FabSwingers.com forum: Can 'Veri's' be a problem/hurtful?

By *_Mr.K_x OP Man
2 weeks ago

North Worcestershire

Good morning all,

Just an open ended discussion on people's opinions and experiences?

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By *rdere OpusCouple
2 weeks ago

Brum - ish

I’ve never seen (or received so far!) a bad one. Although I’ve noticed quite perfunctory ones when browsing profiles - which I guess might feel deflating if you could take a steer on lack of chemistry from that.

I’ve heard of people feeling put out by glowing meet veris received by people they thought they were seeing exclusively, whether accurately or not. I guess that could feel hurtful!

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
2 weeks ago

Wales

I think it's weird.

Like a trip advisor review.

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By *nomeforyourboneWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

Not really because no one would ever show a veri that didn't paint them in the best light. What I would say is if people are going to display veris claiming they are the greatest gift to vaginas.. then they need to back it up in person, expectations can be harmful that way.

Also I've seen a few people get mad that a veri hasn't been left so guess it's harmful to their self-esteem. If they need me to tell the world we had a good time then cool but personally I don't need or want them.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
2 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Personally I find looking at the profiles of the people that left the verification more of a deciding factor than the actual verification.

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By *iker JackMan
2 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

For me a veri should be that the person is real and looks like what they say they do

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By *itygamesMan
2 weeks ago

sex life /meets are personal/private.

no need for them..

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By *anonfire96Man
2 weeks ago

Mansfield

I very rarely read veries to be honest, I've never asked for or actually given one. If I see too many I tend to steer clear of that profile. I'm more inclined to look at a profile if they have been photo verified by Admin. But not exclusively so. I'd much sooner video chat on WhatsApp before we meet than rely on veries. My first profile on here was closed by me but reappeared a few weeks later complete with veries and my old pics.

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

My friend had problems with a women that used to message men she had met and telling them not to meet her again as she had sti's and also messaged random men saying the same thing.

My friend never knew this girl she just took it apon herself to act that way

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

My favourite ever veri I read was one that just said "HE SHOWED UP"

I don't really care about them in general. But that one tickled me 💜

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By *ellhungvweMan
2 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Veris are generally fine. They can be a useful filter. I have never had an issue with them but then I feel I am pretty good at ing out the weirdos in the first place.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

I value them for helping me to determine whether someone might be reliable. Sexual content is as bad as multiple people in a single man's profile pics.

They may be covert messages, if you can read between the lines. What's not been said may be vital but the covert author needs to use good, helpful code and the recipient oblivious to it, to subsequently display it

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By *rHotNottsMan
2 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think it’s very weird in the forum, but for wider fab that dont do forum it’s very normal & part of what happens, and hardly ever an issue

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By *eordieJeansCouple
2 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I think it’s very weird in the forum, but for wider fab that dont do forum it’s very normal & part of what happens, and hardly ever an issue "

That can be said for a lot of things on here. Us forum folk are a weird bunch.

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By *nsaneronMan
2 weeks ago

denmead

Lots of profiles say they won’t meet someone unless they’ve had verifications. Trouble with them when someone leaves the vari goes

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By *urls and DressesWoman
2 weeks ago

Somewhere near here

I don’t like how veris become kiss and tell, I really don’t want to read the graphic details of what they did in the bedroom. Veris are sure verification that someone is real and reassurance that they’re safe.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
2 weeks ago

walsall

They’re crass, rating people like an eBay purchase.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
2 weeks ago

cardiff

They are awful, pointless, meaningless, a waste of time, and yes 'crass'

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

I've never been put off anyone by a lack of them.

I have however been put off a lot by reading them.

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By *ark742024Man
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

I’m not a fan of them

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By *urious249Man
2 weeks ago

Newry

"I've never been put off anyone by a lack of them.

I have however been put off a lot by reading them.

I get put off when I see they have like 50+ verifications. To me that just means more sexual partners = more potential risk of catching something. I do prefer seeing they have a small handful of verifications confirming the person is who they say they are.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
2 weeks ago

your head

Yes they can cause a lot of drama. I don't like them personally. It feels like trip advisor.

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

"I've never been put off anyone by a lack of them.

I have however been put off a lot by reading them.

Just one which makes me 🤮 and I'm out.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
2 weeks ago

Next Door

I've had drama from veris from gents and ladies. They can and have caused jealous reactions.

I don't often show my veris, rarely given any or recieve any nowadays.

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By *ccasionallyNaughtyWoman
2 weeks ago

Sussex

Veris are one person's perspective of how they experienced spending time with the other person. I've met people who proudly displayed lots of veris about what a great shag they are and I personally found them dull / not sexy / crap in bed. What floats my boat might not float someone else's, and vice versa.

I rarely display any veris as I don't like the whole "oooooh you played with so-and-so, my friend played with him too" etc. I meet new playmates in clubs so whether they are verified or not is irrelevant as I don't check their fab profile before hitting the playroom with them 😉

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By *orthern BeardMan
2 weeks ago

Preston

Only problem I’ve had is them setting expectations that I’m going to be fireworks every time.

Some people might dig that but often it depends on the mood.

Think I prefer them when they’re written in a more classy manner than crass

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

I've had my time wasted by so many fantasists and arseholes on here, I tend to use veris as a way of determining if someone is real and likely to actually meet up instead of just wanting a quick wank and then disappear 🙄 if a single male profile with one photo and no veris messages me it's unlikely to get a response.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

Honestly, some veris can be off putting

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

"I've never been put off anyone by a lack of them.

