FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting up

By *IXEN200 OP Woman
4 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

Do people have a limit of how long from first communication to actually deciding to meet them if it feels right.

I was once told by a lovely man I met that if he hasn't met withing two weeks you never are going to meet.

Clarification for me would be helpful when and if I decide to get back into meeting.

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By *usyBusyGirlWoman
4 weeks ago

Brum

I think you can just tell from the vibe. There are always factors such as timings and distance to take into consideration. Personally I would rather wait than rush x

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Covent Garden

The shortest time period for me has been about three weeks from the initial message. Typically, however it's at least a month to months, to a year and yesterday, I met with someone with whom I first started chatting 4 years ago. She was worth it.

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By *rHotNottsMan
4 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

No it can take me months sometimes a year or two.

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By *aven.Woman
4 weeks ago

Not the North West...

It can take me 2 weeks to reply to a message.

I deliberately suggest a time way off in the future, if they want to meet me theyll be ok with that

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
4 weeks ago

Leeds

We've people we've messaged for months, years on and off and never met, sometimes life, work and other commitments don't align easily.

I do get bored of endless small talk I must admit but I'm not a daily messger it's not for me.

Mrs

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By *mmaleiaWoman
4 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

I try as soon as possible for the 1st meet, otherwise I get really bored quickly if talking online

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By *bi HaiveMan
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4 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Nope. It's been same day to months for me. When it happend it happens.

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By *eliWoman
4 weeks ago

No I don't. It's whatever feels right isn't it? From when I first started messaging a partner to actually meeting him the first time? And not chickening out

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Eight years. I perhaps wouldn't do that with everyone but when things feel right and the timing works, that's when you go for it. I like a slow burn. Evidently.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
4 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

2 weeks seems a little strict.

It's usually a month minimum for me, and even that's rare.

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It took me 2 years to meet one man, because he was away with work and I do regular shifts and he wasn't local to me.

When I was meeting, the time has varied, I've met some within a couple of weeks and others not for a few months.

Go with what feels right for you and don't let anyone else dictate/pressure how quickly you should be meeting them.

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By *imples24Man
4 weeks ago

tamworth

Whenever the stars align. As long as you’re both honest and not just wasting time.

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By *aizyWoman
4 weeks ago

west midlands

I don't have set time limits, I don't mind if I have to wait, if it happens it happens, if not 🤷‍♀️

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By *arnelianWoman
4 weeks ago

Ely/Cambridge - between the two

In the past, I've met within a couple of days if we've talked loads and had at least a phone call. Now, I prefer to get to know them a bit more first. There is no right or wrong, it's whatever feels right for you.

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By *igjonny090Man
4 weeks ago

blackpool and Manchester

Honestly I’ve had meets in hours and in months, it all depends on what you’re looking for. Personally I prefer a few weeks of talking to just get to know one another as it leads to better fun

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By *ucka39Man
4 weeks ago

Newcastle

Depending upon the in-depth conversation, is where it continues to lead. Can be sooner or later

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By *ora the explorerWoman
4 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Nope.

I met someone for the first time today who I’ve known for 9 years on here! We’ve been meaning to get round to it 🤣

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By *noopy65Man
4 weeks ago

Harlow

Depends on how the chat is going and you know when it feels right to meet , don’t be rushed and take as long as you want x

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By *IXEN200 OP Woman
4 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

Thank you so much for all the input, I'll be digesting it all.

I think me personally likes to get to know someone and as has been said not a time waster but I also feel that some take me as being a time waster which is not the case.

I have to be sure within myself it's for me.

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By *jonesMan
4 weeks ago

Plymouth

"Thank you so much for all the input, I'll be digesting it all.

I think me personally likes to get to know someone and as has been said not a time waster but I also feel that some take me as being a time waster which is not the case.

I have to be sure within myself it's for me."

Obviously it can just be a social ..it's often difficult to know someone by texting. Chatting tends to Peter out and die in my experience but I have met people at socials ...after years of chatting ..

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Generally I prefer time to get to know if I actually think it's worth meeting someone.

There's been times where I've had a social with 24 hours of the first message, but that was a rarity while I was between jobs and actually single, juggling current workload and partners means I'm probably needing to book that kind of time for a first social at least a couple of weeks in advance, and that's only after I've decided I definitely do want to meet someone.

There are people I've spoken to for over a year before the stars aligned for us to actually meet in person.

Everyone is different. The more you worry about it and place your own arbitrary restrictions on it the less likely you are to find people with compatible time frames 💜

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By *WB85Man
4 weeks ago

Staffordshire

As long as it keeps feeling right I don't have a time frame for the first meet.

We all have a life outside of fab......things happen that we can't control.

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By *nsaneronMan
4 weeks ago

plymouth

"Do people have a limit of how long from first communication to actually deciding to meet them if it feels right.

I was once told by a lovely man I met that if he hasn't met withing two weeks you never are going to meet.

Clarification for me would be helpful when and if I decide to get back into meeting."

Personally when it feels right for all parties involved

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By *IXEN200 OP Woman
4 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

I do understand that work, family, distance and other things can play a huge part in when it happens.

Again I thank you all for your input

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Central

I don't

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

We are planning on meeting one dude we have been chatting to on fab for about 8-9 months.

Getting everything to align with kids, work and stuff is a struggle.

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By *ffy.Woman
4 weeks ago

Fife

No, not really. I think the longest was 2 years from the initial message until we met. Sometimes life gets in the way, schedules don’t align and so many other reasons. If I like them enough, I’m willing to wait until the time is right.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
4 weeks ago

Sheffield

2 weeks would be unrealistic for me personally.

Not everyone is fortunate to have the free time.

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By *ing AMan
4 weeks ago

birmingham

All depends on the person if you feel the energy is right then perfect!

