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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married"" as that’s my profile you’ve quoted from, I’ll reply, my house is open when the trust is there, as it’s my family home, and every guy I’ve spoken to who has this on their profile has turned out to be married | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married"" Because it’s true? You do see a lot of profiles with “can’t accom due to living in a house share” or “living with parents” that type of thing but mostly it’s married men | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married"as that’s my profile you’ve quoted from, I’ll reply, my house is open when the trust is there, as it’s my family home, and every guy I’ve spoken to who has this on their profile has turned out to be married" Is the man’s home not his family home? | |||
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" Is the man’s home not his family home? " none of them had custody of the kids, or most had no kids, so unless they lived with their parents, no | |||
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 although our profile says will accommodate occasionally (or something like that) | |||
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"Or they don't want a stranger in their home." I’m not looking for 1 offs though, I can totally understand that if it’s just hook ups, I wouldn’t have hook ups in my house, that’s what clubs are for | |||
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"It’s because we don’t want a stranger in our home." This is normal. People that willingly let strangers in their home is the weird part. Nice decor by the way. | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married"" They don't want to fuck randoms in their own home but get pissy when guys have the same boundary  
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"Its also that there are so many external cameras these days. Even the neighbours ring door bell can pick people coming and going. I never look if they can or cant as i look at clubs. Who is going and normally use fab as a way of making convo and meet them there. " You consider a ring doorbell before you go to someone’s house??. What? | |||
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"It’s because we don’t want a stranger in our home. This is normal. People that willingly let strangers in their home is the weird part. Nice penis by the way. " You mean we’re normal! Thanks, it’s beautiful. Truly beautiful. | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married"as that’s my profile you’ve quoted from, I’ll reply, my house is open when the trust is there, as it’s my family home, and every guy I’ve spoken to who has this on their profile has turned out to be married" Don't assume! My son lives with me so that's why I don't! | |||
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"Or they don't want a stranger in their home." This - I changed mine because I was gobsmacked the amount of strangers that thought it meant instant meets straight at my house. Was an eye opener for me. I wouldn't automatically assume someone was married and not disclosing that information. I think it's normal not to want a complete stranger in your personal space. | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married"" I suppose it takes ALOT more trust to allow someone to know where you live. There's alot of unscrupulous people in here and we've all heard the horror stories. Imagine some of those knowing where you reside... | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married"" So op you think assumptions based on what theory. Reasons..could be staying with friends Could still live at home Couples cannot because of kids Accommodate does not mean at home either could be hotel. In fact hotels are a lot safer than a home op | |||
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"Each to their own. Also hotels mean I don't have to tidy up for someone coming round " Now that I agree with and true | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married" So op you think assumptions based on what theory. Reasons..could be staying with friends Could still live at home Couples cannot because of kids Accommodate does not mean at home either could be hotel. In fact hotels are a lot safer than a home op " Not my assumption at all. I am just intrigued as to why a profile contains such a narrative when they themselves cannot accommodate. A few have explained on here and I'm glad they have for my understanding. | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married"" They might have young children.. not rocket science | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married"" Wow, what an assumption! Generalise everyone or what! Not that we need to explain ourselves, but we live in a small flat where there's not much room to swing a cat, coupled with extremely nosy neighbours and landlord. Hence, we'd prefer to come to you. | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married" They don't want to fuck randoms in their own home but get pissy when guys have the same boundary
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"Its also that there are so many external cameras these days. Even the neighbours ring door bell can pick people coming and going. I never look if they can or cant as i look at clubs. Who is going and normally use fab as a way of making convo and meet them there. You consider a ring doorbell before you go to someone’s house??. What? " I think he means consider a ring doorbell before inviting people into their house. If you want to jeep this life private but have someone thats not your partner turn up every other week, the neighbours dont need to curtain twitch to gossip anymore they will catch it on canera and be notified on their phone | |||
