FabSwingers.com forum: What’s your safeword..

By *ira2024 OP Woman
19 weeks ago

when playing?

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Stop usually

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By *agatoXXXMan
19 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

"when playing?"

I don't need one.🙄

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Nintendo

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Fiukkin ell really

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By *ellhungvweMan
19 weeks ago

Cheltenham

OMG. Yes please! More!

If I am honest, it might need some working on.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
19 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

No and stop work fine 💜

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By *elix SightedMan
19 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"when playing?"

Hello. That usually puts a stop to proceedings.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
19 weeks ago

Lincoln

Flooglehorn.

LvM

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By *riar BelisseWoman
19 weeks ago

Delightful Bliss

Red.🛑🚦

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By *ayd100Man
19 weeks ago

clitheroe

Don't stop

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By *iscotti32Woman
19 weeks ago

choomah island

Bananarama.

Never used it yet tho

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By *agatoXXXMan
19 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

https://youtu.be/Ua0a_u_RR64?si=oPr4UFmzFM-NqkYN

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By *he Silver FuxMan
19 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

Harder.

Well it was until it was actually needed. A very poor choice.

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By *ase4122Man
19 weeks ago

Lancashire

Armageddon!!

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
19 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantysiliogogogoch

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By *oodmessMan
19 weeks ago

yumsville

Nice tits

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By *electableicecreamMan
19 weeks ago

The West

Not in my ass.

That's the only one I've needed to far

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By *electableicecreamMan
19 weeks ago

The West

*so

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"Again"

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
19 weeks ago

North West

"Red.🛑🚦"

This one. Amber has been really useful too on occasion. The traffic light system is great!

Although the idea of using the word 'Meatloaf' always makes me chuckle.

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By *ondscotMan
19 weeks ago

glasgow

I use the traffic light system too, and I’ve always found it works really well. Obviously, green never really comes up, but amber occasionally has and is a great succinct way to communicate that the limit is near without ruining the moment. Red…. Is absolutely clear to all.

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By *vaRose43Woman
19 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

I enjoy helping someone I play with find their safewords, and enjoy the psychological aspect of it being a word they use on a daily basis.

Traffic light system and drop items also employed.

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
19 weeks ago

City Centre

I'm also a traffic lights fan. 🙂

What's the consensus when you can't be verbal? 🤐

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By *vaRose43Woman
19 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

"I'm also a traffic lights fan. 🙂

What's the consensus when you can't be verbal? 🤐"

Drop items. I use hand bells. If you can’t verbalise or can’t remember the word they’re a great way to get my attention. Either dropped or shaken

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By *olfandtazCouple
19 weeks ago

Bristol

We use the traffic light system too, so far taz is yet to go yellow or red which I take as a bonus

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By *abluesbabyMan
19 weeks ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

Pomegranate - so far its only been used the once "live" at one of our do's. Hey it works!

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By *oodlepotMan
19 weeks ago

cheltenham

Beatle juice, never used it yet

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By *coobyABCMan
19 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Meatloaf

I'd do anything for love but I won't do that

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By * and R cple4Couple
19 weeks ago

swansea

We don't use safe words we tend to have very subtle hand gestures or even just a look works for us also..

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

I don't think there's any need personally a clear no or stop is quite self explanatory.

Mrs

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
19 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"I don't think there's any need personally a clear no or stop is quite self explanatory.

Mrs "

Not if you like the other person lying through their teeth saying "stop, stop you massive cocked bastard, you're too big for me"

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By *eordieJeansCouple
19 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

FLÜGGÅӘNKб€CHIŒßØLIÊN

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Vote Tory.

Brings things to halt I find.

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By *ortyairCouple
19 weeks ago

Wallasey

'Ger off', Mrs x

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By *cnugatugMan
19 weeks ago

Chatham

Jumanji odd I know but a good (and hilarious one) to use

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By *teveanddebsCouple
19 weeks ago

Norwich

"I'm also a traffic lights fan. 🙂

What's the consensus when you can't be verbal? 🤐"

Another vote for drop items here. The first time Debs and I played in a loud environment I gave her my cigarettes to drop if she needed to.

I got the pack back totally squashed. It was then I realised tha a fragile item wasn't a good idea and how stubborn she can be

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By *ubmissive guyMan
19 weeks ago

Liverpool

Imagine trying to say, some of those safewords, while you've got someone sitting on your face.

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By *vaRose43Woman
19 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

"Vote Tory.

Brings things to halt I find. "

Good god 🤣

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By *ee69Man
19 weeks ago

glasgow

Stop usually does it lol

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By *eliWoman
19 weeks ago

I don't play.

During sex? That's between me and them.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
19 weeks ago

Manchester

Well it used to be supercalifragilisticexpialidocious but by the time I'd said it they'd already done something to me quite atrocious.

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By *akedMMan
19 weeks ago

Witney

When i used to tie my ex g/f to the bed and tease her ,riding crop,flogger,cane, belt .We used the traffic light sytem.

Its been a long time since i have had the plesure to do this .

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By *rMotivator2.0Man
19 weeks ago

Donegal

Ahhhh bisto

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By *ad NannaWoman
19 weeks ago

East London

I say wait, if we're doing anal, and he stops, to allow me time to relax.

Stop or no, for anything else.

