FabSwingers.com forum: Over consumption/over use

By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

Does it annoy you when it's happening at your cost?

Have you experienced it?

Are you guilty of it yourself?

To add a little context.

We went away for a weekend(3 full days). I restocked everything so I knew the 2 kids and girl minding them would have everything they needed, it wouldn't cost her anything and everything needed would be to hand.

I ensured all the towels in the house were washed and dry bar the two used the night before we left.

All 16 were in the wash basket when I got back . I had to use 2 tea towels to dry myself

The full shampoo bottle was nearly gone.

The toilet roll was gone .

2 packets of water wipes!went to change the toddler and thought I was loosing it .

2 of my favourite candles burned out

The heating took a beating too,was left on almost constantly.

On one hand I'm annoyed,on the other I feel mean because she looked after my kids for 3 days.

How is it even possible

How would you feel?

(I'm aware this is ranty and I apologise, I just needed to vent)

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By *viatrixWoman
40 weeks ago

Redhill

Comes with the territory. Not easy to find a minder for that length of time.

I’d just let it go and enjoy having such a break- not easy! I had a friend look after my 3 when I went away for a few days and I could have given her diamonds and rubies lol

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I wouldn't invite her for tea!

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By *illy IdolMan
40 weeks ago

Midlands

Moan, moan, moan.

Just be grateful someone looked after your children for 3 days and you still have a house

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By *oodmessMan
40 weeks ago

yumsville

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By *TG3Man
40 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Does it annoy you when it's happening at your cost?

Have you experienced it?

Are you guilty of it yourself?

To add a little context.

I ensured all the towels in the house were washed and dry bar the two used the night before we left.

All 16 were in the wash basket when I got back . I had to use 2 tea towels to dry myself

The full shampoo bottle was nearly gone.

The toilet roll was gone .

2 packets of water wipes!went to change the toddler and thought I was loosing it .

2 of my favourite candles burned out

The heating took a beating too,was left on almost constantly.

On one hand I'm annoyed,on the other I feel mean because she looked after my kids for 3 days.

How is it even possible

How would you feel?

(I'm aware this is ranty and I apologise, I just needed to vent)"
You wanted a break on your own without your kids its a small price to pay for freedom

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By *oodmessMan
40 weeks ago

yumsville

I don't know what it takes to look after a couple of kids but it sounds like whoever looked did took the piss a bit. 3 days to go through all of that ... I dread to think what they got up to

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By *ellinever70Woman
40 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Imagine the cost if you'd taken the kids with you

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Jeez, I get they looked after your kids for 3 days but going through all of that in that short space of time is insane! If I was ever in someone's house, I'd be mortified if I had left it in that state and would try to need as little if the resources as possible. It just sounds sluje they didn't give a shit or were more preoccupied with the kids to realise how much they were using

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By *TG3Man
40 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Imagine the cost if you'd taken the kids with you "
exactly

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By *viatrixWoman
40 weeks ago

Redhill

"Imagine the cost if you'd taken the kids with you "

This!! Everything is so expensive! I took my 3 to Italy this week and even a Maccies (don’t judge- they’re teenagers and it was just one maccies haha) was €50 for 4

The towels moan seems a bit petty to me, lol

And I want to assume that she was paid for her time…

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

When it’s gone it’s gone. That’s how I warn my kids of consuming stuff quickly, they will have days until it’s the big shop again.

Sorry Em, they lived like kings when the queen wasn’t there.

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By *ife NinjaMan
40 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"Imagine the cost if you'd taken the kids with you

This!! Everything is so expensive! I took my 3 to Italy this week and even a Maccies (don’t judge- they’re teenagers and it was just one maccies haha) was €50 for 4

The towels moan seems a bit petty to me, lol

And I want to assume that she was paid for her time… "

#ilikemaccies

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Crikey... You have to just package it in your head as 'the cost of the weekend'

But then learn from your mistakes woman... Next time just leave bare minimum - one towel each and hide everything

I'd be proper annoyed and conflicted too.. Fab is a great place for being able to vent about all kinds of things!

Hope you are feeling more chilled, but if not b+q have a special on spades and patios

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"Imagine the cost if you'd taken the kids with you

This!! Everything is so expensive! I took my 3 to Italy this week and even a Maccies (don’t judge- they’re teenagers and it was just one maccies haha) was €50 for 4

The towels moan seems a bit petty to me, lol

And I want to assume that she was paid for her time… "

Petty yes shame on me .

She was paid well for looking after them obviously. They were also collected by a family member on 2 of those days and taken out for a few hours to give her a break.

The general consensus seems to be I'm a prick so I'll leave it at that.

Thanks .

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

16 towels in the washing basket after 3 days is taking the piss. I could cope with the rest but I’d be fuming if I had to come home and dry myself with tea towels.

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By *ellinever70Woman
40 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"16 towels in the washing basket after 3 days is taking the piss. I could cope with the rest but I’d be fuming if I had to come home and dry myself with tea towels. "

You could always do a quick washing first

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
40 weeks ago

North West

Nah you're not a prick Em. How on earth does a full bottle of shampoo get used?! Two full packs of wet wipes? Etc. It does seem excessive!

If you ever need to use longer term carers for your children in future, maybe only leave rationed amounts of stuff? Decant some shampoo into a smaller bottle or leave a cheapo one.

