FabSwingers.com forum: Do you let things go easily?

By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

And/ Or often

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
35 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Depends on how important they are.

I'm very water under the bridge for the small things.

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By *emorefridaCouple
35 weeks ago

La la land

No I'm notoriously bad for it. But once I have there is no turning back. So there's pros and cons.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
35 weeks ago

Leeds

Small things yes, big things no.

Mrs

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By *irthandgirthMan
35 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I don't expend emotional energy unnecessarily. If it has no positive or benefit its gone. And when the door is closed its done and forgotten.

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By *uke OzadeMan
35 weeks ago

Ho Chi Minge City

If it’s catch and release then yes

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I used to be stubborn and resentful but now I've learnt to let things go, especially the little things. I pick my battles these days, it makes for a peaceful life.

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
35 weeks ago

District 13

Yes very easy along with the person

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By *ornycougaWoman
35 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

Yep. I am incredibly hot headed so blow up about a lot of things but as soon as I've got it out my system it's forgotten about

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By *m-BatmanMan
35 weeks ago

Gotham

When it comes to paying taxes - NO. It’s mine and I’m not letting go.

Anything else doesn’t bother me, as I’m too focused on planning my life around illicit and offshore investments.

Even the hard to stomach hate comments on this forum I receive daily, slide off my shit proof suit and vanish into the swamp instantly.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
35 weeks ago

Stratford

What’s troubling you broski?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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35 weeks ago

East Sussex

If they're finished, yes. We both find it very easy to leave things in the past with one or two exceptions. If something is on going It's not really possible

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By *avexxMan
35 weeks ago

cheshire

i do like to things off my chest and then move on quickly,,

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By *alcon77Man
35 weeks ago

under the sun & the moon

Sometimes a brilliant point will occur to me that I should have made in an argument, (usually in the shower.)

I try to move on though..

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
35 weeks ago

North West

Yes and no.

It depends on what it is, to be honest.

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By *uri00620Woman
35 weeks ago

Croydon

Too much so that I get frustrated with myself. I had a car accident last weekend. The chap admitted liability and offered to pay for the damage. I said not to worry bc my car is old anyway.

Now I'm kicking myself a bit bc I looked, and actually with the price of second hand cars atm it is worth something - maybe not now with huge dents down one side

Oh well, c'est la vie and all that.

So yes, I am very quick to when often it's not in my best interests to!

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By *lofeldMan
35 weeks ago

Redhill

I'm very easy going, I don't let much worry me. But by the same token, I won't let anyone take the Michael either, I think I have the balance about right, finally.

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By *imply DeeWoman
35 weeks ago

Wherever

Yes.

The fact I don’t attach easily helps immensely with that.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
35 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yeah, else I start spiralling about something I thought was important at the time, but turned out to be stoopid. This doesn't work out so good for people though, as I can be extremely flighty and will cut and run, once their intentions are detrimental to myself, there's only a few I'd actually try to work things out with, hence lots of acquaintances

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By *ighting 50Man
35 weeks ago

Retford

"Depends on how important they are.

I'm very water under the bridge for the small things."

I am of the opinion its happened and move on

I wasn't like that when younger

Maybe i used up all that rage

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Had a supervisor undeservedly constantly wind me up and give me crap, mortgage was 16.5% so no jobs , managed to cost him a months wages but didn't tell him til 20 year later. He wanted to punch me but thought better of it.All the years l knew him l never told him until he bragged about how he thought he was a fair boss .

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By *allandathleticMan
35 weeks ago

Asgard

Forgive but never forget.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
35 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I say what I need to and move on. Life is far too short for grudges and bad feeling. I like my inner peace

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"I say what I need to and move on. Life is far too short for grudges and bad feeling. I like my inner peace"

Fr.

I’d feel awful if I was taking up space in someone’s head

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
35 weeks ago

District 13

I love the positivity on this thread and totally agree with most that peace to yourself is crucial for not having a mental hemorrhage however…….

