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By *arley Quim OP   Woman
24 weeks ago

Somewhere

On my commute home tonight the train was pretty packed. Which was of course fine, slightly less fine was a tipsy bloke shouting down the aisle to try and give me his seat. Really nice of him to offer, but I'd politely said no thanks, waved the offer away with my hand. To have him stumbling down the aisle to get to me, remove his earphones and then try to shoo me towards the seat. Again said 'no, I'm fine thank you, I'm off at the next stop'. He was still trying to insist as I fled to stand next to the door.

I mean it was a nice gesture, and I get that. But I really was fine where I was

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By *eroLondonMan
24 weeks ago

Mayfair

He had designs for you.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
24 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

That makes me feel so uncomfortable just reading that 😳

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By *asterMeliodasMan
24 weeks ago

Newmill

Nothing quite so chivalrous as utterly unwanted charity.

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By *naswingdressWoman
24 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I really hate performative manners. If you need to make a spectacle of yourself, it's no longer about courtesy.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
24 weeks ago

North West

That wasn't "chivalry".

(I don't like chivalry on a good day anyway, but still......)

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago


"On my commute home tonight the train was pretty packed. Which was of course fine, slightly less fine was a tipsy bloke shouting down the aisle to try and give me his seat. Really nice of him to offer, but I'd politely said no thanks, waved the offer away with my hand. To have him stumbling down the aisle to get to me, remove his earphones and then try to shoo me towards the seat. Again said 'no, I'm fine thank you, I'm off at the next stop'. He was still trying to insist as I fled to stand next to the door.

I mean it was a nice gesture, and I get that. But I really was fine where I was "

If he made you feeling uncomfortable he was being a cunt.

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By *asterMeliodasMan
24 weeks ago

Newmill


"I really hate performative manners. If you need to make a spectacle of yourself, it's no longer about courtesy."

I have a similar attitude towards expectations of gratitude for kind gestures, or people getting upset when something they've given someone as a gift gets exchanged or returned for not being wanted/needed.

Like...if the gift/gesture doesn't stand on its own, and you don't abandon all claim to rights over its value once given, you did it for you and not the recipient.

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By *ou only live onceMan
24 weeks ago

London

Performative chivalry makes me

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago


"I really hate performative manners. If you need to make a spectacle of yourself, it's no longer about courtesy.

I have a similar attitude towards expectations of gratitude for kind gestures, or people getting upset when something they've given someone as a gift gets exchanged or returned for not being wanted/needed.

Like...if the gift/gesture doesn't stand on its own, and you don't abandon all claim to rights over its value once given, you did it for you and not the recipient."

I have no clue as to what you’re saying!

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By *asterMeliodasMan
24 weeks ago

Newmill


"I have no clue as to what you’re saying!"

For example: people who hold a door open and get annoyed if the person doesn't thank them. Or giving someone a present not knowing whether they want or need the thing you're getting, and getting angry with them when they exchange it for something they wanted.

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By *igboro01Man
24 weeks ago

Middlesbrough


"On my commute home tonight the train was pretty packed. Which was of course fine, slightly less fine was a tipsy bloke shouting down the aisle to try and give me his seat. Really nice of him to offer, but I'd politely said no thanks, waved the offer away with my hand. To have him stumbling down the aisle to get to me, remove his earphones and then try to shoo me towards the seat. Again said 'no, I'm fine thank you, I'm off at the next stop'. He was still trying to insist as I fled to stand next to the door.

I mean it was a nice gesture, and I get that. But I really was fine where I was "
chivalry and Dutch courage mixed up there x

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago


"I have no clue as to what you’re saying!

For example: people who hold a door open and get annoyed if the person doesn't thank them. Or giving someone a present not knowing whether they want or need the thing you're getting, and getting angry with them when they exchange it for something they wanted."

Nope it’s not registering. It’s me I’m dim.

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By *affron40Woman
24 weeks ago

manchester

Eurghhhh that’s definately not chivalry, that’s d*unken annoyance. Hope it wasn’t too unpleasant.

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