FabSwingers.com forum: What’s your safeword..

By *ira2024 OP Woman
4 days ago

South West

when playing?

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By *onkoMan
4 days ago

here and there

Stop usually

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By *agatoXXXMan
4 days ago

North Haverbrook

"when playing?"

I don't need one.🙄

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By *bxanfCouple
4 days ago

Inside your walls

Nintendo

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By *atboynogymMan
4 days ago

kettering

Fiukkin ell really

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By *ellhungvweMan
4 days ago

Cheltenham

OMG. Yes please! More!

If I am honest, it might need some working on.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 days ago

Carlisle usually

No and stop work fine 💜

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By *elix SightedMan
4 days ago

Cloud 8

"when playing?"

Hello. That usually puts a stop to proceedings.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
4 days ago

Lincoln

Flooglehorn.

LvM

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
4 days ago

In a town full of colours

Red.🛑🚦

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By *ayd100Man
4 days ago

clitheroe

Don't stop

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By *iscotti32Woman
4 days ago

gateshead

Bananarama.

Never used it yet tho

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By *agatoXXXMan
4 days ago

North Haverbrook

https://youtu.be/Ua0a_u_RR64?si=oPr4UFmzFM-NqkYN

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By *he Silver FuxMan
4 days ago

Uttoxeter

Harder.

Well it was until it was actually needed. A very poor choice.

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By *ase4122Man
4 days ago

Lancashire

Armageddon!!

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
4 days ago

A den in the Glen

Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantysiliogogogoch

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By *oodmessMan
4 days ago

yumsville

Nice tits

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By *electableicecreamMan
4 days ago

The West

Not in my ass.

That's the only one I've needed to far

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By *electableicecreamMan
4 days ago

The West

*so

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By *oo..Woman
4 days ago

Boo's World

"Again"

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
4 days ago

North West

"Red.🛑🚦"

This one. Amber has been really useful too on occasion. The traffic light system is great!

Although the idea of using the word 'Meatloaf' always makes me chuckle.

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By *ondscotMan
4 days ago

glasgow

I use the traffic light system too, and I’ve always found it works really well. Obviously, green never really comes up, but amber occasionally has and is a great succinct way to communicate that the limit is near without ruining the moment. Red…. Is absolutely clear to all.

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By *vaRose43Woman
4 days ago

Forest of Dean

I enjoy helping someone I play with find their safewords, and enjoy the psychological aspect of it being a word they use on a daily basis.

Traffic light system and drop items also employed.

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By *iny DelightWoman
4 days ago

City Centre

I'm also a traffic lights fan. 🙂

What's the consensus when you can't be verbal? 🤐

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By *vaRose43Woman
4 days ago

Forest of Dean

"I'm also a traffic lights fan. 🙂

What's the consensus when you can't be verbal? 🤐"

Drop items. I use hand bells. If you can’t verbalise or can’t remember the word they’re a great way to get my attention. Either dropped or shaken

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By *olfandtazCouple
4 days ago

Bristol

We use the traffic light system too, so far taz is yet to go yellow or red which I take as a bonus

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By *abluesbabyMan
4 days ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

Pomegranate - so far its only been used the once "live" at one of our do's. Hey it works!

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By *oodlepotMan
4 days ago

cheltenham

Beatle juice, never used it yet

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By *coobyABCMan
4 days ago

Aberdeen

Meatloaf

I'd do anything for love but I won't do that

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By * and R cple4Couple
4 days ago

swansea

We don't use safe words we tend to have very subtle hand gestures or even just a look works for us also..

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
4 days ago

Leeds

I don't think there's any need personally a clear no or stop is quite self explanatory.

Mrs

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
4 days ago

A den in the Glen

"I don't think there's any need personally a clear no or stop is quite self explanatory.

Mrs "

Not if you like the other person lying through their teeth saying "stop, stop you massive cocked bastard, you're too big for me"

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By *eordieJeansCouple
4 days ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

FLÜGGÅӘNKб€CHIŒßØLIÊN

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
4 days ago

S. Herts

Vote Tory.

Brings things to halt I find.

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By *ortyairCouple
4 days ago

Wallasey

'Ger off', Mrs x

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By *cnugatugMan
4 days ago

Chatham

Jumanji odd I know but a good (and hilarious one) to use

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By *teveanddebsCouple
4 days ago

Norwich

"I'm also a traffic lights fan. 🙂

What's the consensus when you can't be verbal? 🤐"

Another vote for drop items here. The first time Debs and I played in a loud environment I gave her my cigarettes to drop if she needed to.

I got the pack back totally squashed. It was then I realised tha a fragile item wasn't a good idea and how stubborn she can be

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By *ubmissive guyMan
4 days ago

Liverpool

Imagine trying to say, some of those safewords, while you've got someone sitting on your face.

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By *vaRose43Woman
4 days ago

Forest of Dean

"Vote Tory.

Brings things to halt I find. "

Good god 🤣

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By *ee69Man
4 days ago

glasgow

Stop usually does it lol

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By *eliWoman
4 days ago

I don't play.

During sex? That's between me and them.

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By *or-QueeningMan
4 days ago

Manchester

Well it used to be supercalifragilisticexpialidocious but by the time I'd said it they'd already done something to me quite atrocious.

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By *akedMMan
4 days ago

Witney

When i used to tie my ex g/f to the bed and tease her ,riding crop,flogger,cane, belt .We used the traffic light sytem.

Its been a long time since i have had the plesure to do this .

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By *rMotivator2.0Man
4 days ago

Donegal

Ahhhh bisto

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By *ad NannaWoman
4 days ago

East London

I say wait, if we're doing anal, and he stops, to allow me time to relax.

Stop or no, for anything else.

