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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly "But what if I want to be Batman? | |||
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly
But what if I want to be Batman?"Keep that a secret & don’t let Alfred know  | |||
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"Thanks, OP. The hero we didn't know we needed! "The dark knight.. (who’s really not dark) but hey hoe | |||
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"If I wanted to enjoy myself I wouldn’t be on here. Oh wait.." | |||
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly "I do every time but still no success so what else do you think where I'm going wrong ,? | |||
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"I would like to have a good conversation with people on fab but so many profiles mostly just bulk delete their messages without a glance. I try my best to message people with unique messages tailored to their profile but you can only take so much ghosting before you feel like giving up. The confidence takes a knock. " Sometimes just comes down to preferences, what a woman likes to see etc. If they don’t reply, don’t take it to heart mate. Got to think women on here; get hounded with 100’s if not 1000’s messages per day. | |||
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly
I do every time but still no success so what else do you think where I'm going wrong ,? "More than likely, preferences mate. Everyone’s different, but try and cater your profile to what you’re actually looking for & not just being happy to meet anyone & everyone.. | |||
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"The sentiment is good OP but sadly will fall on the majority of deaf ears! " Unfortunately Sparkle.. | |||
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly "When do you start, how to be successful on fab lessons Mr | |||
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly
When do you start, how to be successful on fab lessons
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly "Hmm I do all that and still no joy. I just get blanked when I message those I like. | |||
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"I would like to have a good conversation with people on fab but so many profiles mostly just bulk delete their messages without a glance. I try my best to message people with unique messages tailored to their profile but you can only take so much ghosting before you feel like giving up. The confidence takes a knock. " Tell me about. | |||
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly
When do you start, how to be successful on fab lessons
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Just thought I’ve seen a fair few post, guys posting about being unsuccessful. Just chill, enjoy the ride & have fun "I guess also relevantly and authentically replying to someones comment on a thread. That could help too? Also of course going to socials, there people will all be the same wanting to meet new people. | |||
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly
Hmm I do all that and still no joy. I just get blanked when I message those I like. "If they’re ignoring you, they are fools  | |||
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly "Profound advice. | |||
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly
When do you start, how to be successful on fab lessons
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Just thought I’ve seen a fair few post, guys posting about being unsuccessful. Just chill, enjoy the ride & have fun
I guess also relevantly and authentically replying to someone’s comment on a thread. That could help too? Also of course going to socials, there people will all be the same wanting to meet new people. "Or the live chat, I’ve found that works in favour as well. On the chat rooms sometimes, I think direct messaging can be personable to some people. | |||
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"If you want to do well on fab …. I dunno. Just stick around. Once you’re familiar, people will want to sleep with you" But how long does this take??? I'm a busy woman!! | |||
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"If you want to do well on fab …. I dunno. Just stick around. Once you’re familiar, people will want to sleep with you But how long does this take??? I'm a busy woman!!" for women? About a week on here. | |||
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"If you want to do well on fab …. I dunno. Just stick around. Once you’re familiar, people will want to sleep with you But how long does this take??? I'm a busy woman!!for women? About a week on here. " Fuck. I must be a man then | |||
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"If you want to do well on fab …. I dunno. Just stick around. Once you’re familiar, people will want to sleep with you But how long does this take??? I'm a busy woman!!for women? About a week on here. Fuck. I must be a man then" I’ve seen your face. No further comment | |||
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"If you want to do well on fab …. I dunno. Just stick around. Once you’re familiar, people will want to sleep with you But how long does this take??? I'm a busy woman!!" Being in possession of a vagina and mammary glands I’d say 10 minutes or so? | |||
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"Thanks, OP. The hero we didn't know we needed! "• YOLO! 😅 | |||
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"Thanks, OP. The hero we didn't know we needed!
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YOLO! 😅"Did you just use “YOLO”. Have we gone back into 2010?? 🙈 | |||
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"Thanks, OP. The hero we didn't know we needed!
