FabSwingers.com forum: Is BDSM something you enjoy?

By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

I'd feel a bit of a fraud if I said I'm into BDSM. I tend to be more on the sensual side, but when I google the term, I've definitely dipped my toes into it. Is BDSM something you enjoy practicing?

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By *lutsfunMan
39 weeks ago

bedford

I like light end stuff yes but only with very experienced dominant men x

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By *ellhungvweMan
39 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I am probably even more of a fraud than you Willy - the only time I have ever tried it was at Chams when I ended up getting spanked in the dungeon in front of a whole group of friends. I have to say I really enjoyed it but never found the chance to try it again.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

I have an interest in some aspects of it.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"I am probably even more of a fraud than you Willy - the only time I have ever tried it was at Chams when I ended up getting spanked in the dungeon in front of a whole group of friends. I have to say I really enjoyed it but never found the chance to try it again."

I'm sure there's a few on here willing to give you a good flogging

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By *MandMMCouple
39 weeks ago

Welwyn

It's something we really enjoy. But mostly just between the two of us

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By *ellhungvweMan
39 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I'm sure there's a few on here willing to give you a good flogging

Hope so!

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I wouldn't class myself as being into it on the account of never having the sex.

But I do like a dominant guy doing certain dominant acts.

If I was more sexually active I reckon I'd be into it more.

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By *estYorkshireGentMan
39 weeks ago

Leeds

Only on the lighter end of the BDSM spectrum but with the right person it’s a huge turn on! Especially enjoyed using the crosses at clubs

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"It's something we really enjoy. But mostly just between the two of us "

Is there a reason for this?

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"Only on the lighter end of the BDSM spectrum but with the right person it’s a huge turn on! Especially enjoyed using the crosses at clubs

I think I'm similar to you, T.

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By *stwo2023Couple
39 weeks ago

Worcester

"It's something we really enjoy. But mostly just between the two of us "

Yes we're the same. BDSM takes a whole lot of trust in the dynamic so it's mainly something we only do together.

Evie

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By *omRPMan
39 weeks ago

North Curry

BDSM is something I enjoy exploring, but has to be with the right person, someone I trust with clear communication and understanding. If that spark is there it can be amazing.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"I wouldn't class myself as being into it on the account of never having the sex.

But I do like a dominant guy doing certain dominant acts.

If I was more sexually active I reckon I'd be into it more."

Hopefully this will change in time and you have the opportunity to explore this area more.

I'd be happy to help

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By *obilebottomMan
39 weeks ago

All over

What is it? Will I like it?

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By *rustme2023Man
39 weeks ago

Wellington

I, like most replies, am interested in exploring this in a light way. I consider myself more dominant and with the right person there could be much fun to be had. Boundaries etc totally respected.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"What is it? Will I like it?

I don't think there's food involved

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39 weeks ago

"I wouldn't class myself as being into it on the account of never having the sex.

But I do like a dominant guy doing certain dominant acts.

If I was more sexually active I reckon I'd be into it more.

Hopefully this will change in time and you have the opportunity to explore this area more.

I'd be happy to help

You're such a good friend Willy.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

It’s hard for me to say yes, because I don’t have a partner to enjoy it consistently and build up a level of trust which I believe I would need. When it’s with somebody as a one off, I feel there scratching an itch, and when it’s scratched, they fuck off, so my heart’s not really into it, if that makes sense.

To me, and this is just my opinion on what I w would like to find, is somebody that wants me for something like that, and not just anyone will do.

So it’s not so much enjoying BDSM, it’s the fact I would be enjoying what we both could create.

In a nutshell, it’s nice to slap a nice ass.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"I wouldn't class myself as being into it on the account of never having the sex.

But I do like a dominant guy doing certain dominant acts.

If I was more sexually active I reckon I'd be into it more.

Hopefully this will change in time and you have the opportunity to explore this area more.

I'd be happy to help

You're such a good friend Willy. "

We just need to work out a way we can turn that left swipe to a right

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

It’s something I’m drifting more towards

Only light at the moment but I do find I enjoy it

So going to be more to follow

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"I wouldn't class myself as being into it on the account of never having the sex.

