FabSwingers.com forum: Which do you prefer...?

By *inx000 OP Couple
5 weeks ago

Manchester

Wether your part of a couple or single..Do you prefer to meet people on here for a social first either in a public place or a more intimate setting,a few drinks and a chat..see how things go and if there is a connection?Or do your prefer to skip all that and arrange to meet at a hotel or their place or yours and get naked straight away for some sexy fun?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
5 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Social. Always.

I never know if the chemistry is there in person from pictures and text.

I do not want to commit myself to bang someone that simply may not excite me in the flesh 💜

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By *eliWoman
5 weeks ago

A social. I don't do clubs. Never had sex in one, never will. I'll never go straight to being dicked.

I'm a bit odd because I've found I don't feel attraction until there's a level of friendship there. Bar Tom Hiddleston. But generally it doesn't work for me like it does for most.

I can count on one hand the number of times I've met someone and gone on to do more than kiss. And I'm comfortable with that.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
5 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Social, unless we’ve met face to face at an event.

Also sets the tone as we want to build a connection with people.

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By *eliWoman
5 weeks ago

As in - on the same day.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
5 weeks ago

Southampton

"Wether your part of a couple or single..Do you prefer to meet people on here for a social first either in a public place or a more intimate setting,a few drinks and a chat..see how things go and if there is a connection?Or do your prefer to skip all that and arrange to meet at a hotel or their place or yours and get naked straight away for some sexy fun?"
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Usually a social first, but if I've met them first and like then let's gets down to it xx

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By *orthern_knobberMan
5 weeks ago

manchester

A 12 minute zoom call pre hotel meet.

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By *inx000 OP Couple
5 weeks ago

Manchester

"Social. Always.

I never know if the chemistry is there in person from pictures and text.

I do not want to commit myself to bang someone that simply may not excite me in the flesh 💜"

Completely agree,we always prefer a social and like to get to know people first to see if there is a connection and a good vibe.

A lot of people on here are quite mixed about the way they like to meet which is fine as thats their own preference which I get but sending a face pic then asking to meet and fuck without a social first is not to our taste although that doesn't mean we don't enjoy a spontaneous meet but that all depends on the mood I suppose?

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By *inx000 OP Couple
5 weeks ago

Manchester

"A 12 minute zoom call pre hotel meet."

Wow.you move fast 😂

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
5 weeks ago

Southampton

"A 12 minute zoom call pre hotel meet."

Count me in

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By *inx000 OP Couple
5 weeks ago

Manchester

Usually a social first, but if I've met them first and like then let's gets down to it xx"

Yes I agree..its different if you've already met them before as you've already become acquainted and can verify they are real at least and not a fake or a time waster haha x

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By *ante40Man
5 weeks ago

darlington

Always social first

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By *enk15Man
5 weeks ago

Evesham

A social, how else are they going to complete the pre-coital questionnaire?

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
5 weeks ago

Southampton

Usually a social first, but if I've met them first and like then let's gets down to it xx

Yes I agree..its different if you've already met them before as you've already become acquainted and can verify they are real at least and not a fake or a time waster haha x"

I'm fairly certain you both know I'm real

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By *imply DeeWoman
5 weeks ago

Wherever

Always social first, unless I met them at the organised social before and there’s chemistry.

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By *ymClassDropoutMan
5 weeks ago

Berkshire

I am probably going to go against the grain here but I am one (for a plethora of reasons) who prefers first date intimacy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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5 weeks ago

East Sussex

Social first.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
5 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

I love a good social.

A laugh, natter, flirt and see how you get on

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By *ccasionalsinnersCouple
5 weeks ago

preston / blackurn

Socials - but have had so many no shows tend to meet in clubs

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By *ggdrasil66Man
5 weeks ago

Saltdean

A social first, local fab social would be even better. Let everyone know who is interested in who. Let us all be safe out there…

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
5 weeks ago

wonderland.

I won't plan meets.. I am a little weirdo... I like to go to clubs and its a mix or straight to it and not even knowing names and chatting for ages first.

I get really anxious with too much chat and will probably get bored before a meet occurs if we try to do a private meet.

Cali

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By *dmundwilsonMan
5 weeks ago

Llandudno

I like the idea of strangers coming together. But a personal connection is desirable once that’s occurred. Totally impersonal isn’t fun really.

