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By *ustyDawn OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

Why do men come on here using single profiles but then tell you that they are married and bad mouth and disrespect thier wifes?

How would they feel if the tables were turned and the wives were on here doing the same thing?

Is this acceptable behaviour?

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
4 weeks ago

Home

No it's not acceptable. And unfortunately that behavior lol paints all single fellas on here the same

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By *icolerobbieCouple
4 weeks ago

walsall


"Why do men come on here using single profiles but then tell you that they are married and bad mouth and disrespect thier wifes?

How would they feel if the tables were turned and the wives were on here doing the same thing?

Is this acceptable behaviour? "

Their wives are probably on here.

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By *exycarlashane181Couple
4 weeks ago

Leamington Spa


"Why do men come on here using single profiles but then tell you that they are married and bad mouth and disrespect thier wifes?

How would they feel if the tables were turned and the wives were on here doing the same thing?

Is this acceptable behaviour? "

I asked my partner that very same question before. Would they be OK if the female was their partner

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By *rightonsteveMan
4 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think it’s a good thing. The reason is that you can see what they’re like behind all the sweet talk you’ll get. Look on their green arrow and see what they’ve been saying when they’re not trying to chat you up.

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By *ociferu69Man
4 weeks ago

glasgow

80% can be bs...20 can be true tho

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By *atinaChica54Woman
4 weeks ago

Marlborough


"I think it’s a good thing. The reason is that you can see what they’re like behind all the sweet talk you’ll get. Look on their green arrow and see what they’ve been saying when they’re not trying to chat you up. "

What's the green arrow?

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By *andadbodMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool


"I think it’s a good thing. The reason is that you can see what they’re like behind all the sweet talk you’ll get. Look on their green arrow and see what they’ve been saying when they’re not trying to chat you up.

What's the green arrow? "

it’s next to your name in the forum threads, it brings up all the topics you’ve commented on.

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By *atinaChica54Woman
4 weeks ago

Marlborough


"I think it’s a good thing. The reason is that you can see what they’re like behind all the sweet talk you’ll get. Look on their green arrow and see what they’ve been saying when they’re not trying to chat you up.

What's the green arrow?

Thanks 👍🏼

it’s next to your name in the forum threads, it brings up all the topics you’ve commented on."

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By *sian FlowerWoman
4 weeks ago

Sin City X

Totally disrespectful behaviour OP I’ve heard all the excuses from married men justifying cheating.

1. Oh we don’t sleep in the same room.

2. We are just together for the kids.

3. I still love her but we don’t have sex yada yada fkng yada.

My black heart bleeds for these poor married men. A lot keep the fact they are married secret too from women they want to meet on fab. Ludicrous behaviour. Same applies to cheating women.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
4 weeks ago

Staffordshire

The wives do.

We’ve met as many ‘single’ wives here as we have men over the years.

It was quite common.

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By *iverpool416Man
4 weeks ago

liverpool

just because there married and on as a single guy doesn't mean they are cheating.my Mrs isn't playing anymore but has no objection to me playing. so if I put couple up and played solo that would be OK?

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By *ustyDawn OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Glasgow


"just because there married and on as a single guy doesn't mean they are cheating.my Mrs isn't playing anymore but has no objection to me playing. so if I put couple up and played solo that would be OK?"

couple profile would be better as long as your wife knows I'd be more inclined to chat with a guy that has couple profile than a single profile and then they tell you they are married they are being secretive and obv cheating

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By *NormalMan01Man
4 weeks ago

Harrogate


"Why do men come on here using single profiles but then tell you that they are married and bad mouth and disrespect thier wifes?

How would they feel if the tables were turned and the wives were on here doing the same thing?

Is this acceptable behaviour? "

But it does happen the other way round..?

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By *iverpool416Man
4 weeks ago

liverpool

I always say I'm married when chatting it's more of a lie saying your a couple

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By *ustyDawn OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Glasgow


"I always say I'm married when chatting it's more of a lie saying your a couple"

but does your wife know your chatting on here?

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By *iverpool416Man
4 weeks ago

liverpool

yes she does don't you read the posts properly

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By *AYENCouple
4 weeks ago

Lincolnshire


"yes she does don't you read the posts properly "

I've read all posts 'properly' and have come to the conclusion that the OP was commenting on the disrespect of their partners, by cheating on them and bad mouthing them.

It seems like you're doing neither as you're on here with your wife's blessing, so whether your profile is as a single or as a couple is just a technicality, not an issue. K.

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Covent Garden

Some of my best friends are married men. 🩶

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Totally disrespectful behaviour OP I’ve heard all the excuses from married men justifying cheating.