But I do like a dominant guy doing certain dominant acts.

If I was more sexually active I reckon I'd be into it more.

Hopefully this will change in time and you have the opportunity to explore this area more.

I'd be happy to help

You're such a good friend Willy.

We just need to work out a way we can turn that left swipe to a right

Turn my phone upside down?

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
39 weeks ago

Launceston

I really enjoy it, never thought I would but done right it's amazing!

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"It’s hard for me to say yes, because I don’t have a partner to enjoy it consistently and build up a level of trust which I believe I would need. When it’s with somebody as a one off, I feel there scratching an itch, and when it’s scratched, they fuck off, so my heart’s not really into it, if that makes sense.

To me, and this is just my opinion on what I w would like to find, is somebody that wants me for something like that, and not just anyone will do.

So it’s not so much enjoying BDSM, it’s the fact I would be enjoying what we both could create.

In a nutshell, it’s nice to slap a nice ass.

Makes perfect sense, Woody. Hopefully you'll find that special person and until that day, Keep Calm and Slap Away

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By *obilebottomMan
39 weeks ago

All over

To me, and this is just my opinion on what I w would like to find, is somebody that wants me for something like that, and not just anyone will do.

So it’s not so much enjoying BDSM, it’s the fact I would be enjoying what we both could create.

In a nutshell, it’s nice to slap a nice ass.

Thanks for sharing an little example woody and a kind of flavour of what it entails. So far I have learned it does not involve food but possibly a little bum slap. I don't think is time for revision yet

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"I wouldn't class myself as being into it on the account of never having the sex.

But I do like a dominant guy doing certain dominant acts.

If I was more sexually active I reckon I'd be into it more.

Hopefully this will change in time and you have the opportunity to explore this area more.

I'd be happy to help

You're such a good friend Willy.

We just need to work out a way we can turn that left swipe to a right

Turn my phone upside down?"

I don't my swallowing my pride for a good cause. That could work

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"It’s something I’m drifting more towards

Only light at the moment but I do find I enjoy it

So going to be more to follow "

I hope you enjoy your journey

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By *eliWoman
39 weeks ago

I wouldn't say I practise it with any keen frequency but with the right person, yes it is. That doesn't mean every dalliance has to involve it - the majority of mine don't and I still very much enjoy them.

I do enjoy it when there's a growing dynamic with a person. I couldn't do it NSA style, casual one off sex.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"I, like most replies, am interested in exploring this in a light way. I consider myself more dominant and with the right person there could be much fun to be had. Boundaries etc totally respected. "

I was just reading you status. Your light and my light are different I reckon

Enjoy your journey though

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"I wouldn't say I practise it with any keen frequency but with the right person, yes it is. That doesn't mean every dalliance has to involve it - the majority of mine don't and I still very much enjoy them.

I do enjoy it when there's a growing dynamic with a person. I couldn't do it NSA style, casual one off sex. "

Makes perfect sense, Meli. Trust is very important, especially if the other party is the dominant one

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By *iss.BellaWoman
39 weeks ago

Chester

I have an interest but no experience. It's something I'd like to explore if there was enough trust with someone.

On here, I say I'm not because it filters out the 'daddy Dom's'

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By *lutsfunMan
39 weeks ago

bedford

I was lucky, I fully trusted the guy I was with, that’s important x

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

No, it made me feel utterly stupid.

I mean, don't call it bdsm if there's no broken bones, lacerations, etc

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By *rustme2023Man
39 weeks ago

Wellington

"I, like most replies, am interested in exploring this in a light way. I consider myself more dominant and with the right person there could be much fun to be had. Boundaries etc totally respected.

I was just reading you status. Your light and my light are different I reckon

Enjoy your journey though

Thanks for the response. Light is a starting point I guess and the developed once trust is built

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By *eliWoman
39 weeks ago

I do enjoy it when there's a growing dynamic with a person. I couldn't do it NSA style, casual one off sex.

