FabSwingers.com forum: Thoughts?

By *stella OP Woman
41 weeks ago

London

Question - has this happened to you?

Just met someone for a social, planned for a while, they mentioned in passing they’d had a Fab encounter just prior to coming to meet me (like hours before).

Not sure how I feel.

How would you feel if it happened to you? Do you do this yourself? Interested in thoughts.

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By *agnar73Man
41 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Fab encounter? Shagging and that?

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

At least they were honest

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By *hrowawaydevice1987Man
41 weeks ago

SW London/Surrey

On one hand I respect the honesty but on the other hand I wouldn't appreciate being treated as just a number

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By *estarossa.Woman
41 weeks ago

Flagrante

Way to make you feel special!

I would be disappointed, I guess.

How do you feel about it Estella?

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By *stella OP Woman
41 weeks ago

London

"Fab encounter? Shagging and that?"

Yes

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By *r_PinkMan
41 weeks ago

london stratford

"Question - has this happened to you?

Just met someone for a social, planned for a while, they mentioned in passing they’d had a Fab encounter just prior to coming to meet me (like hours before).

Not sure how I feel.

How would you feel if it happened to you? Do you do this yourself? Interested in thoughts. "

I am a dirty old man darling and it would probably turn me on!

but thats just me

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By *educing_EmCouple
41 weeks ago

Tipperary

I'd feel a bit Shit tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Nah I would feel like they didn’t value me and the social we had planned together. Also would be a bit like wtf bro why would you do that.

Funny. This happened to me once.

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By *redwilma666Couple
41 weeks ago

Kilbirnie

If it bothers you, maybe swinging is not for you.

Is it any different if a woman shagged in a club & offered you seconds?

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By *stella OP Woman
41 weeks ago

London

"Nah I would feel like they didn’t value me and the social we had planned together. Also would be a bit like wtf bro why would you do that.

Funny. This happened to me once. "

Really? I have to admit, my bad, but I didn’t imagine a woman would do that. How wrong I am!

Sucks a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Firstly, I feel like they could have spared your feelings by not mentioning it at all.

I’d probably be a little pissed off. If I’m meeting someone I want their full attention and if they’ve just been having sex with someone else hours before are they going to be fully present with me? Or is their mind going to be wandering. Did they have to cut their encounter short because they’d already made plans to meet me?

It would put a dampener on things for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"If it bothers you, maybe swinging is not for you.

Is it any different if a woman shagged in a club & offered you seconds?"

Lmao not everyone wants seconds

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By *stella OP Woman
41 weeks ago

London

"If it bothers you, maybe swinging is not for you.

Is it any different if a woman shagged in a club & offered you seconds?"

Because there’s only one way to swing?

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By *redwilma666Couple
41 weeks ago

Kilbirnie

"If it bothers you, maybe swinging is not for you.

Is it any different if a woman shagged in a club & offered you seconds?

Lmao not everyone wants seconds

But it happens

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
41 weeks ago

south coast IOW

If i had planned to meet them id be disappointed unless i knew they were having a play meet and had arranged to meet them because they would be in the area so knew what i was getting into. Id have no issue with it

If they had been on a fab encounter and id met them before and we happened to bump into each other then fine.

If they were meeting me and had also purposely booked to meet someone else on the same day beforehand i would be uncomfortable with that and i think a little peed off.

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By *agnar73Man
41 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"Fab encounter? Shagging and that?

Yes"

At least they didn’t lie, but timing, really not so brilliant

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By *aizyWoman
41 weeks ago

west midlands

I don't think it would bother me if we were meeting for a social but, I would wonder why they felt the need to mention it. Maybe they thought it would be better coming from them rather than you seeing a veri from someone else they met the same day as you? Tbh I have no idea its not something I'd do.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
41 weeks ago

Portsmouth

That's a bit euww...

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By *eyond PurityCouple
41 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

They mightn’t have washed their face

That would be a no for me…I wouldn’t have been impressed at all.

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By *educing_EmCouple
41 weeks ago

Tipperary

"If it bothers you, maybe swinging is not for you.

Is it any different if a woman shagged in a club & offered you seconds?"

Swinging doesn't mean it's a free for all.

People should still be respectful of others and give the time and attention they deserve.

Clubs are a far different atmosphere than making plans with someone personally and meeting up.

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By *agnar73Man
41 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"I don't think it would bother me if we were meeting for a social but, I would wonder why they felt the need to mention it. Maybe they thought it would be better coming from them rather than you seeing a veri from someone else they met the same day as you? Tbh I have no idea its not something I'd do."

Hopefully they had a shower at least

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By *imi_RougeWoman
41 weeks ago

Portsmouth

"Nah I would feel like they didn’t value me and the social we had planned together. Also would be a bit like wtf bro why would you do that.

Funny. This happened to me once. "

Or the person they'd just been with.

Yeah, sorry, go to go... Social with someone in half an hour!

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By *estarossa.Woman
41 weeks ago

Flagrante

"If it bothers you, maybe swinging is not for you.

Is it any different if a woman shagged in a club & offered you seconds?"

I don't agree with that.

There are other ways to play, swing, have encounters, however you like to phrase it.

Just because you wouldn't be bothered, doesn't mean everyone wouldn't.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
41 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

You met for a social only ?

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By *ellroseWoman
41 weeks ago

Brum

Nah I would of said ‘bye bye’

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By *redwilma666Couple
41 weeks ago

Kilbirnie

"If it bothers you, maybe swinging is not for you.

