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"From reading the 'Children' thread its come across to me that those who had children at a younger age was not because it was planned that way. Looking back and reflecting would you choose to have your children at the same age, or would you like to live a little bit more? For those of you who elected to have children later on, would you have had them at a younger age? For me (and i know i am not very old) if i could have my daughter exactly as she is, id have preferred to have her later on in life and have grown up in my own time first, gone out on wild nights out and generally enjoyed life a bit more before becoming a mother. Selfishly i do feel like i have lost out. " I'm happy how things are now for me. You can still have fun Cute. You're not 'past it' yet! I know what you mean but when she's older you'll still be young and you could go to the pubs together. | |||
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"I was 20, though ten days later i turned 21 " Oh yeah, and DEFINITELY not planned!! I don't regret it - just wished it happened a few years later | |||
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"i kinda feel relieved i'm not the only one wishing id had my child later on." There's nothing wrong with that - your not saying you wished you never had them, just that you wished you'd waited a bit! I wish i could have lived a bit before i had mine, i'm struggling to do it now since i'm a completely single parent doing everything myself Maybe if i had then i may have been better at the whole being a parent thing | |||
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"If you have kids in your thirties or forties then you are setting a timebomb for them, meaning they may well be looking after a young family themselves at the time you need help from them to care for you as you get old and decrepit. Just a thought" I was 33 and 35 when I had my kids even if they have children at the same age I will be in my late sixties and early seventies, hardly a ticking time bomb of responsibility for my kids. | |||
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"i kinda feel relieved i'm not the only one wishing id had my child later on. There's nothing wrong with that - your not saying you wished you never had them, just that you wished you'd waited a bit! I wish i could have lived a bit before i had mine, i'm struggling to do it now since i'm a completely single parent doing everything myself Maybe if i had then i may have been better at the whole being a parent thing" See i have always been a single parent. Her 'dad' has seen my daughter for about 6 hours in 3 years 3 months. I havent known what its like to experience parenthood any other way. Im lucky that i have my grandparents (70's) to help out but still feel guilty. They allow me to go to work because they collect her from nursery. Its tough but its just the way it is. My way of life i guess. I get very few nights 'off' and if the opportunity arises sometimes im just grateful of the lie in the next morning haha | |||
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"i kinda feel relieved i'm not the only one wishing id had my child later on. There's nothing wrong with that - your not saying you wished you never had them, just that you wished you'd waited a bit! I wish i could have lived a bit before i had mine, i'm struggling to do it now since i'm a completely single parent doing everything myself Maybe if i had then i may have been better at the whole being a parent thing See i have always been a single parent. Her 'dad' has seen my daughter for about 6 hours in 3 years 3 months. I havent known what its like to experience parenthood any other way. Im lucky that i have my grandparents (70's) to help out but still feel guilty. They allow me to go to work because they collect her from nursery. Its tough but its just the way it is. My way of life i guess. I get very few nights 'off' and if the opportunity arises sometimes im just grateful of the lie in the next morning haha" I only have my mum to help once or twice a month, i do everything myself - so, you know, im not jealous . . . Mines never even met the 'sperm donor' and for that im grateful Thank god for school!! | |||
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"If you have kids in your thirties or forties then you are setting a timebomb for them, meaning they may well be looking after a young family themselves at the time you need help from them to care for you as you get old and decrepit. Just a thought" blimmin cheek. Have you know I can dance the legs off them young uns! tch | |||
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"If you have kids in your thirties or forties then you are setting a timebomb for them, meaning they may well be looking after a young family themselves at the time you need help from them to care for you as you get old and decrepit. Just a thought blimmin cheek. Have you know I can dance the legs off them young uns! tch " dont mean to offend its just that in my profession as a carer for elderly i think about the things others dont consider. Look after plenty of folk in their early 70s who suffer dementia, strokes, arthritis etc. We dont know who will be the lucky and unlucky ones when we reach our pensions. I get told every day age dont come alone and in a lot of cases its true sadly | |||
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"If you have kids in your thirties or forties then you are setting a timebomb for them, meaning they may well be looking after a young family themselves at the time you need help from them to care for you as you get old and decrepit. Just a thought blimmin cheek. Have you know I can dance the legs off them young uns! tch dont mean to offend its just that in my profession as a carer for elderly i think about the things others dont consider. Look after plenty of folk in their early 70s who suffer dementia, strokes, arthritis etc. We dont know who will be the lucky and unlucky ones when we reach our pensions. I get told every day age dont come alone and in a lot of cases its true sadly" Ok, that is true but illness and incapacity are not confined to old age plenty of younger people sadly get things like multiple sclerosis, cancer etc and their children have to combine helping to care for them with caring for young families. I think you can put arguments in favour of having children (or not) at any stage of your life. The fact is that children have a way of appearing in your life if they're meant to no matter what your age or circumstance and there are good things and bad things about it no matter what age you are. | |||
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"I had my first at 16 and Married at 17, by the time was 24 I had 4 Children. I so don't regret anything. I went back to work fulltime when my yoingest was 18 months old and carried on working. Now they are all grown up, have their own little Familys and its now ME time " Me time???....whats that? Lol. I envy those with me time. Enjoy sexy xx | |||
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"If you have kids in your thirties or forties then you are setting a timebomb for them, meaning they may well be looking after a young family themselves at the time you need help from them to care for you as you get old and decrepit. Just a thought blimmin cheek. Have you know I can dance the legs off them young uns! tch dont mean to offend its just that in my profession as a carer for elderly i think about the things others dont consider. Look after plenty of folk in their early 70s who suffer dementia, strokes, arthritis etc. We dont know who will be the lucky and unlucky ones when we reach our pensions. I get told every day age dont come alone and in a lot of cases its true sadly" Fair point but I don't think anyone has kids so that they have someone to look after them in their old age. What about people that don't have kids... | |||
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"From reading the 'Children' thread its come across to me that those who had children at a younger age was not because it was planned that way. Looking back and reflecting would you choose to have your children at the same age, or would you like to live a little bit more? For those of you who elected to have children later on, would you have had them at a younger age? For me (and i know i am not very old) if i could have my daughter exactly as she is, id have preferred to have her later on in life and have grown up in my own time first, gone out on wild nights out and generally enjoyed life a bit more before becoming a mother. Selfishly i do feel like i have lost out. " I had my daughter a month before i was twenty. She came ten years too early but now im pleased i had her at that age as we do everything together. Sop together, clubbing together everything holidays together. A lot of her friends are very envious of her as she has a young mummy and they dont. But look at me im still young enough to live my life and do crazy things | |||
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"I had my first at 16 and Married at 17, by the time was 24 I had 4 Children. I so don't regret anything. I went back to work full time when my youngest was 18 months old and carried on working. Now they are all grown up, have their own little Family's and its now ME time Me time???....whats that? Lol. I envy those with me time. Enjoy sexy xx" I do miss being Mummy and the empty nest syndrome was horrible. But I have loads of Grandkids now to make up for it. | |||
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"Having 4 girls and 1 boy i do joke and say I've plenty to look after me when im old .. i don't actually mean it. I had my first at 18 and my last at 38 , i can do exactly the same stuff now as i could after my first just with more knowledge and patience." | |||
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