of the times I’ve been told we’re not ‘real swingers’ because my husband doesn’t play with others
This is like us we have a couples account but hubby doesn’t play and has no interest in playing with others
Exactly like us. He gets off on my extra-curricular activities xx
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"My traditional view of swingers is couples swapping with couples I’d agree with this but its certainly morphed over time. I feel like swinging is a catch all term for all recreational sex related activity" But swinging isn't just recreational sex | |||
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"No idea what I am and not fussed about the label I wish I could be like this but often get in my own head. We’ve been to social events, and tried a club too and get overwhelming imposter syndrome x" I have been on and off the scene for a long time, and only going to clubs for the last 6 months or so. I think there is a club out there where you would feel totally at ease x | |||
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"Absolutely If you're a single man or single female, you can still be classed as a swinger. I have met ladies and couples within a short succession of each other, and been invited to join couples etc.. it's an honour and a privilege for a couple to invite me into their dynamic. Likewise, I have been to clubs with FwB's of mine and done things. I think single people can be discussed and classed as swingers just as much as a couples who share their partners. I mean, if you were single and became a couple, would you swap? Everyone has their own way of navigating and living how they see fit.. it's the taking part that counts but at the end of the day, who really cares? It's the lifestyle we enjoy, not the label Can I ask, as a single, what are you sharing ? " I have been in and out of swinging relationships... I have been single, I have been in dynamics etc.. I offer myself into couples, I offer couples into my dynamics whether it be single or with my FwB... I'm recently into a relationship at the moment who is open to the idea of experimenting. My point is, sexual experiences are fluid and are like liquid... they move and flow and adapt and to me, are just as valid in the lifestyle. Just because a single person can't offer anything to swap, in theory, doesn't make them any less of a swinger if they are involved with the lifestyle and people that seek them? Take bulls and unicorns for example... are they any less of swingers? | |||
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"No idea what I am and not fussed about the label I wish I could be like this but often get in my own head. We’ve been to social events, and tried a club too and get overwhelming imposter syndrome x" As someone who has been in/around swinging my whole adult life, the people who accuse others of being "not real swingers" are straight-up cuntbuckets and almost everyone else having to suffer them think so too. They're usually doing it either to feel superior, or to neg others into accepting/doing something they wouldn't otherwise feel comfortable with. | |||
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"Absolutely If you're a single man or single female, you can still be classed as a swinger. I have met ladies and couples within a short succession of each other, and been invited to join couples etc.. it's an honour and a privilege for a couple to invite me into their dynamic. Likewise, I have been to clubs with FwB's of mine and done things. I think single people can be discussed and classed as swingers just as much as a couples who share their partners. I mean, if you were single and became a couple, would you swap? Everyone has their own way of navigating and living how they see fit.. it's the taking part that counts but at the end of the day, who really cares? It's the lifestyle we enjoy, not the label Can I ask, as a single, what are you sharing ? I have been in and out of swinging relationships... I have been single, I have been in dynamics etc.. I offer myself into couples, I offer couples into my dynamics whether it be single or with my FwB... I'm recently into a relationship at the moment who is open to the idea of experimenting. My point is, sexual experiences are fluid and are like liquid... they move and flow and adapt and to me, are just as valid in the lifestyle. Just because a single person can't offer anything to swap, in theory, doesn't make them any less of a swinger if they are involved with the lifestyle and people that seek them? Take bulls and unicorns for example... are they any less of swingers?" Oooooh I like your points and it's making me think - thank you! I suppose I'm coming from the viewpoint that I share what is most precious to me , my man , and that's what I see as swinging, the opportunity, vulnerability and openess to share my most precious and loved man for yours and my pleasure. I think being single makes you available to be welcomed into a swinging dynamic, one in which you don't need to share your most precious person, but can be welcomed into that dynamic for everyone's pleasure. Doesn't make you a swinger but makes you part of a swinging dynamic xxx | |||
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"No idea what I am and not fussed about the label I wish I could be like this but often get in my own head. We’ve been to social events, and tried a club too and get overwhelming imposter syndrome x As someone who has been in/around swinging my whole adult life, the people who accuse others of being "not real swingers" are straight-up cuntbuckets and almost everyone else having to suffer them think so too. They're usually doing it either to feel superior, or to neg others into accepting/doing something they wouldn't otherwise feel comfortable with." Well aren't you wonderful- thank you for your contribution to the discussion | |||
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"I don't consider myself a swinger as I don't go to clubs. I'm just here for the causal one on one sex. " Fucking love you ❤️ | |||
