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"What are your tips for being able to have a more flowing and interesting conversation on here? " Don't use the abbreviation "convo" lol | |||
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"What are your tips for being able to have a more flowing and interesting conversation on here? " Punctuation? Knowing the difference between your and you're. Also lose and loose. Don't sent a message that's a three letter abbreviation. What does 'BBC?' even mean anyway. (Instant block on that one.) Avoid the use of "Meet now" as your ice breaker. That shit is for losers. Also one word pitches such as "Hi'. Ain't got time for that shit. Also don't be so eager to express your desire for your particular weird assed sexual kink in the first message. You want to keep your powder dry. | |||
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"I've had it a lot on here where the other person seems interested in the convo at first when then it just goes dry and they stop putting effort in. I understand that people get a lot of messages. But why have the conversation in the first place if you don't want to continue it you know " There could be a multitude of reasons. Maybe something came up and they got too busy to give it their full attention. Maybe they realised you were less interesting to them than they initially thought. Maybe they simply ran out of things to say and couldn't think of an organic way to continue. | |||
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"I've had it a lot on here where the other person seems interested in the convo at first when then it just goes dry and they stop putting effort in. I understand that people get a lot of messages. But why have the conversation in the first place if you don't want to continue it you know There could be a multitude of reasons. Maybe something came up and they got too busy to give it their full attention. Maybe they realised you were less interesting to them than they initially thought. Maybe they simply ran out of things to say and couldn't think of an organic way to continue." I do tend to ask questions to figure out what people like | |||
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"I've had it a lot on here where the other person seems interested in the convo at first when then it just goes dry and they stop putting effort in. I understand that people get a lot of messages. But why have the conversation in the first place if you don't want to continue it you know There could be a multitude of reasons. Maybe something came up and they got too busy to give it their full attention. Maybe they realised you were less interesting to them than they initially thought. Maybe they simply ran out of things to say and couldn't think of an organic way to continue. I do tend to ask questions to figure out what people like" The best piece of advice I can give you, and I fully realise it sucks to hear, is that no matter how diligently you ask your questions, no matter how carefully you craft your messages, no matter how much time and energy and consideration and blood and sweat and tears you pour into your interactions here...sometimes they just aren't going to work out. A lot of the time they won't. And it sucks, but we pick ourselves up and we move on because there's nothing else to be done about it. Nobody owes us anything and as single male profiles we're vastly overrepresented on the site. Supply far outweighs demand, so if you want someone to pick up what you're putting down, you need to really stand apart. Just keep doing what you're doing, and you'll find the people who are right for you. | |||
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"What are your tips for being able to have a more flowing and interesting conversation on here? Punctuation? Knowing the difference between your and you're. Also lose and loose. Don't sent a message that's a three letter abbreviation. What does 'BBC?' even mean anyway. (Instant block on that one.) Avoid the use of "Meet now" as your ice breaker. That shit is for losers. Also one word pitches such as "Hi'. Ain't got time for that shit. Also don't be so eager to express your desire for your particular weird assed sexual kink in the first message. You want to keep your powder dry. " Well said, I think the only thing worse than the one word “hi” is the “heys”. I don’t know why but the “heys” really annoy me more than anything  | |||
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"Well said, I think the only thing worse than the one word “hi” is the “heys”. I don’t know why but the “heys” really annoy me more than anything "I've seen a few people say this, and I've been wondering: is it messages that are just "hey" and nothing else? Or literally any message that starts with hey, no matter what the content of it? | |||
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"I'll offer a different take on the subject. A conversation flowing or not will depend heavily on the other person finding you attractive/ intriguing and worth knowing more about. As for tips, many have been mentioned. I believe being a great conversationalist isn't something you can learn. One is either naturally adept at it or isn't. " My wife likes to say that I could go into an empty room and walk out with three new friends. | |||
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"I'll offer a different take on the subject. A conversation flowing or not will depend heavily on the other person finding you attractive/ intriguing and worth knowing more about. As for tips, many have been mentioned. I believe being a great conversationalist isn't something you can learn. One is either naturally adept at it or isn't. My wife likes to say that I could go into an empty room and walk out with three new friends." That is certainly a rare talent😁 | |||
