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Swinging. What does the word mean to you?

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By *renchswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell

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By *renchswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell

We've been on the site for some time now and we are amazed at the amount of people who say "happily married, no swapping partners". This is a SWINGERS site!

If you just want a fumble, surely you can just go down to the local hotspot and meet up with a couple there?

Swinging (to us,) means engaging in sexual activity with a person (s) who aren't your husband/boyfriend/wife/girlfriend

Just wondered what others think?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Swinging is whatever each indivudual is comfortable with,whether its full swap, soft swing,separate room,same room, 3somes,4somes or moresomes

The list is endless and I was'nt aware that you had to fit into any particular activity to be "classed" as a swinger

As long as im having fun and not hurting anyone then im not bothered if im called a swinger or not,always hated that label anyway,reminds me of 70s parties,fruit bowls and keys...............naff!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure what the true meaning is, I just enjoy the lifestyle and friends it brings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been on the site for some time now and we are amazed at the amount of people who say "happily married, no swapping partners". This is a SWINGERS site!

If you just want a fumble, surely you can just go down to the local hotspot and meet up with a couple there?

Swinging (to us,) means engaging in sexual activity with a person (s) who aren't your husband/boyfriend/wife/girlfriend

Just wondered what others think?

"

But you only do same room and you don't play with single guys, I mean just how limited is that closed mind attitude

HPC hits the nail firmly on the head, swinging is what it is for each and everyone of us and if you simply worry about what floats your boat a more happy and contented time you will have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it means to me the following..

I wait till the bus stop is full..

I walk up..

drop my pants..

let it swing from right to left..

and shout... it's ok, I am not a flasher, I'm a swinger....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it means to me the following..

I wait till the bus stop is full..

I walk up..

drop my pants..

let it swing from right to left..

and shout... it's ok, I am not a flasher, I'm a swinger....

"

In that scenario does anyone actually notice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it means to me the following..

I wait till the bus stop is full..

I walk up..

drop my pants..

let it swing from right to left..

and shout... it's ok, I am not a flasher, I'm a swinger....

"

Did the Police let you off for lack of evidence though

only joking

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"We've been on the site for some time now and we are amazed at the amount of people who say "happily married, no swapping partners". This is a SWINGERS site!

If you just want a fumble, surely you can just go down to the local hotspot and meet up with a couple there?

Swinging (to us,) means engaging in sexual activity with a person (s) who aren't your husband/boyfriend/wife/girlfriend

Just wondered what others think?

"

I think you need to wind your neck in - don't worry about what other people are up to/want/think etc - just concentrate on yourselves! We love both full and soft as find soft very erotic - it certainly ain't a 'fumble'!!!!

Lots of people here for different reasons and you may not belive this, some don't actualy want to meet anyone! Wow, how does that grab ya?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oops, only on warm days I do it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me swinging is just a term that is used to describe people who enjoy having casual sex with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me swinging is just a term that is used to describe people who enjoy having casual sex with others. "

But surely it cannot be THAT simple

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"To me swinging is just a term that is used to describe people who enjoy having casual sex with others.

But surely it cannot be THAT simple "

To some people it must be! To us it's that but also so much more as we lile social intercourse as well as sexual - just another avenue to divert along occasionaly! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been on the site for some time now and we are amazed at the amount of people who say "happily married, no swapping partners". This is a SWINGERS site!

If you just want a fumble, surely you can just go down to the local hotspot and meet up with a couple there?

Swinging (to us,) means engaging in sexual activity with a person (s) who aren't your husband/boyfriend/wife/girlfriend

Just wondered what others think?

I think you need to wind your neck in - don't worry about what other people are up to/want/think etc - just concentrate on yourselves! We love both full and soft as find soft very erotic - it certainly ain't a 'fumble'!!!!

Lots of people here for different reasons and you may not belive this, some don't actualy want to meet anyone! Wow, how does that grab ya?"

I agree with you!!

What's happening on the forums these days? What's with people posting telling people how they should swing? I know why I'm here, I know I'm having a darn good time thank you very much - and long may it continue. If and when I decide to go for some vanilla action with a steady partner my attitude to casual sex may or may not change.

I don't really have the wherewithall to be analysing what other people are doing, I'm enjoying myself. If someone has an activity that doesn't appeal to me I move on. It wouldn't cross my mind to question it.