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YOLO! 😅
Did you just use “YOLO”. Have we gone back into 2010?? 🙈 " mao 😅 | |||
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YOLO! 😅
Did you just use “YOLO”. Have we gone back into 2010?? 🙈
mao 😅"😅haha. Gotta love the old emoji codes. | |||
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly "This thread makes me want to turn my life around, your words cut deep o.p, ( cries happy tears ). Thanks for the inspiration. The mr | |||
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"If you want to do well on fab …. I dunno. Just stick around. Once you’re familiar, people will want to sleep with you But how long does this take??? I'm a busy woman!!for women? About a week on here. Fuck. I must be a man then" You my dear are no man! | |||
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly
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"If I wanted to enjoy myself I wouldn’t be on here. Oh wait.." You have the displeasure kink too  | |||
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly
When do you start, how to be successful on fab lessons
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Just thought I’ve seen a fair few post, guys posting about being unsuccessful. Just chill, enjoy the ride & have fun
I guess also relevantly and authentically replying to someone’s comment on a thread. That could help too? Also of course going to socials, there people will all be the same wanting to meet new people.
Or the live chat, I’ve found that works in favour as well. On the chat rooms sometimes, I think direct messaging can be personable to some people. "I didn't think of those, but then I don't tend to go on them. I guess they are an in-between to forums and messaging as they are more direct and instantaneous. | |||
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"If you want to do well on fab …. I dunno. Just stick around. Once you’re familiar, people will want to sleep with you But how long does this take??? I'm a busy woman!!for women? About a week on here. Fuck. I must be a man then" Ooh that reminds me of my first job in a cytogenetics lab, build up to Wimbledon loads of blood samples arriving unnamed for gender testing | |||
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"FAB isn't easy either. I've met people on other pages who have not engaged with me on FAB just because attempts to engage are lost in the sea of messages. Messages are lost in 100s of guys who want to send cock pics or send abusive messages, who have no intent of meeting of having and meaningful interactions. (I get it, all I get as a straight male, I get dick pics from gay/bi men 🤣) It's not that people are ignoring you, it's that they are overwhelmed by choice and unwanted attention. " If that does happen, when should you resend a message, never, 1 month, 2 months when? | |||
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"Fo you write a carefully crafted heartfelt message and it gets bulk deleted amongst hundreds of, quite frankly, shit messages saying 'fancy a fuck darlin'. Quite simply you're a victim of (i) the site attracting a great many people who can't really be asked (likely free members), and (ii) people who can't be bothered to read through lots of shit messages. Solution - hope that Fab puts a paywall is place, or go to a smilar site that's behind a pay wall. You get what you pay (or rather don't pay) for....." I take it that you are not enjoying your time on Fab (the post sounds rather bitter).  | |||
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"Fo you write a carefully crafted heartfelt message and it gets bulk deleted amongst hundreds of, quite frankly, shit messages saying 'fancy a fuck darlin'. Quite simply you're a victim of (i) the site attracting a great many people who can't really be asked (likely free members), and (ii) people who can't be bothered to read through lots of shit messages. Solution - hope that Fab puts a paywall is place, or go to a smilar site that's behind a pay wall. You get what you pay (or rather don't pay) for....." I totally disagree on some of this. Paying anything does not guarantee you any responses There are many people here who don’t pay and have had loads of success Some of the dating sites that ask you to pay are full of fakes and models and OF members What appears a shit message to you or a well crafted one in your opinion doesn’t really matter. It’s how the person receiving it sees it And I recently had a great social meet from someone who contacted me!! | |||
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"FAB isn't easy either. I've met people on other pages who have not engaged with me on FAB just because attempts to engage are lost in the sea of messages. Messages are lost in 100s of guys who want to send cock pics or send abusive messages, who have no intent of meeting of having and meaningful interactions. (I get it, all I get as a straight male, I get dick pics from gay/bi men 🤣) It's not that people are ignoring you, it's that they are overwhelmed by choice and unwanted attention. If that does happen, when should you resend a message, never, 1 month, 2 months when?" Best rule of thumb? Never. If you do send a second message, I'd make sure you have a very good reason for it. I have sent exactly two follow-up messages since joining: one to someone who seemed like such a perfect fit for what I was looking for that I took the risk, and one where they'd originally asked for only verified people to message, I was unclear on whether that meant photo verified or in person veris, and since I now had some of the latter decided to try again in case that changed anything. Neither were successful, but that's their prerogative and just the way it goes sometimes. You put it out of your mind and move on.  | |||