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"Absolutely If you're a single man or single female, you can still be classed as a swinger. I have met ladies and couples within a short succession of each other, and been invited to join couples etc.. it's an honour and a privilege for a couple to invite me into their dynamic. Likewise, I have been to clubs with FwB's of mine and done things. I think single people can be discussed and classed as swingers just as much as a couples who share their partners. I mean, if you were single and became a couple, would you swap? Everyone has their own way of navigating and living how they see fit.. it's the taking part that counts but at the end of the day, who really cares? It's the lifestyle we enjoy, not the label Can I ask, as a single, what are you sharing ? I have been in and out of swinging relationships... I have been single, I have been in dynamics etc.. I offer myself into couples, I offer couples into my dynamics whether it be single or with my FwB... I'm recently into a relationship at the moment who is open to the idea of experimenting. My point is, sexual experiences are fluid and are like liquid... they move and flow and adapt and to me, are just as valid in the lifestyle. Just because a single person can't offer anything to swap, in theory, doesn't make them any less of a swinger if they are involved with the lifestyle and people that seek them? Take bulls and unicorns for example... are they any less of swingers? Oooooh I like your points and it's making me think - thank you! I suppose I'm coming from the viewpoint that I share what is most precious to me , my man , and that's what I see as swinging, the opportunity, vulnerability and openess to share my most precious and loved man for yours and my pleasure. I think being single makes you available to be welcomed into a swinging dynamic, one in which you don't need to share your most precious person, but can be welcomed into that dynamic for everyone's pleasure. Doesn't make you a swinger but makes you part of a swinging dynamic xxx" You're very welcome 😎 I mean, I have swapped... I have been swapped. But now I am single, am I no longer a swinger? If by the virtue that only 'couples' with something to offer and swap are classed as swingers. Does it make me any less or no longer a swinger? I don't think it matters..I class myself as a swinger but I don't really care or overthink it. With my new partner, we probably will swap and look for our first unicorn experience as our new couple develops | |||
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"Absolutely If you're a single man or single female, you can still be classed as a swinger. I have met ladies and couples within a short succession of each other, and been invited to join couples etc.. it's an honour and a privilege for a couple to invite me into their dynamic. Likewise, I have been to clubs with FwB's of mine and done things. I think single people can be discussed and classed as swingers just as much as a couples who share their partners. I mean, if you were single and became a couple, would you swap? Everyone has their own way of navigating and living how they see fit.. it's the taking part that counts but at the end of the day, who really cares? It's the lifestyle we enjoy, not the label Can I ask, as a single, what are you sharing ? I have been in and out of swinging relationships... I have been single, I have been in dynamics etc.. I offer myself into couples, I offer couples into my dynamics whether it be single or with my FwB... I'm recently into a relationship at the moment who is open to the idea of experimenting. My point is, sexual experiences are fluid and are like liquid... they move and flow and adapt and to me, are just as valid in the lifestyle. Just because a single person can't offer anything to swap, in theory, doesn't make them any less of a swinger if they are involved with the lifestyle and people that seek them? Take bulls and unicorns for example... are they any less of swingers? Oooooh I like your points and it's making me think - thank you! I suppose I'm coming from the viewpoint that I share what is most precious to me , my man , and that's what I see as swinging, the opportunity, vulnerability and openess to share my most precious and loved man for yours and my pleasure. I think being single makes you available to be welcomed into a swinging dynamic, one in which you don't need to share your most precious person, but can be welcomed into that dynamic for everyone's pleasure. Doesn't make you a swinger but makes you part of a swinging dynamic xxx You're very welcome 😎 I mean, I have swapped... I have been swapped. But now I am single, am I no longer a swinger? If by the virtue that only 'couples' with something to offer and swap are classed as swingers. Does it make me any less or no longer a swinger? I don't think it matters..I class myself as a swinger but I don't really care or overthink it. With my new partner, we probably will swap and look for our first unicorn experience as our new couple develops" Oooo this is good 🌟 Yeah I hadn't thought of the 'once swapped' point of view Hmmmmm I don't think it matters either, I think the only thing that matters as a couple swapping is that its understood how much we're giving away as such But once you've been there you get it | |||
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"I don't consider myself a swinger as I don't go to clubs. I'm just here for the causal one on one sex. Fucking love you ❤️" We should do some loving over rum one day | |||