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By *ad NannaWoman
19 weeks ago

East London

"Imagine trying to say, some of those safewords, while you've got someone sitting on your face.

Then you tap out.

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By *oobaaMan
19 weeks ago

South Shields

" I think Iam bleeding" normally works lol

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I love you!

Guaranteed to make all men stop and run.

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By *ir-March-a-lotMan
19 weeks ago

london

Mine is ‘Microsoft’. It’s a memorable everyday word for me plus the thought of Steve Ballmer and Bill Gates dancing does kill the mood.

https://youtu.be/ojP0BO6H4Qc

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
19 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Safe word is our safe word, it keeps things safe word wise and is a safe word in itself to avoid safe word confusion.

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By *r lotharioMan
19 weeks ago

playa del ingles

llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantisyliogogogoch

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By *irthandgirthMan
19 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

floccinaucinihilipilification

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By *irthandgirthMan
19 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

It's annoying when you keep saying 'there' when the safe word is 'they're'

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
19 weeks ago

south coast IOW

"Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantysiliogogogoch"

Ive tried that but he thought the gogogoch was encouraging and carried on.

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
19 weeks ago

south coast IOW

"floccinaucinihilipilification"

Havent heard this since Latin at school 😂😂

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By *WANDTGCouple
19 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

Amber

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Pineapple.

Both kinky and at work.

I often tell my boss my safe word is pineapple, she never listens though.

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By *ink vixenCouple
19 weeks ago

Medway

I did suggest supercalifafragilisticxpaledotious but she went with…

Ouch you bastard!

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
19 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"floccinaucinihilipilification

Havent heard this since Latin at school 😂😂"

Exactly the same as me. Lol. My mate used to say it all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Traffic lights ,or my previous sub if she was gagged used finger signals, 3 fingers wriggling meant slow ,4 stop completely

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

This.

If my partner didn't stop when I said "stop" or "no" that would be the last time I'd have sex with them. Clear language benefits everyone. I don't see the point of speaking in code.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Fuck off!

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By *vaRose43Woman
19 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

"This.

If my partner didn't stop when I said "stop" or "no" that would be the last time I'd have sex with them. Clear language benefits everyone. I don't see the point of speaking in code."

Within a kink scene or roleplay using the words no or stop can be part of the “event” or simply easy to say when you don’t really mean it and are fully inside your head. Therefore it’s safer for everyone there that there is a separate word that indicates that things do indeed need to stop.

Silly example “oh god!, oh don’t!, stop! I’m going to cum”

Having a distinct memorable safeword prevents miscommunication.

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By *unover40Couple
19 weeks ago

yeovil

Ivegotcramp

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By *irthandgirthMan
19 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I have an ex who used to climax so hard she would just see flashes of light and her vision would blur.

Safe word was 'stars'

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By *opinovMan
19 weeks ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Gaaaaaaaaaaaargh!!

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By *irthandgirthMan
19 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"floccinaucinihilipilification

Havent heard this since Latin at school 😂😂

Exactly the same as me. Lol. My mate used to say it all the time."

It is funny as it's a bastardisation of several Latin terms and only invented in the 18th century.

I did once manage to bust it out on a fab meet. Must have worked. She met me again

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By *r M Gray88Man
19 weeks ago

Lancaster

Squirt Master

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By *he Silver FuxMan
19 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"Imagine trying to say, some of those safewords, while you've got someone sitting on your face.

Then you tap out. "

Or feign unconsciousness…

“GEORGE! I’VE KILLED ANOTHER ONE”

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By *goodlengthMan
19 weeks ago

near Trowbridge

Orange. However I’ve also used the traffic light system that others have mentioned. We all know red means stop.

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By *r SmartypantsMan
19 weeks ago

London

Flour .... not to confused with Flower.... that happens often.

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"Horses" or house colour coding which usually "red"

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By *WB85Man
19 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Enough.

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
19 weeks ago

Sheffield

If I'm involved in a kink scene I tend to want to have a chat about what people want in advance.

I like the Traffic Light system. As you've got a chance to throttle back, and a colour check can be easy to slip into an RP scene without breaking the mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

It used to be 'biscuit tin'

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"I'm also a traffic lights fan. 🙂

What's the consensus when you can't be verbal? 🤐

Drop items. I use hand bells. If you can’t verbalise or can’t remember the word they’re a great way to get my attention. Either dropped or shaken "

Ditto to this. You can get a kids toy which flashes, lights up and makes a noise when it's dropped. That's another great indicator.

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By *ripfillMan
19 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

Horse radish … it’s very safe ..

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By *teveanddebsCouple
19 weeks ago

Norwich

"This.

If my partner didn't stop when I said "stop" or "no" that would be the last time I'd have sex with them. Clear language benefits everyone. I don't see the point of speaking in code.

Silly example “oh god!, oh don’t!, stop! I’m going to cum”

Having a distinct memorable safeword prevents miscommunication."

This, it's important to have word you wouldn't use in ordinary conversation and can't be confused like in the example above.

Don't, stop

And

Don't stop

Very different when written but spoken the two could be confused.

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By *einster-CoupleCouple
19 weeks ago

Dublin

I keep it simple 'no' tends to work

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By *exycarlashane181Couple
19 weeks ago

Leamington Spa

"when playing?"

Mine is No or Stop...

Usually only used when we have guests that try to cross my boundaries but fortunately they have always done so

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