1. Oh we don’t sleep in the same room.

2. We are just together for the kids.

3. I still love her but we don’t have sex yada yada fkng yada.

My black heart bleeds for these poor married men. A lot keep the fact they are married secret too from women they want to meet on fab. Ludicrous behaviour. Same applies to cheating women."

Those last ones are the worst.

I didn't sign up to have screaming wives on my doorstep calling me a whore because they followed their asshole husband who told me they were single 💜

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
4 weeks ago

Wales

No idea, but it's not just men that do this

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By *arryherts777Man
4 weeks ago

Nr Stevenage

Not arsed tbh

happy to give to a shoulder to cry on when the lovelies find out

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By *ora the explorerWoman
4 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

They’re telling you they are married so you can make the choice wherever to meet them so I don’t see the issue. If they don’t tell you then it’s an issue.

The bad mouthing though. That’s horrid.

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By *aven.Woman
4 weeks ago

Not the North West...

I don't care if they're married, but I won't be interested if they bad mouth their partners.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
4 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"I don't care if they're married, but I won't be interested if they bad mouth their partners. "

Same

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By *LiamMan
4 weeks ago

Midlands


"Why do men come on here using single profiles but then tell you that they are married and bad mouth and disrespect thier wifes?

How would they feel if the tables were turned and the wives were on here doing the same thing?

Is this acceptable behaviour? "

Why do women do this too? Everyone woman I've met on here has had a secret fella🤷‍♂️😅

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By *ebastian83Man
4 weeks ago

on a building site near you


"Why do men come on here using single profiles but then tell you that they are married and bad mouth and disrespect thier wifes?

How would they feel if the tables were turned and the wives were on here doing the same thing?

Is this acceptable behaviour? "

Depends as every situation is different ! Some guys have permission some don’t some may find it actually helps their situation at home some it might make it worse. Also plenty of wife’s on here doing the same !!! I love it lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

4 weeks ago

East Sussex

There are numerous ways of disrespecting a partner. Not all are immediately obvious.

It's quite easy to avoid the obvious ones though.

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By *acey_RedWoman
4 weeks ago

Liverpool


"Why do men come on here using single profiles but then tell you that they are married and bad mouth and disrespect thier wifes?

How would they feel if the tables were turned and the wives were on here doing the same thing?

Is this acceptable behaviour? Depends as every situation is different ! Some guys have permission some don’t some may find it actually helps their situation at home some it might make it worse. Also plenty of wife’s on here doing the same !!! I love it lol"

Even if someone has permission from a spouse to be on here and meet others, bad mouthing and disrespecting their spouse is still wrong.

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By *imandherNSFWCouple
4 weeks ago

Barnstaple

Quickest way on to our block list. male or female. If you are here to cheat you don't understand the lifestyle! (Not that we meet single males) but you will get blocked!

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By *CExeCouple
4 weeks ago

Lincoln/Exeter

There's a significant number of married men on Fab. If their profile says single and they can't accommodate, it's a 90% chance they're married. I'm sure there's some for whom the wife knows and tolerates it (know a few guys in this boat) for whatever reason. But we've had messages from guys saying how much hotter Chels is than their wife, that their wife 'won't put out'anymore etc. If you can't respect your own wife, the likelihood is you're not going to be respectful of us, our relationship and our boundaries. Instant block.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
4 weeks ago

Reading

It is vile.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
4 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"There's a significant number of married men on Fab. If their profile says single and they can't accommodate, it's a 90% chance they're married. I'm sure there's some for whom the wife knows and tolerates it (know a few guys in this boat) for whatever reason. But we've had messages from guys saying how much hotter Chels is than their wife, that their wife 'won't put out'anymore etc. If you can't respect your own wife, the likelihood is you're not going to be respectful of us, our relationship and our boundaries. Instant block."

I don’t agree with the first part. I know lots of single men who don’t accommodate. Why should they? A few who have their children there a lot, believe it or not even some men don’t want to risk giving their address out for safety and psycho bitch reasons! I’ve more respect for those men than the ones who will have anyone in their home.

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan
4 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"There's a significant number of married men on Fab. If their profile says single and they can't accommodate, it's a 90% chance they're married. I'm sure there's some for whom the wife knows and tolerates it (know a few guys in this boat) for whatever reason. But we've had messages from guys saying how much hotter Chels is than their wife, that their wife 'won't put out'anymore etc. If you can't respect your own wife, the likelihood is you're not going to be respectful of us, our relationship and our boundaries. Instant block.

I don’t agree with the first part. I know lots of single men who don’t accommodate. Why should they? A few who have their children there a lot, believe it or not even some men don’t want to risk giving their address out for safety and psycho bitch reasons! I’ve more respect for those men than the ones who will have anyone in their home. "

Shit guess I'm marries to my mother if that was the case.