Makes perfect sense, Meli. Trust is very important, especially if the other party is the dominant one"

Oh I'm switchy. Sometimes I'm the dominant one.

It's not just about trust - it's about learning another's body, allowing that intimacy to build in a progressive fashion rather than straight to it. For me there's an emotions side to it that comes in to play, that potential vulnerability etc.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"I have an interest but no experience. It's something I'd like to explore if there was enough trust with someone.

On here, I say I'm not because it filters out the 'daddy Dom's'

But she does have an interest. Get in touch ^Daddy Dom's^

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By *rustme2023Man
39 weeks ago

Wellington

I do enjoy it when there's a growing dynamic with a person. I couldn't do it NSA style, casual one off sex.

Makes perfect sense, Meli. Trust is very important, especially if the other party is the dominant one

Oh I'm switchy. Sometimes I'm the dominant one.

I quite agree and tbh that’s all part of the excitement. Exploration of bodies to find what suits.

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By *erfectlychaoticWoman
39 weeks ago

Aldershot

"No, it made me feel utterly stupid.

I mean, don't call it bdsm if there's no broken bones, lacerations, etc"

I really hope you're joking. This is not what Bdsm is at all. And that level of injury inflicted will get you arrested for ABH or GBH.

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By *eavenNhellCouple
39 weeks ago

carrbrook stalybridge

We enjoy many aspects of it as a couple and also within our friendship groups had a lot of fun exploring different things from impact to sensual restraint to ropebondage .trust and consent are the two biggest things we find without either it just wont work

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
39 weeks ago

Derby

It’s one of my fav porn topics, and would love to participate but not really had the pleasure

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

I do enjoy it when there's a growing dynamic with a person. I couldn't do it NSA style, casual one off sex.

Makes perfect sense, Meli. Trust is very important, especially if the other party is the dominant one

Oh I'm switchy. Sometimes I'm the dominant one.

I suppose this is why aftercare is so important and choosing the right partner to explore with

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By *wansJack83Man
39 weeks ago

yeovil

I definitely enjoy it, I switch which gives me the best of both worlds!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
39 weeks ago

Reading

Its a very broad church.

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By *ommyboy24Man
39 weeks ago

derby

i prefer dominant lady,fetish,body worship ,she could use me like toy ,only without pain,

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By *ell GwynnWoman
39 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

It's something I've dabbled in very slightly, which was enough to know it's not really my thing. I tried being a bratty sub once, but I was more brat than sub, which just frustrated the Dom

Essentially, I like to approach sex with someone as an equal.

I enjoy blindfolds, hot wax, pin wheels etc. A bit of pain is fun, but anything that leaves marks isn't my bag.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I enjoy lots of BDSM activities, such as being tied up, restrained, disciplined and sensory deprivation.

We play with safe words and boundaries are agreed in advance (ie, my hair will not be cut during play).

I also have daily tasks to carry out

I'm not into needles or fire.

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By *eliWoman
39 weeks ago

I do enjoy it when there's a growing dynamic with a person. I couldn't do it NSA style, casual one off sex.

Makes perfect sense, Meli. Trust is very important, especially if the other party is the dominant one

Oh I'm switchy. Sometimes I'm the dominant one.

I suppose this is why aftercare is so important and choosing the right partner to explore with"

Ermmm... I don't think aftercare is important for everyone. Some people don't offer it, don't do it, don't want it, it's not for them. And that's valid as long as both parties understand that beforehand.

I suppose this is the joy of the uniqueness of BDSM. You can practise it, you can dip in and out as the mood takes you and there's no one right way to do it.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"It's something I've dabbled in very slightly, which was enough to know it's not really my thing. I tried being a bratty sub once, but I was more brat than sub, which just frustrated the Dom

Essentially, I like to approach sex with someone as an equal.

I enjoy blindfolds, hot wax, pin wheels etc. A bit of pain is fun, but anything that leaves marks isn't my bag. "

it's good you know what you like

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Yes I do very much so.

I'm a switch but I lean definitely more into Dommme territory. I can be sub but never with women. A few men can bring that side to the surface though.