Leave people be and enjoy what you're doing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont give a shit what anyone else does and whatever anyone else decides to label me as!! as honey said, the term swinger just brings into mind the suburbs keys in the fruitbowl!!

as long as all parties are happy thats all that matters!!

its a name or a label loaded with presumptions and preconcieved ideas!!

do as you please people !1 xx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"We've been on the site for some time now and we are amazed at the amount of people who say "happily married, no swapping partners". This is a SWINGERS site!

If you just want a fumble, surely you can just go down to the local hotspot and meet up with a couple there?

Swinging (to us,) means engaging in sexual activity with a person (s) who aren't your husband/boyfriend/wife/girlfriend

Just wondered what others think?

"

isn't the beauty of the word swinging that it means different things to different people....

so rather than trying to pigeon hole a defination, why not accept and embrace the differences.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging. What does the word mean to you?

swaying backwards n forwards with ones feet in the air

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"We've been on the site for some time now and we are amazed at the amount of people who say "happily married, no swapping partners". This is a SWINGERS site!

If you just want a fumble, surely you can just go down to the local hotspot and meet up with a couple there?

Swinging (to us,) means engaging in sexual activity with a person (s) who aren't your husband/boyfriend/wife/girlfriend

Just wondered what others think?

isn't the beauty of the word swinging that it means different things to different people....

so rather than trying to pigeon hole a defination, why not accept and embrace the differences.....

"

I don't think it's the labels that are bothering them so much, it's because there are people on here who don't do the full swapping partners all the time - peeps who do soft or are not really looking to meet etc shouldn't be allowed (in their eyes) (the way i read the op) Z xx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

bearing in mind that the OP don't want single guys even as friends in the scene, I think they are the last people who really should complain about people preferences in swinging.... pot and kettles spring to mind....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me swinging is just a term that is used to describe people who enjoy having casual sex with others.

But surely it cannot be THAT simple

To some people it must be! To us it's that but also so much more as we lile social intercourse as well as sexual - just another avenue to divert along occasionaly! Z"

I understand what your saying but being able to have casual sex with people and having a non sexual social relationship with the same people is not something unique to 'swingers'. This kind of lifestyle has been going on since mankind evolved and is something most people do in their life time, even if it's just when their teenagers. Even certain animal species have casual sex too for enjoyment rather than to reproduce, so it's nothing unique to humans. Some people eventually marry or settle down with one partner, while others choose to have different sexual partners.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"To me swinging is just a term that is used to describe people who enjoy having casual sex with others.

But surely it cannot be THAT simple

To some people it must be! To us it's that but also so much more as we lile social intercourse as well as sexual - just another avenue to divert along occasionaly! Z

I understand what your saying but being able to have casual sex with people and having a non sexual social relationship with the same people is not something unique to 'swingers'. This kind of lifestyle has been going on since mankind evolved and is something most people do in their life time, even if it's just when their teenagers. Even certain animal species have casual sex too for enjoyment rather than to reproduce, so it's nothing unique to humans. Some people eventually marry or settle down with one partner, while others choose to have different sexual partners. "

Thank you for that clarification!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Thank you for that clarification!"

My pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

right someone needs to find out the meaning and real meaning of what a swinger is. how they swing. what classifies. and what doesnt. then maybe it be clear??

but il still no listen and just do things my own way!!

maybe a yougov survey on swinging is due!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Google states the definition of a Swinger is,

any person, male or female, who enjoys experimentation of sexual acts outside the bonds of marriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmm so where does that leave the singles?? spare parts lol??xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"right someone needs to find out the meaning and real meaning of what a swinger is. how they swing. what classifies. and what doesnt. then maybe it be clear??

but il still no listen and just do things my own way!!

maybe a yougov survey on swinging is due!! xx"

I'm with you on the 'i'll do things my own way', but i'm not really cared about who thinks what about swinging. At the end of the day it's just sex...most of the people in the world do it....it's nothing unique, it's not a elite club and no one should tell another what they should or shouldn't do. I think most people have their own definition of what swinging is. Some think it's only done by couples, some think it's a lifestyle only open to a specific defined few and some really don't give a crap what it is as long as they have fun. At the end of the ay who really cares what someone else's definition of swinging is????