I think you do just have to chalk it down to experience and, in the words of Mr Pickle, charge it to the game.

You are entitled to have a vent here, so let it goooooooooooo and let the frustration out

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"Imagine the cost if you'd taken the kids with you "

I don't quite agree with this sentiment. Yes, I would've cost more to take the kids but it's still natural to feel a bit taken advantage of when you come back and see the results of a 3 day break. It's very easy to feel like you can't take a break again out of fear what you will come home to.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
40 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

Our daughter is the same when she comes to stay.

Toilet roll I'm not sure how she uses as much as she does but

Same with towels she comes home for one night and uses half a dozen towels, cup's and glasses everywhere it's like a football team has stayed overnight.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
40 weeks ago

North West

Also, parents should be able to take a short break away from their kids and not be made to feel guilty about it!! Em, you made the arrangements you felt were best to enable you to have a bit of time away, there's nothing whatsoever wrong with that. The person caring was paid well, as you've said, so there's really no need to take the piss and consume everything in front of you, just for the hell of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"16 towels in the washing basket after 3 days is taking the piss. I could cope with the rest but I’d be fuming if I had to come home and dry myself with tea towels.

You could always do a quick washing first

I could, but I’d still be fuming if I came home after 3 days and they had managed to go through 16 towels. How does that even happen.

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By * and R cple4Couple
40 weeks ago

swansea

Your definitely not a prick, we are constantly having this disagreement with our kids (all young adults).

I can't wait for them to have their own house so then they will understand where we are coming from. Don't even get me started on the food that gets wasted

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"Also, parents should be able to take a short break away from their kids and not be made to feel guilty about it!! Em, you made the arrangements you felt were best to enable you to have a bit of time away, there's nothing whatsoever wrong with that. The person caring was paid well, as you've said, so there's really no need to take the piss and consume everything in front of you, just for the hell of it. "

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"16 towels in the washing basket after 3 days is taking the piss. I could cope with the rest but I’d be fuming if I had to come home and dry myself with tea towels.

You could always do a quick washing first

I could, but I’d still be fuming if I came home after 3 days and they had managed to go through 16 towels. How does that even happen. "

At least they washed.

I’ve got a feeling if I left my boys being looked after, one of them would need hosing down when I got back

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By *rHotNottsMan
40 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Maybe it’s just how the minder was brought up , some families are like that everything is washed once used once and they are not taught to conserve or save money/energy.

You kind of allowed this to happen , there’s lots you could have done

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By *amsevenMan
40 weeks ago

cork

16 towels for 3 people for 3 days. I'd go mental.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
40 weeks ago

North West

"Maybe it’s just how the minder was brought up , some families are like that everything is washed once used once and they are not taught to conserve or save money/energy.

You kind of allowed this to happen , there’s lots you could have done "

Oh please. Is there any need to make her feel worse?

"You kind of allowed this to happen , there’s lots you could have done"

Really an unnecessary comment.

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By * and R cple4Couple
40 weeks ago

swansea

"16 towels in the washing basket after 3 days is taking the piss. I could cope with the rest but I’d be fuming if I had to come home and dry myself with tea towels.

You could always do a quick washing first

I could, but I’d still be fuming if I came home after 3 days and they had managed to go through 16 towels. How does that even happen.

At least they washed.

I’ve got a feeling if I left my boys being looked after, one of them would need hosing down when I got back

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It don't nessasaraly mean they have washed

mine use nice clean towels for cleaning his trainers or if he spills his drink, apparently their are lots of different ways to use clean towels other than washing

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By *ellinever70Woman
40 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Hopefully the op can get a bit of perspective on it and not let it ruin the memories of a kid free break

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By *illy IdolMan
40 weeks ago

Midlands

If it's any consolation Em, when my mum came back from a weekend away when I was a child, me and my brother had bleached ginger hair and the budgie was dead. You haven't done too badly

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By *viatrixWoman
40 weeks ago

Redhill

"16 towels for 3 people for 3 days. I'd go mental. "

We’re 5 in this house and I don’t think I own 16 towels… maybe half that.

*cries in poor*

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By *kpiercedCouple
40 weeks ago

walsall

Hey where your coming from

We’ve been there done that

Had a friend stay over with her 2 kids to watch our 4

And got to the point we stopped going out as we dreaded the devastation we would walk back into

Having a night out - no matter how good it was - outweighed the hours & hours of clean up afterwards

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By *icecouple561Couple
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40 weeks ago

East Sussex

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By *kpiercedCouple
40 weeks ago

walsall

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

It does raise that question again… why do we wash towels when we were clean when we used them?

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"16 towels in the washing basket after 3 days is taking the piss. I could cope with the rest but I’d be fuming if I had to come home and dry myself with tea towels.

You could always do a quick washing first

I could, but I’d still be fuming if I came home after 3 days and they had managed to go through 16 towels. How does that even happen.

At least they washed.

I’ve got a feeling if I left my boys being looked after, one of them would need hosing down when I got back

I guess, If they were having 5 baths a day. It just seems unnecessary. I’m sure she has a washing machine, it doesn’t take 2 seconds to rewash the ones you’ve used instead of using more.