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"The reality is though that most 'single men', who can't accomodate are married though. We all know that's the case. If it's because they're unattached but due to kids at home, they'll generally state that. I don't think it's double standards if that's what you're hinting at OP? As well most couples aren't hiding the fact they're married - they just don't want to accommodate. " The men may not want to accommodate either and have valid reasons. | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married"" Never assume anything. Ask for clarity. I have explained my reasons clearly in my blurb. If I lived alone, I still wouldn't accommodate as that's my safe haven. Too many guys assume I will accommodate because I am single and in my experience, most of those guys tend to be partnered up. Hotel rooms are my go to if I were meeting someone for more a non-social once communications and socials have been established. | |||
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"The reality is though that most 'single men', who can't accomodate are married though. We all know that's the case. If it's because they're unattached but due to kids at home, they'll generally state that. I don't think it's double standards if that's what you're hinting at OP? As well most couples aren't hiding the fact they're married - they just don't want to accommodate. The men may not want to accommodate either and have valid reasons. " Absolutely! The most common reason I've found aside from children living at home. Is generally because they are married though. I don't expect anyone to accomodate in their home, I don't do it myself. That's why I state on my profile I'm happy to split hotel costs. What I've had from several men in response to that is that they're offering outside meets, or in their car/van as an alternative. Or asking if I can put the hotel on my card due to not wanting it to show on their bank statement. Now call me cynical but I can only think of one reason did that | |||
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"I put I can’t accommodate as I don’t want just anyone rocking up to my house like some think they can after 1 messages "This can be true. One thing that I noticed as soon as I moved into my own place was a tendency for some to assume I'd say yes to them coming over just because the 'can accomodate' box is ticked. The slightest mention of meeting somewhere neutral first for a coffee/drink social, even if the plan was to head back to mine and they'd run for the hills. I have no issue accommodating. I do have an issue with giving my address out to a total stranger after a couple of online messages. It's completely understandable that people (women, couples and yes - men too) will put 'Can't accomodate' when they may in fact be willing to once they know someone better. And if you really want to know why someone can't if it's not on their profile, then ask. And if you're not convinced by the response then that's your decision entirely. It's not on them. | |||
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"I put I can’t accommodate as I don’t want just anyone rocking up to my house like some think they can after 1 messages
This can be true.
One thing that I noticed as soon as I moved into my own place was a tendency for some to assume I'd say yes to them coming over just because the 'can accomodate' box is ticked.
The slightest mention of meeting somewhere neutral first for a coffee/drink social, even if the plan was to head back to mine and they'd run for the hills.
I have no issue accommodating. I do have an issue with giving my address out to a total stranger after a couple of online messages.
It's completely understandable that people (women, couples and yes - men too) will put 'Can't accomodate' when they may in fact be willing to once they know someone better.
And if you really want to know why someone can't if it's not on their profile, then ask. And if you're not convinced by the response then that's your decision entirely. It's not on them. "100% this. Safety first for everyone. | |||
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"I put I can’t accommodate as I don’t want just anyone rocking up to my house like some think they can after 1 messages
This can be true.
One thing that I noticed as soon as I moved into my own place was a tendency for some to assume I'd say yes to them coming over just because the 'can accomodate' box is ticked.
The slightest mention of meeting somewhere neutral first for a coffee/drink social, even if the plan was to head back to mine and they'd run for the hills.
I have no issue accommodating. I do have an issue with giving my address out to a total stranger after a couple of online messages.
It's completely understandable that people (women, couples and yes - men too) will put 'Can't accomodate' when they may in fact be willing to once they know someone better.
And if you really want to know why someone can't if it's not on their profile, then ask. And if you're not convinced by the response then that's your decision entirely. It's not on them. " well said | |||
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"I put I can’t accommodate as I don’t want just anyone rocking up to my house like some think they can after 1 messages
This can be true.
One thing that I noticed as soon as I moved into my own place was a tendency for some to assume I'd say yes to them coming over just because the 'can accomodate' box is ticked.
The slightest mention of meeting somewhere neutral first for a coffee/drink social, even if the plan was to head back to mine and they'd run for the hills.
I have no issue accommodating. I do have an issue with giving my address out to a total stranger after a couple of online messages.
It's completely understandable that people (women, couples and yes - men too) will put 'Can't accomodate' when they may in fact be willing to once they know someone better.
