FabSwingers.com forum: How messed up is your inbox??

By *eco65 OP Man
30 weeks ago

London

I've genuinely just seen a woman's profile with no photos and no profile information with the status "too many messages, had to bulk delete". Is that what I'm up against?!

I'd love some insight from women as to what their current unread message count is at, so thought it would be a laugh to start a thread about it, go!

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30 weeks ago

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
30 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I'm in an area I'm usually not. So its just a nonstop stream of people who don't read today.

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By *onkoMan
30 weeks ago

here and there

It's empty

No one loves me

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By *iss DevilWoman
30 weeks ago

Bedford

I've been here a while, only have "looking for women" ticked but not blocked any other category apart from TV/TS. I don't have any messages currently, had about 6 or 7 today, most from my partner (we chat through here) and my FWB, but also had a random one, a marriage proposal! My very first one, I think! Most days don't get any random messages.

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By *nightANDKrakenCouple
30 weeks ago

Zero...

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
30 weeks ago

Merseyside

Ours is never unmanageable tbh can be a little hectic at times never had to bulk delete and do try to say no thank you where appropriate

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
30 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

It was 6 at one point earlier today. It's now at 1.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"0"

You’re scary though! I bet the nice blokes wouldn’t message you even if you let them!

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

1 in mine and I’m just about to reply

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By *ornycougaWoman
30 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

Currently 450 unread which 400 more than this morning but considerably less than usual as I did a bulk delete a few days ago.

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By *edeWoman
30 weeks ago

the abyss

Got it down to 50 - I'm going to bed before I truly give up on life

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
30 weeks ago

Wales

696 unread. I should probably bulk delete but then I'll have just as many asking if deleting their message was intentional etc.

I think I need too look at .y filters again

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
30 weeks ago

Wales

"Got it down to 50 - I'm going to bed before I truly give up on life "

Draining isn't it

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By *agnar73Man
30 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"696 unread. I should probably bulk delete but then I'll have just as many asking if deleting their message was intentional etc.

I think I need too look at .y filters again

Jeeez

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By *yzykMan
30 weeks ago

Stirlingshire

Messed up... with dust

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By *ady LickWoman
30 weeks ago

Northampton Somewhere

35, very manageable these days

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By *ife NinjaMan
30 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Clear. I'm tidy like that

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By *lirtyfun123Woman
30 weeks ago

essex

I just bulk delete every few days a messy inbox freaks me out so I delete everything and just hope anyone I was talking to comes back lol

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

First day I rejoined 200 messages and I thought I'd done well to set the message filters quickly. I did mass delete. So my advice is of a lady is New let the avalanche of dick pics and desperate horny men stop before messaging.

Many of those initial 200 messages were saying "hello beautiful" before I'd posted a single picture.

Thanks to my filters is now calmed down to 5 to 10 a day. Sometimes a few more ... occasionally none.

I reply to most now but I am getting the repeats where guys have either forgotten they've already messaged and had me say no thanks .... or are chancing their luck. I block them.

When I first joined as a single woman and didn't understand the filters I was overwhelmed.

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By *eco65 OP Man
30 weeks ago

London

Many of those initial 200 messages were saying "hello beautiful" before I'd posted a single picture.

Pretty sure I woke up the neighbours baby when I howled at this

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By *avexxMan
30 weeks ago

cheshire

cobwebbs will get the duster out

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Weird messages asking if I have dentures

I ask you

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
30 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

0, I had a big sort out earlier this week and have so far managed to keep on top of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I give up looking most of the time.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
30 weeks ago

Maidstone

Yeah guys will message anyone. Idiots or people who like the attention don't adjust filters. Women just like to show how popular they are by claiming how many messages they have. Makes them feel wanted. If it works for them then yay.

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By *ornycougaWoman
30 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

"Yeah guys will message anyone. Idiots or people who like the attention don't adjust filters. Women just like to show how popular they are by claiming how many messages they have. Makes them feel wanted. If it works for them then yay. "

Pretty catty and uncalled for comments. I keep my filters (having tried closing them) open because I am picky about a guy's face and want to see it upfront before wasting either of our time. If I message first I feel obliged to provide my face before asking them. I then invariably say no thanks.

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By *ad NannaWoman
30 weeks ago

East London

Zero.

I deal with my asmin

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
30 weeks ago

Maidstone

I don't understand your reasoning at all. I don't care what your reasons are or how picky you are. It's just what I think.

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By *ornycougaWoman
30 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I don't understand your reasoning at all. I don't care what your reasons are or how picky you are. It's just what I think. "

You are entitled to your opinion. There's just no need to be catty or nasty that's all

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
30 weeks ago

Maidstone

I don't understand your reasoning at all. I don't care what your reasons are or how picky you are. It's just what I think.

