FabSwingers.com forum: Do you judge people by the company they keep?

By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
12 weeks ago

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Can you make that judgement? Or is it unfair to?

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
12 weeks ago

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Did your mum ever say to you- show me your friends and I’ll show you who you are?

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By *sWyldWoman
12 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I do on here for sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Generally yes I do

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By *riar BelisseWoman
12 weeks ago

Bliss

No. Else I'd not have any friends on here

Many of us have shared sexual partners on here, knowingly and unknowingly. I afford the men I have met, with a level of trust in their choices

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By *parkle1974Woman
12 weeks ago

Leeds

Yes

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By *impcuckMan
12 weeks ago

edge of taunton

i have to say yes too on fab

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By *aitonelMan
12 weeks ago

Liverpool

Ummm depends on the company I guess.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
12 weeks ago

the moon

Birds of a feather .. will always flock together…. 🦅

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
12 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

Judge not lest ye be judged

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
12 weeks ago

kent

It’s hard not to if you’ve been on the receiving end of some devious and malicious people. This is why I’d rather not know who’s friends with who - and why I don’t read veris or publish our own. Ignorance is bliss.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
12 weeks ago

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"Judge not lest ye be judged"

Because my mum used to tell me, I’ve always considered my friends to be a reflection of myself. I wouldn’t hang out with people that didn’t match my values

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
12 weeks ago

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"It’s hard not to if you’ve been on the receiving end of some devious and malicious people. This is why I’d rather not know who’s friends with who - and why I don’t read veris or publish our own. Ignorance is bliss. "

That’s an interesting perspective on veris

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
12 weeks ago

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"No. Else I'd not have any friends on here

Many of us have shared sexual partners on here, knowingly and unknowingly. I afford the men I have met, with a level of trust in their choices

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
12 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

This.

Hard not too when you know what goes on behind the scenes

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By *lex46TV/TS
12 weeks ago

Near Wells

No I don’t. I would wonder why though if their friends are not nice people.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
12 weeks ago

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"No I don’t. I would wonder why though if their friends are not nice people."

Wonder but not judge

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By *icecouple561Couple
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12 weeks ago

East Sussex

Erm...yes, yes I do. Sometimes favourably. The trouble is people behave differently with individual people.

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By *amierebelMan
12 weeks ago

My own little world

I just judge people in general judgmental prick here or just a prick if you will 😁

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
12 weeks ago

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"I just judge people in general judgmental prick here or just a prick if you will 😁"

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By *orphia2003Woman
12 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Sometimes I do. Guess it depends on the company.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Central

I don't judge. But I'm interested in people and their relationships

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By *agerMorganMan
12 weeks ago

Canvey Island

Yes - it speaks volumes as to their character & viewpoints.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
12 weeks ago

Stratford

I used to but I stopped as I got older. People are drawn to people for a variety of reasons and just cos someone might not be my person, I try not to judge the (positive) impact they may have on others

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Yes.

I don't care if someone is friends with someone I simply don't get along with in general.

I don't mind being friendly with people with different morals where we disagree but it's not something I consider outright malignant or just accept that different points of view can exist and it's just a topic we avoid.

But certain things are indefensible to my mind, and someone who chooses to associate with and support that kind of behaviour isn't someone I want around me. Once I've confirmed that they actually know about whatever the reasoning is 💜

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By *vaRose43Woman
12 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Yes to an extent. If their profile states friendship group is full of people with values I find distasteful or disturbing I view the person in a different light

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By *viatrixWoman
12 weeks ago

Redhill

I do, unfortunately.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
12 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Probably, even if I'm not aware of it, in both positive and negative ways.

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By *oxychicWoman
12 weeks ago

Nottinghamshire

No not on fab , as sometimes veris are not what we think they are x

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By *vaRose43Woman
12 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

"No not on fab , as sometimes veris are not what we think they are x "

Ooh I don’t pay attention to verifications

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By *oxychicWoman
12 weeks ago

Nottinghamshire

"No not on fab , as sometimes veris are not what we think they are x

Ooh I don’t pay attention to verifications "

Me either I like to find out for myself

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By *ora the explorerWoman
12 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

No I don’t think so in general. A couple of times I’ve not met someone because who they’ve met previously but that’s all.

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By *erfHerder74Man
12 weeks ago

Inverclyde

I guess I would when they show verification of shaggin my ex who was a slimeball and cheater

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
12 weeks ago

Wales/ All over UK

Absolutely I do, in real life in particular.

I have cut ties with a few people who despite being generally nice when in my company have also repeatedly socialised with a very bigoted group of people.

It’s easy for someone to hide what they’re really like 1 on 1, but if their mates are all racists and or sexists and they have no issue being around them, you have to question their true beliefs

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By * WillisMan
12 weeks ago

London

No, what gives me or any of us for that matter the right to judge what makes someone horny at any given moment. For the people who have said yes ask yourself if you’ve ever said or thought “what gives you the right to judge me, you don’t know my story or what I have been through…you don’t know me!”

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By *uriousscouserWoman
12 weeks ago

Wirral

Not on here, as I don't know anyone well enough until we get chatting - I don't know their friends so I'm unlikely to care.

In real life yes. If someone is comfortable hanging around racists and homophobes and alphabro misogynists that is a red flag for me.

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By *ucka39Man
12 weeks ago

Newcastle

Always

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
12 weeks ago

Wales/ All over UK

"Not on here, as I don't know anyone well enough until we get chatting - I don't know their friends so I'm unlikely to care.

In real life yes. If someone is comfortable hanging around racists and homophobes and alphabro misogynists that is a red flag for me."

100% this

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By *lym4realCouple
12 weeks ago

plymouth

Yep as being on here is meant to be escape from every day life so anyone does hang around with racist's/incels/homophobes isn't for us to spend our precious free time with plus they always seem to want to convert you to their world view eventually ?

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By *ansoffateMan
12 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I'm free to make judgment. I think we instinctively make judgments, but that doesn't mean I can't have a word with myself and remind myself not to presume it's right.

I prefer to form a view of someone based on my experience of them. It's not really about being fair, although that matters to me too. It's about my own self-respect.

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
12 weeks ago

City Centre

Do you judge people by the company they keep?

Absolutely.

I'll avoid people who I get bad vibes from too.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I guess I would when they show verification of shaggin my ex who was a slimeball and cheater"

At some point you thought they were a better person than that too 💜

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By *aarv80Man
12 weeks ago

Crumlin

I will always take a person how they present to me, if they are not the type of person I want to be around they will give them short shift.

People are allowed to be individuals, don't judge them based on the company they keep

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By *rHotNottsMan
12 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

This.

Hard not too when you know what goes on behind the scenes"

Very true. Best thing is to treat people with an open mind and avoid people who discuss others. Ignorance really is bliss on FAB!

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I judge people on so many levels

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By *ansoffateMan
12 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"Yep as being on here is meant to be escape from every day life so anyone does hang around with racist's/incels/homophobes isn't for us to spend our precious free time with plus they always seem to want to convert you to their world view eventually ?

That's one of my 'red flag' moments - when someone needs me to agree with them, especially if they get angry if I don't.

It doesn't really matter in my experience whether someone associates with saints or sinners, that personality trait will rear it's head eventually, if it's there.

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By *aughtylist DuoCouple
12 weeks ago

Kilmarnock

I'd be a hypocrite if I said I did. As my husband was friends with my ex husband (long story lol)

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