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"Welcome! Yes, it definitely does have regulars. A lot of people have got to know each other through posting here and also from group socials. " ah I see, I always get that kind of vibe! I’m not on her daily but I try to post now and again! It’s nice to get to know you all to Be honest! Do forum meet up groups happen often? | |||
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if there’s a midlands forums meet up drop me a invite | |||
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"Wow I wasn’t expecting such a warm welcome thank you everyone that commented that makes allot of sense! I’ll just keep at it on the forums and I hope to see you all chatting about lots of filthy fab topics soon if there’s a midlands forums meet up drop me a invite "Have a look at the ‘Meets, requests and parties’ forum and you can see/search for socials nearby. | |||
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I think it’s a friendly place, in the lounge anyway | |||
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"Wow I wasn’t expecting such a warm welcome thank you everyone that commented that makes allot of sense! I’ll just keep at it on the forums and I hope to see you all chatting about lots of filthy fab topics soon if there’s a midlands forums meet up drop me a invite "You’ve been posting on the forums for over 6 months? | |||
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"Don’t worry, OP, I don’t know any of these guys but post my shit regularly. We’ll be odd ones out together "I’ve had to tape up my letterbox. | |||
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"Yeah it’s very cliquey OP - hence messages tend to get ignored and there’s a lot of in jokes. Nothing you can do about it sadly. " There are far more in jokes and actual long lived connections/friendships than actual cliques. Very few actually exclude others, but like minded individuals regulars or not will always band together to challenge those that quite clearly and often try to intentionally cause controversy and air poor taste views. I've had people tell me I'm part of the clique in the past. Yet I often, despite having been around for years, can get ignored in posts and threads just as much as any newcomer. It's just highly personality based and takes time for people to be noticed and associated as a recognisable personality and individual. You need to put effort in to be noticed. | |||
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"Yeah it’s very cliquey OP - hence messages tend to get ignored and there’s a lot of in jokes. Nothing you can do about it sadly. There are far more in jokes and actual long lived connections/friendships than actual cliques. Very few actually exclude others, but like minded individuals regulars or not will always band together to challenge those that quite clearly and often try to intentionally cause controversy and air poor taste views. I've had people tell me I'm part of the clique in the past. Yet I often, despite having been around for years, can get ignored in posts and threads just as much as any newcomer. It's just highly personality based and takes time for people to be noticed and associated as a recognisable personality and individual. You need to put effort in to be noticed. " I just post what I post | |||
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"Yeah it’s very cliquey OP - hence messages tend to get ignored and there’s a lot of in jokes. Nothing you can do about it sadly. There are far more in jokes and actual long lived connections/friendships than actual cliques. Very few actually exclude others, but like minded individuals regulars or not will always band together to challenge those that quite clearly and often try to intentionally cause controversy and air poor taste views. I've had people tell me I'm part of the clique in the past. Yet I often, despite having been around for years, can get ignored in posts and threads just as much as any newcomer. It's just highly personality based and takes time for people to be noticed and associated as a recognisable personality and individual. You need to put effort in to be noticed. " That's exactly it | |||
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"Don’t worry, OP, I don’t know any of these guys but post my shit regularly. We’ll be odd ones out together
I’ve had to tape up my letterbox."I sent those parcels with love 🙄 | |||
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"Dont evoke the wrath of the clique." SSSsssshhhhh! Whatever you do don't mention the Clique  | |||
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Why do you think those "i fancy you" forums are so popular!? | |||
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"Definitely regulars lol Hiyah.. I like forums because people actually interact by typing sentences and prove they can read headlines or other responses and form words. Truly rare phenomenon.." Which always beats "fancy a fuck" in DM | |||
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"I know exactly what you mean. It’s not a dig or a criticism of other users, but as a newbie who’s new to fab and to the scene it can sometimes feel a bit intimidating to get involved!" Just post when a topic interests you. Not everything will. | |||
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"Fair point 😎I guess as long as you are not being creepy and rude then you start to realise that most people are welcoming and accepting and not scary 😂😂" Except that isn’t true is it? | |||
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" But stick around and you'll see the circles of friends in play. " The Forum Clique (and cake?) I have been a frequent poster for 10 years but still feel like an outsider. | |||
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"Heya all, I’m not sure if this is just me but I always feel on the forums like everyone sort of knows each other and I feel like the odd one out? Are you guys familiar from clubs etc or is there a better way to get to know the forums regulars? Hi by the way! "Hi hope you are getting klunge and just take part as though you are a regular you may get ignored initially and this may continue until you've been here years but eventually when you're old and grey and over 50 you'll realise it doesn't matter . | |||