You are entitled to your opinion. There's just no need to be catty or nasty that's all "

I'm not being either. I still think those who moan about volume of messages only have themselves to blame therefore they are idiots as they aren't helping themselves.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
30 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I don't have any problem keeping my inbox under control now lol. When my profile was open I just had my filters in place. Easy

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Zero but thats because I keep it shut down and filters on most of the time.

The first time I joined fab, I had no idea what it was like and logged in the next morning to see 100s in my inbox and that was with a fairly blank profile.

I don't think men realise just how swamped women get, especially when new.

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By *B69Woman
30 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Havnt been on here much recently but when I returned I had over 800 unread, have bulk deleted which is so annoying as I’ve lost threads of decent conversations. Today I’m down to 200

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By *eroLondonMan
30 weeks ago

Covent Garden

A paltry 16.

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By *eroLondonMan
30 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"Havnt been on here much recently but when I returned I had over 800 unread, have bulk deleted which is so annoying as I’ve lost threads of decent conversations. Today I’m down to 200"

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One of them was mine. It was about the Åfternoon Teå Soirée, but you missed it. Wench.

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
30 weeks ago

London

465 unread yesterday, so I posted a status saying, “No reading messages” , and today only 100.

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By *ucka39Man
30 weeks ago

Newcastle

Hiya op

Having no profile picture or any at all and nothing written within the bio. Doesn't make them automatically not genuine I've made some genuine honest friends whom had this it can boil down to being shy or nervous

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By *B69Woman
30 weeks ago

Wiltshire

"Havnt been on here much recently but when I returned I had over 800 unread, have bulk deleted which is so annoying as I’ve lost threads of decent conversations. Today I’m down to 200

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One of them was mine. It was about the Åfternoon Teå Soirée, but you missed it. Wench.

Ha I did reply to your other one though

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By *ira2024Woman
30 weeks ago

Currently 0. I like to keep it tidy haha

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
30 weeks ago

London

"Havnt been on here much recently but when I returned I had over 800 unread, have bulk deleted which is so annoying as I’ve lost threads of decent conversations. Today I’m down to 200

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One of them was mine. It was about the Åfternoon Teå Soirée, but you missed it. Wench.

I didn't receive that message

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By *ester.jamesMan
30 weeks ago

birmingham

The scary difference between a guys where it’s a handful of messages a day to the bombardment of non filtered brainwaves usually resulting in cock.

We salute you women. Your battling

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By *eco65 OP Man
30 weeks ago

London

"Hiya op

Didn't mean to imply they aren't genuine, I've had great chats with silhouettes but they at least had a profile. I'm just wondering what these messages even say if there's literally nothing to mention on her profile? Surely it must just be "hi", "wuu2" or as someone said earlier "hey beautiful" despite there being no pics, lmao

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By *ris GrayMan
30 weeks ago

Dorchester

Ive read all mine and answered them

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By *eroLondonMan
30 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"Havnt been on here much recently but when I returned I had over 800 unread, have bulk deleted which is so annoying as I’ve lost threads of decent conversations. Today I’m down to 200

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One of them was mine. It was about the Åfternoon Teå Soirée, but you missed it. Wench.

I didn't receive that message

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Don't worry, part ³ is in pre-production...

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"0"
age range...

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By *ester.jamesMan
30 weeks ago

birmingham

"0age range..."

I was thinking the same lmao. I’d be amazed if someone managed to message you

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By *hingumyWoman
30 weeks ago

Somewhere

I've changed my filter so only people aged 84 can message.

so only 4 that snuck in first

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By *esthetic21Man
30 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

"Currently 450 unread which 400 more than this morning but considerably less than usual as I did a bulk delete a few days ago.

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that's why you didn't reply to me

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By *ester.jamesMan
30 weeks ago

birmingham

"I've changed my filter so only people aged 84 can message.

so only 4 that snuck in first

So I’m guessing it’s a if you want to talk you will message first thing or just turning it on for certain times then off again?

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I'm beginning to feel that way towards this site, too.. far too much competition and genuine attempts at getting to know people on here go unnoticed.

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By *arry442Man
30 weeks ago

Brackley

RIP inbox lol

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

An empty box Is a clean box

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By *ympha LuxuriaWoman
30 weeks ago

La La Land

"An empty box Is a clean box"

Never heard my fanny described like that before, but

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"An empty box Is a clean box

Never heard my fanny described like that before, but

Haha. Do you check for dust using your finger?

