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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago

Inspired by MrsAbz’s thread, do you ever feel like you’re not going to be someone’s type?

Like you think they’re too attractive? Or maybe they’re too slim/ athletic and they won’t like you?

Or do you not care and just shoot your shot regardless?

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By *eliWoman
41 weeks ago

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Yeah, sometimes. It's not about them being too attractive though, it's more, I don't think I'm attractive enough to garner and keep their interest.

Note the sometimes. That's an important word. It's a monthly doubt.

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By *ruceyyMan
41 weeks ago

London

Oh fuck me this is a good one.

Pickles i can't explain it. Sometimes women way out of my league think I'm hot. Crazy!

Generally I'd say no, my types type is usually 6 foot shaved back and sides classic man type. You know how most good looking men look the same these days? I don't fit that.

Usually it's the 'indie girls' who find me cute. Which is my type to a degree but they obviously grow up and then tend to go for the above!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"Yeah, sometimes. It's not about them being too attractive though, it's more, I don't think I'm attractive enough to garner and keep their interest.

Note the sometimes. That's an important word. It's a monthly doubt. "

I think it’s normal. We have moments.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
41 weeks ago

Worcester

I know I’m a fucking catch so I’m never worried about that.

Actually I know I’m not their type when people are only looking for one woman, have a history of leaving sites when they get in relationships and coming back again, that kind of thing. My type are people who are committed to non-mongoamy long term and if they don’t want that then I’m not their type.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
41 weeks ago

Newcastle

I am only going to reply to someone or approach them if I think they might be interested in me. I don’t really want the rejection. If I see their pics and veris are full of women that are not a similar type of body shape then I would rule myself out straight away.

Kx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"Oh fuck me this is a good one.

Pickles i can't explain it. Sometimes women way out of my league think I'm hot. Crazy!

Generally I'd say no, my types type is usually 6 foot shaved back and sides classic man type. You know how most good looking men look the same these days? I don't fit that.

Usually it's the 'indie girls' who find me cute. Which is my type to a degree but they obviously grow up and then tend to go for the above!"

Most women find those men attractive. Not all (I don’t need you to tell me that you don’t Thank you) but most do. That’s why they’re marketable and beauty standards are built around that image. I think it’s a weird one isn’t it. Like you like what you like but the chances of what you like liking you feels slim. Creates a disconnect. Like a strain. It’s interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Oh very much so. If the couple or woman is too hot it is a little daunting.

But when I decided fuck it and message I don't get a reply then it kicks me back to reality.

I'm definitely more personality than looks and hard to get that across on social platforms like fabs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I know I’m a fucking catch so I’m never worried about that.

Actually I know I’m not their type when people are only looking for one woman, have a history of leaving sites when they get in relationships and coming back again, that kind of thing. My type are people who are committed to non-mongoamy long term and if they don’t want that then I’m not their type."

Hot. I like you.

But what about physically

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

When I think about it realistically, yeah it’s bleak

I’m a very average/below average guy that has an above average type

So when I think about it, they are gonna be getting offers from guys way above me. Taller, better lookin, better lifestyle more money etc etc

Still shoot my shot, anything else would be giving up, but I’m not shocked or surprised or even disappointed when it doesn’t land. I know where I’m at and I either gotta accept that or settle for less

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By *eliWoman
41 weeks ago

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"Yeah, sometimes. It's not about them being too attractive though, it's more, I don't think I'm attractive enough to garner and keep their interest.

Note the sometimes. That's an important word. It's a monthly doubt.

I think it’s normal. We have moments. "

Exactly. I don't really have a physical type. There's a personality type that I'm always putty for but luckily for me it tends to be one that is attracted to my attempts of a personality.

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By *ruceyyMan
41 weeks ago

London


"Oh fuck me this is a good one.

Pickles i can't explain it. Sometimes women way out of my league think I'm hot. Crazy!

Generally I'd say no, my types type is usually 6 foot shaved back and sides classic man type. You know how most good looking men look the same these days? I don't fit that.

Usually it's the 'indie girls' who find me cute. Which is my type to a degree but they obviously grow up and then tend to go for the above!

Most women find those men attractive. Not all (I don’t need you to tell me that you don’t Thank you) but most do. That’s why they’re marketable and beauty standards are built around that image. I think it’s a weird one isn’t it. Like you like what you like but the chances of what you like liking you feels slim. Creates a disconnect. Like a strain. It’s interesting"

It is interesting!

I just couldn't get that haircut It wouldn't suit me and I like having HAIR

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I am only going to reply to someone or approach them if I think they might be interested in me. I don’t really want the rejection. If I see their pics and veris are full of women that are not a similar type of body shape then I would rule myself out straight away.