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By *rHotNottsMan
40 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Maybe it’s just how the minder was brought up , some families are like that everything is washed once used once and they are not taught to conserve or save money/energy.

You kind of allowed this to happen , there’s lots you could have done

Oh please. Is there any need to make her feel worse?

"You kind of allowed this to happen , there’s lots you could have done"

Really an unnecessary comment. "

I disagree.

She is hardly vulnerable or in need of therapy , having a little winge about the big roll running out isn’t a major disaster

And your simping wont get you laid

Yep - she definitely allowed it to happen. I’m sure she’s learned her lesson though & will do things a little differently next time

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By *viatrixWoman
40 weeks ago

Redhill

"It does raise that question again… why do we wash towels when we were clean when we used them? "

To make them nice and fluffy and smell nice?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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40 weeks ago

East Sussex

Did you say you'd left everything she would need and to use whatever she wanted?

If I was in someone else's house I would be really careful with what I used but a bit freer if they'd told me to make myself at home etc.

I don't know how old the person who looked after your children is or what experience they have of running a home. However I would feel a bit fed up at 16 towels and the candles.

I think if your kids are well and happy and you want to go away again you're probably going to have to smile and hide the good stuff next time

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By *sWyldWoman
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I'd be annoyed too but also what can you do?

I have teenagers who eat me out of house and home constantly so I feel your pain.

And yes they use a towel once and it gets left.

Just focus on the nice parts of your break.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
40 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

I'd be a bit fed up with that too. Is it possible your kids tipped most of the bottle of the shampoo into the bath, flooded it and the towels were used to mop up? But the sitter didn't want to say? I'm just remembering my little one doing that. It was really expensive shampoo as well. I cried.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
40 weeks ago

North West

"Maybe it’s just how the minder was brought up , some families are like that everything is washed once used once and they are not taught to conserve or save money/energy.

You kind of allowed this to happen , there’s lots you could have done

Oh please. Is there any need to make her feel worse?

"You kind of allowed this to happen , there’s lots you could have done"

Really an unnecessary comment.

I disagree.

She is hardly vulnerable or in need of therapy , having a little winge about the big roll running out isn’t a major disaster

And your simping wont get you laid

Yep - she definitely allowed it to happen. I’m sure she’s learned her lesson though & will do things a little differently next time "

Simping to get me laid?? If I were trying to seduce Em, then I could see your point. But I'm not. But thanks for your vitriol, it goes well with my brew.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"16 towels in the washing basket after 3 days is taking the piss. I could cope with the rest but I’d be fuming if I had to come home and dry myself with tea towels.

You could always do a quick washing first

I could, but I’d still be fuming if I came home after 3 days and they had managed to go through 16 towels. How does that even happen.

At least they washed.

I’ve got a feeling if I left my boys being looked after, one of them would need hosing down when I got back

I guess, If they were having 5 baths a day. It just seems unnecessary. I’m sure she has a washing machine, it doesn’t take 2 seconds to rewash the ones you’ve used instead of using more. "

you are also talking to a guy who is still learning not to forget to wash his work cloths for the Monday.

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By *viatrixWoman
40 weeks ago

Redhill

"Hopefully the op can get a bit of perspective on it and not let it ruin the memories of a kid free break "

You have to choose your battles!

We were offloaded from my flight home yesterday because apparently the plane could only go half full due to high winds … we were some of the last to check in (and cheapest tickets lol) so off we pop. Had to rebook somewhere else and I am £400 worse off. Yeah, I was still resenting it last night but the memories made this week are worth much more than that. It’ll be a couple of poor months for me but it is what it is.

Life’s too short.

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By *emonbuttercreamWoman
40 weeks ago

Birmingham

How old is she? And how much did you pay her?

If you've paid her well and she's a grown adult I think you are well within your right to be frustrated. But if she's young and you've only paid her by stocking up on items etc I think you need to be a bit more understanding of why she has been so lax.

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By *oodmessMan
40 weeks ago

yumsville

Just a thought - have you asked your kids what happened? If they had a good time?

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
40 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

Yes, I think you’ve had the piss taken.

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By *oodmessMan
40 weeks ago

yumsville

* might get explanation of how a whole bottle of shampoo was used

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By *arley QuimWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere

Decent childcare can be like gold dust. I'd chalk it up to experience, and hide some towels next time.

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By *arley QuimWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere

Could have been worse. Could have left £100 for emergencies, and found it'd been wiped out on paying for takeaways every day

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
40 weeks ago

Central

I appreciate people who are cautious and conservative in their use of goods, especially as many have wide ranging impacts upon our worst.

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

I won't reply to all because chances are I'd make myself look worse.

The girl is 20 and was paid €300 for her time.

The fridge was full and another €50 left for a takeaway.

I left everything that would be needed and more.

I asked the oldest as he's 12,about the shampoo and he said he didn't know .

I also asked him about the heating and he said it was so hot all weekend that he had left his bedroom window open the whole time.

I fully expected to have a ton of washing to do when I got back but not having 1 poxy towel to dry myself after travelling for hours is different.

Saying it's my own fault is ridiculous. Should I start being stingy and non trusting?

Thank you to those who were kind and at least trying to see my point of view.

To those that decided not to,have a great day

Anyhooo this has been fun, thanks for that.