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By *CExeCouple
5 weeks ago

Lincoln/Exeter

Chels is crazy shy wo we get straight into it. Once she's had a mouth between her legs for a few minutes she very much opens up lol

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By *inx000 OP Couple
5 weeks ago

Manchester

"A social. I don't do clubs. Never had sex in one, never will. I'll never go straight to being dicked.

I'm a bit odd because I've found I don't feel attraction until there's a level of friendship there. Bar Tom Hiddleston. But generally it doesn't work for me like it does for most.

I can count on one hand the number of times I've met someone and gone on to do more than kiss. And I'm comfortable with that."

Clubs are supposed to be a good way to meet people and have some fun..I suppose in a way its better than just sending a face pic on here to someone and saying let's meet and fuck I'm free now to someone you've never met or spoken to.In a club you've seen them in person and can arrange to have some fun if your both interested in each other and feel there is a good vibe?

We feel the same way about building a friendship and getting to know someone first before we decide to jump into bed with them.Sharing your interests with each other and having a connection is what attracts us.

Sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn't..sometimes like you mentioned you could meet someone and just kiss then nothing more comes from it until your comfortable enough with that person to go any further which can take a lot of trust.Also you can't force yourself to be attracted to someone if the chemistry isn't there.

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
5 weeks ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

Usually a social first, but if I've met them first and like then let's gets down to it xx

Yes I agree..its different if you've already met them before as you've already become acquainted and can verify they are real at least and not a fake or a time waster haha x"

This would normally be the case but a recent couple I had met some years ago & played with asked to meet again. The arrangements kept changing then cancelled when suddenly out of the blue messages saying I had ignored for two hours in replying. I wonder now if it was a profile catfish or the original couple just having a bad week. Otherwise was a non event when previously had been a great time. Profile disappeared shortly after.

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By *SCouple81Couple
5 weeks ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

It's always a social for us.

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By *inx000 OP Couple
5 weeks ago

Manchester

"As in - on the same day.

Either on the same day or a planned meet!

There has been people that have asked to meet straight away on the first message to have sex in the next few hours..no social or anything like that and no face pic

Then you have some people asking you to plan a meet to join them at a hotel for some sexy fun which sounds hot don't get me wrong but much prefer to meet them first for a social to see if we would get along and share the same interests.

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
5 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Always always always social first. I'm actively trying to avoid being assaulted, r@ped, or murdered thanks.

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By *oralltherightreasonsCouple
5 weeks ago

WELLINGBOROUGH

Social in a pub first, with clear messages before hand there are no intentions of it going bedwards that night.

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By *uffnmuffCouple
5 weeks ago

London

Always drinks first x

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
5 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Social first always. Busy bar. 99% of the time fab chat comes up and the topics of funny meets and weirdos discussed, and it's hard to talk in a quiet coffee bar, particularly if you get a little over excited when story telling.

If the chemistry is there, there will be a natural flow and it has led to sex within hours. Similarly, I have had a really awful one where I never had an eject button. Most are very very pleasant experiences. But social first. Always.

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By *illy IdolMan
5 weeks ago

Midlands

Both have been enjoyable in the past, but I prefer a social date first usually.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
5 weeks ago

Leeds

Social 1st always, we've learned our lessons from jumping straight in when we were newbies, social 1st then there's no cat fishing, you know you all get along & there's attraction there.

There's nothing worse then turning up for a sexual meet to find the person looks nothing like their photos or are a good 10 years off their stated age & then there's the ones where in person that connection just isn't there.

Mrs

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By *eroLondonMan
5 weeks ago

Covent Garden

It's a social first. Usually arranged on the back of protracted messaging underpinned with the chemistry and attraction that we've already established to some degree. The socials are usually elaborate light-luncheons, a quick walk around an art gallery, or even a cursory tea served with cake in some light and airy coffee shop. If we get on marvellously and there's a build up of sexual frisson then we would take things further. It's always in a hotel, at a later date. However I have, on two or three occasions, socialised and 'played' on the same day...but that was a long dalliance, overnight, lunches, dinners...

I don't do clubs.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
5 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Both have been enjoyable in the past, but I prefer a social date first usually."

Jeez, how shit are you only having 2 socials. I've had 3!

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By *weetiepie99Woman
5 weeks ago

cardiff

Always meet first, for a drink or whatever, bit like a 'date'

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By *issmorganWoman
5 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Always a social, even if I meet a couple with my partner.

It's good to have a no pressure drink and chat & see if there's mutual attraction.

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By *imply_SensualMan
5 weeks ago

warrington

Social first - a picture is only part of the appeal, personality and connection is the biggest part.