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" But stick around and you'll see the circles of friends in play. The Forum Clique (and cake?) I have been a frequent poster for 10 years but still feel like an outsider. " You're an insider to me . | |||
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"Everyone is always welcome to join in the Games Forum. The Politics Forum gets very heated. " I tactically avoid that one | |||
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"I think I've met one person on the forums. And talk to 3 away from fab, the rest I couldn't give a fuck about. Just post what you want op and just be you!! " Those poor unfortunate souls! | |||
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"Morning OP Just jump on in and join in wherever you feel like it. It’s what I did and you’ll soon feel like part of the furniture " Same here, wait wait wait a minute... If I'm a regular now wtf type of furniture am I??? 🤔 | |||
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"Morning OP Just jump on in and join in wherever you feel like it. It’s what I did and you’ll soon feel like part of the furniture Same here, wait wait wait a minute... If I'm a regular now wtf type of furniture am I??? 🤔 "A tatty old leather armchair 🤣 | |||
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"Morning OP Just jump on in and join in wherever you feel like it. It’s what I did and you’ll soon feel like part of the furniture Same here, wait wait wait a minute... If I'm a regular now wtf type of furniture am I??? 🤔
A tatty old leather armchair 🤣"I'm sorry why is the 10 year old mattress talking? (I tried ok I'm no good with comebacks) | |||
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"Morning OP Just jump on in and join in wherever you feel like it. It’s what I did and you’ll soon feel like part of the furniture Same here, wait wait wait a minute... If I'm a regular now wtf type of furniture am I??? 🤔
A tatty old leather armchair 🤣
I'm sorry why is the 10 year old mattress talking?
(I tried ok I'm no good with comebacks)
"Ooooft! Harsh! Though I suppose you’re right, I am like a mattress! Everyone’s had a go on it hahaha 😎 | |||
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"Yeah it’s very cliquey OP - hence messages tend to get ignored and there’s a lot of in jokes. Nothing you can do about it sadly. There are far more in jokes and actual long lived connections/friendships than actual cliques. Very few actually exclude others, but like minded individuals regulars or not will always band together to challenge those that quite clearly and often try to intentionally cause controversy and air poor taste views. I've had people tell me I'm part of the clique in the past. Yet I often, despite having been around for years, can get ignored in posts and threads just as much as any newcomer. It's just highly personality based and takes time for people to be noticed and associated as a recognisable personality and individual. You need to put effort in to be noticed. " This is absolutely spot on. And I think there are some things that I think help if you want to join in the lounge and get noticed as a man (because it's definitely easier as a woman). These are just my opinion so take or leave. A name that isn't gross or bland. A photo that is good and reasonably distinctive. Have a few others but keep it as your main photo until people get to recognise you. Be yourself (unless yourself is a miserable, desperate complainer - you'll be remembered for the wrong reasons) Observe - see the hot button topics and how it's actually quite rare for a thread to have conversation. It's a lot of people just sharing their own thoughts. In terms of the 'clique', I'm in a couple of Alumni groups and they are nice places to be. Talking about fabbers who are not in the group is not allowed. I've never seen face photos shared without knowledge. Maybe it does go on but it's not something I would ever want to be a part of. | |||
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"What are Alumni groups please ?" Better ask Sydney University | |||
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"What are Alumni groups please ? Better ask Sydney University " of course ! | |||
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"What are Alumni groups please ?" Events sometimes go an ongoing chat group for people who’ve attended so they can keep in touch once the event chat closes 🙂 | |||
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"Everyone is always welcome to join in the Games Forum. The Politics Forum gets very heated. " Hence why I avoid the Politics Forum. It can get very heated and personal all because you might have differing opinions. | |||
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"What are Alumni groups please ?" After an organised social there's often a post event group usually on telegram or discord. If it's a host that runs regular events then the group has a mix of people from several different events. | |||
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"OP think about the forum a bit like a pub where you are walking in for the first time...you make your way to the bar soak in the scene before you and then gradually join conversations.. In the Golden days the nocturnal thread was a fantastic place for newbies to settle in -i still remember the warm welcome I received all those years ago " That’s a great analogy  | |||
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"OP think about the forum a bit like a pub where you are walking in for the first time...you make your way to the bar soak in the scene before you and then gradually join conversations.. In the Golden days the nocturnal thread was a fantastic place for newbies to settle in -i still remember the warm welcome I received all those years ago " Ahhh. I remember the nocturnal too. Perhaps it should come back. And bang on for your analogy. Xx | |||
