FabSwingers.com forum: Face pics... Trust us we are hot!

By *ondonlad_88 OP Man
19 weeks ago

south East

So recently have been lucky enough to chat to some amazing couples.

But a couple have stated they prefer not to share a face pic but to trust them I won't be disappointed.

Given where we all predict meets on this site may take us is it fair to ask someone to turn up on a blind date?

Oh and yes I'm happy to share what I look like

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By *vaRose43Woman
19 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

I’ve had a few of those sorts of messages lately too

Sorry but I won’t be meeting anyone without exchanging face pics lol

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By *inger_SnapWoman
19 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

No, because it's subjective isn't it? What's hot to one person, is not to someone else.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
19 weeks ago

Darwen

Is this like the Roman times where everyone wore a mask during orgies?

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By *ags73Man
19 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

It’s a bit off if they expect face pics from you first before replying.

Better or more fair to share at same times?

In terms of personal safety I’d be wary of providing a pic and getting nothing back

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By *andT2023Couple
19 weeks ago

in the middle

Nope ..i wont meet anyone i havent seen . Besides that its a bit awkwardcat a pub trying to pick out who it is you might be meeting !!

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I always roll my eyes at people who describe themselves as hot on here, even if they are hot. I certainly wouldn't message anyone who states this, definitely not my type of people. I also think it's odd when people say 'trust me you won't be disappointed.' I bet they'd want to see my face though. I'm also less likely to trust you if you're asking me to trust you.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

The fact they said that would put me off.

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By *iker JackMan
19 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I will not meet without a face pic first. Also hoping it’s their face and up to date

If people won’t share then that’s their choice but I won’t meet them

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By *ascaIMan
19 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

Nobody would lie online. I reckon they’re hot.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
19 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"The fact they said that would put me off."

Same.

Don’t try to tell me you’re attractive. It’s subjective and I’ll make my own mind up thanks.

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By *j2015Couple
19 weeks ago

Glasgow

For us trust is earned not given, but it can be earned very quickly. Showing your faces tells us youre serious about taking to us, you are willing/asking for our trust and in turn we can trust you. 9 times out of 10 we send pictures first but wont continue a conversation until someone is ready to share back.

As a couple our play is built purely on trust, so if our playmates cant commit to that at an early stage its very unlikely we will be compatible (regardless of looks)

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
19 weeks ago

Essex

Absolutely I would not meet without exchanging face pics.

Although having been ghosted since sending mine…..perhaps I should try the alternative 🤣

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By *parkle1974Woman
19 weeks ago

Leeds

I'd never meet anyone who won't show their face first....major red flag for me x

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By *urry BlokeMan
19 weeks ago

Stalybridge

Some of the best looking people I've met over the years were blind meets

I'm kinda upfront though

I don't mind telling someone face to face that I don't fancy them

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
19 weeks ago

Southampton

"Nope ..i wont meet anyone i havent seen . Besides that its a bit awkwardcat a pub trying to pick out who it is you might be meeting !! "

Exactly!! And my eyesight is bad enough without squinting at people....

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Sounds like the usual self entitled couples!

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By *parkle1974Woman
19 weeks ago

Leeds

"I always roll my eyes at people who describe themselves as hot on here, even if they are hot. I certainly wouldn't message anyone who states this, definitely not my type of people. I also think it's odd when people say 'trust me you won't be disappointed.' I bet they'd want to see my face though. I'm also less likely to trust you if you're asking me to trust you."

I am hot...thanks menopause 🤣🤣

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By *HUSH-Man
19 weeks ago

London

Personally I’d want to see face pictures. It’s not an unreasonable request and it’s nice to see who you’ve been talking to.

As for a guarantee that you won’t be disappointed. That comment doesn’t sit well with me and I wouldn’t accept it as an answer. I don’t have a type. I’m either attracted to you or I’m not. What’s considered “good looking” or “hot” is irrelevant.

Just my 2 cents.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"Absolutely I would not meet without exchanging face pics.