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
39 weeks ago

manchester

Yep

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
39 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I enjoy many aspects of it. I have a partner I very much enjoy some pretty heavy impact play with, and I'm notably fond of stapling and have dabbled in needleplay. Often found at various kink events watching and trying different things, some I enjoy, some aren't for me

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"I enjoy many aspects of it. I have a partner I very much enjoy some pretty heavy impact play with, and I'm notably fond of stapling and have dabbled in needleplay. Often found at various kink events watching and trying different things, some I enjoy, some aren't for me

What's stapling and needleplay?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
39 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"What's stapling and needleplay?"

Using medical staples and human safe needles to make pretty patterns, often on ways that slightly restricted movement but usually just for the intimacy of the process and the final aesthetic. Usually we stick with ribbons to tie them togegher but I recently saw some beautiful work involving feathers too.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"What's stapling and needleplay?

This sounds cool, thank you

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By *ilyandronCouple
39 weeks ago

Bristol

Lily is introducing me too it slowly

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By *iss.BellaWoman
39 weeks ago

Chester

"I have an interest but no experience. It's something I'd like to explore if there was enough trust with someone.

On here, I say I'm not because it filters out the 'daddy Dom's'

But she does have an interest. Get in touch ^Daddy Dom's^

well filters out the local daddy Dom's at least

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By *ulcanriderMan
39 weeks ago

Northampton

I very much enjoy Bdsm, love using impact play, sensory play,wax play,nettle play, aspects of bondage, breath play etc.

Bdsm is all about trust so you have to take your time start slow and build the trust, only once theres trust can you start to push boundries.

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By *eroLondonMan
39 weeks ago

Mayfair

No. It's not me in any shape or form. I'm into old fashioned dating, courtship, woo'ing, flirting and love-making...and bonking.

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By *etal and KinkMan
39 weeks ago

Malice

Yes. There is an intimacy to it that I've found unmatched in any other sexual act.

If someone likes something a little different they often hide it. To allow that person to fulfil that need with you, without any judgment whatsoever, can be intense.

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By *ularliWoman
39 weeks ago

Worcester

On the lighter end of it, yes but I wouldn’t just do it with anyone.

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By *aren_nylonsWoman
39 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

I enjoy some aspects to it and would like to explore more

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By *eliWoman
39 weeks ago

"No. It's not me in any shape or form. I'm into old fashioned dating, courtship, woo'ing, flirting and love-making...and bonking."

You can have that as well as BDSM. Not that you're saying you can't.

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By *rBobbMan
39 weeks ago

Birmingham

It is something that I enjoy and I have spent time with the BDSM community and attended events.

It's more about the connection with your partner and exploring the things that you both enjoy.

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By *_elie LALWoman
39 weeks ago

Peterborough

It's ok not to like all the various aspects.

Reminder, BDSM is BD, D/s, SM

bondage and discipline

Domination and submission

Sadism and masochism

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By *urls and DressesWoman
39 weeks ago

Somewhere near here

Elements of it. I think 50 shades stopped it for me, too many mr grey wannabies

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By *inky PaulMan
39 weeks ago

Riddings

I was in my 20s when I wanted to ask my girlfriend to knee me in the balls. We had been together some years so i figured she would find it an odd request. I visited a pro domme instead and when she kicked me it made me hard. Never looked back.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"I was in my 20s when I wanted to ask my girlfriend to knee me in the balls. We had been together some years so i figured she would find it an odd request. I visited a pro domme instead and when she kicked me it made me hard. Never looked back."

I've been hit by a football enough times to know this isn't for me. Glad you enjoy it though

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By *eacupsbearCouple
39 weeks ago

York

We are very much into it.

From impact play to sensory deprivation. From wax to flogger.

All aspects.

We play together and with others.

For us we know each others boundaries and likes.

With others we learn theirs, with consent. Discussion and experimenting. One person may not like flogger, or may love belts.

My partner hates belts and fluffy things.

Every day is a school day with BDSM,

and we are constantly learning.