Em x

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By *lder.Woman
40 weeks ago

Not Local

I am amazed daily by where toilet roll and food and towells go. As Im trudging back to the shops to restock

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I’m one of those “treat my place like it’s your own” kind of people. I consider it as part of the payment for the work (or favour) that they’re doing

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By *ixiekissesWoman
40 weeks ago

Happy place

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By *oiluvfunMan
40 weeks ago

Penrith

I recently stayed over at a mate’s house, after we drank ourselves well past my being able to drive home in his barn home bar

His wife was absolutely gobsmacked that I had made up their spare bed after I had slept in it, to the point she hadn’t even known I’d slept over. For me though, I was brought up to respect other people’s things, and leave a place as you would expect to find it…..

Your child minder did a great job while you were away, and although your children probably slacked off a little too, I would be feeling somewhat taken advantage of myself, but once bitten; twice shy. You have my sympathies

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"I am amazed daily by where toilet roll and food and towells go. As Im trudging back to the shops to restock

Women. They eat it like spaghetti as they sit in the loo.

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By *emorefridaCouple
40 weeks ago

La la land

I haven't read the whole thread. But the most important thing I think is did you enjoy the weekend OP? Did you feel the kids were safe and that they also enjoyed their time?

The rest although is annoying isn't worth you spoiling your memories of a nice weekend.

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By *lder.Woman
40 weeks ago

Not Local

"I am amazed daily by where toilet roll and food and towells go. As Im trudging back to the shops to restock

Women. They eat it like spaghetti as they sit in the loo. "

Or wind it round our fingers like candy floss and tuck in.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
40 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

"I won't reply to all because chances are I'd make myself look worse.

The girl is 20 and was paid €300 for her time.

The fridge was full and another €50 left for a takeaway.

I left everything that would be needed and more.

I asked the oldest as he's 12,about the shampoo and he said he didn't know .

I also asked him about the heating and he said it was so hot all weekend that he had left his bedroom window open the whole time.

I fully expected to have a ton of washing to do when I got back but not having 1 poxy towel to dry myself after travelling for hours is different.

Saying it's my own fault is ridiculous. Should I start being stingy and non trusting?

Thank you to those who were kind and at least trying to see my point of view.

To those that decided not to,have a great day

Anyhooo this has been fun, thanks for that.

Em x"

€300 for 3 days? For caring for two children

I don't think you have anything to complain about. I think she should be one complaining in all fairness

Sorry

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
40 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"Does it annoy you when it's happening at your cost?

Have you experienced it?

Are you guilty of it yourself?

To add a little context.

I ensured all the towels in the house were washed and dry bar the two used the night before we left.

All 16 were in the wash basket when I got back . I had to use 2 tea towels to dry myself

The full shampoo bottle was nearly gone.

The toilet roll was gone .

2 packets of water wipes!went to change the toddler and thought I was loosing it .

2 of my favourite candles burned out

The heating took a beating too,was left on almost constantly.

On one hand I'm annoyed,on the other I feel mean because she looked after my kids for 3 days.

How is it even possible

How would you feel?

(I'm aware this is ranty and I apologise, I just needed to vent)"

Should habe throat punched her Em....just for the cheek of it all...fancy using all your shampoo

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"I won't reply to all because chances are I'd make myself look worse.

The girl is 20 and was paid €300 for her time.

The fridge was full and another €50 left for a takeaway.

I left everything that would be needed and more.

I asked the oldest as he's 12,about the shampoo and he said he didn't know .

I also asked him about the heating and he said it was so hot all weekend that he had left his bedroom window open the whole time.

I fully expected to have a ton of washing to do when I got back but not having 1 poxy towel to dry myself after travelling for hours is different.

Saying it's my own fault is ridiculous. Should I start being stingy and non trusting?

Thank you to those who were kind and at least trying to see my point of view.

To those that decided not to,have a great day

Anyhooo this has been fun, thanks for that.

Em x

€300 for 3 days? For caring for two children

I don't think you have anything to complain about. I think she should be one complaining in all fairness

Sorry

Should have added two children that are closely related to her and when asked how much ,that's what she asked for.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
40 weeks ago

Leeds

You aren't a prick Em, that's ridiculous overuse - 16 towels!!

If someone looked after my kids I wouldn't be happy them burning my candles etc either.

Seems they've just taken advantage personally.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"I am amazed daily by where toilet roll and food and towells go. As Im trudging back to the shops to restock

Women. They eat it like spaghetti as they sit in the loo.

Or wind it round our fingers like candy floss and tuck in.

women line the toilet seat with it, is it to sit on something comfy?

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By *emonbuttercreamWoman
40 weeks ago

Birmingham

20 years old?! I was expecting you to say she was 16 or so. She's old enough to be washing up after herself if she is using up your towels etc and she should know better than to keep the heating on 24/7.

I wouldn't be happy. But what can you do now? It's not worth stressing over. At least in the future, you will know to speak to her about it before leaving or just avoid her altogether.

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"20 years old?! I was expecting you to say she was 16 or so. She's old enough to be washing up after herself if she is using up your towels etc and she should know better than to keep the heating on 24/7.

I wouldn't be happy. But what can you do now? It's not worth stressing over. At least in the future, you will know to speak to her about it before leaving or just avoid her altogether."