Although having been ghosted since sending mine…..perhaps I should try the alternative 🤣"

Was the blood dripping from your fangs?

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By *elix SightedMan
19 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"The fact they said that would put me off.

Same.

Don’t try to tell me you’re attractive. It’s subjective and I’ll make my own mind up thanks."

This ⬆️

By way of example, there are many hot celebrities out there who thousands of people fancy but I really don’t. I also don’t fancy any of my mates wives but I assume they do.

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By *j2015Couple
19 weeks ago

Glasgow

Also blaming work…..

“I cant show my face due to my job”

Sorry but we all have jobs or worse “parent groups 😱” unless you are a public figure or on TV your job isn’t more important than anyone else. We all agree to the risks in this lifestyle so if you cant accept that risk you need to respectfully stay home.

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By *entleman JayMan
19 weeks ago

Wakefield

I’ve had a good few Fab blind dates. Not my preference choice. So if it’s just a social with a good chat and nothing else, I’m ok with that.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
19 weeks ago

Southampton

I never ever think I'm hot, much less tell someone I'm hot ! That just smacks of arrogance... I let people make up their own mind

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By *entleman JayMan
19 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Nope ..i wont meet anyone i havent seen . Besides that its a bit awkwardcat a pub trying to pick out who it is you might be meeting !! "

That’s the bit I like. It’s exiting. It’s gone wrong once though with funny consequences. No one got hurt. Lol.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
19 weeks ago

Darwen

I don't mind sharing face pics, if they don't reply or they state I'm not their type, not an issue. But I do like to see who I'm chatting too though as I'm sure they're the same.

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By *issmorganWoman
19 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hot or not, I'd never meet without seeing a recent face pic.They could be anyone and you might not find them that attractive, it's subjective after all.

Others may be happy to take that chance, but there are plenty of people who will send a face pic

I appreciate people want to keep their lives private, but we all do.

Years ago I was told by a bloke on here, that I didn't need to see his face to meet for a drink. I disagreed and just stopped chatting to him.

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By *r lotharioMan
19 weeks ago

playa del ingles

"Nope ..i wont meet anyone i havent seen . Besides that its a bit awkwardcat a pub trying to pick out who it is you might be meeting !! "

not if they turn up with a black cardboard square over their face lol

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By *ags73Man
19 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"Nope ..i wont meet anyone i havent seen . Besides that its a bit awkwardcat a pub trying to pick out who it is you might be meeting !!

Exactly!! And my eyesight is bad enough without squinting at people...."

Bad eye sight and best guessing from a three year old decent headshot 🤣

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By *ndyp81Man
19 weeks ago

essex

"No, because it's subjective isn't it? What's hot to one person, is not to someone else.

This is very true

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By *ondonlad_88 OP Man
19 weeks ago

south East

"Absolutely I would not meet without exchanging face pics.

Although having been ghosted since sending mine…..perhaps I should try the alternative 🤣"

you know your incredible

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Definitely not!

What if you knew them from elsewhere?

Work,family,friends/friends of friends etc etc

No thanks!

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By *uenevereWoman
19 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

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By *uenevereWoman
19 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

Honestly, I think this is wierd.

Although there are some on here who are happy to have sex with anyone. Most want to know what a person looks like before arranging any sort of meet.

It's a red flag to me, if they won't share face pics but would want to see yours. If they don't want to share faces at all, how will you recognise each other?

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By *ondonlad_88 OP Man
19 weeks ago

south East

"Also blaming work…..

“I cant show my face due to my job”

Genuinely agree with all this. I'm gutted as they seem amazing and the headless shots are great

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By *hilloutMan
19 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

No face pic no joy for me.

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By *uenevereWoman
19 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

My post was Not an invitation to message me OP

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By *ndyp81Man
19 weeks ago

essex

"No face pic no joy for me."

But you don’t have a face pic on your profile so why should you expect a face pic and not have one yourself ?

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By *ondonlad_88 OP Man
19 weeks ago

south East

"My post was Not an invitation to message me OP

Just for forum context I did nothing except send a face pic and xxx...