And if you really want to know why someone can't if it's not on their profile, then ask. And if you're not convinced by the response then that's your decision entirely. It's not on them. "Best answer yet. A lot of people feeling the need to justify why they can't accomm. This is not my intention in writing the post. It was the assumption that if a guy can't accomm, he is married. It's been a very interesting thread and thanks to everyone who has contributed. Everyone has their own reasons I guess but equally we should not always jump to conclusions. | |||
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" Is the man’s home not his family home? none of them had custody of the kids, or most had no kids, so unless they lived with their parents, no" I was a single parent for years (I still am but they're pretty much grown up now) I can't accommodate as my youngest hasn't yet left the nest and works from home too. I'm sure I'm not the only one | |||
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"I think it's only one of the many double standards on the site , a can't accommodate is just that regardless of the sex , why is a man expected to open their home up to a stranger when a woman isn't, I've know a few guys who have can't accom as they have children whether they live full time with them or not , most have their children pop in without any warning as it should be ... some may just not want strangers in their home and want to keep fab life separate from their every day life ... Surely guys should be afforded that right the same as a woman .. not everything is as black and white as it seems x " Exactly this. It’s a ridiculous assumption that they must be married. I know loads of men who won’t. I prefer those men. | |||
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"I can accommodate but prefer hotel meets until comfortable. I met someone years ago who came to my house for a coffee and chat. She snooped around and found my work pass. Nothing further happened between us. A few days later she turned up at reception asking for me. A very uncomfortable situation (true too)" This last bit is exactly why we don't want to accommodate. Sorry that happened to you  | |||
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"I think it's only one of the many double standards on the site , a can't accommodate is just that regardless of the sex , why is a man expected to open their home up to a stranger when a woman isn't, I've know a few guys who have can't accom as they have children whether they live full time with them or not , most have their children pop in without any warning as it should be ... some may just not want strangers in their home and want to keep fab life separate from their every day life ... Surely guys should be afforded that right the same as a woman .. not everything is as black and white as it seems x Exactly this. It’s a ridiculous assumption that they must be married. I know loads of men who won’t. I prefer those men. " I feel for guys on this site at times they get the raw end of the deal .. everyone has the right to feel safe , letting strangers know your address can leave you open to a whole manner of problems , unwanted visitors and attention , there can be as many psycho women as their can be psycho men , but a guy says he can't accommodate and all of a sudden he's married or playing away , I get there will be some but that could be said about women too x | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married"" We don't have that on ours but can totally relate to those that might.. | |||
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"Everyone has there own thoughts on if they accept playmates into there home for us it depends on how we feel after having a social with someone. " This is probably the case with many couples, but you can't put it on the profile because it's just more hassle.. Yes, filters.. We know..  | |||
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"I can accommodate but prefer hotel meets until comfortable. I met someone years ago who came to my house for a coffee and chat. She snooped around and found my work pass. Nothing further happened between us. A few days later she turned up at reception asking for me. A very uncomfortable situation (true too)" That sounds awful, sorry it happened to you. Reminds me of one guy I met for a local social once, who turned sour after I said it would be social meeting, nothing else. He then kept messaging me saying “I wonder where do you live, I saw you turned *so and so* direction when going back home, maybe I can pop over when next time around.” Now imagine if I actually told him where I lived. | |||
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"I can accommodate but prefer hotel meets until comfortable. I met someone years ago who came to my house for a coffee and chat. She snooped around and found my work pass. Nothing further happened between us. A few days later she turned up at reception asking for me. A very uncomfortable situation (true too) That sounds awful, sorry it happened to you. Reminds me of one guy I met for a local social once, who turned sour after I said it would be social meeting, nothing else. He then kept messaging me saying “I wonder where do you live, I saw you turned *so and so* direction when going back home, maybe I can pop over when next time around.” Now imagine if I actually told him where I lived." Bloody hell, that's a close call. She stopped coming in after I spoke to the security manager. | |||
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We don't know other people's circumstances so we never like to judge and jump to conclusions.
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"We can't accommodate as we have young adult children that treat our house like a hotel so we never know when their going to pop in and out ..
We don't know other people's circumstances so we never like to judge and jump to conclusions.