We should do what we like and have fun while were all still able to do so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hmm so where does that leave the singles?? spare parts lol??xx "

It also said nothing about view waving his tackle about in bus stops, so most of us are not swingers then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Uninhibited fun with like minded people and no ties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Uninhibited fun with like minded people and no ties. "

That's people into Bondage out then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Uninhibited fun with like minded people and no ties. "

best definition so far!! x

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"hmm so where does that leave the singles?? spare parts lol??xx "

You're swingles apparently and anything that rhymes with pringles is good for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well about here the term swinger is used to describe saggy balls??

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"Uninhibited fun with like minded people and no ties.

That's people into Bondage out then "

Oh Bollox thats me then

tara people........its been fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we started swinging, we took it to mean having sexy fun by swapping partners with other couples. Initially we didn't consider singles, simply because, as the name suggests, they didn't have anything to swap We have been playing for around 18 months now and have to say that we have changed our views. We do play with singles, as and when we are in the mood, usually at parties but not exclusively. We have played mostly with single guys, but I have enjoyed being entertained to one or two single ladies so how can I say that swinging shouldn't include singles. I think a number of previous posters have summed it up by saying it means different things to different people. Wouldn't it be a sad old world if were all the same? So cheer up everybody and go and do some shagging !!!

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By *renchswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell

Well, we seem to have instigated a good debate! The no singles thing is NIX'S choice, not Mick's.

It's the voyeurs on here who give the swing scene a bad name!

Whatever your choice Just ENJOY!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, we seem to have instigated a good debate! The no singles thing is NIX'S choice, not Mick's.

It's the voyeurs on here who give the swing scene a bad name!

Whatever your choice Just ENJOY!"

Even the vouyeurs

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Aaawwww what will the exhibitionists do without the voyuers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An old car tyre, a long piece of rope and tie it to a strong tree branch over a river.. Oophs wrong type of "swinging" silly us lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or theres the point being swinging having sexual fun with anouther person ether male or female or both depending on witch way you swing

and does it realy mater what type of sex it is aslong as everyone involved enjoys them selvs

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I have learnt that swinging is whatever it needs to be to ease the guilt of the not so open-minded with hang-ups about shagging

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

swingers:a personwho indulges in promiscuous sex.a person who engages in the exchanging of partners for sexual activities.or make up your own meaning.thats allowed,apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have always loved the swings at the park

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Have always loved the swings at the park"
fuck that is kinky.you should make a video.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well according to some I know I shouldn't be on here either before when I was a 'single' or now as a non-playing couple.

But I'm afraid firstly I had lots and lots of fun as a 'swingle' and now am having lots and lots of fun keeping in touch with my friends and posting on here, so here I'll stay.

And if in the future we decide to play as a couple and we lose our 'cherries' as REAL swingers, I'll let you know what I think of it all.............. xxx;-) xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

see as long as your happy why should u care?? there are no set rules?? there some people here who must have got a copy of the swingers handbook and run around quotin page 5 paragraph 2.... unless they take over i think those who dont fit the criteria are safe!! if anyone has a copy of that book could i borrow it please??

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"see as long as your happy why should u care?? there are no set rules?? there some people here who must have got a copy of the swingers handbook and run around quotin page 5 paragraph 2.... unless they take over i think those who dont fit the criteria are safe!! if anyone has a copy of that book could i borrow it please?? "
page5 paragraph 2 that deals with dogging and outdoor sex.you can get a copy,at any swingers book shop.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"Well, we seem to have instigated a good debate! The no singles thing is NIX'S choice, not Mick's.

It's the voyeurs on here who give the swing scene a bad name!

Whatever your choice Just ENJOY!"

Actually its not the voyeurs that give the swinging scene a bad name.

It's the swingers who refuse to accept other's preferences and try to enforce their own personal views on everyone else.

Swinging is different for most people. Some swingers are hardcore, some are experienced, some are inexperienced, some women are bi, some are straight. Some men are bi, some are straight..... hell .... some swingers are gay! some are voyeurs some are exhibitionists, some full swap, some soft swap and some walk round clubs looking like rabbits caught in headlights.

Whatever peoples preferences, its what makes the swinging community just that..... a community.

All different and never boring!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Darn just wrote a whole book in response to this thread and lost it somehow so just going to say tonight I fancy chocolate and not swinging but I am still on here

Oh and I am proud to be a voyeur - taken years of practice

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