But I appreciate you saying that, sometimes life fucks you the way you don't want to be fucked.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
4 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"There's a significant number of married men on Fab. If their profile says single and they can't accommodate, it's a 90% chance they're married. I'm sure there's some for whom the wife knows and tolerates it (know a few guys in this boat) for whatever reason. But we've had messages from guys saying how much hotter Chels is than their wife, that their wife 'won't put out'anymore etc. If you can't respect your own wife, the likelihood is you're not going to be respectful of us, our relationship and our boundaries. Instant block.

I don’t agree with the first part. I know lots of single men who don’t accommodate. Why should they? A few who have their children there a lot, believe it or not even some men don’t want to risk giving their address out for safety and psycho bitch reasons! I’ve more respect for those men than the ones who will have anyone in their home.

Shit guess I'm marries to my mother if that was the case.

But I appreciate you saying that, sometimes life fucks you the way you don't want to be fucked."

Also this. Plenty may live with their parents or housemates etc. it’s one assumption on here that’s always pissed me off.

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By *llblueMan
4 weeks ago

Irvine


"Why do men come on here using single profiles but then tell you that they are married and bad mouth and disrespect thier wifes?

How would they feel if the tables were turned and the wives were on here doing the same thing?

Is this acceptable behaviour? "

I don't think it's only men.

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan
4 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"There's a significant number of married men on Fab. If their profile says single and they can't accommodate, it's a 90% chance they're married. I'm sure there's some for whom the wife knows and tolerates it (know a few guys in this boat) for whatever reason. But we've had messages from guys saying how much hotter Chels is than their wife, that their wife 'won't put out'anymore etc. If you can't respect your own wife, the likelihood is you're not going to be respectful of us, our relationship and our boundaries. Instant block.

I don’t agree with the first part. I know lots of single men who don’t accommodate. Why should they? A few who have their children there a lot, believe it or not even some men don’t want to risk giving their address out for safety and psycho bitch reasons! I’ve more respect for those men than the ones who will have anyone in their home.

Shit guess I'm marries to my mother if that was the case.

But I appreciate you saying that, sometimes life fucks you the way you don't want to be fucked.

Also this. Plenty may live with their parents or housemates etc. it’s one assumption on here that’s always pissed me off. "

Yeah it is what it is, I even put in my bio, can't be more upfront then that.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
4 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"There's a significant number of married men on Fab. If their profile says single and they can't accommodate, it's a 90% chance they're married. I'm sure there's some for whom the wife knows and tolerates it (know a few guys in this boat) for whatever reason. But we've had messages from guys saying how much hotter Chels is than their wife, that their wife 'won't put out'anymore etc. If you can't respect your own wife, the likelihood is you're not going to be respectful of us, our relationship and our boundaries. Instant block.

I don’t agree with the first part. I know lots of single men who don’t accommodate. Why should they? A few who have their children there a lot, believe it or not even some men don’t want to risk giving their address out for safety and psycho bitch reasons! I’ve more respect for those men than the ones who will have anyone in their home.

Shit guess I'm marries to my mother if that was the case.

But I appreciate you saying that, sometimes life fucks you the way you don't want to be fucked.

Also this. Plenty may live with their parents or housemates etc. it’s one assumption on here that’s always pissed me off. "

Also is it assumed that all the women on here who can’t/won’t accommodate are married?

I doubt it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

4 weeks ago

East Sussex

^^ nobody ever assumes that. In fact for the most part women can do exactly as men do but get away with it.

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By *aven.Woman
4 weeks ago

Not the North West...


"There's a significant number of married men on Fab. If their profile says single and they can't accommodate, it's a 90% chance they're married. I'm sure there's some for whom the wife knows and tolerates it (know a few guys in this boat) for whatever reason. But we've had messages from guys saying how much hotter Chels is than their wife, that their wife 'won't put out'anymore etc. If you can't respect your own wife, the likelihood is you're not going to be respectful of us, our relationship and our boundaries. Instant block.

I don’t agree with the first part. I know lots of single men who don’t accommodate. Why should they? A few who have their children there a lot, believe it or not even some men don’t want to risk giving their address out for safety and psycho bitch reasons! I’ve more respect for those men than the ones who will have anyone in their home.

Shit guess I'm marries to my mother if that was the case.

But I appreciate you saying that, sometimes life fucks you the way you don't want to be fucked.