I'll speak to her next time as she's my step daughter. I didn't want to come across to her as the evil step mother at the time .

Maybe I didn't pay her enough as said above and it was a fuck you,who knows but that's how much she asked for.

Lesson learned either way.

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40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"You aren't a prick Em, that's ridiculous overuse - 16 towels!!

If someone looked after my kids I wouldn't be happy them burning my candles etc either.

Seems they've just taken advantage personally.

Mrs "

It's not so much using the candles as burning out two of them.They were also in a cupboard in my room so obviously weren't out for use either .

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By *arley QuimWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere

The candles would annoy me, especially as she'd looked through your cupboards. The towels - if you'd already used 2, it's 14 towels not 16. I'd not expect someone outside my kids to use a towel I already had after a shower. Toilet rolls always go quick, and I think the shampoo and wet wipes is a bit nit picky. €300 for 3 days childcare is pretty good going. So long as the kids were fine, house still standing. It was a 20yr old female relative helping you out, not a qualified child minder

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
40 weeks ago

St Leonards

"Imagine the cost if you'd taken the kids with you

This!! Everything is so expensive! I took my 3 to Italy this week and even a Maccies (don’t judge- they’re teenagers and it was just one maccies haha) was €50 for 4

The towels moan seems a bit petty to me, lol

And I want to assume that she was paid for her time…

Petty yes shame on me .

She was paid well for looking after them obviously. They were also collected by a family member on 2 of those days and taken out for a few hours to give her a break.

The general consensus seems to be I'm a prick so I'll leave it at that.

Thanks .

Not true Em. If you were an ugly minger, we'd all call you a prick.

But because you're hot, we're all thinking "prick" but wouldn't want to damage future chances by actually saying it

More seriously, you're right, she's right, tragedy lies in the conflict of two rights, not a right and a wrong (that's Hegel again...just for Pickle

), and next time see if you can find someone a bit less 180 to your own preferences if you can.

Then, a great few days away knowing the kids are cared for and your home isn't a bombsite when you return is about the best it gets.

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40 weeks ago

"I won't reply to all because chances are I'd make myself look worse.

The girl is 20 and was paid €300 for her time.

The fridge was full and another €50 left for a takeaway.

I left everything that would be needed and more.

I asked the oldest as he's 12,about the shampoo and he said he didn't know .

I also asked him about the heating and he said it was so hot all weekend that he had left his bedroom window open the whole time.

I fully expected to have a ton of washing to do when I got back but not having 1 poxy towel to dry myself after travelling for hours is different.

Saying it's my own fault is ridiculous. Should I start being stingy and non trusting?

Thank you to those who were kind and at least trying to see my point of view.

To those that decided not to,have a great day

Anyhooo this has been fun, thanks for that.

Em x

€300 for 3 days? For caring for two children

I don't think you have anything to complain about. I think she should be one complaining in all fairness

Sorry

Should have added two children that are closely related to her and when asked how much ,that's what she asked for."

The fact you’re related means she probably felt comfortable using your things. Also you’re only paying her €4 an hour, so it’s swings and roundabouts.

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By *emorefridaCouple
40 weeks ago

La la land

As it was a family member I'll share a story of my looking after my sister, just to make you feel better OP. My mam left in charge of my sister and a couple of her mates when she went out for the night.

My mam arrived home as the police arrived at the house. One girl had decided to apply red lipstick on and kiss each step of the carpeted stairs (took ages to clean off). There were cola bottles stuck to the wall in the living room and there were some sweets placed in the vents of the electric radiators. My sister had invited more than a couple of friends and it was carnage. These things happen and I'm lucky my mam didn't kill me or my sister

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"Imagine the cost if you'd taken the kids with you

This!! Everything is so expensive! I took my 3 to Italy this week and even a Maccies (don’t judge- they’re teenagers and it was just one maccies haha) was €50 for 4

The towels moan seems a bit petty to me, lol

And I want to assume that she was paid for her time…

Petty yes shame on me .

She was paid well for looking after them obviously. They were also collected by a family member on 2 of those days and taken out for a few hours to give her a break.

The general consensus seems to be I'm a prick so I'll leave it at that.

Thanks .

Not true Em. If you were an ugly minger, we'd all call you a prick.

But because you're hot, we're all thinking "prick" but wouldn't want to damage future chances by actually saying it

More seriously, you're right, she's right, tragedy lies in the conflict of two rights, not a right and a wrong (that's Hegel again...just for Pickle

), and next time see if you can find someone a bit less 180 to your own preferences if you can.

Then, a great few days away knowing the kids are cared for and your home isn't a bombsite when you return is about the best it gets."

So people are only nice to me because they find me attractive when infact they think I'm a prick?

That's great to know

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"I won't reply to all because chances are I'd make myself look worse.

The girl is 20 and was paid €300 for her time.

The fridge was full and another €50 left for a takeaway.

I left everything that would be needed and more.

I asked the oldest as he's 12,about the shampoo and he said he didn't know .

I also asked him about the heating and he said it was so hot all weekend that he had left his bedroom window open the whole time.

I fully expected to have a ton of washing to do when I got back but not having 1 poxy towel to dry myself after travelling for hours is different.