What a crock, I achieve my peaceful sanctum by disowning and disregarding anyone who falls into the “dead to me” category

and if anyone should fall into that category for whatever reason shall remain there for eternity

I do not forgive and I do not forget and that in itself brings me peace

and I don’t need horlicks to sleep peacefully

Contrary to this fact however is that I genuinely do like everyone until proven otherwise

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By *edonisticRockerMan
35 weeks ago

Chorley

Very much situational.

For the most part whatever happens happens and it can't be helped so move on.

However doesn't always work that way and I will rarely buy it does happen get inside my own head and just emotionally torment myself over the smallest thing

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By *ora the explorerWoman
35 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Depends what it is

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By *stellaWoman
35 weeks ago

London

It’s a balancing act.

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
35 weeks ago

M20

If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..

You have found yourself a narcissist.

No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.

Good to see you are all fully developed people

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I don't carry stuff around with me but I do hold a fucking grudge and I'm a massive believer in what goes around comes around. So I don't overthink stuff, I believe in karma and every dog has it's day ! Way to happy to let stuff ruin my good mojo !

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
35 weeks ago

District 13

"If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..

You have found yourself a narcissist.

No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.

Good to see you are all fully developed people

Untrue, just googled the traits and not having the capacity to forgive or forget ISN’T one

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By *arla SwingerWoman
35 weeks ago

Somewhere

Yes, life is too short to let your own bitterness hold you back in it

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
35 weeks ago

District 13

"I don't carry stuff around with me but I do hold a fucking grudge and I'm a massive believer in what goes around comes around. So I don't overthink stuff, I believe in karma and every dog has it's day ! Way to happy to let stuff ruin my good mojo ! "

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
35 weeks ago

Southampton

Not as easily as I should....

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

It really depends on who and what it is

I can let go but the things they have said or done will always be at the back of my mind, which can be a problem, so…maybe not.

I love that I’ve just talked myself out of my original answer

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By *ascaIMan
35 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

I find it pretty easy to move on from negative situations/people. Far more important things to worry about in my life like avoiding nettle stings.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

"I love the positivity on this thread and totally agree with most that peace to yourself is crucial for not having a mental hemorrhage however…….

What a crock, I achieve my peaceful sanctum by disowning and disregarding anyone who falls into the “dead to me” category

and if anyone should fall into that category for whatever reason shall remain there for eternity

I do not forgive and I do not forget and that in itself brings me peace

and I don’t need horlicks to sleep peacefully

Contrary to this fact however is that I genuinely do like everyone until proven otherwise

Are you a Scorpio lol !

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
35 weeks ago

Magical Forrest

With alot of patience unless it’s really worth it, I let go of things. Not worth it.

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
35 weeks ago

District 13

"I love the positivity on this thread and totally agree with most that peace to yourself is crucial for not having a mental hemorrhage however…….

What a crock, I achieve my peaceful sanctum by disowning and disregarding anyone who falls into the “dead to me” category

and if anyone should fall into that category for whatever reason shall remain there for eternity

I do not forgive and I do not forget and that in itself brings me peace

and I don’t need horlicks to sleep peacefully

Contrary to this fact however is that I genuinely do like everyone until proven otherwise

Are you a Scorpio lol ! "

No worse

Taurus

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By *oot toyMan
35 weeks ago

Portchester

I forgive and forget very easily. Although, there are some people who I have removed from my life after they constantly caused trouble. Life’s too short for all that rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

"I love the positivity on this thread and totally agree with most that peace to yourself is crucial for not having a mental hemorrhage however…….

What a crock, I achieve my peaceful sanctum by disowning and disregarding anyone who falls into the “dead to me” category

and if anyone should fall into that category for whatever reason shall remain there for eternity

I do not forgive and I do not forget and that in itself brings me peace

and I don’t need horlicks to sleep peacefully

Contrary to this fact however is that I genuinely do like everyone until proven otherwise

Are you a Scorpio lol !

No worse

Taurus

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lol ok.

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
35 weeks ago

District 13

"I love the positivity on this thread and totally agree with most that peace to yourself is crucial for not having a mental hemorrhage however…….

What a crock, I achieve my peaceful sanctum by disowning and disregarding anyone who falls into the “dead to me” category

and if anyone should fall into that category for whatever reason shall remain there for eternity

I do not forgive and I do not forget and that in itself brings me peace

and I don’t need horlicks to sleep peacefully

Contrary to this fact however is that I genuinely do like everyone until proven otherwise

Are you a Scorpio lol !