Kx"

Interesting. I get that. But let’s take out the verifications. They don’t display them. You’re on a dating app whatever. How do you know?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
41 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I briefly saw one guy who kept going on about how he usually went for girls utterly unlike me. The fact that he did tend towards petite and various other traits I don't gave didn't bother me. The constant need to bring it up did. So that didn't last long.

I suppose I'm a little wary of people who usually go for the yogurt advert idea of a woman, and most people I connect with have a history of fat butts in fishnets that shows a longer term interest in my aesthetic.

But if someone is actually into me and I'm into them? It doesn't matter if they've never thought about or been with a 6ft bimbo goth before

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Kind of, but not on an aesthetic level. My insecurities, when they very occasionally raise their heads, are worries about being perceived as boring or stupid, or just a bit weird. It doesn't stop me from trying though.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
41 weeks ago

Aberdeen


"Inspired by MrsAbz’s thread, do you ever feel like you’re not going to be someone’s type?

Like you think they’re too attractive? Or maybe they’re too slim/ athletic and they won’t like you?

Or do you not care and just shoot your shot regardless?

"

I often feel that I won't be someones type - not just physically but also I'm super chatty and I don't know how to be still (MrAbz has found a way to make me shut off but only him), chaos tends to surround me.

So, if I find someone attractive I usually think they won't like me.

Sometimes I just go for it though!

Clearly just a chaotic choice in a moment of madness.

MrsAbz

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
41 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

If I like them, I'm going to give it a go. Nothing to lose

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"Yeah, sometimes. It's not about them being too attractive though, it's more, I don't think I'm attractive enough to garner and keep their interest.

Note the sometimes. That's an important word. It's a monthly doubt.

I think it’s normal. We have moments.

Exactly. I don't really have a physical type. There's a personality type that I'm always putty for but luckily for me it tends to be one that is attracted to my attempts of a personality."

I think we don’t often have a physical type but still end up with more people with certain features than others. You like women of all races but most of the women you’ve been with are Black- you like women that are interested in certain things and so they’re from or embracing of a particular culture.

(That’s just an example) If you get that?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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41 weeks ago

East Sussex

I'm sometimes surprised that I'm a persons type because it doesn't occur to me that I might be. I never actively think I'm not though.

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By *amie HantsWoman
41 weeks ago

Atlantis

I had an ex who wasn’t my type and I wasn’t his. He was very outdoorsy and competent and I’m a really good liar and said I was too on our first date. Fast forward a few years and we’re trying to put up a tent in the rain, he’s shouting, I’m crying (with laughter, the whole thing was a shit show) and he goes ‘THIS IS WHY PEOPLE HAVE TYPES’ and tbh that was fair.

Looks wise? I veer away from my type all the time as attraction isn’t just based on looks, so why would I expect them to only care about looks?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"When I think about it realistically, yeah it’s bleak

I’m a very average/below average guy that has an above average type

So when I think about it, they are gonna be getting offers from guys way above me. Taller, better lookin, better lifestyle more money etc etc

Still shoot my shot, anything else would be giving up, but I’m not shocked or surprised or even disappointed when it doesn’t land. I know where I’m at and I either gotta accept that or settle for less "

I get you. I feel this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"Oh very much so. If the couple or woman is too hot it is a little daunting.

But when I decided fuck it and message I don't get a reply then it kicks me back to reality.

I'm definitely more personality than looks and hard to get that across on social platforms like fabs. "

It is daunting I get that. But they’re just people right. Not their fault they’re so attractive

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By *a LunaWoman
41 weeks ago

South Wales

I’m super tall and fat.

You don’t see threads started looking for that.

But somewhere out there there may be a lone man cracking one off to my pics. And that’ll do me.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Similar to Meli's view, but i more worry about being interesting /intelligent enough to maintain their interest rather than their looks /my looks /their meets looks

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
41 weeks ago

Maidstone

Nah. It's not for me to judge whether I'm someone's type or not. They've got eyes and a brain (hopefully). I'll trust their judgement.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
41 weeks ago

Newcastle


"I am only going to reply to someone or approach them if I think they might be interested in me. I don’t really want the rejection. If I see their pics and veris are full of women that are not a similar type of body shape then I would rule myself out straight away.

Kx

Interesting. I get that. But let’s take out the verifications. They don’t display them. You’re on a dating app whatever. How do you know?"

Good point as I’ve actually recently gone back to one such app. I’ll probably get shot down for this but I think a lot of people stick to their own type so I think geeky looking guys like geeky looking girls and gym fit guys like gym for girls. So I guess I’m looking for middle aged dad bods

I’m not looking to be anyone’s easy shag so yeah although I know people would have sex with me even if I’m not their type, for me I want to feel like the person does really find me attractive.

