FabSwingers.com forum: Are you selfish with sex?

By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

A simple question really.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

As in do I keep it to myself? Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

No I am a balanced lover

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
34 weeks ago

your head

Yeah, so selfish I don't have any

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By *ittlebirdWoman
34 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

When I’m having it with myself yes. With others no

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By *ucka39Man
34 weeks ago

Newcastle

Naaaa I just lay there and let her have the ride of her life

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
34 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I don't think I am.

I get off on seeing someone I'm into getting off.

If I just want to get myself off without giving a shit about anyone else I could save myself a lot of time and energy by just having a wank

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"I don't think I am.

I get off on seeing someone I'm into getting off.

If I just want to get myself off without giving a shit about anyone else I could save myself a lot of time and energy by just having a wank

I think I was selfish when I was younger. And I think sone of that creeps back in when I get all ggrrr and stuff. But seeing and feeling someone’s pleasure is just delightful and addictive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"Naaaa I just lay there and let her have the ride of her life

Haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I don’t think I’m selfish, no. Sometimes I can take a bit of a backseat and enjoy receiving pleasure without feeling selfish about it with my husband. I think that’s ok.

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By *viatrixWoman
34 weeks ago

Redhill

Of course

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By *TG3Man
34 weeks ago

Dorchester

Nope I'm all for the other person and their pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

No I share my wife with many people.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Definitely not

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By *ucka39Man
34 weeks ago

Newcastle

"Naaaa I just lay there and let her have the ride of her life

Haha.

May ask if it's ok to close my eyes and grab a little shut eye. But nothing stopping you to carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Majority of people are selfish with sex, this it's all for the other persons pleasure crap is just that.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"Majority of people are selfish with sex, this it's all for the other persons pleasure crap is just that.

This/that^

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By *ucka39Man
34 weeks ago

Newcastle

"Majority of people are selfish with sex, this it's all for the other persons pleasure crap is just that.

Especially if they roll over and you need to use your hands or toys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"Naaaa I just lay there and let her have the ride of her life

Haha.

May ask if it's ok to close my eyes and grab a little shut eye. But nothing stopping you to carry on

I mean… we’ve got to be up early in the morning right??

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By *ora the explorerWoman
34 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Quite the opposite. Turning someone else on is the biggest turn on for me.

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By *ucka39Man
34 weeks ago

Newcastle

"Naaaa I just lay there and let her have the ride of her life

Haha.

May ask if it's ok to close my eyes and grab a little shut eye. But nothing stopping you to carry on

I mean… we’ve got to be up early in the morning right??

It actually helps you drop off

so relaxing

You should try it

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"Majority of people are selfish with sex, this it's all for the other persons pleasure crap is just that.

Utility Theory in a nutshell. I derive pleasure from your pleasure, ergo there's a selfishness in seeking your pleasure because it serves to satisfy my personal needs.

I dunno.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"Naaaa I just lay there and let her have the ride of her life

Haha.

May ask if it's ok to close my eyes and grab a little shut eye. But nothing stopping you to carry on

I mean… we’ve got to be up early in the morning right??

It actually helps you drop off

so relaxing

You should try it

I just need a woman. And then I can delete this sleep aid app.

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By *ust want fun 888Man
34 weeks ago

nearby

I hope not, what turns me on more is if I can make her come at least once

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"Majority of people are selfish with sex, this it's all for the other persons pleasure crap is just that.

Utility Theory in a nutshell. I derive pleasure from your pleasure, ergo there's a selfishness in seeking your pleasure because it serves to satisfy my personal needs.

I dunno."

I derive pleasure from my pleasure.

Yours? You have a hand, use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"Majority of people are selfish with sex, this it's all for the other persons pleasure crap is just that.

Utility Theory in a nutshell. I derive pleasure from your pleasure, ergo there's a selfishness in seeking your pleasure because it serves to satisfy my personal needs.

I dunno.

I derive pleasure from my pleasure.

Yours? You have a hand, use it. "

I'm beginning to realise why I never get sex...

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By *JcuriousCouple
34 weeks ago

Derby

I don't think so, I always get off to others getting off and Mr J is the same

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"Majority of people are selfish with sex, this it's all for the other persons pleasure crap is just that.

Utility Theory in a nutshell. I derive pleasure from your pleasure, ergo there's a selfishness in seeking your pleasure because it serves to satisfy my personal needs.

I dunno.

I derive pleasure from my pleasure.

Yours? You have a hand, use it.

I'm beginning to realise why I never get sex..."

Because I have hands?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"I don't think so, I always get off to others getting off and Mr J is the same

Miss S x"

Watch people.!!! You can get off watching other people …. getting off.

Is this now dream within a dream?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
34 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I don't think so, I always get off to others getting off and Mr J is the same

Miss S x

Watch people.!!! You can get off watching other people …. getting off.

Is this now dream within a dream?

You’ve never done that Woody? You should. It’s hot

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By *JcuriousCouple
34 weeks ago

Derby

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By *JcuriousCouple
34 weeks ago

Derby

"I don't think so, I always get off to others getting off and Mr J is the same

Miss S x

Watch people.!!! You can get off watching other people …. getting off.

Is this now dream within a dream?

You’ve never done that Woody? You should. It’s hot

It so is

I get fanny flutters just thinking about it

Miss S x

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By *ittlebirdWoman
34 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I don't think so, I always get off to others getting off and Mr J is the same

Miss S x

Watch people.!!! You can get off watching other people …. getting off.

Is this now dream within a dream?