Saying it's my own fault is ridiculous. Should I start being stingy and non trusting?

Thank you to those who were kind and at least trying to see my point of view.

To those that decided not to,have a great day

Anyhooo this has been fun, thanks for that.

Em x

€300 for 3 days? For caring for two children

I don't think you have anything to complain about. I think she should be one complaining in all fairness

Sorry

Should have added two children that are closely related to her and when asked how much ,that's what she asked for.

The fact you’re related means she probably felt comfortable using your things. Also you’re only paying her €4 an hour, so it’s swings and roundabouts."

Yes I clearly took advantage

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40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"As it was a family member I'll share a story of my looking after my sister, just to make you feel better OP. My mam left in charge of my sister and a couple of her mates when she went out for the night.

That's made me smile, thank you for that

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By *allipygousMan
40 weeks ago

Leicester

I wouldn't be happy coming home to what you came home to either.

£300 for 3 days is more than enough renumeration, it included room and board.

If there's a next time and you want to use your step daughter's services again I'd tell her what you'd expect the place to be like when you return. Some people don't realise they're taking the piss unless it's pointed out to them.

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By *ardfun10Man
40 weeks ago

banbury

"Imagine the cost if you'd taken the kids with you "

So true

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By *arley QuimWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere

"I wouldn't be happy coming home to what you came home to either.

£300 for 3 days is more than enough renumeration, it included room and board.

Doesn't say it's a step daughter? Also £257, not £300. If you class someone doing you a favour as a reason to state they're taking the piss if its not quite to your standards. I'd point out it's you taking the piss

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By *uke OzadeMan
40 weeks ago

Ho Chi Minge City

She would never have got through all of that if she was at home with two kids of her own, it’s just common sense. The fact she did it at yours with your kids is a massive piss take.

And if she wasn’t happy with £300 she should’ve said so before agreeing. You’re not at fault OP, you did everything you could to do it right. I’d be fucking fuming as well tbh

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By *ackformore100Man
40 weeks ago

Tin town

"Does it annoy you when it's happening at your cost?

Have you experienced it?

Are you guilty of it yourself?

To add a little context.

I ensured all the towels in the house were washed and dry bar the two used the night before we left.

All 16 were in the wash basket when I got back . I had to use 2 tea towels to dry myself

The full shampoo bottle was nearly gone.

The toilet roll was gone .

2 packets of water wipes!went to change the toddler and thought I was loosing it .

2 of my favourite candles burned out

The heating took a beating too,was left on almost constantly.

On one hand I'm annoyed,on the other I feel mean because she looked after my kids for 3 days.

How is it even possible

How would you feel?

(I'm aware this is ranty and I apologise, I just needed to vent)"

The price you pay. Maybe if she's a regular sitter, have a calm Conversation with her about expectations. As long as they were still safe and well when you got back

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"I wouldn't be happy coming home to what you came home to either.

£300 for 3 days is more than enough renumeration, it included room and board.

It does say it's my step daughter further up but yes €300 and 50 for a takeaway not pounds.

I do think you're enjoying picking fault with me though.

I'm genuinely curious as to how much people think I should have paid actually

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By *iger4uWoman
40 weeks ago

In my happy place

Jeez.

You were far too open and generous.

I can't work out the 16 towels.

I'm guessing the shampoo has been decanted.

No candles next time, buy reeds as they are a fire hazard with strangers.

And heating... should have set a timer and a no touch rule.

You'll learn!

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By *ndie and CindyCouple
40 weeks ago

Dublin

"You aren't a prick Em, that's ridiculous overuse - 16 towels!!

If someone looked after my kids I wouldn't be happy them burning my candles etc either.

Seems they've just taken advantage personally.

Mrs

It's not so much using the candles as burning out two of them.They were also in a cupboard in my room so obviously weren't out for use either ."

Rooting around your stuff, using every last thing to be found regardless of what it was. It all feels a little entitled and disrespectful; like fuck it not my shit to clean up or bills to pay or shopping to do. No sense of what it costs to run a house or the effort that would go into getting it ready to have someone else in your home before you go away.

With you making sure they had help and down time as well, it kinda comes across like they had a paid holiday in your house. Yes your kids were being minded, but when you think about your kids and their schedule/routines, does that mean they were brought out to playground, GAA matches or whatever activities they do, or was it an adult in the house chilling out whilst the kids do their own thing. Because that’s very different levels of effort and responsibility.

Ella

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"Jeez.

You were far too open and generous.

I can't work out the 16 towels.

I'm guessing the shampoo has been decanted.

No candles next time, buy reeds as they are a fire hazard with strangers.

And heating... should have set a timer and a no touch rule.

You'll learn!"

As i was corrected above,we used 2 so it was 14.

Our heating is set on a timer, I told her that,it comes on 5 times a day but I didn't say not to turn it on beyond that

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By *allipygousMan
40 weeks ago

Leicester

"I wouldn't be happy coming home to what you came home to either.

£300 for 3 days is more than enough renumeration, it included room and board.

I stand corrected on the amount paid, Harley. I can't tell my €s from my £s.

If you read the thread thoroughly you'll see the OP states it was her step daughter and I think someone can still take the piss whether they're doing you a favour or not. Agree to disagree?