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By *ad NannaWoman
4 days ago

East London

"Imagine trying to say, some of those safewords, while you've got someone sitting on your face.

Then you tap out.

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By *oobaaMan
4 days ago

South Shields

" I think Iam bleeding" normally works lol

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By *aven.Woman
4 days ago

Not the North West...

I love you!

Guaranteed to make all men stop and run.

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By *nt0001Man
4 days ago

london

Mine is ‘Microsoft’. It’s a memorable everyday word for me plus the thought of Steve Ballmer and Bill Gates dancing does kill the mood.

https://youtu.be/ojP0BO6H4Qc

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
4 days ago

Staffordshire

Safe word is our safe word, it keeps things safe word wise and is a safe word in itself to avoid safe word confusion.

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By *r lotharioMan
4 days ago

newcastle-under-lyme

llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantisyliogogogoch

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By *irthandgirthMan
4 days ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

floccinaucinihilipilification

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By *irthandgirthMan
4 days ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

It's annoying when you keep saying 'there' when the safe word is 'they're'

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
4 days ago

south coast IOW

"Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantysiliogogogoch"

Ive tried that but he thought the gogogoch was encouraging and carried on.

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
4 days ago

south coast IOW

"floccinaucinihilipilification"

Havent heard this since Latin at school 😂😂

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By *WANDTGCouple
4 days ago

Borough of Greenwich

Amber

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By *tlanshiaWoman
4 days ago

Chatham

Pineapple.

Both kinky and at work.

I often tell my boss my safe word is pineapple, she never listens though.

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By *ink vixenCouple
4 days ago

Medway

I did suggest supercalifafragilisticxpaledotious but she went with…

Ouch you bastard!

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
4 days ago

A den in the Glen

"floccinaucinihilipilification

Havent heard this since Latin at school 😂😂"

Exactly the same as me. Lol. My mate used to say it all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 days ago

Traffic lights ,or my previous sub if she was gagged used finger signals, 3 fingers wriggling meant slow ,4 stop completely

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By (user no longer on site)
4 days ago

This.

If my partner didn't stop when I said "stop" or "no" that would be the last time I'd have sex with them. Clear language benefits everyone. I don't see the point of speaking in code.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 days ago

Fuck off!

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By *vaRose43Woman
4 days ago

Forest of Dean

"This.

If my partner didn't stop when I said "stop" or "no" that would be the last time I'd have sex with them. Clear language benefits everyone. I don't see the point of speaking in code."

Within a kink scene or roleplay using the words no or stop can be part of the “event” or simply easy to say when you don’t really mean it and are fully inside your head. Therefore it’s safer for everyone there that there is a separate word that indicates that things do indeed need to stop.

Silly example “oh god!, oh don’t!, stop! I’m going to cum”

Having a distinct memorable safeword prevents miscommunication.

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By *unover40Couple
4 days ago

yeovil

Ivegotcramp

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By *irthandgirthMan
4 days ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I have an ex who used to climax so hard she would just see flashes of light and her vision would blur.

Safe word was 'stars'

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By *opinovMan
4 days ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Gaaaaaaaaaaaargh!!

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By *irthandgirthMan
4 days ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"floccinaucinihilipilification

Havent heard this since Latin at school 😂😂

Exactly the same as me. Lol. My mate used to say it all the time."

It is funny as it's a bastardisation of several Latin terms and only invented in the 18th century.

I did once manage to bust it out on a fab meet. Must have worked. She met me again

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By *r M Gray88Man
4 days ago

Morecambe

Squirt Master

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By *he Silver FuxMan
4 days ago

Uttoxeter

"Imagine trying to say, some of those safewords, while you've got someone sitting on your face.

Then you tap out. "

Or feign unconsciousness…

“GEORGE! I’VE KILLED ANOTHER ONE”

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By *goodlengthMan
4 days ago

near Trowbridge

Orange. However I’ve also used the traffic light system that others have mentioned. We all know red means stop.

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By *r LickalotapussMan
4 days ago

London

Flour .... not to confused with Flower.... that happens often.

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
4 days ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"Horses" or house colour coding which usually "red"

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By *WB85Man
4 days ago

Staffordshire

Enough.

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
4 days ago

Sheffield

If I'm involved in a kink scene I tend to want to have a chat about what people want in advance.

I like the Traffic Light system. As you've got a chance to throttle back, and a colour check can be easy to slip into an RP scene without breaking the mood.

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By *midnight-Woman
4 days ago

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It used to be 'biscuit tin'

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
3 days ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"I'm also a traffic lights fan. 🙂

What's the consensus when you can't be verbal? 🤐

Drop items. I use hand bells. If you can’t verbalise or can’t remember the word they’re a great way to get my attention. Either dropped or shaken "

Ditto to this. You can get a kids toy which flashes, lights up and makes a noise when it's dropped. That's another great indicator.

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By *ripfillMan
3 days ago

havant

Horse radish … it’s very safe ..

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By *teveanddebsCouple
3 days ago

Norwich

"This.

If my partner didn't stop when I said "stop" or "no" that would be the last time I'd have sex with them. Clear language benefits everyone. I don't see the point of speaking in code.

Silly example “oh god!, oh don’t!, stop! I’m going to cum”

Having a distinct memorable safeword prevents miscommunication."

This, it's important to have word you wouldn't use in ordinary conversation and can't be confused like in the example above.

Don't, stop

And

Don't stop

Very different when written but spoken the two could be confused.

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By *einster-CoupleCouple
3 days ago

Dublin

I keep it simple 'no' tends to work

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By *exycarlashane181Couple
3 days ago

Leamington Spa

"when playing?"

Mine is No or Stop...

Usually only used when we have guests that try to cross my boundaries but fortunately they have always done so

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