I don't blame people for not wanting to have strangers in their house.. " | |||
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"I can accommodate but prefer hotel meets until comfortable. I met someone years ago who came to my house for a coffee and chat. She snooped around and found my work pass. Nothing further happened between us. A few days later she turned up at reception asking for me. A very uncomfortable situation (true too)" WTAF were they thinking or up to? | |||
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"I can accommodate but prefer hotel meets until comfortable. I met someone years ago who came to my house for a coffee and chat. She snooped around and found my work pass. Nothing further happened between us. A few days later she turned up at reception asking for me. A very uncomfortable situation (true too) That sounds awful, sorry it happened to you. Reminds me of one guy I met for a local social once, who turned sour after I said it would be social meeting, nothing else. He then kept messaging me saying “I wonder where do you live, I saw you turned *so and so* direction when going back home, maybe I can pop over when next time around.” Now imagine if I actually told him where I lived." We also had a bad experience with a single guy who turned stalker ish, so now if we accommodate we pick them up at a pub and blindfold them until in the house … just hope the police don’t pull us up on route
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"I can accommodate but prefer hotel meets until comfortable. I met someone years ago who came to my house for a coffee and chat. She snooped around and found my work pass. Nothing further happened between us. A few days later she turned up at reception asking for me. A very uncomfortable situation (true too) That sounds awful, sorry it happened to you. Reminds me of one guy I met for a local social once, who turned sour after I said it would be social meeting, nothing else. He then kept messaging me saying “I wonder where do you live, I saw you turned *so and so* direction when going back home, maybe I can pop over when next time around.” Now imagine if I actually told him where I lived. We also had a bad experience with a single guy who turned stalker ish, so now if we accommodate we pick them up at a pub and blindfold them until in the house … just hope the police don’t pull us up on route
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"Its also that there are so many external cameras these days. Even the neighbours ring door bell can pick people coming and going. I never look if they can or cant as i look at clubs. Who is going and normally use fab as a way of making convo and meet them there. You consider a ring doorbell before you go to someone’s house??. What? " We are talking about why people dont accomodate, not if i would worry about the door bell. Cause people will. Yes. And why shouldnt they. This life style isnt for everone and neighbours gossip. | |||
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"Its also that there are so many external cameras these days. Even the neighbours ring door bell can pick people coming and going. I never look if they can or cant as i look at clubs. Who is going and normally use fab as a way of making convo and meet them there. You consider a ring doorbell before you go to someone’s house??. What? We are talking about why people dont accomodate, not if i would worry about the door bell. Cause people will. Yes. And why shouldnt they. This life style isnt for everone and neighbours gossip. " Explain the doorbell again so I get why it’s relevant to asking soneone to their house. | |||
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"We can't accommodate & are married go figure - it's right. But no I just don't want strangers in my family home anywhere near my children I don't even tell people the area we live never mind my address. Mrs " Totally agree. No matter what my relationship is, was or will ever be there’s not a chance anyone would be coming to my house. I’ve people I’ve known and some I’ve been meeting for years who still don’t have a clue where I live x | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married"" Irrelevant  I can accom but my door isn’t open to all, obvs, and I’d happily set profile to can’t and I’m as single as a single thing on a single day
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"I can’t accom because my hamster likes to watch and it freaks me out. " | |||
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"I can’t accom because my hamster likes to watch and it freaks me out. " Same. But then my cat keeps telling me I’m overthinking it. Weirdo. | |||
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"I can accommodate but prefer hotel meets until comfortable. I met someone years ago who came to my house for a coffee and chat. She snooped around and found my work pass. Nothing further happened between us. A few days later she turned up at reception asking for me. A very uncomfortable situation (true too) That sounds awful, sorry it happened to you. Reminds me of one guy I met for a local social once, who turned sour after I said it would be social meeting, nothing else. He then kept messaging me saying “I wonder where do you live, I saw you turned *so and so* direction when going back home, maybe I can pop over when next time around.” Now imagine if I actually told him where I lived." Yikes | |||
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"I can’t accom because my hamster likes to watch and it freaks me out. " Having a reactive pet is one of the reasons I choose not to accom Moreover though, I don't want people I meet in my home until I know them well If some folk want to believe that marriage is my driver, that is, of course, their choice I respect that After all, swinging is for the 'like minded' Give me a handful of folk on my wavelength anyway. It's never been a numbers game or a popularity contest for me | |||
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"Its also that there are so many external cameras these days. Even the neighbours ring door bell can pick people coming and going. I never look if they can or cant as i look at clubs. Who is going and normally use fab as a way of making convo and meet them there. You consider a ring doorbell before you go to someone’s house??. What? We are talking about why people dont accomodate, not if i would worry about the door bell. Cause people will. Yes. And why shouldnt they. This life style isnt for everone and neighbours gossip. Explain the doorbell again so I get why it’s relevant to asking soneone to their house. "I live in a block of flats. Everyone that passes my door will set off the sensor camera across the hall. I don't want my neighbours talking about me having men that aren’t my partner arriving so wont accommodate. Most of these camera doorbells send notifications to phones. They arent just there to check if you need them. So depending how close your doors are your neighbours will be notified of comings and goings I dont really get what is so hard to understand | |||
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"I don't make that assumption, I ask the question. I say I can't accommodate in my profile, but I also explain that I will, once there is trust in place." Yes I'm the same, I put can't accomm random strangers but if I grew closer to someone over time and trust was there, then I'd consider bringing them back home but that would take time x | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married" Good assumption OP "Not my assumption, I guess reading isn't your strongest skillet. | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married" Good assumption OP
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"I can accommodate but prefer hotel meets until comfortable. I met someone years ago who came to my house for a coffee and chat. She snooped around and found my work pass. Nothing further happened between us. A few days later she turned up at reception asking for me. A very uncomfortable situation (true too) That sounds awful, sorry it happened to you. Reminds me of one guy I met for a local social once, who turned sour after I said it would be social meeting, nothing else. He then kept messaging me saying “I wonder where do you live, I saw you turned *so and so* direction when going back home, maybe I can pop over when next time around.” Now imagine if I actually told him where I lived. We also had a bad experience with a single guy who turned stalker ish, so now if we accommodate we pick them up at a pub and blindfold them until in the house … just hope the police don’t pull us up on route
Only ever been to one guys house and that’s because we fully trusted him, rather keep it to hotels.