We love to watch others do it too, as you can learn new things. But also, things to avoid too. There's a lot of people out there I'm afraid that think by watching a certain film, it makes them experts.. wrong!

If you have an interest, but don't know where to start. Try and find a local munch to attend, most people there will quite happily help with tips and ideas.

Of course. We are also happy to help too. We can give tips and advice if anyone would like.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I’ve dabbled and it’s definitely something I’d like to explore more.

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By *eacupsbearCouple
39 weeks ago

York

"It's ok not to like all the various aspects.

Reminder, BDSM is BD, D/s, SM

bondage and discipline

Domination and submission

Sadism and masochism

Absolutely.

This is why discussion is crucial.

Even for us, we talk before a scene. Just to check in. T might be needing more on her feet, she might want me to avoid a certain part, or go softer. I might have aches that restrict certain movements. If my shoulder is playing up for example, I won't use flogger..

Sometimes we might just want some more sensual type play, rather than impact. Or something a little more sub/dom.

There's so many facets to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"BDSM is something I enjoy exploring, but has to be with the right person, someone I trust with clear communication and understanding. If that spark is there it can be amazing. "

So can all aspects of sexual behaviour

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By *eacupsbearCouple
39 weeks ago

York

"I’ve dabbled and it’s definitely something I’d like to explore more. "

Try and find out if there's a local munch near you perhaps?

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By *eordieJeansCouple
39 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I used to like it but it got to the point where I was dangling upside down from the light shade with a gimp mask on and the full contents of the fruit bowl up my arse when I really had to question if it was all worth it.

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By *eacupsbearCouple
39 weeks ago

York

"BDSM is something I enjoy exploring, but has to be with the right person, someone I trust with clear communication and understanding. If that spark is there it can be amazing.

So can all aspects of sexual behaviour"

Indeed...

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
39 weeks ago

Wherever

I am very much interested. I’ve done some elements in the past and more than willing to explore more but I don’t feel comfortable openly admitting to it on here.

Seems I’m a magnet to some really weird people if I do.

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By *eacupsbearCouple
39 weeks ago

York

"I used to like it but it got to the point where I was dangling upside down from the light shade with a gimp mask on and the full contents of the fruit bowl up my arse when I really had to question if it was all worth it."

Surely there's easier ways to prepare a fruit salad???

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By *agerMorganMan
39 weeks ago

Canvey Island

I used to enjoy it, then it got very messy and lots of reports of people not respecting boundaries, adhering to safe words etc started to increase.

Got out of it and now don’t really enjoy it as much anymore.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
39 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Surely there's easier ways to prepare a fruit salad???"

Probably but it’s the best way to squeeze fresh orange juice.

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By *eacupsbearCouple
39 weeks ago

York

"I am very much interested. I’ve done some elements in the past and more than willing to explore more but I don’t feel comfortable openly admitting to it on here.

Seems I’m a magnet to some really weird people if I do. "

We would happily discuss it with you. If you like?

Maybe not in this thread. But feel free to message if you're interested.

We prefer not to approach folk here in these matters, our other site is for that. But that doesn't mean we won't happily chat to those that ask us. As we run a munch in Croydon, we do feel a certain responsibility to promote this sensibly and safely.

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By *antToTryNewThingsWoman
39 weeks ago

hertfordshire

I've loved the bdsm I've explored and would love to find the right genuine experienced dominant to guide me further xx

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By *eacupsbearCouple
39 weeks ago

York

"I used to enjoy it, then it got very messy and lots of reports of people not respecting boundaries, adhering to safe words etc started to increase.

Got out of it and now don’t really enjoy it as much anymore. "

What has happened is quite simple.

Back in the day consent and boundaries were disrespected with fewer people doing something about it. Now though, it is a big thing in the scene and rightly so.

What it does is encourage discussion, consent and safety.

The more reports we see, the more awareness there is. We go to many events, and we've only ever seen a couple of consent violations. Those have been dealt with swiftly.

Done right, and with all the right tools in place, BDSM is a safe, fun and sensual experience.

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By *eacupsbearCouple
39 weeks ago

York

Surely there's easier ways to prepare a fruit salad???