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" The best piece of advice I can give you, and I fully realise it sucks to hear, is that no matter how diligently you ask your questions, no matter how carefully you craft your messages, no matter how much time and energy and consideration and blood and sweat and tears you pour into your interactions here...sometimes they just aren't going to work out. A lot of the time they won't. And it sucks, but we pick ourselves up and we move on because there's nothing else to be done about it. Nobody owes us anything and as single male profiles we're vastly overrepresented on the site. Supply far outweighs demand, so if you want someone to pick up what you're putting down, you need to really stand apart. Just keep doing what you're doing, and you'll find the people who are right for you." Yeah I get that. I know how many guys are on this app compared to women cause I get so many messages from guys asking to meet when though my profile states I'm single. | |||
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"Well said, I think the only thing worse than the one word “hi” is the “heys”. I don’t know why but the “heys” really annoy me more than anything
I've seen a few people say this, and I've been wondering: is it messages that are just "hey" and nothing else? Or literally any message that starts with hey, no matter what the content of it?"I've also wondered if it's the people that send them. Cause I know that depending on who says what it's either sexy or get out of my DMS | |||
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"I'll offer a different take on the subject. A conversation flowing or not will depend heavily on the other person finding you attractive/ intriguing and worth knowing more about. As for tips, many have been mentioned. I believe being a great conversationalist isn't something you can learn. One is either naturally adept at it or isn't. " Irl I'm very good at conversing and I do tend to get a fair bit of attention on nights out. Texting is so much different though as you can't really put your personality through | |||
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"I've had it a lot on here where the other person seems interested in the convo at first when then it just goes dry and they stop putting effort in. I understand that people get a lot of messages. But why have the conversation in the first place if you don't want to continue it you know " Maybe they got bored? Maybe they got distracted by cat videos? Maybe? Maybe? The only way to find out is to ask. If you want to continue the conversation it may have just got off their radar of priorities. And no… that’s not a thing to say “they should’ve be prioritising you”. Life often gets in the way and at the end of the day Fab is a leisure activity for most. Not a priority 👍🏻 | |||
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"Be interested and interesting " I think this is why I prefer socials first before having anything fun. | |||
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"I've had it a lot on here where the other person seems interested in the convo at first when then it just goes dry and they stop putting effort in. I understand that people get a lot of messages. But why have the conversation in the first place if you don't want to continue it you know Maybe they got bored? Maybe they got distracted by cat videos? Maybe? Maybe? The only way to find out is to ask. If you want to continue the conversation it may have just got off their radar of priorities. And no… that’s not a thing to say “they should’ve be prioritising you”. Life often gets in the way and at the end of the day Fab is a leisure activity for most. Not a priority 👍🏻" Aw great, now I'm thinking about cat videos. | |||
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"I'll offer a different take on the subject. A conversation flowing or not will depend heavily on the other person finding you attractive/ intriguing and worth knowing more about. As for tips, many have been mentioned. I believe being a great conversationalist isn't something you can learn. One is either naturally adept at it or isn't. Irl I'm very good at conversing and I do tend to get a fair bit of attention on nights out. Texting is so much different though as you can't really put your personality through " You can, but requires more effort as there's no visual / audio component that helps. Some people find it easier to communicate through text as it's less spontaneous than in person, allowing them time to craft an answer. | |||
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"I've had it a lot on here where the other person seems interested in the convo at first when then it just goes dry and they stop putting effort in. I understand that people get a lot of messages. But why have the conversation in the first place if you don't want to continue it you know Maybe they got bored? Maybe they got distracted by cat videos? Maybe? Maybe? The only way to find out is to ask. If you want to continue the conversation it may have just got off their radar of priorities. And no… that’s not a thing to say “they should’ve be prioritising you”. Life often gets in the way and at the end of the day Fab is a leisure activity for most. Not a priority 👍🏻 Aw great, now I'm thinking about cat videos." You’re welcome. Here’s the GOAT https://youtube.com/shorts/iBH6q1mIRsg?si=oniVYKfzCF8fOaAh | |||
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