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"Fo you write a carefully crafted heartfelt message and it gets bulk deleted amongst hundreds of, quite frankly, shit messages saying 'fancy a fuck darlin'. Quite simply you're a victim of (i) the site attracting a great many people who can't really be asked (likely free members), and (ii) people who can't be bothered to read through lots of shit messages. Solution - hope that Fab puts a paywall is place, or go to a smilar site that's behind a pay wall. You get what you pay (or rather don't pay) for....." Nope. Over the last 16 years I've had spells where I wasn't a site supporter. Made no difference at all. Still enjoyed life. Still met. Still chatted. Charges would just raise the expectancy levels of some, as they can do in clubs. If what you're doing (you in general, not 'you specifically) isn't working then adapt, look at other options and don't put all your eggs in the 'sending messages trying to get noticed' basket. It rarely works. Those that 'succeed' the most, if you measure meeting others as success, use Fab as just one of many tools, along with organised socials, events and clubs. If you choose not to look at those as options that's personal choice of course. But they work, trust me. | |||
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"Fo you write a carefully crafted heartfelt message and it gets bulk deleted amongst hundreds of, quite frankly, shit messages saying 'fancy a fuck darlin'. Quite simply you're a victim of (i) the site attracting a great many people who can't really be asked (likely free members), and (ii) people who can't be bothered to read through lots of shit messages. Solution - hope that Fab puts a paywall is place, or go to a smilar site that's behind a pay wall. You get what you pay (or rather don't pay) for....." I put hardly any effort into messaging. In fact I only ever reply to a message. Never send a first one. And I can’t complain. Don’t have a site supporter pass. I don’t have a six pack or a 10 inch cock. I’m not in my twenties. But I do get lots of meets and sex .i do however post a stays every few days . You just gotta be in the right place at the right time | |||
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" If that does happen, when should you resend a message, never, 1 month, 2 months when?" No idea, not given anyone a second chance yet. | |||
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"…. Nope. Over the last 16 years I've had spells where I wasn't a site supporter. Made no difference at all. Still enjoyed life. Still met. Still chatted. …. Those that 'succeed' the most, if you measure meeting others as success, use Fab as just one of many tools, along with organised socials, events and clubs. …" The only time I think I’m succeeding with enjoying fab or any of all of this is when I am just being myself. The op has a point, when you start to be someone you’re not or change because you think you should to fit in is the time you need to move away from here/them. People will try to change you for their benefit only, in my experience.
I’ve never been desperate to meet anyone, I’ve only ever wanted to be able to talk to people. And fab gave me that chance.
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"The amount of forums I’ve seen, in recent times about people struggling to get meets or engage in conversation. Only advice I’d give you, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, respect when someone says “NO”. Just enjoy yourself most importantly "I enjoyed a pleasant and clean interaction with a female oh here. I took the effort to read her profile, interests and began some convo about photography (her profession). I never set an expectation. Normal chat is ok chaps, try it. | |||
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"Fo you write a carefully crafted heartfelt message and it gets bulk deleted amongst hundreds of, quite frankly, shit messages saying 'fancy a fuck darlin'. Quite simply you're a victim of (i) the site attracting a great many people who can't really be asked (likely free members), and (ii) people who can't be bothered to read through lots of shit messages. Solution - hope that Fab puts a paywall is place, or go to a smilar site that's behind a pay wall. You get what you pay (or rather don't pay) for..... I take it that you are not enjoying your time on Fab (the post sounds rather bitter). "LOL - not bitter - just realistic - Fab is great - just not for sending messsges 'out of the blue' to people you haven't met or flirted with via winks etc! | |||
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"Fo you write a carefully crafted heartfelt message and it gets bulk deleted amongst hundreds of, quite frankly, shit messages saying 'fancy a fuck darlin'. Quite simply you're a victim of (i) the site attracting a great many people who can't really be asked (likely free members), and (ii) people who can't be bothered to read through lots of shit messages. Solution - hope that Fab puts a paywall is place, or go to a smilar site that's behind a pay wall. You get what you pay (or rather don't pay) for..... I put hardly any effort into messaging. In fact I only ever reply to a message. Never send a first one. And I can’t complain. Don’t have a site supporter pass. I don’t have a six pack or a 10 inch cock. I’m not in my twenties. But I do get lots of meets and sex .i do however post a stays every few days . You just gotta be in the right place at the right time " Spot on! | |||
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