Probably but it’s the best way to squeeze fresh orange juice.

Bit early to do all that for your morning OJ though

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

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By *erby DomCouple
39 weeks ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

Yes very much so, it is a lifestyle thing for us.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
39 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

Yes there are aspects I very much enjoy. Impact play, restraints, clips and clamps, submission, rope play, orgasm control for example. Al at a more sensory/sensual level than a pain level. But there's such a huge amount of trust involved that it wouldn't be something I look for through fab. On the occasions we've explored it in a club, B has been there doing it or to help facilitate.

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By *agerMorganMan
39 weeks ago

Canvey Island

"I used to enjoy it, then it got very messy and lots of reports of people not respecting boundaries, adhering to safe words etc started to increase.

Got out of it and now don’t really enjoy it as much anymore.

What has happened is quite simple.

Back in the day consent and boundaries were disrespected with fewer people doing something about it. Now though, it is a big thing in the scene and rightly so.

What it does is encourage discussion, consent and safety.

The more reports we see, the more awareness there is. We go to many events, and we've only ever seen a couple of consent violations. Those have been dealt with swiftly.

Done right, and with all the right tools in place, BDSM is a safe, fun and sensual experience."

Absolutely, and I fully believe that shitty behaviour should be called out in the scene and dealt with accordingly.

The other part of why I lost interest in it is that I used to know somebody who was heavily into the scene, he was brought up on 2 charges of r*pe but found innocent.

He bragged about it, he carried on like it was no big deal leaving one with life changing injuries. I appreciate that shitty behaviour is rightly called out and reported, but after that incident with him, yeah it’s really put me off for life knowing there’s people using BDSM as a front for carrying out horrific acts.

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By *eacupsbearCouple
39 weeks ago

York

"I used to enjoy it, then it got very messy and lots of reports of people not respecting boundaries, adhering to safe words etc started to increase.

Got out of it and now don’t really enjoy it as much anymore.

What has happened is quite simple.

Back in the day consent and boundaries were disrespected with fewer people doing something about it. Now though, it is a big thing in the scene and rightly so.

What it does is encourage discussion, consent and safety.

The more reports we see, the more awareness there is. We go to many events, and we've only ever seen a couple of consent violations. Those have been dealt with swiftly.

Done right, and with all the right tools in place, BDSM is a safe, fun and sensual experience.

Absolutely, and I fully believe that shitty behaviour should be called out in the scene and dealt with accordingly.

The other part of why I lost interest in it is that I used to know somebody who was heavily into the scene, he was brought up on 2 charges of r*pe but found innocent.

Unfortunately there's cunts in all walks of life.

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By *eacupsbearCouple
39 weeks ago

York

"Yes there are aspects I very much enjoy. Impact play, restraints, clips and clamps, submission, rope play, orgasm control for example. Al at a more sensory/sensual level than a pain level. But there's such a huge amount of trust involved that it wouldn't be something I look for through fab. On the occasions we've explored it in a club, B has been there doing it or to help facilitate.

We concentrate more on this aspect of our lives over on Fet.

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By *viatrixWoman
39 weeks ago

Redhill

I began to delve very, very gently into it with a fwb of 4 years. I was curious to try and we did. It was great doing it with him as there was so much connection and trust, but not a massive fan of it. Situation ended a bit abruptly so I was left hanging so to speak lol.

….having said that, I am a huge voyeuse and would love, love love to watch a BDSM taking place.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
39 weeks ago

your head

Very much so. Dungeons are the main reason I visit clubs. There are aspects of it I'm not so keen on and won't do. Most of what I enjoy, I will only do with my partner. The other side of things I haven't explored in a while as I haven't found the right person to do it with and I'm not in any rush to either. It's not something I'd do when I've just met someone, it takes time and to build trust.

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Nope no interest whatsoever....

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By *emorefridaCouple
39 weeks ago

La la land

BDSM is not about who can be the most extreme and shocking, it's about what you find enjoyable as a person OP.

