FabSwingers.com forum: Is it just me,,,,

By *eachButton OP Woman
11 weeks ago

Bath

Good Evening Everyone,

A quick question for you all,,,

Am I the only person who hates it when I am sent a message, take time to reply and then the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???

RUDE! Why bother??

Rant over and breath,,,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

You reply to messages?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
11 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Sometimes I see a well written message that needs more mental bandwidth than I have at that moment to give a proper response, so I'll leave it on read until I can answer properly.

I also don't assume I'm the first priority of someone who has just started messaging me on here. If they've wandered off elsewhere for a bit my message will still be there when they wander back.

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By *egDaySkipperMan
11 weeks ago

Liverpool

I leave a fab tab open on my computer when I play video games or watch TV series.

It might show me online but I'm not checking it for hours.

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By *ampireLoveMan
11 weeks ago

Essex & Bristol

Does sounds frustrating but I know I have myself logged in on my phone but not actually active. I don’t know if that shows a person online or not, so they could genuinely not be online

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It's annoying when it's someone who is wanting to meet and you've replied to confirm details and it takes them a while to respond and you're left wondering if they've got cold feet and that you need to make alternative plans

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By *ount TootusMan
11 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"Good Evening Everyone,

A quick question for you all,,,

Am I the only person who hates it when I am sent a message, take time to reply and then the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???

RUDE! Why bother??

Rant over and breath,,,,,,"

I have a bad habit of replying to fast to everyone.

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By *r lotharioMan
11 weeks ago

newcastle-under-lyme

it's downright rude and utterly pointless. i don't get it

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By *egDaySkipperMan
11 weeks ago

Liverpool

"Sometimes I see a well written message that needs more mental bandwidth than I have at that moment to give a proper response, so I'll leave it on read until I can answer properly.

I also don't assume I'm the first priority of someone who has just started messaging me on here. If they've wandered off elsewhere for a bit my message will still be there when they wander back."

Still waiting for your reply to me by the way, it's been 6 months, 7 days and 13 hours

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By *eachButton OP Woman
11 weeks ago

Bath

"You reply to messages? "

I am beginning to think why bother!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
11 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Do you also stand in front of the microwave shouting at it to hurry up ..

It really is a gimme it now world with the speed of communications.

Bring back letter writing I say, people were happy to wait a full 2 weeks

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By *weetiepie99Woman
11 weeks ago

cardiff

I don't think it's rude at all. They may read and come back to it later. Or have other things going on. I really wouldn't get stressed about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"Good Evening Everyone,

A quick question for you all,,,

Am I the only person who hates it when I am sent a message, take time to reply and then the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???

….."

Probably not.

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By *egDaySkipperMan
11 weeks ago

Liverpool

Also just FYI, there is about 10-15 minute delay with fab. So someone will show online but has gone offline like 10 minutes ago.

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By *ellhungvweMan
11 weeks ago

Cheltenham

If someone decides not to read or respond to a reply then that tells me everything I need to know. Life is too short to get angry over stuff like that - just move on.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
11 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Sometimes I see a well written message that needs more mental bandwidth than I have at that moment to give a proper response, so I'll leave it on read until I can answer properly.

I also don't assume I'm the first priority of someone who has just started messaging me on here. If they've wandered off elsewhere for a bit my message will still be there when they wander back.

Still waiting for your reply to me by the way, it's been 6 months, 7 days and 13 hours

Fab says we've never messaged each other 💜

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By *imply DeeWoman
11 weeks ago

Wherever

No, it doesn’t bother me OP. I assume if they want to respond they will, if not they won’t. This is out of my control so I’m not giving it any more thought.

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By *ansoffateMan
11 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

If you consider that rude, then I am probably not for you 😂.

I can get into messaging back and forth in quite a focused way, but sometimes I am just not in the right headspace. I don't mind being poked, but waiting on me can be a fool's errand. It's nothing to do with priority or being rude, well not from my perspective, it's just how my neurodiverse brain works.

I have tried in the past, but it gets me overwhelmed, doesn't go well.

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
11 weeks ago

Wolvo

I delete sent messages so if they reply then happy days if not i write their name in my burn book 😁

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By *eachButton OP Woman
11 weeks ago

Bath

"Do you also stand in front of the microwave shouting at it to hurry up ..

It really is a gimme it now world with the speed of communications.

Bring back letter writing I say, people were happy to wait a full 2 weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"Good Evening Everyone,

...the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???

RUDE! Why bother??

..."

Sometimes my phone has not logged out (or I have forgotten to close Fab on it when I am at work). I have also discovered that Fab may show you as online even though you closed the phone app a while ago.