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By *ympha LuxuriaWoman
30 weeks ago

La La Land

"An empty box Is a clean box

Never heard my fanny described like that before, but

Haha. Do you check for dust using your finger? "

My fanny does not have dust!!

Just feels like it sometimes

So next time my girlfriend sees me masturbating I can say I'm just checking for dust

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By *etal and KinkMan
30 weeks ago

Malice

Men. Men who want to suck my dick. I don't have any filters because I know how to ignore things.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
30 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

I rarely venture in there, it’s so overwhelming sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"An empty box Is a clean box

Never heard my fanny described like that before, but

Haha. Do you check for dust using your finger?

My fanny does not have dust!!

Just feels like it sometimes

So next time my girlfriend sees me masturbating I can say I'm just checking for dust

That’s right, and if it needs a little off bit spit and polish will sort it out

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I've 30 unread atm, more as I go through phases of not checking on them ATM but I had a lot more when I had more pictures on my profile & no disclaimer. Both at as a deterrent to those that read profiles.

Replying to them when it's a no thanks is an odd one.. 9/10 times a insulting or pursuasive message I get following that response, however polite.

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By *ustincider888Man
30 weeks ago

Preston Ish

No messages in my inbox

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By *ustBoWoman
30 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

None. I've filters tighter than a ducks ass. I personally don't see the point of recieving loads of messages that I won't open much less answer.So I keep tight filters.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
30 weeks ago

Leeds

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"None. I've filters tighter than a ducks ass. I personally don't see the point of recieving loads of messages that I won't open much less answer.So I keep tight filters. "

This. It's easy for any woman to keep messages down. Some just like to brag though...

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By *hingumyWoman
30 weeks ago

Somewhere

"I've changed my filter so only people aged 84 can message.

so only 4 that snuck in first

So I’m guessing it’s a if you want to talk you will message first thing or just turning it on for certain times then off again? "

I do try to reply to all messages even to say "no thanks". Using that filter stops new messages until I've caught up. Plus my memory is really bad so if I'm messaging a few folk I forget who's who. I'm only interested in meeting 1 on 1 and only so many hours in a day!

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By *imply DeeWoman
30 weeks ago

Wherever

2, both from people I regularly chat to.

Other than that, it’s no more than 5 daily from strangers, my inbox is never overflowing.

When I first joined I had some kind of “blah blah blah” in bio and no pictures as I couldn’t figure out what to write. I got around 400 messages on that day saying “love your pictures and your profile beautiful”

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

69!!

I have my filters on and I leave all but the interesting unread. I'll delete if I can be bothered or just wait for them to disappear on their own.

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By *esthetic21Man
30 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Long time dead

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
30 weeks ago

Reading

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

It's empty, boundaries and filters is all a woman needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"0"

Based on being only available to 99 year olds lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Since I've reduced my profile blurb to very little, and mention the C word (as a result from someone on here I may add), very few now.

Not sure if people are threatened or offended by it

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Based on being only available to 99 year olds lol. "

There's this crazy idea that women can message guys first. Who knew.

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By *hil most chillMan
30 weeks ago

South East & Europe

Haven't logged on in weeks, so zero. Unlike when I was logging on often, and it was zero.

Every now and then I'll make an effort, and that person will be the only person I message before it invariably goes nowhere and fizzles out. Maybe tike for another break!

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
30 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Currently 2 unread, but they've been read and marked as unread so I remember to reply to them. Have many more than that which have been read but not replied to.

I rarely get more than 4 or 5 messages a day from new people.

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By *avexxMan
30 weeks ago

cheshire

oh eck misread thought it said dirtbox,

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By *ot to giggleWoman
30 weeks ago

Coventry

24 from last night, i got all filters on .. ill try clear them today, its never empty

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By *uncouple153Couple
30 weeks ago

Abergavenny

3. We are very organised

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By *mmaleiaWoman
30 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

"None. I've filters tighter than a ducks ass. I personally don't see the point of recieving loads of messages that I won't open much less answer.So I keep tight filters. "
but what if there’s that 1 bloke that could mail that could be perfect?

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By *outhDublinMan86Man
30 weeks ago

shankill

Clean inbox, dirty mind

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
30 weeks ago

Wales

I've bulk deleted and put my filters up

I think I may have lost some decent conversations. But it needed to be done.

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By *WB85Man
30 weeks ago

Staffordshire

My inbox....empty.

The wife's inbox.....full of shit.

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By *agerMorganMan
30 weeks ago

Canvey Island

Mine is empty thankfully!

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
30 weeks ago

Herts

469. No doubt all carefully crafted messages..

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