I enjoy aspects of it, but it's not something I want to base my whole personality on either.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
39 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

"I used to enjoy it, then it got very messy and lots of reports of people not respecting boundaries, adhering to safe words etc started to increase.

Got out of it and now don’t really enjoy it as much anymore.

What has happened is quite simple.

Back in the day consent and boundaries were disrespected with fewer people doing something about it. Now though, it is a big thing in the scene and rightly so.

What it does is encourage discussion, consent and safety.

The more reports we see, the more awareness there is. We go to many events, and we've only ever seen a couple of consent violations. Those have been dealt with swiftly.

Done right, and with all the right tools in place, BDSM is a safe, fun and sensual experience.

Absolutely, and I fully believe that shitty behaviour should be called out in the scene and dealt with accordingly.

The other part of why I lost interest in it is that I used to know somebody who was heavily into the scene, he was brought up on 2 charges of r*pe but found innocent.

This is exactly why I stay away from 'Fab Doms' so many fakes and so many use it as a power trip

It's good if the dynamic is right....

As a general rule it's not my thing really

I do find the psychology behind it fascinating, but then I do find the psychology behind most sexual behaviours quite fascinating and one of the reasons I like clubs.

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
39 weeks ago

hot wife

Yes i enjoy it get off on the pleasures of others hearing the moaning sounds of enjoyment and when to give more or give a little less and of course seeing those that are watching from the sidelines and there eyes light up or sometimes the eyes close with the more extreme fun

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By *agerMorganMan
39 weeks ago

Canvey Island

"I used to enjoy it, then it got very messy and lots of reports of people not respecting boundaries, adhering to safe words etc started to increase.

Got out of it and now don’t really enjoy it as much anymore.

What has happened is quite simple.

Back in the day consent and boundaries were disrespected with fewer people doing something about it. Now though, it is a big thing in the scene and rightly so.

What it does is encourage discussion, consent and safety.

The more reports we see, the more awareness there is. We go to many events, and we've only ever seen a couple of consent violations. Those have been dealt with swiftly.

Done right, and with all the right tools in place, BDSM is a safe, fun and sensual experience.

Absolutely, and I fully believe that shitty behaviour should be called out in the scene and dealt with accordingly.

The other part of why I lost interest in it is that I used to know somebody who was heavily into the scene, he was brought up on 2 charges of r*pe but found innocent.

This is exactly why I stay away from 'Fab Doms' so many fakes and so many use it as a power trip

It's good if the dynamic is right....

As a general rule it's not my thing really

I do find the psychology behind it fascinating, but then I do find the psychology behind most sexual behaviours quite fascinating and one of the reasons I like clubs.

I don’t blame you for wanting to stay away from fab doms! For sure if the dynamic is right it’s amazing but nowadays it’s so far and few between, interspersed with chancers and outright abusers.

Though I do find the psychology between partners who’ve been in it for a very long time interesting. Like there is this mental connection and know what to look out for with each other.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"BDSM is not about who can be the most extreme and shocking, it's about what you find enjoyable as a person OP.

I enjoy aspects of it, but it's not something I want to base my whole personality on either. "

I think that's a very good point. Maybe some think extremes when they think BDSM, but it doesn't have to be.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
39 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

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By *ittlebirdWoman
39 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I’ll try that again… never considered BDSM at all

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"I’ll try that again… never considered BDSM at all

What's that around your ankle?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
39 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I’ll try that again… never considered BDSM at all

What's that around your ankle?"

Jewellery… obvs

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By *illy Idol OP Man
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"I’ll try that again… never considered BDSM at all

What's that around your ankle?

Jewellery… obvs

(Shockedfaceemoji)

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By *ittlebirdWoman
39 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I’ll try that again… never considered BDSM at all

What's that around your ankle?

Jewellery… obvs

(Shockedfaceemoji)

I told you. What is this BDSM you talk of?

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

We have dabbled a bit and are keen to explore some more

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By *eroLondonMan
39 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I’ll try that again… never considered BDSM at all

What's that around your ankle?"

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It's the silver-tipped fragments of my broken heart linked together. It symbolises her walking over me. Wench.