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By *olinOfBathMan
5 weeks ago

Corsham

"Chels is crazy shy wo we get straight into it. Once she's had a mouth between her legs for a few minutes she very much opens up lol"

I've found this to be quite common...

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By *eardedguy800Man
5 weeks ago

Kidderminster

Social meet and drink. Then everyone has a chance to discuss likes and dislikes.

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By *uncouple153Couple
5 weeks ago

Abergavenny

Social everytime first. Can't imagine just knocking on some strangers door at midnight x

Rules go out he window a little at a club x

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By *2000ManMan
5 weeks ago

Worthing

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By *2000ManMan
5 weeks ago

Worthing

Social and chat in public place first.

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By *Jblue321Man
5 weeks ago

Chester

Social first as like to know there’s an attraction both ways and less of a catfish

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By *urry BlokeMan
5 weeks ago

Stalybridge

It's a fine line

If I get to know someone in a socially first, it is rare that I'm interested in progressing it to the bedroom

As soon as I start to see someone as a friend, that's usually it for the sex, regardless of how attractive I find them

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By *ik NaksCouple
5 weeks ago

Wigan

Great question with 2 different answers. We’ve messaged people on here before and seemed to have clicked whilst messaging but then the meet comes and there has been zero chemistry whereas on the other hand we’ve been to clubs when we have made eye contact and had the best of nights with naughty fun without even saying what our names were. However, we’ve met people for socials first and got on so well that we’ve met up with them again and had a really good time with them xx

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By *entleman JayMan
5 weeks ago

Wakefield

I like to get to know people a little bit.

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By *laytonAMan
5 weeks ago

Newport

Social first is preference but have sometimes broken that rule

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By *ittynzWoman
5 weeks ago

Richmond

Always meet for drink and chat first you never know people make be complete fakes , off balls or no chemistry or they might think the same of you and it gives you chance to say thank you but no thank you.

For me personally meet chat flight maybe touching or kissing if everyone agrees and then move back to house, hotel or what ever if everyone agreees

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
5 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Always meet for drink and chat first you never know people make be complete fakes , off balls or no chemistry or they might think the same of you and it gives you chance to say thank you but no thank you.

For me personally meet chat flight maybe touching or kissing if everyone agrees and then move back to house, hotel or what ever if everyone agreees"

So I am willing to look past the fact I have no idea what on earth you are on about, but meet you in the Cabbage Patch next time I'm in Twickers. 😂

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By *aven.Woman
5 weeks ago

Not the North West...

I have enough friends, I'm only here for the penis.

A drink, then hotel please. I only need 30mins to work out if they're gonna murder me or not.

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By *aizyWoman
5 weeks ago

west midlands

I prefer a social just to see if the chemistry is there irl, it is a bit frustrating when the chemistry is there and I have to wait to meet again but, it's all good.

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By *illy IdolMan
5 weeks ago

Midlands

"Both have been enjoyable in the past, but I prefer a social date first usually.

Jeez, how shit are you only having 2 socials. I've had 3!

Shit, but not the worst on here

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By *iberius61Man
5 weeks ago

Pontefract

Social first, it's not so much to see if there's an attraction, I just find that it builds a good anticipation and tension that in my view then benefits a physical meeting.

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By *JcuriousCouple
5 weeks ago

Derby

We like a social first, even if it's on the night and if we all vibe then onto the naughty stuff.

Miss S x

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By *bonyGoddessNyxWoman
5 weeks ago

Nottingham

Social first - Always!

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By *B69Woman
5 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Social first, I need to feel that spark, on a rare occasion if the chats have been lengthy and ongoing I have gone straight to the hotel room.

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By *s MariposaWoman
5 weeks ago

Essex

Most definitely a social first, should both parties get on, then it could be decided if It will be taken further

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By *inx000 OP Couple
5 weeks ago

Manchester

"Socials - but have had so many no shows tend to meet in clubs "

I totally get this..at least if they don't show up at a club you can still enjoy the rest of your night with somebody else maybe?

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By *inx000 OP Couple
5 weeks ago

Manchester

"We like a social first, even if it's on the night and if we all vibe then onto the naughty stuff.

Miss S x"

Agree 💯

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By *inx000 OP Couple
5 weeks ago

Manchester

"I prefer a social just to see if the chemistry is there irl, it is a bit frustrating when the chemistry is there and I have to wait to meet again but, it's all good."