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By *arley QuimWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere

"I wouldn't be happy coming home to what you came home to either.

£300 for 3 days is more than enough renumeration, it included room and board.

It does say it's my step daughter further up but yes €300 and 50 for a takeaway not pounds.

I do think you're enjoying picking fault with me though.

I'm genuinely curious as to how much people think I should have paid actually "

How am I picking fault with you? My reply was to a different poster.

The price was agreed between yourselves, you obviously both felt it was fair. For context my daughter pays her 17yr old babysitter £20 for 2hrs during which she baths, feeds, puts the kids to bed. She also gives her a lift home.

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"You aren't a prick Em, that's ridiculous overuse - 16 towels!!

If someone looked after my kids I wouldn't be happy them burning my candles etc either.

Seems they've just taken advantage personally.

Mrs

It's not so much using the candles as burning out two of them.They were also in a cupboard in my room so obviously weren't out for use either .

Ella "

There were no extracurriculars.

My eldest doesn't come out of his room unless he's made to,he's a "gamer" so he says. On this occasion he was asked to help his sister for the weekend, which he did as I checked with him to make sure while I was away.

The youngest was taken to the park across from our house one of the days too.

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
40 weeks ago

St Leonards

"Imagine the cost if you'd taken the kids with you

This!! Everything is so expensive! I took my 3 to Italy this week and even a Maccies (don’t judge- they’re teenagers and it was just one maccies haha) was €50 for 4

The towels moan seems a bit petty to me, lol

And I want to assume that she was paid for her time…

Petty yes shame on me .

She was paid well for looking after them obviously. They were also collected by a family member on 2 of those days and taken out for a few hours to give her a break.

The general consensus seems to be I'm a prick so I'll leave it at that.

Thanks .

Not true Em. If you were an ugly minger, we'd all call you a prick.

But because you're hot, we're all thinking "prick" but wouldn't want to damage future chances by actually saying it

More seriously, you're right, she's right, tragedy lies in the conflict of two rights, not a right and a wrong (that's Hegel again...just for Pickle

), and next time see if you can find someone a bit less 180 to your own preferences if you can.

Then, a great few days away knowing the kids are cared for and your home isn't a bombsite when you return is about the best it gets.

So people are only nice to me because they find me attractive when infact they think I'm a prick?

That's great to know"

No. It said a lot more.

But I think I'd better hide from interactions with you for a day or two. I've never seen you so Aries

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"I wouldn't be happy coming home to what you came home to either.

£300 for 3 days is more than enough renumeration, it included room and board.

It does say it's my step daughter further up but yes €300 and 50 for a takeaway not pounds.

I do think you're enjoying picking fault with me though.

I'm genuinely curious as to how much people think I should have paid actually

How am I picking fault with you? My reply was to a different poster.

I'm actually wrong in this instance as I took the reply to be aimed at me so I apologise.

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"I wouldn't be happy coming home to what you came home to either.

£300 for 3 days is more than enough renumeration, it included room and board.

It does say it's my step daughter further up but yes €300 and 50 for a takeaway not pounds.

I do think you're enjoying picking fault with me though.

I'm genuinely curious as to how much people think I should have paid actually

How am I picking fault with you? My reply was to a different poster.

I'm actually wrong in this instance as I took the reply to be aimed at me so I apologise."

I missed the first part of your post about your daughter.

If we go out for a few hours and have her over to babysit ,we pay for a takeaway,the youngest will already be in bed as he goes down at 7 and give her €50. That's for roughly 4 maybe 5 hours.

If u was to use that as a means of adding what I should pay then it would've been over €700 that I should have paid for the 3 days.

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By *ndie and CindyCouple
40 weeks ago

Dublin

"You aren't a prick Em, that's ridiculous overuse - 16 towels!!

If someone looked after my kids I wouldn't be happy them burning my candles etc either.

Seems they've just taken advantage personally.

Mrs

It's not so much using the candles as burning out two of them.They were also in a cupboard in my room so obviously weren't out for use either .

Ella

There were no extracurriculars.

The youngest was taken to the park across from our house one of the days too."

So I can’t even defend it with maybe after a day of running around doing sports and going to be park, a bath, hair mask and a couple of candles was needed, but the shampoo bottle exploded with the heat from the candle. In a panic the wet wipes were used to mop it all up, just as the dog/cat/budgie jumped in the bath running through the house. As the wet wipes had all been used the 15 remaining towels had to be used to dry the poor family pet and dry the house……….

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By *naswingdressWoman
40 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'd be annoyed, OP. I feel for you.

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"You aren't a prick Em, that's ridiculous overuse - 16 towels!!

If someone looked after my kids I wouldn't be happy them burning my candles etc either.

Seems they've just taken advantage personally.

Mrs

It's not so much using the candles as burning out two of them.They were also in a cupboard in my room so obviously weren't out for use either .

Ella

There were no extracurriculars.

The youngest was taken to the park across from our house one of the days too.

we don't have pets anymore sadly but you never know it could've been the neighbours pets that got in through the open windows?

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"I'd be annoyed, OP. I feel for you."

I've definitely annoyed myself starting this thread

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By *naswingdressWoman
40 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'd be annoyed, OP. I feel for you.