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By *sWyldWoman
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

On here it really varies. I've chatted for months before meeting people.

However on dating sites, I usually want to meet quite quickly. I'm not into message ping pong

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By *IXEN200 OP Woman
4 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

It's good to know I'm not alone in not wanting to rush into meeting someone.

Thank you everyone 💓

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By *oxy jWoman
4 weeks ago

somerset

as long as im acually meeting its 7 days with fab and i find doint it this way cuts out all the dreamers messers

so if im arranging a meet its within 7 days

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By *weetRollMan
4 weeks ago

Angus/Dundee/Perth

Genuinely curious, what are people tal_ing about for months or years?

Do you start tal_ing about each others family, work, politics and aspirations? Like how sensitive do the topics get before you're comfortable with a meet?

It shouldn't take long to learn about someone's general interests, right...?

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
4 weeks ago

District 13

If I’m getting along with someone I don’t mind how long a meet takes providing the arrangements suit us both 😁

Patience is a virtue 😉

And anyone who demanded a meet would join my ever growing block list 😂😂😂

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By *oo..Woman
4 weeks ago

Boo's World

No, the best meets are the ones that just flow naturally from first conversation to the "sex" stuff.

That's what I've found in my fab time.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
4 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No time limit, I've varied from 10 mins to 2 years, chat to meet.

It's whatever feels right for both of you

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
4 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

Sounds like a right challenge.

Still, better safe than sorry, right?

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By *tsJustKateWoman
4 weeks ago

London

Genuinely, the shortest time from initial message to a meet was about 30 minutes. The longest over a year.

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By *oved Up CoupleCouple
4 weeks ago

North West

Soonest meet from here was within 24 hours of the first message, longest wait has been a few days till a mutually convenient time came round.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
4 weeks ago

Chester

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
4 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

"Genuinely, the shortest time from initial message to a meet was about 30 minutes. The longest over a year."

Well.

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"Genuinely curious, what are people tal_ing about for months or years?

Do you start tal_ing about each others family, work, politics and aspirations? Like how sensitive do the topics get before you're comfortable with a meet?

It shouldn't take long to learn about someone's general interests, right...?"

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It is not what people are tal_ing about that excessively prolongs the chats and inhibits the desire to meet. There are multitude of factors which include, amongst other things, logistics, childcare commitments, The Fåb Curse™, reticence due to commitments made with other people, the ebb and flow of superficial chats which fizzle out and then reincarnate at a later date, priorities, change of circumstances (e.g. she's now shacked up thus looking to pursue at a later date, or no longer attached and is more amenable to a meet) and change of preferences and criteria, or perhaps the chats started off with a view of being friends and then blossomed into something more...

When I've chatted to someone for years and years I didn't become chaste and focus solely on that person, remaining 'virginal' just for her; I still carried on regardless meeting other people as per the natural course of my Fab journey...until the stars aligned and mågïç finally happened.

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By *ympha LuxuriaWoman
4 weeks ago

La La Land

"Nope.

I met someone for the first time today who I’ve known for 9 years on here! We’ve been meaning to get round to it 🤣"

we got there in the end

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By *electableicecreamMan
4 weeks ago

The West

"Genuinely curious, what are people tal_ing about for months or years?

Do you start tal_ing about each others family, work, politics and aspirations? Like how sensitive do the topics get before you're comfortable with a meet?

It shouldn't take long to learn about someone's general interests, right...?

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Was gonna reply but this man summed it all up quite nicely.

I'd only add that it's quite nice to know that there are people out there who will, when it all lines up just right, be happy to pick things up where they were last left off.

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By *weetRollMan
4 weeks ago

Angus/Dundee/Perth

"Genuinely curious, what are people tal_ing about for months or years?

Do you start tal_ing about each others family, work, politics and aspirations? Like how sensitive do the topics get before you're comfortable with a meet?

It shouldn't take long to learn about someone's general interests, right...?

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Your answer provided a lot of clarity, thank you.

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By *weetRollMan
4 weeks ago

Angus/Dundee/Perth

"Genuinely curious, what are people tal_ing about for months or years?

Do you start tal_ing about each others family, work, politics and aspirations? Like how sensitive do the topics get before you're comfortable with a meet?

It shouldn't take long to learn about someone's general interests, right...?

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Was gonna reply but this man summed it all up quite nicely.

I'd only add that it's quite nice to know that there are people out there who will, when it all lines up just right, be happy to pick things up where they were last left off."

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By *onynhannahMan
4 weeks ago

WHITBY

Within a week for me. Far to many wasters now on here.

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By *IXEN200 OP Woman
4 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

Lots of reading and getting things in my head, I understand everyone is different and it's within a time that works well for both parties.

Thank you for all the input and it sure clarified things up

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By *ust another WonkoMan
4 weeks ago

here and there

Do what feels right for you

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Two weeks! Blimey... It takes me months to years to get organised. 2-3 years is probably standard for me 🤣🤣🤣

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By *tr8MrEMan
4 weeks ago

Shireoaks, Worksop

"Two weeks! Blimey... It takes me months to years to get organised. 2-3 years is probably standard for me 🤣🤣🤣"

I'll quit whilst I'm ahead then, I've been trying for 4 years 🤣🤣

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By *atinaChica54Woman
4 weeks ago

Marlborough

"I try as soon as possible for the 1st meet, otherwise I get really bored quickly if talking online "

Same here! My attention span isn't great on here tbh.

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By *onkeynutWoman
4 weeks ago

somewhere

For a social, soon. I don’t want a penpal and if they are local I want to meet them to see if there is the mutual desire to rip each others clothes off.

Though there are exceptions and there’s people on here I’ve chatted on and off to for months or even years where life has got in the way and we haven’t met yet.

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