Also this. Plenty may live with their parents or housemates etc. it’s one assumption on here that’s always pissed me off. "

Doesn't accommodate - sensible, respects his privacy. Decent guy

Accommodates - secret cameras people, is it only me that thinks this! Oh and let's not forget dodgy duvet covers. Weird smells, you know the ones. Hell. No.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
4 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"There's a significant number of married men on Fab. If their profile says single and they can't accommodate, it's a 90% chance they're married. I'm sure there's some for whom the wife knows and tolerates it (know a few guys in this boat) for whatever reason. But we've had messages from guys saying how much hotter Chels is than their wife, that their wife 'won't put out'anymore etc. If you can't respect your own wife, the likelihood is you're not going to be respectful of us, our relationship and our boundaries. Instant block.

I don’t agree with the first part. I know lots of single men who don’t accommodate. Why should they? A few who have their children there a lot, believe it or not even some men don’t want to risk giving their address out for safety and psycho bitch reasons! I’ve more respect for those men than the ones who will have anyone in their home.

Shit guess I'm marries to my mother if that was the case.

But I appreciate you saying that, sometimes life fucks you the way you don't want to be fucked.

Also this. Plenty may live with their parents or housemates etc. it’s one assumption on here that’s always pissed me off.

Doesn't accommodate - sensible, respects his privacy. Decent guy

Accommodates - secret cameras people, is it only me that thinks this! Oh and let's not forget dodgy duvet covers. Weird smells, you know the ones. Hell. No.

"

Exactly!

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"There's a significant number of married men on Fab"
Psst.... married women too!


"If their profile says single and they can't accommodate, it's a 90% chance they're married."

For women the figure is probably 98%.

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By *ansoffateMan
4 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Relief probably.

It means I'd get a break from their moaning.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
4 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"Also is it assumed that all the women on here who can’t/won’t accommodate are married?

I doubt it "

Exactly. I don't accommodate (at least not until I know soneone very well) and never once have I been asked if it's because I'm married/have a partner 🤷‍♀️

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By *ellinever70Woman
4 weeks ago

Ayrshire


"^^ nobody ever assumes that. In fact for the most part women can do exactly as men do but get away with it. "

But that's the men's fault

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

4 weeks ago

East Sussex


"^^ nobody ever assumes that. In fact for the most part women can do exactly as men do but get away with it.

But that's the men's fault "

It's all the men's fault doncha know

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan
4 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"^^ nobody ever assumes that. In fact for the most part women can do exactly as men do but get away with it.

But that's the men's fault

It's all the men's fault doncha know "

Sorry my bad

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

4 weeks ago

East Sussex


"^^ nobody ever assumes that. In fact for the most part women can do exactly as men do but get away with it.

But that's the men's fault

It's all the men's fault doncha know

Sorry my bad"

At least you know it

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By *ustlooking78Man
4 weeks ago

northants

I've only got a single profile so I can see what my wife gets upto in the chat rooms, and block the dickeads for her. Would never badmouth her though.

Wouldn't dare

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By *ovinglife!40Man
4 weeks ago

Hinckley


"Why do men come on here using single profiles but then tell you that they are married and bad mouth and disrespect thier wifes?

How would they feel if the tables were turned and the wives were on here doing the same thing?

Is this acceptable behaviour? "

There is a married guy on here who says he is on here and his wife us unaware.

Then he posts about sharing her photos.

Now THAT is low.

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan
4 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"^^ nobody ever assumes that. In fact for the most part women can do exactly as men do but get away with it.

But that's the men's fault

It's all the men's fault doncha know

Sorry my bad

At least you know it "

🤣

I'll try harder I promise.

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By *ebastian83Man
4 weeks ago

on a building site near you


"Why do men come on here using single profiles but then tell you that they are married and bad mouth and disrespect thier wifes?

How would they feel if the tables were turned and the wives were on here doing the same thing?

Is this acceptable behaviour? Depends as every situation is different ! Some guys have permission some don’t some may find it actually helps their situation at home some it might make it worse. Also plenty of wife’s on here doing the same !!! I love it lol

Even if someone has permission from a spouse to be on here and meet others, bad mouthing and disrespecting their spouse is still wrong."

true bad mouthing isn’t a great quality in a person

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Stockport

I totally understand that there are people here who have reasons for seeking company outside of their marriage. Relationships are complicated, marriages are doubly complicated. I know this, I've been in this position. Sometimes the reasons are good, sometimes the reasons are less good. Whether those reasons are acceptable to somebody is up to that person.

I have always tried to be open about who I am, what my situation was and is, and allow others to make an informed decision about whether they want to associate with me. And I never bad-mouthed my wife. (But not denying that there are people who can be caught up in horrible situations and unable to extricate themselves from horrible partners, where less-than-loving words are totally justified.)

I guess that I'm saying that don't condemn anybody blindly for being on here without the knowledge of their spouse, but I do dislike any lying about the situation or insistence that "it doesn't matter that I'm married". It always matters, but if the reasons are truthfully explained, then it may be acceptable according to the others conscience.

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