Is it any different if a woman shagged in a club & offered you seconds?

Lmao not everyone wants seconds

Tell the gang bangers that, not everyone is the same, thankfully. Bye the we would not do it, too tiring

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
41 weeks ago

Aberdeen

I am in two minds about it.

If it were simply two social meets in a day, that would be fine.

Having been with someone else then met me? Hmm, maybe not so impressed.

MrsAbz

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By *aizyWoman
41 weeks ago

west midlands

Hopefully they had a shower at least "

Sorry OP, I thought they had met someone else for a social on the same day as you. If they met someone for sex and then met me for a social and told me about it, nope I wouldn't like that at all.

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By *imply DeeWoman
41 weeks ago

Wherever

Oh that’s a tough one Estella. It hasn’t happened to me but I wouldn’t be impressed.

Or maybe it happened but how would I know if they wouldn’t have told me? It’s a difficult one.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
41 weeks ago

cardiff

Disrespected. And disrespectful of said person.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
41 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

It wouldn't bother me that they'd met someone prior to me, but what would bother me would be the lack of discretion and respect for the person they had met and make me wonder if I would be the next meets gossip. No thanks, I wouldn't be about to find out

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I am so sorry to hear this op.

I would not do this to anyone.

Hope you are ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Oh that’s a tough one Estella. It hasn’t happened to me but I wouldn’t be impressed.

Or maybe it happened but how would I know if they wouldn’t have told me? It’s a difficult one. "

This op.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Was it a social meet?

I’ve met socially with more than one person in a day. Less than two hours apart. I didn’t so much as kiss either person though. Had a drink with one. Dinner and drinks with the other. I wouldn’t see anything wrong with that if I was meeting someone socially.

They could have spared the details of having just had sex with someone else, but unless your meet was not intended to solely be social I don’t see it as them treating you as a number.

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By *oungAtHeartCurvyCoupleCouple
41 weeks ago

Glasgow

If it was agreed just a social meet and nothing more then that s fine but if a social meet with possibly more then thats a different matter altogether

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By *eroLondonMan
41 weeks ago

Covent Garden

No, I've not encountered this but I could totally understand how someone could feel/react if they experienced it. If I'm honest I would feel nonplussed.

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By *illy IdolMan
41 weeks ago

Midlands

Who is this guy?

We're all struggling to get a meet and he has two in one day

It's not something I'd have mentioned myself, but at least he was honest with you. Maybe they struggle for time and had the other planned for a while. If you were just meeting for a social, I don't think it would bother myself

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By *enelope2UWoman
41 weeks ago

Fife

Depends on what's an encounter..since I don't use vague words I'd have asked what they meant... Thus why I hate fab terns like meet fun play etc

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

That would be a huge turn off for me.

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By *electableicecreamMan
41 weeks ago

The West

My feeling is that there's no intentional harm or disrespect meeting more than one person in a day.

For sure there is a lack of tact and discretion in mentioning it.

We all know we are not the only one. That's ENM. No one needs that fact displayed ungraciously though and it's natural to feel a bit off in the knowledge that one's potential paramour's attention may not be fully focused and sincere in the moment. It's a very human reaction.

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By *luebell888Woman
41 weeks ago

Glasgowish

I would be well pissed off and rearrange our meet.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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41 weeks ago

East Sussex

I want to feel that I'm special to the person I'm meeting even if it is a social. I know I'm not and I know its possible that they are seeing other people but lie for goodness sake or at least don't mention it.

I know this is illogical given the nature of swinging but...

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By *rystalsswingCouple
41 weeks ago

Galway

It would make me feel like shite!

Your better than that gurl x

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By *enelope2UWoman
40 weeks ago

Fife

I don't see the issue if it's just a sex hookup..... He/ they are just being honest unlike the one wanting more but pretending to want just sex

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Fab can be odd. I’m a slut at heart, and have no problem with fucking around. But if I arrange to see someone it’s always a big deal. I spend 3 hours getting ready, I want it to be a special experience, even if it’s one night. I wouldn’t arrange two meets in one nights. Are they out of line for meeting twice in one night, or am I a prude?

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

At parties and clubs people can often be seen playing with different people at different times of the night. It really shouldnt be a surprise that someone on fab might have more than one partner in a day. Being open and honest about it is a good thing and should never be discouraged.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

It not happened to me not sure how I would feel

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By *iss DevilWoman
40 weeks ago

Bedford

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest as I am not expecting exclusivity from anyone on here. I would actually be impressed they still turned up despite them having some fun on the same day and this being just a social.

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By *LiamMan
40 weeks ago

Midlands

I hope you didn't kiss

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
40 weeks ago

Portstewart

That seems kinda rude to us if we plan a social with someone we make sure that we don't have anything else arranged for a few days before and after. If you happen to say that it's a single male are you really surprised that he would be trying everything he could to try getting interaction with as many as possible

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By *iss DevilWoman
40 weeks ago

Bedford

"It wouldn't bother me that they'd met someone prior to me, but what would bother me would be the lack of discretion and respect for the person they had met and make me wonder if I would be the next meets gossip. No thanks, I wouldn't be about to find out"

How would you feel then if you only found out they met someone else on the same day from the verification they posted after both meets? Would that have been better? I think that person chose honesty over deceit, and there was no information in the OP's post how much was said about the meet prior to the social.

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