Yes that can be frustrating but at least you know there is a mutual attraction and a spark which you can build on the next time you meet

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By *inx000 OP Couple
5 weeks ago

Manchester

"Both have been enjoyable in the past, but I prefer a social date first usually.

Jeez, how shit are you only having 2 socials. I've had 3!

Shit, but not the worst on here

Definitely not the worst 😂

I can imagine your socials turn very naughty very quick Mr Idol

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By *usyBusyGirlWoman
5 weeks ago

Brum

Yeah,always a social first 🫣🤣

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
5 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Social first, I need to feel that spark, on a rare occasion if the chats have been lengthy and ongoing I have gone straight to the hotel room."

Dear Lord. I'm now rating you a solid 'phwoaar point 8 out of ten'

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
5 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Both have been enjoyable in the past, but I prefer a social date first usually.

Jeez, how shit are you only having 2 socials. I've had 3!

Shit, but not the worst on here

I know. I've seen some threads titled...

'help me get a meet'

'what am I doing wrong?'

'why do women hate me?'

So at least you've got it right 3 more times than these hapless chappies 😉

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By *hat.coupleCouple
5 weeks ago

Dartford

Social is a must, whether that's at a club or a pub is up to you. we are happy to play same day if there's a connection, hence why we like a club x

Mrs x

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By *aybeLadyWoman
5 weeks ago

West Dublin

Social. Always. See if there is a connection or if they look like their pics!🤦‍♀️😂

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By *ik NaksCouple
5 weeks ago

Wigan

"Social first - Always!"

Kin ell how sexy are you 🫦🙈🤦‍♀️ xx

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By *orphia2003Woman
5 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Social first.

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By *vaRose43Woman
5 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Social first, although I have met in a hotel room after lots of chats and teasing too

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By *ea monkeyMan
5 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

Usually social first. I find that it helps to check attraction, build anticipation and to get to know them.

I have skipped the social on a few occasions though

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
5 weeks ago

Southampton

"Usually social first. I find that it helps to check attraction, build anticipation and to get to know them.

I have skipped the social on a few occasions though"

Next Time TM next time

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By *insBadMan
5 weeks ago

& around

Have both. Meet at the Hotel bar

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By *hrista BellendWoman
5 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Always a social, I need to see what chemistry we have and that involves a kiss.

I have walked away when we are not compatible, also I have lead him upstairs to my hotel room when the chemistry is strong

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By *viatrixWoman
5 weeks ago

Redhill

Always a social. Mostly for safety and also to establish if the attraction and chemistry are there.

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By *ira2024Woman
5 weeks ago

Always a social first to see if there is chemistry attraction.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
5 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We get a babysitter twice a year if we’re lucky. There’s no time for a social.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
5 weeks ago

Ends

Usually a social first but I met my now partner at a hotel for the first time. Though we went for dinner before we fucked all night.

Other than that it’s like 2 people maybe where I’ve fucked within hours of meeting. They’re all special people.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
5 weeks ago

North West

Usually a social first. Would contemplate "immediate" sexy time in a club type situation though.

But we don't do sexy meeting often anyways.

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By *ustMe123xWoman
5 weeks ago

Essex

I’ve done it both ways but where I haven’t had a social I’ve chatted to them loads beforehand on WhatsApp so by time we meet I feel like

I know them. Sometimes with time and distance it’s hard to do the whole social thing first

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By *parkle1974Woman
5 weeks ago

Leeds

Always a social first. Never met anyone and jumped straight into bed with them.

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By *ife NinjaMan
5 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I've done both

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By *tevieboyyyMan
5 weeks ago

Waterlooville

Would prefer to skip the social. I'm good at reading the other person but do understand that a woman would like to have validation that I'm not a axe wielding psychopath. Also I smell nice!

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By *ear in the chairMan
5 weeks ago

yeah there

Done both but apart from very few occasions, those that start with a social always build that delicious anticipation more so would be my preference.

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By *enelope2UWoman
5 weeks ago

Fife

Only a public place just to gauge if there is an ick factor or click factor...

so many lie on their keyboard on here

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

In an ideal world, a social first would be great with the idea to get a hotel at a later date of all goes well.

But I have had some amazing meets meeting them at a hotel for and having sex on a first meet which means I haven't ruled that out if the opportunity arises.

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
5 weeks ago

Wales

^ This.

As someone who has *always* been very time limited, a lot of my fab plans have involved sex on the first "date" so to speak.