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"I’m able to accommodate, but only when I don’t have the kids because there’s absolutely zero chance I’m having someone round while my kids are upstairs. " Exactly this plus I have to know and trust the person. | |||
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"I will never have anyone at my home again after a very unsettling experience which ended up with the police involved." Roxanne? | |||
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"Are you really wondering that? Aside from the normal shared house/has kids/wants anonymity reasons do you realise how many women get assaulted or stalked and worse? Even with absolute stringent vetting, if you think we haven't sent your photos, telephone number expected meeting time, voice notes etc to a trusted friend/partner then you are foolish. If you think we haven't got an escape route, hidden our valuables, hidden anything that could be used as a weapon but left something inconspicuous we could use in the event of an emergency then you are doubly foolish. But stick to assuming they are married and cheating, women clearly get enough judgement for that too. " Who is aimed at? If its me the OP you haven't got the point at all. | |||
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""The rule is for thee and not for me" comes to mind and is prevalent for a lot of subjects on Fab. Most of them lack the self awareness to see their own hypocrisy though so charge it to the game I guess." What game?... | |||
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"Like everything on here, each other own. Respect others opinions and reasons. Everyone has a choice, the choice to trust, engage, meet etc equally as much as the choice to avoid, not reply to a message or even to block to avoid same people showing up on their particular search preferences. Hotels are a great safe place to meet, who doesn’t like a mutual place, both can leave, neither has to change sheets hehe. Respect and kindness takes this site a long way. You decide how you want to navigate and act on here " You know it with the sheets...the hotel can do a better job than my mattress getting soaked... | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married" Says the op with ' cannot accommodate'" There's only a few comments on this thread that show that the contributor has completely not understood the post and you're one of them. Read it again or perhaps some of the earlier replies. | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married" Says the op with ' cannot accommodate'" Yes I think that's the point. | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married" Says the op with ' cannot accommodate'" He’s asking why people have that on their profiles | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married" Says the op with ' cannot accommodate' He’s asking why people have that on their profiles " Specifically, he's asking why people who have that on their profiles assume that others who have the same are married | |||
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"Can't accommodate - ooh will meet in a nice hotel Can accommodate - has cameras set up in every room and will have dodgy bedding. Avoid. " Or doesn’t want a pyscho bitch stalking you, parking in the street because she’s Google-Earthed your home address anyway…….(this has happened to me btw) | |||
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"Like everything on here, each other own. Respect others opinions and reasons. Everyone has a choice, the choice to trust, engage, meet etc equally as much as the choice to avoid, not reply to a message or even to block to avoid same people showing up on their particular search preferences. Hotels are a great safe place to meet, who doesn’t like a mutual place, both can leave, neither has to change sheets hehe. Respect and kindness takes this site a long way. You decide how you want to navigate and act on here You know it with the sheets...the hotel can do a better job than my mattress getting soaked..." Also far nicer, than your average judo mat in a swinger club….. | |||
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"Why do some couples and a lot of women have the following on their profiles when they themselves can't accommodate? "If you can’t accommodate, I’m going to assume you’re married" Says the op with ' cannot accommodate' He’s asking why people have that on their profiles Specifically, he's asking why people who have that on their profiles assume that others who have the same are married" Yes that’s what I meant | |||
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"Like everything on here, each other own. Respect others opinions and reasons. Everyone has a choice, the choice to trust, engage, meet etc equally as much as the choice to avoid, not reply to a message or even to block to avoid same people showing up on their particular search preferences. Hotels are a great safe place to meet, who doesn’t like a mutual place, both can leave, neither has to change sheets hehe. Respect and kindness takes this site a long way. You decide how you want to navigate and act on here You know it with the sheets...the hotel can do a better job than my mattress getting soaked... Also far nicer, than your average judo mat in a swinger club….. "Judo mat... Lmao! | |||