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"Absolutely If you're a single man or single female, you can still be classed as a swinger. I have met ladies and couples within a short succession of each other, and been invited to join couples etc.. it's an honour and a privilege for a couple to invite me into their dynamic. Likewise, I have been to clubs with FwB's of mine and done things. I think single people can be discussed and classed as swingers just as much as a couples who share their partners. I mean, if you were single and became a couple, would you swap? Everyone has their own way of navigating and living how they see fit.. it's the taking part that counts but at the end of the day, who really cares? It's the lifestyle we enjoy, not the label Can I ask, as a single, what are you sharing ? I have been in and out of swinging relationships... I have been single, I have been in dynamics etc.. I offer myself into couples, I offer couples into my dynamics whether it be single or with my FwB... I'm recently into a relationship at the moment who is open to the idea of experimenting. My point is, sexual experiences are fluid and are like liquid... they move and flow and adapt and to me, are just as valid in the lifestyle. Just because a single person can't offer anything to swap, in theory, doesn't make them any less of a swinger if they are involved with the lifestyle and people that seek them? Take bulls and unicorns for example... are they any less of swingers? Oooooh I like your points and it's making me think - thank you! I suppose I'm coming from the viewpoint that I share what is most precious to me , my man , and that's what I see as swinging, the opportunity, vulnerability and openess to share my most precious and loved man for yours and my pleasure. I think being single makes you available to be welcomed into a swinging dynamic, one in which you don't need to share your most precious person, but can be welcomed into that dynamic for everyone's pleasure. Doesn't make you a swinger but makes you part of a swinging dynamic xxx You're very welcome 😎 I mean, I have swapped... I have been swapped. But now I am single, am I no longer a swinger? If by the virtue that only 'couples' with something to offer and swap are classed as swingers. Does it make me any less or no longer a swinger? I don't think it matters..I class myself as a swinger but I don't really care or overthink it. With my new partner, we probably will swap and look for our first unicorn experience as our new couple develops Oooo this is good 🌟 Yeah I hadn't thought of the 'once swapped' point of view Hmmmmm I don't think it matters either, I think the only thing that matters as a couple swapping is that its understood how much we're giving away as such But once you've been there you get it " Oh absolutely, I understand everything about the lifestyle. Also, I think it's important that couples 'reclaim' or 're-unite' with each other after a swapping exchange. Personally, and it's just my opinion I guess. But it's just about clear communication and understanding boundaries on both parts. As long as everyone is smiling and OK, I'm happy 😎✌️ | |||
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"I don't consider myself a swinger as I don't go to clubs. I'm just here for the causal one on one sex. Fucking love you ❤️ We should do some loving over rum one day" Rum, loving, pj's, hashbrowns, messy hair and no fucks given sounds pretty fucking epic | |||
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"Absolutely If you're a single man or single female, you can still be classed as a swinger. I have met ladies and couples within a short succession of each other, and been invited to join couples etc.. it's an honour and a privilege for a couple to invite me into their dynamic. Likewise, I have been to clubs with FwB's of mine and done things. I think single people can be discussed and classed as swingers just as much as a couples who share their partners. I mean, if you were single and became a couple, would you swap? Everyone has their own way of navigating and living how they see fit.. it's the taking part that counts but at the end of the day, who really cares? It's the lifestyle we enjoy, not the label Can I ask, as a single, what are you sharing ? I have been in and out of swinging relationships... I have been single, I have been in dynamics etc.. I offer myself into couples, I offer couples into my dynamics whether it be single or with my FwB... I'm recently into a relationship at the moment who is open to the idea of experimenting. My point is, sexual experiences are fluid and are like liquid... they move and flow and adapt and to me, are just as valid in the lifestyle. Just because a single person can't offer anything to swap, in theory, doesn't make them any less of a swinger if they are involved with the lifestyle and people that seek them? Take bulls and unicorns for example... are they any less of swingers? Oooooh I like your points and it's making me think - thank you! I suppose I'm coming from the viewpoint that I share what is most precious to me , my man , and that's what I see as swinging, the opportunity, vulnerability and openess to share my most precious and loved man for yours and my pleasure. I think being single makes you available to be welcomed into a swinging dynamic, one in which you don't need to share your most precious person, but can be welcomed into that dynamic for everyone's pleasure. Doesn't make you a swinger but makes you part of a swinging dynamic xxx You're very welcome 😎 I mean, I have swapped... I have been swapped. But now I am single, am I no longer a swinger? If by the virtue that only 'couples' with something to offer and swap are classed as swingers. Does it make me any less or no longer a swinger? I don't think it matters..I class myself as a swinger but I don't really care or overthink it. With my new partner, we probably will swap and look for our first unicorn experience as our new couple develops Oooo this is good 🌟 Yeah I hadn't thought of the 'once swapped' point of view Hmmmmm I don't think it matters either, I think the only thing that matters as a couple swapping is that its understood how much we're giving away as such But once you've been there you get it Oh absolutely, I understand everything about the lifestyle. Also, I think it's important that couples 'reclaim' or 're-unite' with each other after a swapping exchange. Personally, and it's just my opinion I guess. But it's just about clear communication and understanding boundaries on both parts. As long as everyone is smiling and OK, I'm happy 😎✌️" Thank you so much for your responses ❤️🌟❤️ Made me really smile 😊 S xxx | |||
