FabSwingers.com forum: Damned if you do, damned if you dont

By *onnynclaire OP Couple
12 weeks ago

Reading

Reply to messages.

We are sure it states somewhere that no reply should be taken as a “no interest”.

Why do we then get abuse for not replying then we reply saying it’s a no, we get even more abuse.

Some people need to put the c-pipe down and sort themselves out.

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By *asterMeliodasMan
12 weeks ago

Near Keith

"Reply to messages.

We are sure it states somewhere that no reply should be taken as a “no interest”.

Why do we then get abuse for not replying then we reply saying it’s a no, we get even more abuse.

Some people need to put the c-pipe down and sort themselves out. "

Some people really don't seem to take rejection well, unfortunately.

Personally when I don't get a reply, I delete the thread in my sent and put it out of my mind, and if I ever get the "you already messaged this person without a reply" message (which is pretty bloody hard to miss) I hit the back button. :P Only once have I sent a follow-up and it was to reply to a status update they made.

I've had a couple of people respond to say it's a no, and I just thanked them for their time. It's not hard to be courteous, and I'm sorry you're dealing with a lack of it.

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By *ansoffateMan
12 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I blame capitalism and patriarchy mostly and a lack of parental guidance.

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By *onnynclaire OP Couple
12 weeks ago

Reading

"Reply to messages.

We are sure it states somewhere that no reply should be taken as a “no interest”.

Why do we then get abuse for not replying then we reply saying it’s a no, we get even more abuse.

Some people need to put the c-pipe down and sort themselves out.

Some people really don't seem to take rejection well, unfortunately.

I've had a couple of people respond to say it's a no, and I just thanked them for their time. It's not hard to be courteous, and I'm sorry you're dealing with a lack of it."

That’s exactly how to do it.

People even ignore that warning message about already messaging with no response.

Just off-putting when you get stick for it.

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By *onnynclaire OP Couple
12 weeks ago

Reading

"I blame capitalism and patriarchy mostly and a lack of parental guidance."

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By *ackformore100Man
12 weeks ago

Tin town

Smash it up... Thought this was a thread about the damned

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I just ignore everyone.

Makes life much simpler.

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By *onnynclaire OP Couple
12 weeks ago

Reading

"I just ignore everyone.

Makes life much simpler."

Don’t ignore us

Maybe that’s the way we should do it. No fucks given

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By *batMan
12 weeks ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"Smash it up... Thought this was a thread about the damned"

We been crying now for much too long,

Now we gonna dance to a different song!

Gotta love part 1 as a top intro!!!

Gbat

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By *layfullsamMan
12 weeks ago

Solihull

"Reply to messages.

We are sure it states somewhere that no reply should be taken as a “no interest”.

Why do we then get abuse for not replying then we reply saying it’s a no, we get even more abuse.

Some people need to put the c-pipe down and sort themselves out. "

Come on you know the score your not newbies, blockety block block block and no more issues.

Agree it’s sad when you’ve tried to say no thanks politely but not worth you getting the rubbish replies so just be done and block

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By *rightonsteveMan
12 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

When they message to moan about you not replying, so you respond?

I used to send a standard reply along the lines of “thank you for your message but Steve’s cock has deemed it too boring to merit a response”

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan
12 weeks ago

Second star to the right…

Delete and block is the best way.

You never know who is going to be polite about it and who is going to be a dick.

At the end of the day you don’t owe anyone a reply unless you’re interested.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Central

You learn from your experience here, just what works for you. I used to reply to all but now ignore and block a few.

Fab rules are explicitly clear that no reply equals no thanks. It's better to do this IMO.

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By *cLovin2Man
12 weeks ago

Reading

"Reply to messages.

We are sure it states somewhere that no reply should be taken as a “no interest”.

Why do we then get abuse for not replying then we reply saying it’s a no, we get even more abuse.

Some people need to put the c-pipe down and sort themselves out. "

Because the dumb fuckwits who abuse you can't be bothered to read your profile, but somehow expect you to read their crappy messages and reply.

I'm afraid you have to chalk it up to egotistical male ego.

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By *lueeyedchapMan
12 weeks ago

Nottingham

How about blocking men and you try messaging people you want to meet?

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By *rgasmatron1970Man
12 weeks ago

Bromley

If I don't get a reply I never push for another.

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By *onnynclaire OP Couple
12 weeks ago

Reading

"How about blocking men and you try messaging people you want to meet?"

It was a couple and don’t wanna filter them out as that’s what we are here for….couples not the abuse lol

We will just block from now on.

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By *4bimMan
12 weeks ago

Farnborough Hampshire

It's a lottery.

Some just block during the conversation your having for nothing..

I put it down to their issues and not being able to converse like an adult

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By *naswingdressWoman
12 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Some people never grew up and think tantrums are the way to get what they want in life.

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