No worse

Taurus

lol ok. "

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
35 weeks ago

Aberdeen

"Yeah, else I start spiralling about something I thought was important at the time, but turned out to be stoopid. This doesn't work out so good for people though, as I can be extremely flighty and will cut and run, once their intentions are detrimental to myself, there's only a few I'd actually try to work things out with, hence lots of acquaintances

Ah yes the spiral of doom. I have been there so many times to.

What you need is an anchor friend - one who loves you no matter how spirally you get and can keep hold of your hand and help control the spin.

The catch is... they have to be so amazing they don't ever cause a spiral to you.

Those people are worth their weight in gold. Or platinum. Or whatever is expensive, maybe bread?

MrsAbz

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
35 weeks ago

M20

"If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..

You have found yourself a narcissist.

No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.

Good to see you are all fully developed people

Untrue, just googled the traits and not having the capacity to forgive or forget ISN’T one

You are mistaken.

Maybe Google a bit harder?

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By *layfullsamMan
35 weeks ago

Solihull

Your past can ruin your future if you allow it to

So yes I let go, doesn’t mean I don’t forget though

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Karma has a way of biting you on the arse what you do to me will definitely be done to you.

So I let it go, I meditate and bring myself back to being positive person.

So I hold my hand up and wave you goodbye and I’m done lol

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By *eyond PurityCouple
35 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

As I’ve got older I’ve realised a lot that I got worked up over doesn’t matter one bit. It’ll still happen regardless so what’s the point.

I definitely have a better way of life not getting would up.

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By *astandFeistyCouple
35 weeks ago

Bournemouth

Have I read the question wrong?

So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo.

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
35 weeks ago

M20

"If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..

You have found yourself a narcissist.

No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.

Good to see you are all fully developed people

Untrue, just googled the traits and not having the capacity to forgive or forget ISN’T one

You are mistaken.

Maybe Google a bit harder?"

Better still google this:

Holding on to Grudges Forever: What Narcissists Won’t Forgive

and read the first line of the first paragraph. It is succinct.

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
35 weeks ago

District 13

"Have I read the question wrong?

So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo. "

Not really, in my case the majority of problems stem from people so letting go of the person lets go of the thing aka person

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By *astandFeistyCouple
35 weeks ago

Bournemouth

"Have I read the question wrong?

So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo.

Not really, in my case the majority of problems stem from people so letting go of the person lets go of the thing aka person

I didn't really read the question wrong?

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
35 weeks ago

District 13

"If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..

You have found yourself a narcissist.

No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.

Good to see you are all fully developed people

Untrue, just googled the traits and not having the capacity to forgive or forget ISN’T one

You are mistaken.

Maybe Google a bit harder?

Better still google this:

Holding on to Grudges Forever: What Narcissists Won’t Forgive

and read the first line of the first paragraph. It is succinct.

Nah, if my ways make me a narcissist I’ll deal with that

it’s only one trait in your opinion

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
35 weeks ago

District 13

"Have I read the question wrong?

So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo.

Not really, in my case the majority of problems stem from people so letting go of the person lets go of the thing aka person

I didn't really read the question wrong?"

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By *os19Man
35 weeks ago

Edmonton

I may forgive but I don’t forget.I can be stubborn maybe that is a Capricorn thing.Yes I can hold a grudge but I wouldn’t want to person that I hold a grudge against to come to any harm.I just find it easier not to talk to the person in question unless I have to.It use to be awkward in the work of place with my former manager who I only communicated with via a middle manager , email or teams the last 3 years.Now she has been moved to another office so that makes my life easier as I don’t have anything to do with her.

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By *ansoffateMan
35 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Most of the time. After the ritual sacrifice and the curse has been placed - then yeah I'm quite content at that point.

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
35 weeks ago

M20

"Have I read the question wrong?

So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo. "

Not really, forgiving someone is an act of letting the poison inside you leave.

Removing toxic people from your life prevents them giving you more poison.

Both are empowering.