You’ve never done that Woody? You should. It’s hot

It so is

I get fanny flutters just thinking about it

Miss S x

Oh god me too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"I don't think so, I always get off to others getting off and Mr J is the same

Miss S x

Watch people.!!! You can get off watching other people …. getting off.

Is this now dream within a dream?

You’ve never done that Woody? You should. It’s hot

Maybe one day

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By *ittlebirdWoman
34 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I don't think so, I always get off to others getting off and Mr J is the same

Miss S x

Watch people.!!! You can get off watching other people …. getting off.

Is this now dream within a dream?

You’ve never done that Woody? You should. It’s hot

Maybe one day "

Do it do it!

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By *rivateparts!Man
34 weeks ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

No I'm not selfish when it comes to sex, it's much better when you know each others likes and dislikes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"No I'm not selfish when it comes to sex, it's much better when you know each others likes and dislikes."

That’s what I thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"Naaaa I just lay there and let her have the ride of her life

Think of England sex..nice

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

It's all about them,

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

For me myself and I of course am not sharing fab swingers do it yourself for anyone.

Chance be fine thing

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"It's all about them, "

Charming ..who is them.

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By *incepiesMan
34 weeks ago

Nottingham (ish)

Are you selfish with sex?

Nope, it's always about two people (or three or four or more) having a good time.

I have come across a few people (if you'll pardon the pun) that are really into being "used" and I struggle with that scenario but I still manage to put on a good show and give them what they want.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
34 weeks ago

Bradford

No I give a woman multiple orgasms before I have her do anything to me .

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
34 weeks ago

East Yorkshire

I give hubby blowjob and oil handjob every day most days twice and he spoils me any time I ask . Makes me cum over and over till I can't take it anymore. So I don't think either of are selfish with each other x

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By *ellhungvweMan
34 weeks ago

Cheltenham

They keep coming back so I am guessing I can’t be that selfish.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I don't really think I am but I wouldn't say it comes from a good place. I definitely enjoy focusing on them and their pleasure but do occasionally worry if I'm meeting their needs or worry I'll turn them off if I start telling them what I enjoy and would like them to do.

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By *issBellaWoman
34 weeks ago

Wales

"No I'm not selfish when it comes to sex, it's much better when you know each others likes and dislikes."

Yes this

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By *orthern BeardMan
34 weeks ago

Preston

I’m the complete opposite. I get off on seeing someone else get off

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
34 weeks ago

North West

Yes, I'm very selfish. I keep The Sex just for me and no-one else is allowed to join in

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"I don't really think I am but I wouldn't say it comes from a good place. I definitely enjoy focusing on them and their pleasure but do occasionally worry if I'm meeting their needs or worry I'll turn them off if I start telling them what I enjoy and would like them to do."

Making sure their needs are met is obviously important, but so are yours. Do you feel like you’re missing out and not enjoying it as much as you could be by not letting them know what you would like?

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By *J the bullMan
34 weeks ago

Washington

I've always been a pleaser, my pleasure is gaind when I see a playmate in extacy

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Fuck that Joe, tell them what you want!

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
34 weeks ago

Essex

100%

Total princess.

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By *B69Woman
34 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Not at all, I always let them have the damp patch

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By *agnar73Man
34 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"Not at all, I always let them have the damp patch

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
34 weeks ago

South West London

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I don't think so...I'm all about that feedback loop...them having a good time is a big part of my pleasure

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By *ucka39Man
34 weeks ago

Newcastle

"Naaaa I just lay there and let her have the ride of her life

Think of England sex..nice

Are we on penalties

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I'm probably more the opposite. I give more than I receive.

I'm like that in most parts of my life too.

I've come across some very selfish men in my time on fab. All about their pleasure which is probably why I rarely meet these days. I would rather pleasure myself these days, at least its guaranteed

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By *emonbuttercreamWoman
34 weeks ago

Birmingham

No, not at all. My partners pleasure is my main priority when it comes to sex.

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By *agnar73Man
34 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Think I’m more a giver and it’s good to see someone else enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I don't think I'm missing out that much. A big part of my enjoyment is seeing them satisfied and occasionally when we get in the swing of things, I can then be a bit more forward with my wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Fuck that Joe, tell them what you want!"

Oh I do, don't get me wrong, I'm not being all "woe is me" in the middle of having sex

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I’m a selfish lover.

I insist on climaxing first.

I roll over instantly post coitus.

I pretend I’m sleeping as to avoid anyone else’s pleasure.

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By *r lotharioMan
34 weeks ago

newcastle-under-lyme

not at all - the lady cums first to tenth

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By *lirtyfun123Woman
34 weeks ago

essex

I’m very much a pleaser so definately give more than I receive. That could go for most things in my life tbh

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By *aters139Man
34 weeks ago

Sheffield

Def like to make sure the other has enjoyed herself at least several times, as you can never predict what reload time are gonna be... sometimes it's instant...others...but longer.

As for being selfish with sex...nope ..they can have all they want...I'm not keeping it to myself at all!

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
34 weeks ago

Bristol

When I'm receiving, yes.

His cock is for me, that's what I'm here for.

You can ignore what's in the front of my knickers.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
34 weeks ago

Colchester

Probably the reverse.

I prefer my partner to submit so I can focus on giving. They might have a very specific scene and requirements we've spent weeks planning together. On the day, it's my role to deliver that.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
34 weeks ago

Wherever

The opposite.

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By *r SxxMan
34 weeks ago

Kent

I'm very much the opposite actually I'd say - to a fault

I'm very much a people pleaser ( and competitive lol) so my goal is always to tick off everything she wants, make her cum, make her enjoy it as much as possible.

By the time that happens I'm usually knackered or it's bed time haha

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