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"I don't consider myself a swinger as I don't go to clubs. I'm just here for the causal one on one sex. Fucking love you ❤️ We should do some loving over rum one day Rum, loving, pj's, hashbrowns, messy hair and no fucks given sounds pretty fucking epic "Oh you had me with hashbrowns ❤️ | |||
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"For me - no labels, if you like you fuck if you don't you don't. Yes but you could say that about a dating website - I'm asking what your take on being a Swinger is ? What differentiates it from a general vanilla hook up site? " There isn't any, but a 'vanilla' site is likely to be very much weighted towards singles hookup where as this site has less barriers to threes/groups or whatever | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. " As a swinger - what do you share ? | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. As a swinger - what do you share ? " Technically, there's no mention of 'sharing' Dictionary Definitions from Oxford Languages · Learn more noun 1. informal a lively and fashionable person who goes to a lot of social events. "one of the oldest swingers in town" 2. informal a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners. "a twilight world of swingers and wife-swapping" | |||
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"Then suppose I just feel I'm giving more away than a random sexual encounter " Absolutely 💯% sharing your partner is probably the highest tier of 'swinging' .. but I think there are different levels of swinging, all encompassed into the same term.. you can be a swinger without having a partner to offer indy the mix. I have the highest respect for couples that are strong together and understand the lifestyle x | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. As a swinger - what do you share ? " Myself.... | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. As a swinger - what do you share ? Myself.... " As I do, but I also share my man | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. As a swinger - what do you share ? Myself.... As I do, but I also share my man " Yes but this thread is about swinging not sharing. | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. As a swinger - what do you share ? Myself.... As I do, but I also share my man Yes but this thread is about swinging not sharing." My point is the act of swinging is sharing your partner...... | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. As a swinger - what do you share ? Myself.... As I do, but I also share my man Yes but this thread is about swinging not sharing. My point is the act of swinging is sharing your partner......" And engaging in group sex as per definition | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. As a swinger - what do you share ? Myself.... As I do, but I also share my man Yes but this thread is about swinging not sharing. My point is the act of swinging is sharing your partner...... And engaging in group sex as per definition " Group sex as a single is not sharing your partner- it's being involved in group sex | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. As a swinger - what do you share ? Myself.... As I do, but I also share my man Yes but this thread is about swinging not sharing. My point is the act of swinging is sharing your partner...... And engaging in group sex as per definition Group sex as a single is not sharing your partner- it's being involved in group sex " You don't need to have a partner to engage in group sex You asked for opinions and that's mine, | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. As a swinger - what do you share ? Myself.... As I do, but I also share my man Yes but this thread is about swinging not sharing. My point is the act of swinging is sharing your partner...... And engaging in group sex as per definition Group sex as a single is not sharing your partner- it's being involved in group sex You don't need to have a partner to engage in group sex You asked for opinions and that's mine, " And I like your opinion - it's making me think 😊 You don't need a partner to engage in group sex - 100% but you need a partner to swap | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. As a swinger - what do you share ? Myself.... As I do, but I also share my man Yes but this thread is about swinging not sharing. My point is the act of swinging is sharing your partner...... And engaging in group sex as per definition Group sex as a single is not sharing your partner- it's being involved in group sex You don't need to have a partner to engage in group sex You asked for opinions and that's mine, And I like your opinion - it's making me think 😊 You don't need a partner to engage in group sex - 100% but you need a partner to swap" But you don't need a partner to be classed as a 'swinger', it would seem... As stated.. it's all hashbrowns, rum, boobs and cookies... it doesn't really matter 😎 | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. As a swinger - what do you share ? Myself.... As I do, but I also share my man Yes but this thread is about swinging not sharing. My point is the act of swinging is sharing your partner...... And engaging in group sex as per definition Group sex as a single is not sharing your partner- it's being involved in group sex You don't need to have a partner to engage in group sex You asked for opinions and that's mine, And I like your opinion - it's making me think 😊 You don't need a partner to engage in group sex - 100% but you need a partner to swap" Swapping is an aspect of swinging sure... But the definition from Google says; 'The practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis' Why can it not be both swapping and engaging, either or depending on status? | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. As a swinger - what do you share ? Myself.... As I do, but I also share my man Yes but this thread is about swinging not sharing. My point is the act of swinging is sharing your partner...... And engaging in group sex as per definition Group sex as