Maybe restrict who can message you if you don't wish to receive a message. It was polite and I asked for nothing in return.

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By *ascaIMan
19 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

"No face pic no joy for me.

But you don’t have a face pic on your profile so why should you expect a face pic and not have one yourself ?"

He can send one over messages.

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By *ondonlad_88 OP Man
19 weeks ago

south East

"No face pic no joy for me.

But you don’t have a face pic on your profile so why should you expect a face pic and not have one yourself ?"

Maybe private? I think that's OK.

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By *ags73Man
19 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"No face pic no joy for me.

But you don’t have a face pic on your profile so why should you expect a face pic and not have one yourself ?

He can send one over messages."

That

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"My post was Not an invitation to message me OP

Lol. Makes me laugh when blokes start to message women who have commented on a thread but have given no signal that want to be messaged by said persons. Nuisances haha.

Although I will say it doesn't bother me when it happens to me, which is rarer than rare. As a single bloke, any message is a nice surprise. Especially as I've blocked single men from contacting me

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"No face pic no joy for me.

But you don’t have a face pic on your profile so why should you expect a face pic and not have one yourself ?"

Think you might have missed the point. OP also literally says he's happy to send face pics.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
19 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

I never swap pics but i'd never meet without seeing a face / and body first.

I've always preferred a short cam chat intro....

Pics can lie, cams less so.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

I'd never meet without a face pic it's just a huge waste of time, I need attraction & what one person thinks is hot another won't, it's subjective.

Mrs

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By *iscean_dreamMan
19 weeks ago

Llanelli

Depends how much you want to meet them really, if you meet them and they aren't for you then that's life.

I have pics public so there's no nasty suprise.

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By *hilloutMan
19 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"No face pic no joy for me.

But you don’t have a face pic on your profile so why should you expect a face pic and not have one yourself ?"

I meant if I'm willing to share one and the other party isn't, things won't go any further.

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By *KTim61Man
19 weeks ago

Tipton

All my pictures on my Profile have my face on them !!! But still get rejected

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
19 weeks ago

Southampton

"Nope ..i wont meet anyone i havent seen . Besides that its a bit awkwardcat a pub trying to pick out who it is you might be meeting !!

Exactly!! And my eyesight is bad enough without squinting at people....

Bad eye sight and best guessing from a three year old decent headshot 🤣"

Exactly 🤣🤣🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"So recently have been lucky enough to chat to some amazing couples.

But a couple have stated they prefer not to share a face pic but to trust them I won't be disappointed.

Given where we all predict meets on this site may take us is it fair to ask someone to turn up on a blind date?

Oh and yes I'm happy to share what I look like

Major red flag, tbh. Not as much the secrecy itself, but the fact that you're willing to share (or already have) and they're not. Trust is a two way street, as they say. It's gotta be mutual, imho.

And, like others mentioned, liking or not a face is waaay too subjective to be dismissed with "trust us", unless you're into that sort of blind date scenario. They could be top models and still not be to everyone's taste.

Of course it's your call. 🤔

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By *ames250122Man
19 weeks ago

Worcester

"So recently have been lucky enough to chat to some amazing couples.

But a couple have stated they prefer not to share a face pic but to trust them I won't be disappointed.

Given where we all predict meets on this site may take us is it fair to ask someone to turn up on a blind date?

Oh and yes I'm happy to share what I look like

Funnily this reminds of two threads on here on trust and lies. The trusting side of me says yes but be realistic on expectations, while the other half of me saying it’s potentially a bit of a red flag, that they can’t or won’t share a face pic privately so realistically if you don’t know all things you generally like to know to feel invested and good/ happy about meeting them it more likely going to be a waste of your time. If seeing their faces first is important to you, which I think it is for a lot of us then probably better saying a polite no thank you and cut your losses. Everyone is after and wants different things and it sounds like that might the case here with the type of meets you and they want

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
19 weeks ago

Stoke

Massive red flag, bin it off!!