I've definitely annoyed myself starting this thread

It's amazing what will cause people to kick off. I wouldn't be issuing a repeat invitation for anyone who went through that amount of stuff in that period of time. And if I was babysitting and something happened that caused me to go through that amount of stuff, I'd at least put a load of washing on!

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"I'd be annoyed, OP. I feel for you.

I've definitely annoyed myself starting this thread

Shit happens,I know this.

I remember I was 14 and asked to mind my aunts 4 kids for two days. (Mental I know,you wouldn't see our happen now)

The kids were 10,7,4 and 8 months.

I got €100 for doing it .

The 7 year old cut the 4 year Olds fringe and the dog chewed the strap off the the 4 year Olds shoe .

I was distraught when they came back, I told them everything through snots and tears and tried to give them back their money .

I was traumatized after it

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By *imisugarWoman
40 weeks ago

Rugby

The using the towels and not washing and drying them would have irritated me. Seems too many for the amount of days in question.

Full shampoo could have been that pesky potion making kids are fond of I suppose.

Wet wipes always get used in excess by those that don't pay for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Correct to vent OP, we're a spoilt generation with lil discipline...!

Anyway, what's done is done with peeps always seeming to teach us a lesson...!

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By *onameyet2Man
40 weeks ago

chorley

What about the batteries in your toys?

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By *ackformore100Man
40 weeks ago

Tin town

Well this got loud

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By *onameyet2Man
40 weeks ago

chorley

"Well this got loud"

Pardon?

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By *ackformore100Man
40 weeks ago

Tin town

"Well this got loud

Pardon?"

I SAID...

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"Well this got loud

Pardon?

I SAID... "

That's fab for you

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40 weeks ago

"Well this got loud

Pardon?

I SAID...

That's fab for you

Em, i don't think you need to defend yourself at all... Clearly what happen is not acceptable and i defy any of the arsey posters above to keep their cool under similar circumstances

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40 weeks ago

"Does it annoy you when it's happening at your cost?

Have you experienced it?

Are you guilty of it yourself?

To add a little context.

I ensured all the towels in the house were washed and dry bar the two used the night before we left.

All 16 were in the wash basket when I got back . I had to use 2 tea towels to dry myself

The full shampoo bottle was nearly gone.

The toilet roll was gone .

2 packets of water wipes!went to change the toddler and thought I was loosing it .

2 of my favourite candles burned out

The heating took a beating too,was left on almost constantly.

On one hand I'm annoyed,on the other I feel mean because she looked after my kids for 3 days.

How is it even possible

How would you feel?

(I'm aware this is ranty and I apologise, I just needed to vent)"

I hope you paid her at least £125 a day for that too

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By *ellinever70Woman
40 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"Well this got loud

Pardon?

I SAID...

That's fab for you

Em, i don't think you need to defend yourself at all... Clearly what happen is not acceptable and i defy any of the arsey posters above to keep their cool under similar circumstances

Who was being arsey?

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By *heel markMan
40 weeks ago

beside the sea

Im glad im not the only one who has kids that go through so many towels, toilet paper, shower gel shampoo etc.

Ive got an ensuite and my shower gel /shampoo and toilet rolls last for ages unlike the kids who go through massive amounts . I buy the cheap stuff for them as they consume so much.

Op I think you've every right to be pissed of , I would be to .

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By *weetiepie99Woman
40 weeks ago

cardiff

I get your frustration, i really do. But to have a child free couple of days, where your children are fed, watered and cared for...for me it would be worth it and i think i'd just let it go over my head

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

"Does it annoy you when it's happening at your cost?

Have you experienced it?

Are you guilty of it yourself?

To add a little context.

I ensured all the towels in the house were washed and dry bar the two used the night before we left.

All 16 were in the wash basket when I got back . I had to use 2 tea towels to dry myself

The full shampoo bottle was nearly gone.

The toilet roll was gone .

2 packets of water wipes!went to change the toddler and thought I was loosing it .

2 of my favourite candles burned out

The heating took a beating too,was left on almost constantly.

On one hand I'm annoyed,on the other I feel mean because she looked after my kids for 3 days.

How is it even possible

How would you feel?

(I'm aware this is ranty and I apologise, I just needed to vent)

I hope you paid her at least £125 a day for that too"

Read the thread ya?

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

Can we just let it die now please.

I'll pay through the nose and keep my mouth shut in future.

I've read all the posts, no more needs to be said.

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By *ou only live onceMan
40 weeks ago

London

"Can we just let it die now please.

I'll pay through the nose and keep my mouth shut in future.

I've read all the posts, no more needs to be said."

Dead as a dodo. Deep breaths, Em.

Now, can you lend me some shampoo?

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By *weetiepie99Woman
40 weeks ago

cardiff

"Can we just let it die now please.

I'll pay through the nose and keep my mouth shut in future.

I've read all the posts, no more needs to be said.

Dead as a dodo. Deep breaths, Em.

Now, can you lend me some shampoo?

And towels

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By *educing_Em OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

Take whatever ye want, I'll even pay ye to do it

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By *inger_SnapWoman
40 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Did you have a nice time?

Were the kids still alive when you got home?

I'd say that's a win.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
40 weeks ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Yeah I'd be pissed too i mean 16 towels!!! but......

Did you and Mr have a nice time away that's the important thing xx

Tinder x

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