a single is not sharing your partner- it's being involved in group sex You don't need to have a partner to engage in group sex You asked for opinions and that's mine, And I like your opinion - it's making me think 😊 You don't need a partner to engage in group sex - 100% but you need a partner to swap But you don't need a partner to be classed as a 'swinger', it would seem... As stated.. it's all hashbrowns, rum, boobs and cookies... it doesn't really matter 😎" This is also true What can I say, I'm a lost Swinger in a sea of swinging do', dont's, abbreviations and meanings It really doesn't matter I think I got a little protective for a second for personal reasons about what a Swinger is due to some recent comments (not on this thread) When actually none of it matters We're all just liberated souls, with allowances, permissions and acceptances to do whatever makes us happy Whatever our dynamic our acceptance into this world should be welcome with open arms and understanding, S xxx | |||
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"I do class myself as a swinger yes. I embrace the lifestyle through clubs and playmates. As a swinger - what do you share ? Myself.... As I do, but I also share my man Yes but this thread is about swinging not sharing. My point is the act of swinging is sharing your partner...... And engaging in group sex as per definition Group sex as a single is not sharing your partner- it's being involved in group sex You don't need to have a partner to engage in group sex You asked for opinions and that's mine, And I like your opinion - it's making me think 😊 You don't need a partner to engage in group sex - 100% but you need a partner to swap Swapping is an aspect of swinging sure... But the definition from Google says; 'The practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis' Why can it not be both swapping and engaging, either or depending on status? " ❤️❤️❤️ | |||
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"Don’t have a partner, so are you saying single guys are wrong OP?" Wrong - not at all I just thought you're maybe not also sharing your life long partner so could possibly be not sacrificing as much | |||
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"Don’t have a partner, so are you saying single guys are wrong OP? Wrong - not at all I just thought you're maybe not also sharing your life long partner so could possibly be not sacrificing as much " She’s dead so sharing is a bit of an issue | |||
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"Don’t have a partner, so are you saying single guys are wrong OP? Wrong - not at all I just thought you're maybe not also sharing your life long partner so could possibly be not sacrificing as much " Should you be doing it if you feel you're sacrificing something? | |||
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"Don’t have a partner, so are you saying single guys are wrong OP? Wrong - not at all I just thought you're maybe not also sharing your life long partner so could possibly be not sacrificing as much She’s dead so sharing is a bit of an issue " That would prove an issue And not one I'm asking you to do | |||
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"Don’t have a partner, so are you saying single guys are wrong OP? Wrong - not at all I just thought you're maybe not also sharing your life long partner so could possibly be not sacrificing as much Should you be doing it if you feel you're sacrificing something?" Most definitely, with people who have an understanding of what it means to share your partner- I suppose this is why we mainly look for couples | |||
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 however, I completely and totally understand where you are coming from S xx | |||
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"Don’t have a partner, so are you saying single guys are wrong OP? Wrong - not at all I just thought you're maybe not also sharing your life long partner so could possibly be not sacrificing as much " I think I understand now. It must take a lot of trust and soul searching to commit to sharing your partner... I guess that's what you mean by 'sacrifice' I guess others don't see that, or know what you have gone through to get to that point. | |||
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"If swinging was exclusively for 'couples' only, then Fabswingers wouldn't give the option for single male or single female profiles to be created 😎 Sharing and swinging are two different definitions, it would seem however, I completely and totally understand where you are coming from S xx"Thank you 😊 xx | |||
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"If swinging was exclusively for 'couples' only, then Fabswingers wouldn't give the option for single male or single female profiles to be created 😎 Sharing and swinging are two different definitions, it would seem however, I completely and totally understand where you are coming from S xx"And clubs wouldn't allow single people entry | |||
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"Don’t have a partner, so are you saying single guys are wrong OP? Wrong - not at all I just thought you're maybe not also sharing your life long partner so could possibly be not sacrificing as much I think I understand now. It must take a lot of trust and soul searching to commit to sharing your partner... I guess that's what you mean by 'sacrifice' I guess others don't see that, or know what you have gone through to get to that point." This comment means everything - thank you ❤️ | |||
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"Don’t have a partner, so are you saying single guys are wrong OP? Wrong - not at all I just thought you're maybe not also sharing your life long partner so could possibly be not sacrificing as much I think I understand now. It must take a lot of trust and soul searching to commit to sharing your partner... I guess that's what you mean by 'sacrifice' I guess others don't see that, or know what you have gone through to get to that point. This comment means everything - thank you ❤️" You're welcome, it's all about perspective, perception and empathy. And not like you can explain to the people sharing about your journey and what it took to get there I'm not in a relationship, but have been prior so I do understand  | |||