I have however been put off a lot by reading them.

I have plenty of verifications, the majority of which are social verifications from people I've met and chatted with at club events, I've only had sex with about handful of people who have verified me most are just saying they've met me and I'm a nice person. Numbers count for nothing.

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By *elly72Woman
2 weeks ago

glasgow

I don’t show mine

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By *ripfillMan
2 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

Verifications are incredibly important to me

It’s sort of badge, it’s important should anyone drop in on a profile to know that the person has been there /done it /not been a time waster. But had made a positive contribution and impression

Why hide it !? It’s one way another person using fab can reserch !

For males on this platform its even more important to have credibility and stature

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I get put off when I see they have like 50+ verifications. To me that just means more sexual partners = more potential risk of catching something. I do prefer seeing they have a small handful of verifications confirming the person is who they say they are."

Oh I have over 50 meets on my verification summary.

A sum total of 8 people from them I've actually had sex with. The rest are all social and club veris. And those 8 are spread over several years. If 2-3 people a year is high risk to you, you may be looking on the wrong scene 💜

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
2 weeks ago

the moon

Veris are cliche because most are put in a good light .. you’ll never really see a bad one …

Also a bit of a conversation is the way I’ll sense if they’re what they say they are etc ….

Too many veris is also something that puts me off personally … less is more ..

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
2 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

Veris are only good in that they show someone has been seen and is the person in the photos, and maybe that someone met them and lived to tell the tale.

I’m not sure you can pay too much attention to what is written in them. I know I have left veris after a first meet when I’ve been flushed with admiration and then over time I’ve seen their true character emerge

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By *atinaChica54Woman
2 weeks ago

Marlborough

"Personally I find looking at the profiles of the people that left the verification more of a deciding factor than the actual verification."

This works for me also

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"Personally I find looking at the profiles of the people that left the verification more of a deciding factor than the actual verification.

This works for me also "

Agreed

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By *antasdeerideMan
2 weeks ago

winfrith

"Good morning all,

Just an open ended discussion on people's opinions and experiences?"
Yes they can due to the nature of what we do, we are intimate with people inso doing we develop feelings some more than others and the veris can be callous in that regard .

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
2 weeks ago

Cambs

Most of my verifications are from social events rather than sexual partners, I don't like verifications that read like trip advisor, but number of verifications doesn't mean anything it's the contents of them, they can actually be a pretty good filter for me.

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By *eliWoman
2 weeks ago

They've been hurtful to me once. Given I've been on for a decade that's pretty good going isn't it? Anyway, it's how I found out an ex was lying to me/cheating. Pretty helpful really.

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By *vaRose43Woman
2 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

I only look to see that someone is verified, I almost never read them and I choose not to display mine.

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By *eally_RosieWoman
2 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

If people have them I take it as a sign that they have actually showed up and been real, but not really interested in what they say. I am however, interested in who they are from.

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By *ealitybitesMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast

I don't have any play related veries and wouldn't display them if I did.

As long as people know I'm real and turn up and that I'm a decent person they don't need to know anything else.

I've never yet seen a verification that would encourage me to meet someone and I make up my own mind about people just from chatting to them.

I don't care how many others they have shagged or how good they are in bed.

I'm more interested in the type of company they keep so while the content of their verifications is irrelevant, the authors are not.

I always follow the verification trail to avoid potential drama.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
2 weeks ago

Leeds

It's literally pointless sending a bad veri because no one would display it.

I don't display sexual verifications I find the whole sexual trip advisor a huge turn off.

Mrs

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By *ltraVixenWoman
2 weeks ago

South Essex

I’ve just read a really odd one. I don’t know why he would post it.

I think they are important as it builds up a picture of the person and it saves you wasting your time xx

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I find that many people I meet, even just chance meetings at socials or on a night out, don't want a verification from me, as it's often more trouble for them than it's worth.

Even when I make it plain that we just had a fantastic time chatting and got on like a house on fire and that nothing sexual occurred, often there is a worry that people will assume that Mr is Bi and it will hurt their chances with couples.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
2 weeks ago

Herts

I'm just lucky I'm fantastic

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By *ishygirlWoman
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

I never read them to be honest. Like it’s been mentioned in the forum - it’s good that they authenticate that someone is who they say they are but I totally agree that it’s like TripAdvisor.

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By *midnight-Woman
2 weeks ago

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I love reading them

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By *ilentrunningMan
2 weeks ago

Cardiff/Reading/Liverpool &more

"Personally I find looking at the profiles of the people that left the verification more of a deciding factor than the actual verification."

Glad I’m not the only one that does this.

Also interesting to see how discreet people are in the veris they leave.

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By *a LunaWoman
2 weeks ago

South Wales

More “They turned up, I felt safe, they were hilariously funny and left me wanting more” and less “OMG his cock is so big you could see it from space!”

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By *abbergastedMan
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Personally I find looking at the profiles of the people that left the verification more of a deciding factor than the actual verification."

This

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By *olinOfBathMan
2 weeks ago

Corsham

Oh I have over 50 meets on my verification summary.

Exactly this. I'm told that I have more than most single chaps, but I've been on Fab for five years. Also, I'd guess that at least 5% to 10% are purely social, from clubs.

As for the Trip Advisor aspect, words like "respect" and "gentleman" mean much more to me than any comments about my alleged sexual talents.

The clue is in the name: Verification. It was created as a safety feature, to confirm the honesty of a profile, not as a rating system.

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