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By *sWyldWoman
41 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I feel like I'm always going to be a bit of a let down in person. I often think people are too hot for me and it really surprises me that some of the people I've met have wanted me (and more than once which means it wasn't a fluke or a pity fuck)

I don't say this for sympathy etc it's genuinely how I feel. In the past it has stopped me meeting people, however now I push past those insecurities and just go anyway.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
41 weeks ago

Worcester


"I know I’m a fucking catch so I’m never worried about that.

Actually I know I’m not their type when people are only looking for one woman, have a history of leaving sites when they get in relationships and coming back again, that kind of thing. My type are people who are committed to non-mongoamy long term and if they don’t want that then I’m not their type.

Hot. I like you.

But what about physically "

No, I never worry I’m not someone’s type physically.

People have eyes and can use them.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"Oh very much so. If the couple or woman is too hot it is a little daunting.

But when I decided fuck it and message I don't get a reply then it kicks me back to reality.

I'm definitely more personality than looks and hard to get that across on social platforms like fabs.

It is daunting I get that. But they’re just people right. Not their fault they’re so attractive "

Very true. Must be a curse and a burden to be so hot and sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Yeah, sometimes.

Veris are the bane of my life and I’m trying to get better at not snooping to see who they’ve met previously for this reason.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
41 weeks ago

Aberdeen


"I had an ex who wasn’t my type and I wasn’t his. He was very outdoorsy and competent and I’m a really good liar and said I was too on our first date. Fast forward a few years and we’re trying to put up a tent in the rain, he’s shouting, I’m crying (with laughter, the whole thing was a shit show) and he goes ‘THIS IS WHY PEOPLE HAVE TYPES’ and tbh that was fair.

Looks wise? I veer away from my type all the time as attraction isn’t just based on looks, so why would I expect them to only care about looks? "

This has made me giggle

MrsAbz

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By *eliWoman
41 weeks ago

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"I think we don’t often have a physical type but still end up with more people with certain features than others. You like women of all races but most of the women you’ve been with are Black- you like women that are interested in certain things and so they’re from or embracing of a particular culture.

(That’s just an example) If you get that?"

It's the Lord's Day. Not only that but it's not even midday. It's way, way, way too early to be disturbing* my peace like this with race.

I do understand what you're saying but physically there really hasn't been any notable similarities for many years. In my younger years I went through phases whilst I was forming an identity - alt girls, lecturers, gamers, rugby boys, city boys/girls, pilots. I guess that's kind of what you mean? At those times in my life I didn't worry about it because I knew I was attractive to them. I did worry about being intelligent enough to keep up with them (some of them).

*I'm teasing you, tongue firmly in cheek.

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By *imply DeeWoman
41 weeks ago

Wherever


"I feel like I'm always going to be a bit of a let down in person. I often think people are too hot for me and it really surprises me that some of the people I've met have wanted me (and more than once which means it wasn't a fluke or a pity fuck)

I don't say this for sympathy etc it's genuinely how I feel. In the past it has stopped me meeting people, however now I push past those insecurities and just go anyway. "

This is very much same for me but with a difference - after a few obvious pity fucks I stopped meeting people completely as I can’t make myself push through those insecurities.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"Yeah, sometimes.

Veris are the bane of my life and I’m trying to get better at not snooping to see who they’ve met previously for this reason. "

But a lot of people don't display sexual veris.....

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

Oh more interesting ponderings. Yes, if they seem to have a type and I think I don't fit that I might be put off.

J

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"Oh more interesting ponderings. Yes, if they seem to have a type and I think I don't fit that I might be put off.

J"

How would you know?

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"I had an ex who wasn’t my type and I wasn’t his. He was very outdoorsy and competent and I’m a really good liar and said I was too on our first date. Fast forward a few years and we’re trying to put up a tent in the rain, he’s shouting, I’m crying (with laughter, the whole thing was a shit show) and he goes ‘THIS IS WHY PEOPLE HAVE TYPES’ and tbh that was fair.

Looks wise? I veer away from my type all the time as attraction isn’t just based on looks, so why would I expect them to only care about looks? "

I love this! Yeah, if someone is looking for a sporty type I'm never going to be able to fake compétence

J

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"Oh more interesting ponderings. Yes, if they seem to have a type and I think I don't fit that I might be put off.

J

How would you know? "

You said to pretend we can't see veris but that's bullshit. You're going to if they're there so I'm answering realistically. If it's someone from the forums (OMG she went there) I'm going to see who else they're horndogging after and think, yeah not me then.

J

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"Oh more interesting ponderings. Yes, if they seem to have a type and I think I don't fit that I might be put off.

J

How would you know?

You said to pretend we can't see veris but that's bullshit. You're going to if they're there so I'm answering realistically. If it's someone from the forums (OMG she went there) I'm going to see who else they're horndogging after and think, yeah not me then.