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By *end1Man
19 weeks ago

southend on sea

There's a few profiles that state if you don't send a face picture in 1st message your be deleted. So now to save time n disappointment I have a face picture on profile.

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By *ealitybitesMan
19 weeks ago

Belfast

If I've been chatting to someone for weeks or months, like I often do before meeting, I wouldn't see it as a red flag if they weren't comfortable sharing a facepic.

It wouldn't put me off meeting them if we had built a rapport by that stage.

What would put me off though would be someone telling me I wouldn't be disappointed because surely that's my decision and comments like that are up there with "Do you not know who we are?"

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
19 weeks ago

Lincoln

Sounds suspiciously like "one of us is fugly but we're hoping that after you travelled all this way to meet us, you'll just have a go anyway as you're here" 😁

LvM

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By *ittlebirdWoman
19 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Not for me OP.

Blind Date firmly stays with Cilla Black 👍🏻

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By *ife NinjaMan
19 weeks ago

Dunfermline

As two fellas enter the room.....avoid

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
19 weeks ago

Wherever

No blind dates for me since someone I’ve been chatting to with intention of meeting turned out to be my next door (married) neighbour.

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19 weeks ago

"No blind dates for me since someone I’ve been chatting to with intention of meeting turned out to be my next door (married) neighbour."

Whoa!

I have yet to come upon a profile of someone I might know in real life, let alone a neighbour!

Out of interest, had he worked out it was you before you cottoned on to the fact it was him?

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By *a LunaWoman
19 weeks ago

South Wales

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By *a LunaWoman
19 weeks ago

South Wales

"No blind dates for me since someone I’ve been chatting to with intention of meeting turned out to be my next door (married) neighbour."

Awkward!

😐

To the OP, I think unless they work for MI5 and are deep undercover then it’s a bit rude to expect others to meet you without showing your face. And, dare I say it, a bit too much vanity on display.

I mean they may think they’re ok. You may think they’re a couple of howlers!

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
19 weeks ago

Wherever

"No blind dates for me since someone I’ve been chatting to with intention of meeting turned out to be my next door (married) neighbour.

Whoa!

I have yet to come upon a profile of someone I might know in real life, let alone a neighbour!

Out of interest, had he worked out it was you before you cottoned on to the fact it was him?"

He hasn’t. I blocked him straight away after seeing his face picture (he sent it first as for his own suggestion) and recognising it was him. We still casually see and greet each other but I don’t think he knows.

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By *orphia2003Woman
19 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I've got no interest in meeting someone who's face I haven't seen.

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By *hillCoupleNLCouple
19 weeks ago

St. John's

Never meet or even have any substantial chatting without face pic exchange. We usually require it in the first couple of messages and have found that any experienced legitimate lifestylers will easily reciprocate.

The reason we do it is that we don't let this part of our lives intersect with our everyday lives, a hard rule because we unfortunately learned the hard way. We live in a relatively small city and want to cut off those situations where we actually know the other people in everyday life and it can turn into something awkward. It's happened on several occasions that we've encountered people we know and it gets cut off right there in the beginning.

Also, let's face it, someone who says "trust me, I'm hot" actually sounds like a bit of a juice arse...lol

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By *orty and niceMan
19 weeks ago

Nearby to you

I never say that I’m attractive or use such epithets. It’s up to each individual to judge for themselves. Looks are unimportant it’s personality for me every time

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By *pacecowboy99Man
19 weeks ago

Near You

I'm prepared to share if that is reciprocated.. I certainly won't be taking someone's 'word' they are attractive

Could have the most amazing figures,but a face like a bucket full of smashed crabs...

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
19 weeks ago

Next Door

I have met people for a social and more in a previous fab life, and I have been pleased with the outcome and been very disappointed.

If I had been chatting for quite a while, and then I might meet up for a social. I wouldn't arrange a play meet without seeing clear up to date picture(S).

The bit that would put me off if they refused and said, "You wouldn't be disappointed."

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I normally tell people- Trust me,…. You don’t want my face pic!

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