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"What I think people don’t necessarily take into account is the role of a single person with a couple Whilst they are not sharing a partner they are sharing emotions and desire of two people. This is hard I will no longer play with couples. When I did and once sex was complete I was very much felt like a bit part player who was not entitled or allowed the emotions as I was not part of the couple. In some ways I felt dismissed and used " It's a shame your post was overlooked. I came to say the same thing. Couples often ask for the respect of a single joining them. Indeed this thread has time and time again reinforced that the couple is sharing something precious but singles? Nah they're just having a threesome. Joining a couple IS bloody difficult. It can be a minefield to navigate. It can be emotionally and mentally challenging. Of course one would hope fulfilling too, but please don't think that because we aren't "sharing a partner" with you, that we aren't giving you a huge part of ourselves. And, like this poster has quite astutely pointed out, we're often cast aside like an unwelcome intrusion when it's over. | |||
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"What I think people don’t necessarily take into account is the role of a single person with a couple Whilst they are not sharing a partner they are sharing emotions and desire of two people. This is hard I will no longer play with couples. When I did and once sex was complete I was very much felt like a bit part player who was not entitled or allowed the emotions as I was not part of the couple. In some ways I felt dismissed and used It's a shame your post was overlooked. I came to say the same thing. Couples often ask for the respect of a single joining them. Indeed this thread has time and time again reinforced that the couple is sharing something precious but singles? Nah they're just having a threesome. Joining a couple IS bloody difficult. It can be a minefield to navigate. It can be emotionally and mentally challenging. Of course one would hope fulfilling too, but please don't think that because we aren't "sharing a partner" with you, that we aren't giving you a huge part of ourselves. And, like this poster has quite astutely pointed out, we're often cast aside like an unwelcome intrusion when it's over." This is eloquently put and spot on | |||
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"What I think people don’t necessarily take into account is the role of a single person with a couple Whilst they are not sharing a partner they are sharing emotions and desire of two people. This is hard I will no longer play with couples. When I did and once sex was complete I was very much felt like a bit part player who was not entitled or allowed the emotions as I was not part of the couple. In some ways I felt dismissed and used It's a shame your post was overlooked. I came to say the same thing. Couples often ask for the respect of a single joining them. Indeed this thread has time and time again reinforced that the couple is sharing something precious but singles? Nah they're just having a threesome. Joining a couple IS bloody difficult. It can be a minefield to navigate. It can be emotionally and mentally challenging. Of course one would hope fulfilling too, but please don't think that because we aren't "sharing a partner" with you, that we aren't giving you a huge part of ourselves. And, like this poster has quite astutely pointed out, we're often cast aside like an unwelcome intrusion when it's over."  | |||
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"Some serious overthinking going on here. Singles, Couples, Throuples, Moreples ...who cares about labels. We simply enjoy consensual and imaginative sexual play with those we are not in a relationship with. You can call it sleeping around, hooking up or swinging, it really doesn't change a thing." ⬆️ Nailed it | |||
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"Don’t have a partner, so are you saying single guys are wrong OP? Wrong - not at all I just thought you're maybe not also sharing your life long partner so could possibly be not sacrificing as much Should you be doing it if you feel you're sacrificing something?" This. It’s an informed consensual decision between a couple. If you feel you’re sacrificing your partner then that’s a dodgy starting point | |||
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"Mr here... If we're talking about fabber's understanding of "swinger" rather than looking at a dictionary definition, then... To me, swinging is a version of, or involves sharing. To be in a position to swing (share) means you have something to share. Singles - men or women - don't have anything to share, do they? In a couple, the woman shares her man with another woman/man/group, or the man shares his woman with another man/woman/group. I've asked about this before - is a single arriving to a swinger event like arriving to a party with no beer of their own, hoping to drink someone else's beer? A swinger couple is coming to that party with the express intention of sharing their beer. Or letting someone else drink their beer while they watch. Would a single "swinger" exist without the dictionary definition of swingers (couples who swap/share)? Of course this is all just about labels. We've been really turned on by watching & being watched, without swapping. Sharing may be on the cards for us at some point, but currently we've no intention of swapping. But there are two of us - I COULD share Mrs, she COULD share me. Obviously couples look for singles to join them. In this exchange, IMO the couple are swingers, but I'm not sure I personally see the label "swinger" applying to the single. But then... what about a group of singles who regularly swap or vary who within the group they sleep with...