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"OP think about the forum a bit like a pub where you are walking in for the first time...you make your way to the bar soak in the scene before you and then gradually join conversations.. In the Golden days the nocturnal thread was a fantastic place for newbies to settle in -i still remember the warm welcome I received all those years ago Ahhh. I remember the nocturnal too. Perhaps it should come back. And bang on for your analogy. Xx" I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people | |||
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"I'd also say you get out, what you put in - so make an effort to interact, follow up, be a decent human being, remember everyone has something going on in their lives..and don't be a cunt "This. | |||
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"OP think about the forum a bit like a pub where you are walking in for the first time...you make your way to the bar soak in the scene before you and then gradually join conversations.. In the Golden days the nocturnal thread was a fantastic place for newbies to settle in -i still remember the warm welcome I received all those years ago Ahhh. I remember the nocturnal too. Perhaps it should come back. And bang on for your analogy. Xx I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people " I was thinking the same. I fact part of me was already considering doing one this evening. A weekly one is a great idea, especially if it was shared between a few hosts - once a month isn't a huge commitment. | |||
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"I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people I was thinking the same. I fact part of me was already considering doing one this evening. A weekly one is a great idea, especially if it was shared between a few hosts - once a month isn't a huge commitment. " You two are talking yourself into a job so well here!  | |||
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"OP think about the forum a bit like a pub where you are walking in for the first time...you make your way to the bar soak in the scene before you and then gradually join conversations.. In the Golden days the nocturnal thread was a fantastic place for newbies to settle in -i still remember the warm welcome I received all those years ago Ahhh. I remember the nocturnal too. Perhaps it should come back. And bang on for your analogy. Xx I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people I was thinking the same. I fact part of me was already considering doing one this evening. A weekly one is a great idea, especially if it was shared between a few hosts - once a month isn't a huge commitment. " I guest hosted for Jim a few times, but have steered clear of relaunching for *reasons*. I'd be happy to pitch in every so often  | |||
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"I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people I was thinking the same. I fact part of me was already considering doing one this evening. A weekly one is a great idea, especially if it was shared between a few hosts - once a month isn't a huge commitment. You two are talking yourself into a job so well here! "Haha I'd love to do it, but time is sometimes a challenge..a weekly one I could commit to, especially if shared with Julie  | |||
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"OP think about the forum a bit like a pub where you are walking in for the first time...you make your way to the bar soak in the scene before you and then gradually join conversations.. In the Golden days the nocturnal thread was a fantastic place for newbies to settle in -i still remember the warm welcome I received all those years ago Ahhh. I remember the nocturnal too. Perhaps it should come back. And bang on for your analogy. Xx I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people I was thinking the same. I fact part of me was already considering doing one this evening. A weekly one is a great idea, especially if it was shared between a few hosts - once a month isn't a huge commitment. I guest hosted for Jim a few times, but have steered clear of relaunching for *reasons*. I'd be happy to pitch in every so often " | |||
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"I think a regular weekly one might be manageable, shared across a few hosts...it's an incredible amount of work/effort to do it well. Jim+ Ash were amazingly generous people with their time and such beautiful and genuine people I was thinking the same. I fact part of me was already considering doing one this evening. A weekly one is a great idea, especially if it was shared between a few hosts - once a month isn't a huge commitment. You two are talking yourself into a job so well here!
Haha I'd love to do it, but time is sometimes a challenge..a weekly one I could commit to, especially if shared with Julie "Oooft. *bites lip* 🥵🫦 | |||
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"You'll get to know the regulars...they post the same topics weekly "And get cross if someone 'steals' their thread 🤣🤣 | |||
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"You'll get to know the regulars...they post the same topics weekly
And get cross if someone 'steals' their thread 🤣🤣"Fate worse than death that...ostracised forever for doing that | |||
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"You'll get to know the regulars...they post the same topics weekly "Is cut or uncut still a thing? | |||
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"You'll get to know the regulars...they post the same topics weekly
Is cut or uncut still a thing?"Anything, so long as it's devoid of Camembert | |||
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"You'll get to know the regulars...they post the same topics weekly
Is cut or uncut still a thing?
Anything, so long as it's devoid of Camembert "But I love Camembert. | |||
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