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"I’m able to accommodate, but only when I don’t have the kids because there’s absolutely zero chance I’m having someone round while my kids are upstairs. " Pity not all guys think like you, i get "il pop by when they are in bed" or "pop out to my car tell them u are speaking to a friend" | |||
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"I can't accommodate. I'm not married, so guess that blows the OPs theory apart. I happen to own my own place, but have family members living with me. I'm part way through a slow renovation process and I also don't want to invite strangers into my house at present. So there are plenty of reasons why people don't accommodate " My theory....I don't have one. Read it again. Another contributor replied to a similar comment to yours with.... "he's asking why people who have that on their profiles assume that others who have the same are married". | |||
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"People make these assumptions due to a) the prevalence of attached singles on here, b) old fashioned assumptions about only women looking after children, c) probably reasonable assumptions about women being more wary about personal safety, and d) the fact that women are more highly in demand here, and so people are less likely to slag them off and more likely to brown nose." I don’t like the assumption thats made, but it’s how it goes and I’ve a more than reasonable explanation for not accommodating. More than happy to half cost of a hotel though, but who knows maybe I’ll meet someone local one day. | |||
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"From my own personal experiences here, I am indeed one of those Judgy Mc Judgefaces on not being able to accommodate and assume you are one of the 9 out of 10 cheating people but…I will always ask in private conversations why you are not able to accommodate before deciding if I want to take things further. I too do not accommodate because quite frankly, I don’t need you weirdos in my safe space "Slightly hypocritical but hey ho. | |||
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"From my own personal experiences here, I am indeed one of those Judgy Mc Judgefaces on not being able to accommodate and assume you are one of the 9 out of 10 cheating people but…I will always ask in private conversations why you are not able to accommodate before deciding if I want to take things further. I too do not accommodate because quite frankly, I don’t need you weirdos in my safe space "So where do you meet the weirdos? | |||
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"From my own personal experiences here, I am indeed one of those Judgy Mc Judgefaces on not being able to accommodate and assume you are one of the 9 out of 10 cheating people but…I will always ask in private conversations why you are not able to accommodate before deciding if I want to take things further. I too do not accommodate because quite frankly, I don’t need you weirdos in my safe space
Slightly hypocritical but hey ho. "Why’s it hypocritical? I didn’t deny I make judgments on profiles that don’t accommodate and I stated my reasons for not wanting others in my home so I fail to see why you say I’m a hypocrite. I’m not being an arse, genuinely interested. | |||
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"From my own personal experiences here, I am indeed one of those Judgy Mc Judgefaces on not being able to accommodate and assume you are one of the 9 out of 10 cheating people but…I will always ask in private conversations why you are not able to accommodate before deciding if I want to take things further. I too do not accommodate because quite frankly, I don’t need you weirdos in my safe space
Slightly hypocritical but hey ho.
Why’s it hypocritical? I didn’t deny I make judgments on profiles that don’t accommodate and I stated my reasons for not wanting others in my home so I fail to see why you say I’m a hypocrite. I’m not being an arse, genuinely interested. "I said slightly. | |||
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"People make these assumptions due to a) the prevalence of attached singles on here, b) old fashioned assumptions about only women looking after children, c) probably reasonable assumptions about women being more wary about personal safety, and d) the fact that women are more highly in demand here, and so people are less likely to slag them off and more likely to brown nose." Correct on all counts, and especially the last one, which applies right across the board of any forum thread | |||
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"What do you do when you get someone what can not accommodate and can not travel???" Ask them, or decide it's not worth the hassle and move on. | |||
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"What do you do when you get someone what can not accommodate and can not travel???" Presumably they can't meet? So move on. | |||
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"Can't accommodate - ooh will meet in a nice hotel Can accommodate - has cameras set up in every room and will have dodgy bedding. Avoid. " That made me spit my coffee across my desk!
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"What do you do when you get someone what can not accommodate and can not travel???" Pick them up and take them dogging | |||
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