Hmmm... "This makes total sense and I agree with ut mostly. I think the definition has mutated over the past few years though. For instance, in your definition of swinging there would be no such thing as a greedy girls gang bang... unless a lucky guy somewhere is getting it on with 20 women. I don't even think I would have managed that in my early 20s. | |||
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"Mr here... If we're talking about fabber's understanding of "swinger" rather than looking at a dictionary definition, then... To me, swinging is a version of, or involves sharing. To be in a position to swing (share) means you have something to share. Singles - men or women - don't have anything to share, do they? In a couple, the woman shares her man with another woman/man/group, or the man shares his woman with another man/woman/group. I've asked about this before - is a single arriving to a swinger event like arriving to a party with no beer of their own, hoping to drink someone else's beer? A swinger couple is coming to that party with the express intention of sharing their beer. Or letting someone else drink their beer while they watch. Would a single "swinger" exist without the dictionary definition of swingers (couples who swap/share)? Of course this is all just about labels. We've been really turned on by watching & being watched, without swapping. Sharing may be on the cards for us at some point, but currently we've no intention of swapping. But there are two of us - I COULD share Mrs, she COULD share me. Obviously couples look for singles to join them. In this exchange, IMO the couple are swingers, but I'm not sure I personally see the label "swinger" applying to the single. But then... what about a group of singles who regularly swap or vary who within the group they sleep with...
Hmmm... "And all this further underlines why some couples find it difficult to find a single person to join them especially a single woman. The commoditising of singles is strong here. | |||
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"I've asked about this before - is a single arriving to a swinger event like arriving to a party with no beer of their own, hoping to drink someone else's beer?" This sounds like you think of a couple more like a M/s relationship, where one person "owns" the other (like you would a beer) and is attending a swingers event to share that property with other "owners". Which.. I mean, I'm into that, but I'm explicitly in such a relationship. | |||
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"Mr here... If we're talking about fabber's understanding of "swinger" rather than looking at a dictionary definition, then... To me, swinging is a version of, or involves sharing. To be in a position to swing (share) means you have something to share. Singles - men or women - don't have anything to share, do they? In a couple, the woman shares her man with another woman/man/group, or the man shares his woman with another man/woman/group. I've asked about this before - is a single arriving to a swinger event like arriving to a party with no beer of their own, hoping to drink someone else's beer? A swinger couple is coming to that party with the express intention of sharing their beer. Or letting someone else drink their beer while they watch. Would a single "swinger" exist without the dictionary definition of swingers (couples who swap/share)? Of course this is all just about labels. We've been really turned on by watching & being watched, without swapping. Sharing may be on the cards for us at some point, but currently we've no intention of swapping. But there are two of us - I COULD share Mrs, she COULD share me. Obviously couples look for singles to join them. In this exchange, IMO the couple are swingers, but I'm not sure I personally see the label "swinger" applying to the single. But then... what about a group of singles who regularly swap or vary who within the group they sleep with...
Hmmm... "Anyone can be a swinger. Couple single, throuple, poly, ENM. Nobody owns the concept. If you want to have a label for couples then just call it wife swapping. But then the question is, why was it never called 'husband swapping' instead? Because of outdated notions that women in the scene are a more valuable commodity, whether in a couple or as a single 'unicorn' (and I kinda hate that word too 🤦♂️) Many couples play separately. So they effectively become two singles. But singles have an equal and valid claim to be swingers should they choose. It's both a mindset and activity related. Just meeting for 1 on 1's could be argued to simply being casual sex or hooking up. But attending clubs and events, being involved in the social side of swinging, meeting a variety of people regularly....yep, as much swinging as any couple. As to the question the OP asked several times about what does a single share? They share themselves. The same way a straight couple may share themselves with one other person when meeting another straight couple. I've personally never been a fan of any kind of hierarchy or league table for who is/isn't a swinger and who are the top dogs. It's an open lifestyle and nobody is more special or important than anyone else. 🤷♂️ | |||
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"Mr here... If we're talking about fabber's understanding of "swinger" rather than looking at a dictionary definition, then... To me, swinging is a version of, or involves sharing. To be in a position to swing (share) means you have something to share. Singles - men or women - don't have anything to share, do they? In a couple, the woman shares her man with another woman/man/group, or the man shares his woman with another man/woman/group. I've asked about this before - is a single arriving to a swinger event like arriving to a party with no beer of their own, hoping to drink someone else's beer? A swinger couple is coming to that party with the express intention of sharing their beer. Or letting someone else drink their beer while they watch. Would a single "swinger" exist without the dictionary definition of swingers (couples who swap/share)? Of course this is all just about labels. We've been really turned on by watching & being watched, without swapping. Sharing may be on the cards for us at some point, but currently we've no intention of swapping. But there are two of us - I COULD share Mrs, she COULD share me. Obviously couples look for singles to join them. In this exchange, IMO the couple are swingers, but I'm not sure I personally see the label "swinger" applying to the single. But then... what about a group of singles who regularly swap or vary who within the group they sleep with...