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
35 weeks ago

District 13

"Most of the time. After the ritual sacrifice and the curse has been placed - then yeah I'm quite content at that point."

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
35 weeks ago

District 13

"Have I read the question wrong?

So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo.

Not really, forgiving someone is an act of letting the poison inside you leave.

Removing toxic people from your life prevents them giving you more poison.

Both are empowering.

Does this not quantify as narcissist traits

Hyp___ite

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By *astandFeistyCouple
35 weeks ago

Bournemouth

"Have I read the question wrong?

So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo.

Not really, forgiving someone is an act of letting the poison inside you leave.

Removing toxic people from your life prevents them giving you more poison.

Both are empowering.

I didn't really read the question wrong?

The OP question was quite simple in the way I read it. I agree that removing toxicity from your life could be empowering, I just didn't read it that way, hence my question.

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
35 weeks ago

M20

"If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..

You have found yourself a narcissist.

No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.

Good to see you are all fully developed people

Untrue, just googled the traits and not having the capacity to forgive or forget ISN’T one

You are mistaken.

Maybe Google a bit harder?

Better still google this:

Holding on to Grudges Forever: What Narcissists Won’t Forgive

and read the first line of the first paragraph. It is succinct.

Nah, if my ways make me a narcissist I’ll deal with that

it’s only one trait in your opinion

Did you Google what I suggested?

This is the wider opinion of psychologists, not my own.

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By *amsam101Man
35 weeks ago

poulton

Oh I’ll let things go, but I won’t forget

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
35 weeks ago

District 13

"If you ever find that a partner has no capacity to forgive and forget, something keeps on being brought up whenever they feel insecure even though it should have been resolved..

You have found yourself a narcissist.

No capacity to forgive is a solidly narcissistic trait.

Good to see you are all fully developed people

Untrue, just googled the traits and not having the capacity to forgive or forget ISN’T one

You are mistaken.

Maybe Google a bit harder?

Better still google this:

Holding on to Grudges Forever: What Narcissists Won’t Forgive

and read the first line of the first paragraph. It is succinct.

Nah, if my ways make me a narcissist I’ll deal with that

it’s only one trait in your opinion

Did you Google what I suggested?

This is the wider opinion of psychologists, not my own."

Nope CBA

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
35 weeks ago

M20

"Have I read the question wrong?

So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo.

Not really, forgiving someone is an act of letting the poison inside you leave.

Removing toxic people from your life prevents them giving you more poison.

Both are empowering.

Does this not quantify as narcissist traits

Hyp___ite

How could removing a toxic person from your life be maladaptive?

You would have argue that abused people should put up.

That could be gaslighting.

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
35 weeks ago

District 13

"Have I read the question wrong?

So many people saying they let go of things easily but also saying they get rid of people, those 2 things are contradictory imo.

Not really, forgiving someone is an act of letting the poison inside you leave.

Removing toxic people from your life prevents them giving you more poison.

Both are empowering.

Does this not quantify as narcissist traits

Hyp___ite

How could removing a toxic person from your life be maladaptive?

You would have argue that abused people should put up.

That could be gaslighting."

Poppy cock, if someone is treating me like shit or disrespective towards me and or my loved ones they’re dead to me.

This is how I deal with shit in my life and I don’t think everyone or actually anyone has to think or react as I do because each and every individual in this world have their struggles and they have to deal with them how they see fit to cross the bridge.

I don’t really know or understand gaslighting and I’m unwilling to research it

or doesn’t sound good either way so meh

You do you yes man and I’ll do me

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By *rcoupleCouple
35 weeks ago

Mid Glam

Generally its forgive and forget. Life too short, move on and forward to better things.

How could removing a toxic person from your life be maladaptive?

You would have argue that abused people should put up.

That could be gaslighting."

That^ weve both moved on but never forgine one or two people. No grudegs or lying awake at night grinding our teeth and formulating elaborate plans.

Just a sorry your out, don't come back into our life/lives please. And its usually been toxic people.

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By *uke OzadeMan
34 weeks ago

Ho Chi Minge City

Only after 10 pints and a vindaloo

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Yep time heals as does honesty

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By *naswingdressWoman
34 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

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