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By *obilebottomMan
39 weeks ago

All over

"I’ll try that again… never considered BDSM at all

What's that around your ankle?

Jewellery… obvs

(Shockedfaceemoji)

I told you. What is this BDSM you talk of?

You sound like me. Absolutely no idea. Not particularly good with acronyms but have learned a couple of things though as you do herec

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By *ittlebirdWoman
39 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I’ll try that again… never considered BDSM at all

What's that around your ankle?

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It's the silver-tipped fragments of my broken heart linked together. It symbolises her walking over me. Wench."

Sassy as fuck

Ps. It is. Sorry

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
39 weeks ago

Birmingham

Love it.

We're more kinsters than swingers.

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By *ansoffateMan
39 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Yes, although on the balance of things I would say I am more on the sensual side. Depends on my mood and the inspiration. So for what it's worth to you I don't see them as mutually exclusive or it's being a fraud.

My desires fluctuate it's the partner that tends to remain of consistent appeal.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
39 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I’ll try that again… never considered BDSM at all

What's that around your ankle?

Jewellery… obvs

(Shockedfaceemoji)

I told you. What is this BDSM you talk of?

You sound like me. Absolutely no idea. Not particularly good with acronyms but have learned a couple of things though as you do herec

Have you? I don’t even know what “the sex” is….

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By *obilebottomMan
39 weeks ago

All over

"I’ll try that again… never considered BDSM at all

What's that around your ankle?

Jewellery… obvs

(Shockedfaceemoji)

I told you. What is this BDSM you talk of?

You sound like me. Absolutely no idea. Not particularly good with acronyms but have learned a couple of things though as you do herec

Have you? I don’t even know what “the sex” is…."

I read a little bit about it once. There was a book left in the drawer by the bed in a hotel I stayed once. Not much retained mind.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
39 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I’ll try that again… never considered BDSM at all

What's that around your ankle?

Jewellery… obvs

(Shockedfaceemoji)

I told you. What is this BDSM you talk of?

You sound like me. Absolutely no idea. Not particularly good with acronyms but have learned a couple of things though as you do herec

Have you? I don’t even know what “the sex” is….

I read a little bit about it once. There was a book left in the drawer by the bed in a hotel I stayed once. Not much retained mind. "

Did you enjoy the book? I’m looking for a picture book that shows me how le sex works right now..

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By *obilebottomMan
39 weeks ago

All over

"I’ll try that again… never considered BDSM at all

What's that around your ankle?

Jewellery… obvs

(Shockedfaceemoji)

I told you. What is this BDSM you talk of?

You sound like me. Absolutely no idea. Not particularly good with acronyms but have learned a couple of things though as you do herec

Have you? I don’t even know what “the sex” is….

I read a little bit about it once. There was a book left in the drawer by the bed in a hotel I stayed once. Not much retained mind.

Did you enjoy the book? I’m looking for a picture book that shows me how le sex works right now.. "

It was ok. No idea why sp many pages where stuck together though

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Nope, to my wife’s mild chagrin.

I just find it all too ‘try hard’ and boring.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
39 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I’ll try that again… never considered BDSM at all

What's that around your ankle?

Jewellery… obvs

(Shockedfaceemoji)

I told you. What is this BDSM you talk of?

You sound like me. Absolutely no idea. Not particularly good with acronyms but have learned a couple of things though as you do herec

Have you? I don’t even know what “the sex” is….

I read a little bit about it once. There was a book left in the drawer by the bed in a hotel I stayed once. Not much retained mind.

Did you enjoy the book? I’m looking for a picture book that shows me how le sex works right now..

It was ok. No idea why sp many pages where stuck together though"

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By *lder.Woman
39 weeks ago

Not Local

I have done as a switchy sub. Less likely too now as I am in a defiant era, but I wouldn't say no to a hearty wholesome spanking.

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By *ueerKinkyCoupleCouple
39 weeks ago

Cambridge (She/They And They/Them)

Yes! Very much indeed. We like a wide range of kink and BDSM including lots of edgy stuff.

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