Patience - then if no response, delete the message and possibly block the recipient (but not before you have highlighted your original masterpiece, then hit Ctrl+C and then Ctrl+V into a new message for your next victim)

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"Do you also stand in front of the microwave shouting at it to hurry up ..

It really is a gimme it now world with the speed of communications.

Bring back letter writing I say, people were happy to wait a full 2 weeks

Oh, dont forget the typing pool too, with Tippex, carbon paper, and company policy of responding to correspondence in 10 working days.

Actually, bring back carrier pigeons ...

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By *eachButton OP Woman
11 weeks ago

Bath

"If you consider that rude, then I am probably not for you 😂.

I have tried in the past, but it gets me overwhelmed, doesn't go well."

No problem but why waste my time messaging me in the first place?

Oh and I do realise we are not all the same,,,

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By *ad NannaWoman
11 weeks ago

East London

"Do you also stand in front of the microwave shouting at it to hurry up ..

It really is a gimme it now world with the speed of communications.

Bring back letter writing I say, people were happy to wait a full 2 weeks

Doesn't everybody tell their microwave to hurry up? 🤔

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By *eachButton OP Woman
11 weeks ago

Bath

"Do you also stand in front of the microwave shouting at it to hurry up ..

It really is a gimme it now world with the speed of communications.

Bring back letter writing I say, people were happy to wait a full 2 weeks

Oh, dont forget the typing pool too, with Tippex, carbon paper, and company policy of responding to correspondence in 10 working days.

Actually, bring back carrier pigeons ..."

Ive got 2 pigeons waiting for the off,,,, 😂

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By *eachButton OP Woman
11 weeks ago

Bath

"Do you also stand in front of the microwave shouting at it to hurry up ..

It really is a gimme it now world with the speed of communications.

Bring back letter writing I say, people were happy to wait a full 2 weeks

Doesn't everybody tell their microwave to hurry up? 🤔"

Depends how hungry I am 😂

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By *ad NannaWoman
11 weeks ago

East London

On here I tend to forget I have conversations going on.

If they reply I'll remember I was talking to them.

If I've been chatting about meeting and they go quiet, even though they're regularly online I assume they've found someone more interesting and I'll switch off.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"...

Actually, bring back carrier pigeons ...

Ive got 2 pigeons waiting for the off,,,, 😂"

"We didn't receive any messages, and Captain Blackadder definitely did not shoot this delicious plump-breasted pigeon,"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
11 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

I'm much the same O.P. if the What's App ticks go blue ....... I want the answer RIGHT AWAY... but I have to pretend to be grown up

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By *aven.Woman
11 weeks ago

Not the North West...

Maybe your message wasn't that good?

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
11 weeks ago

your head

I can take days to reply, if I'm online I'm not always in my inbox or in the mood to converse. Sometimes I show as online as I've left the tab open. People have lives away from Fab, I don't expect it to be anyone's priority.

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By *eliWoman
11 weeks ago

You won't be the only person.

Weeks? I don't mind. Depends on how well I know the person. Months? I'd write them off and not think about it.

Patience can be a good thing but after a certain point you know they don't particularly care.

Go have a wank OP and don't think about it.

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By *aven.Woman
11 weeks ago

Not the North West...

"I'm much the same O.P. if the What's App ticks go blue ....... I want the answer RIGHT AWAY... but I have to pretend to be grown up

I hide my WhatsApp read receipts

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By *eliWoman
11 weeks ago

"I'm much the same O.P. if the What's App ticks go blue ....... I want the answer RIGHT AWAY... but I have to pretend to be grown up

I hide my WhatsApp read receipts"

I archive people when I know they're crap at replying. Stops me thinking about it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
11 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

"I'm much the same O.P. if the What's App ticks go blue ....... I want the answer RIGHT AWAY... but I have to pretend to be grown up

I hide my WhatsApp read receipts"

So does my youngest ....... don't know who the nasty little critter is modelled on .

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
11 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Maybe their the type of person who takes awhile to respond or maybe they didnt like your message. Patience is a virtue

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By *aven.Woman
11 weeks ago

Not the North West...

"I'm much the same O.P. if the What's App ticks go blue ....... I want the answer RIGHT AWAY... but I have to pretend to be grown up

I hide my WhatsApp read receipts

I archive people when I know they're crap at replying. Stops me thinking about it.

I just mute everyone

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By *eliWoman
11 weeks ago

"I'm much the same O.P. if the What's App ticks go blue ....... I want the answer RIGHT AWAY... but I have to pretend to be grown up

I hide my WhatsApp read receipts

I archive people when I know they're crap at replying. Stops me thinking about it.