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Anyone can be a swinger. Couple single, throuple, poly, ENM.
Nobody owns the concept.
If you want to have a label for couples then just call it wife swapping. But then the question is, why was it never called 'husband swapping' instead? Because of outdated notions that women in the scene are a more valuable commodity, whether in a couple or as a single 'unicorn' (and I kinda hate that word too 🤦♂️)
Many couples play separately. So they effectively become two singles.
But singles have an equal and valid claim to be swingers should they choose. It's both a mindset and activity related. Just meeting for 1 on 1's could be argued to simply being casual sex or hooking up. But attending clubs and events, being involved in the social side of swinging, meeting a variety of people regularly....yep, as much swinging as any couple.
As to the question the OP asked several times about what does a single share? They share themselves. The same way a straight couple may share themselves with one other person when meeting another straight couple.
I've personally never been a fan of any kind of hierarchy or league table for who is/isn't a swinger and who are the top dogs.
It's an open lifestyle and nobody is more special or important than anyone else. 🤷♂️" | |||
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"I imagine it's much harder for a single to navigate the swinger world than a couple. A couple has each other for support - they're each each other's wingman. I'd DREAD going to a swinger event as a single man. I agree that neither labels nor definitions matter much - all that matters is that fun & respect go hand-in-hand. We LOVED the handful of nights we visited Vanilla in Dublin. Hope they re-open soon or that a similar alternative emerges." Can’t really describe my first couple of times at a club in my own. It’s very awkward, very different, a bit strange and very self conscious and pushing on to try and at least talk to some people. Maybe easier for couples maybe isn’t, but my assumption would be that you’re not alone, you st least have someone to talk to and that it may be a bit less of a thing. But, takes a little bit of being up for it, a little bit of bravery and being willing to try, but can understand going once and not going back. Looking back on it. Something I wanted to do, something I wasn’t sure about and glad I did. | |||
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"We had this very duscussion.here tonight...traditionally i thought it was wife swapping, keys in the bowl thing...but we have met many single blokes.doesnt matter to us " I dunno. I think different people see and perceive things based on their experiences and the OPs post was about sacrifices and things like that. Wife swapping, consensual non monogamous meetings or relationships, ethical non monogamy, single people who are participating in polyamory? If we tried defining something that covered everyone’s reason for being on fab, we’d be down a rabbit hole. | |||
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"I imagine it's much harder for a single to navigate the swinger world than a couple. A couple has each other for support - they're each each other's wingman. I'd DREAD going to a swinger event as a single man. I agree that neither labels nor definitions matter much - all that matters is that fun & respect go hand-in-hand. We LOVED the handful of nights we visited Vanilla in Dublin. Hope they re-open soon or that a similar alternative emerges." I'd say the opposite tbh. You only have to worry about your own interests, preferences and attractions. There's no issue with having to find others that you're BOTH happy with. Never any concern about the whole 'taking one for the team' debate when there's not equal attraction. Never any concern that a partner will get insecure about the other party's involvement. No discussion between you about boundaries, limits and what you're looking for. You only have yourself to worry about. Swinging as a single is considerably easier than as a couple. 🤷♂️ | |||
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"I imagine it's much harder for a single to navigate the swinger world than a couple. A couple has each other for support - they're each each other's wingman. I'd DREAD going to a swinger event as a single man. I agree that neither labels nor definitions matter much - all that matters is that fun & respect go hand-in-hand. We LOVED the handful of nights we visited Vanilla in Dublin. Hope they re-open soon or that a similar alternative emerges. I'd say the opposite tbh. You only have to worry about your own interests, preferences and attractions. There's no issue with having to find others that you're BOTH happy with. Never any concern about the whole 'taking one for the team' debate when there's not equal attraction. Never any concern that a partner will get insecure about the other party's involvement. No discussion between you about boundaries, limits and what you're looking for. You only have yourself to worry about. Swinging as a single is considerably easier than as a couple. 🤷♂️" So basically, it's less hassle being single! I hear you.  | |||
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"Genuine question Are you only a Swinger if you swap and share partners? Are singles looking for sexual interactions any less of a Swinger? Is the swinging lifestyle, community etc whatever you want to call it, used a hook-up site for some and as a genuine partner sharing experience for others What is swinging in your eyes ? Open discussion with no Ill intent just genuine curiosity S xxx" I view proper swingers as couples not singles. Swinging was created originally from wife swapping couples | |||
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