That said, I only ever make arrangements after we've spoke for a fair few weeks including over the phone, video calls etc

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By *ookie46Woman
5 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

A social but sometimes you’re just counting down the minutes till you can check into the hotel

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By *atinaChica54Woman
5 weeks ago

Marlborough

I always insist on a social meet initially to see if the vibe is there IRL & if so, continue the evening for fun & frolics. I like to be sure I do actually fancy them in person (same goes for them to also fancy me) & build up some sexual tension during the social meet with some serious flirting.. Results in much better sex in my experience

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
5 weeks ago

Bristol

"I always insist on a social meet initially to see if the vibe is there IRL & if so, continue the evening for fun & frolics. I like to be sure I do actually fancy them in person (same goes for them to also fancy me) & build up some sexual tension during the social meet with some serious flirting.. Results in much better sex in my experience "

This is a perfect response

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By *enfella4uMan
5 weeks ago

staffs

I suppose it all depends on how horny you both are in the scenario sometimes I’d like meet for a coffee or something first then other times I’m that horny I wanna meet for pure passion and great sex straight away

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By *andadbodMan
5 weeks ago

Liverpool

Always social first, im not one of those guys that can blindly have sex without a connection.

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By *omRachCouple
5 weeks ago

Wirral

Social meet 1st, every time.

Without exception.

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By *rHotNottsMan
5 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

When swimming as a couple and it’s primarily about the sex, I am fine to just turn up at their house or a hotel, but not a club. We are all adults and if there is no chemistry for any of the 4 then nothing happens.

When it’s just me it’s quite different I really wanna know the person quite well before having sex. But then I can spend months or even years chatting to them before meeting….

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By *ibs4Man
5 weeks ago

Romford,poitiers france and torrevieja spain

Often find it’s a drink and a chat first before anything happens

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By *etsbenaughty69Couple
5 weeks ago

somewhere

Social first..

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By *eliWoman
5 weeks ago

"A social. I don't do clubs. Never had sex in one, never will. I'll never go straight to being dicked.

I'm a bit odd because I've found I don't feel attraction until there's a level of friendship there. Bar Tom Hiddleston. But generally it doesn't work for me like it does for most.

I can count on one hand the number of times I've met someone and gone on to do more than kiss. And I'm comfortable with that.

No you can't. At all. But this thread has sadly gone the way I thought it might. People saying nope, social first always. Have to get to know a person...

When the reality is? That's far from the truth. As long as you're not hurting anyone, there's nothing wrong with not needing a big connection, having NSA. All of that stuff. I wish people could own their preferences and not say what they think they should, rather what the actual truth is.

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By *ilyandronCouple
5 weeks ago

Bristol

We don’t do clubs but often straight to the fun part

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By *mjustmeMan
5 weeks ago

East Cornwall

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By *mjustmeMan
5 weeks ago

East Cornwall

"Always always always social first. I'm actively trying to avoid being assaulted, r@ped, or murdered thanks.

There are precious few women on here with being r@ped, murdered and pillaged on their list of kinks so you're not alone, you're just being more actively against it.

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By *mjustmeMan
5 weeks ago

East Cornwall

I have to be honest, I much prefer a social first, but if a lady invites me over for naughty time I'm probably going to take her up on it.

The problems only start with the hybrid scenario where I arrive at a lady's house and she's actually wanting a half hour social in her own lounge before heading upstairs - it feels really quite offensive to say "I just remembered that I left the stove on" but agreeing to sex with someone I know there's no chemistry with is far, far worse than having sex before finding out it's not there.

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
5 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"Always always always social first. I'm actively trying to avoid being assaulted, r@ped, or murdered thanks.

There are precious few women on here with being r@ped, murdered and pillaged on their list of kinks so you're not alone, you're just being more actively against it."

Sure. Perhaps my comment was too vague and/or flippant. I'll try again.

Sometimes, I like to see if there is a connection with someone before deciding.

Sometimes, I'm down for getting straight to the banging.

However the reality of life (and my own actual, real, lived experience) means that first, or more, social is necessary.

I'm curious about what it would look like if I had no need for concern for my personal safety - I guess I'd probably have fucked a lot more people.

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By *8on33Man
5 weeks ago

winfrith

I'd prefer anything please .

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By *hGlobbitsMan
5 weeks ago

Leeds

Social, usually. I had an experience with a woman not taking a polite "Thanks for the chat" for an answer that made me glad we were out in public when I had to send her packing. She got very vocally offended when I wouldn't come back to her place and started calling me all kinds of unnecessary names. I'm not sure what I'd have done if she'd already been in my living room by this point!

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