I just mute everyone"

Mute works but then if you click you see them. Archive, they're archived on WA and in my mind.

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By *aven.Woman
11 weeks ago

Not the North West...

Also op, I can take days/weeks to reply to people. Sometimes I can be online and post rubbish on here but I just don't have it in me to have a one on one conversation.

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By *aven.Woman
11 weeks ago

Not the North West...

"I'm much the same O.P. if the What's App ticks go blue ....... I want the answer RIGHT AWAY... but I have to pretend to be grown up

I hide my WhatsApp read receipts

I archive people when I know they're crap at replying. Stops me thinking about it.

I just mute everyone

Mute works but then if you click you see them. Archive, they're archived on WA and in my mind. "

Ah, I like.

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By *asterMeliodasMan
11 weeks ago

Newmill

"Good Evening Everyone,

A quick question for you all,,,

Am I the only person who hates it when I am sent a message, take time to reply and then the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???

RUDE! Why bother??

Rant over and breath,,,,,,"

There's one person I'm talking to at the moment who took over a week to reply despite being online several times in the interim. Just because they're online doesn't mean they necessarily have the time to write to you.

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By *ndyp81Man
11 weeks ago

essex

"Good Evening Everyone,

A quick question for you all,,,

Am I the only person who hates it when I am sent a message, take time to reply and then the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???

RUDE! Why bother??

Rant over and breath,,,,,,"

I get this all the time, I’ve come to expect it now, but you just brush it off and go again

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By *ea monkeyMan
11 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

Sometimes life happens. You know that we don’t just sit around waiting for people to message?

I’m also hoping that this OP is meant to be ironic

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By *oeBeansMan
11 weeks ago

Derby

"Sometimes I see a well written message that needs more mental bandwidth than I have at that moment to give a proper response, so I'll leave it on read until I can answer properly.

I also don't assume I'm the first priority of someone who has just started messaging me on here. If they've wandered off elsewhere for a bit my message will still be there when they wander back."

That first paragraph is pretty much me. I very rarely reply straight away because I don't want it to be a rush job but in that case, I'll mark it as unread so I know I have to get back to it

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By *elix SightedMan
11 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"Good Evening Everyone,

A quick question for you all,,,

Am I the only person who hates it when I am sent a message, take time to reply and then the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???

RUDE! Why bother??

Rant over and breath,,,,,,"

So just because you replied they have to reply immediately? Christ.

There are enough status updates and forum threads whinging about people not replying to messages. People don’t owe you their time and are allowed to respond whenever they feel like it. And that may be never. Get over it.

Rant over and breathe…..

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By *parkle1974Woman
11 weeks ago

Leeds

Sometimes it takes me hours or days to reply depending on my mood. Some days I come on and don't even look in my message box.

There could be a melody of reasons why they haven't responded.

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By *ansoffateMan
11 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"If you consider that rude, then I am probably not for you 😂.

I have tried in the past, but it gets me overwhelmed, doesn't go well.

No problem but why waste my time messaging me in the first place?

Oh and I do realise we are not all the same,,,"

Statistical analysis demonstrates that you would have probably said something interesting, funny, have a nice bum or a combination of all three.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
11 weeks ago

Leeds

I sometimes leave messages until later or when I'm in a better position to reply, sometimes I wanna scroll the forum and I'm not in a mind space to be messaging back and forth, I get around to it when I can give it my attention.

If someone got annoyed for not getting a reply purely because I was online they aren't my person.

Mrs

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By *eordieJeansCouple
11 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No reply is a reply.

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By *obilebottomMan
11 weeks ago

All over

I am sure lots of people including myself show online all day sometimes. It does not mean they are actually actively on. I must admit the bit that used to find strange and still do a very tiny bit, is when someone you have been taking to just leaves your message unread for days. Not a big issue anymore though

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"No reply is a reply."

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no it’s not!! 😏

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By *r lotharioMan
11 weeks ago

newcastle-under-lyme

"You reply to messages?

I am beginning to think why bother! "

always bother, there's a diamond in the rough that'll treat you properly somewhere

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By *eordieJeansCouple
11 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"No reply is a reply.

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no it’s not!! 😏"

It’s not panto season yet.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
11 weeks ago

North West

It annoyed me at first but I realised why am I wasting my energy getting angry. So if they don't reply, I leave it at that

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By *exxyyDy11Man
11 weeks ago

North West

"I am sure lots of people including myself show online all day sometimes. It does not mean they are actually actively on. I must admit the bit that used to find strange and still do a very tiny bit, is when someone you have been taking to just leaves your message unread for days. Not a big issue anymore though

Yeah it shows I'm online even though I'm not. Anyway of solving this? Do I have to log completely out?

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