J"

I can’t believe people check veris (like go on other profiles from them)

But fair Julie. I appreciate the honesty

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
41 weeks ago

Aberdeen


"Oh more interesting ponderings. Yes, if they seem to have a type and I think I don't fit that I might be put off.

J

How would you know?

You said to pretend we can't see veris but that's bullshit. You're going to if they're there so I'm answering realistically. If it's someone from the forums (OMG she went there) I'm going to see who else they're horndogging after and think, yeah not me then.

J"

But one cannot trust the forums to make a decision - surely everyone flirts a little because its fun? Therefore, they may want you most but still flirtatious with others?

MrsAbz (still in a pondering mood)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"Oh more interesting ponderings. Yes, if they seem to have a type and I think I don't fit that I might be put off.

J

How would you know?

You said to pretend we can't see veris but that's bullshit. You're going to if they're there so I'm answering realistically. If it's someone from the forums (OMG she went there) I'm going to see who else they're horndogging after and think, yeah not me then.

J

But one cannot trust the forums to make a decision - surely everyone flirts a little because its fun? Therefore, they may want you most but still flirtatious with others?

MrsAbz (still in a pondering mood)"

I flirt with everyone.

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By *amie HantsWoman
41 weeks ago

Atlantis


"I had an ex who wasn’t my type and I wasn’t his. He was very outdoorsy and competent and I’m a really good liar and said I was too on our first date. Fast forward a few years and we’re trying to put up a tent in the rain, he’s shouting, I’m crying (with laughter, the whole thing was a shit show) and he goes ‘THIS IS WHY PEOPLE HAVE TYPES’ and tbh that was fair.

Looks wise? I veer away from my type all the time as attraction isn’t just based on looks, so why would I expect them to only care about looks?

I love this! Yeah, if someone is looking for a sporty type I'm never going to be able to fake compétence

J"

I thought it would be a ‘fake it till you make it’ type situation and I would learn as we went along.

All I’ve learnt is if there’s a zombie apocalypse, I’m f*cked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I had an ex who wasn’t my type and I wasn’t his. He was very outdoorsy and competent and I’m a really good liar and said I was too on our first date. Fast forward a few years and we’re trying to put up a tent in the rain, he’s shouting, I’m crying (with laughter, the whole thing was a shit show) and he goes ‘THIS IS WHY PEOPLE HAVE TYPES’ and tbh that was fair.

Looks wise? I veer away from my type all the time as attraction isn’t just based on looks, so why would I expect them to only care about looks?

I love this! Yeah, if someone is looking for a sporty type I'm never going to be able to fake compétence

J

I thought it would be a ‘fake it till you make it’ type situation and I would learn as we went along.

All I’ve learnt is if there’s a zombie apocalypse, I’m f*cked."

A tent ain’t gonna save you babe

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

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By *hisStagsVixenCouple
41 weeks ago

peterborough

All the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I don’t think they’re TOO attractive for me, and that’s a different question to what you’re asking.

But I often think that I’m not a woman’s type. Because I’m a guy who notices the front of men’s health magazines, and I noticed all the profiles on this forum that the ladies fawn over, i’t’s a very society accepted perfect man image. Am I an idiot thinking like that? Probably.

I’m late 40s average height slim male.

So often think I’m not a ladies type.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

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If a man says it vs if a woman does?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

If a man says it vs if a woman does?"

Kidding btw

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"Yeah, sometimes.

Veris are the bane of my life and I’m trying to get better at not snooping to see who they’ve met previously for this reason.

But a lot of people don't display sexual veris..... "

True but I’m still going to look

If all they all look nothing like I do I’m going to assume I’m not their type.

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By *ruceyyMan
41 weeks ago

London


"Yeah, sometimes.

Veris are the bane of my life and I’m trying to get better at not snooping to see who they’ve met previously for this reason.

But a lot of people don't display sexual veris.....

True but I’m still going to look

If all they all look nothing like I do I’m going to assume I’m not their type. "

Can someone please tell Mrs Shiv that unless the person has had some form of head injury, she is everyone's type?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
41 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago

Message for Mrs Shivs from my hot mate. He says : unless the person has had some form of head injury, she is everyone's type?

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"Yeah, sometimes.

Veris are the bane of my life and I’m trying to get better at not snooping to see who they’ve met previously for this reason.

But a lot of people don't display sexual veris.....

True but I’m still going to look

If all they all look nothing like I do I’m going to assume I’m not their type. "

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that.

Mrs TMN x"

Must be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"Message for Mrs Shivs from my hot mate. He says : unless the person has had some form of head injury, she is everyone's type?

"

Please

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By *ruceyyMan
41 weeks ago

London


"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that.

Mrs TMN x"

Kinda like a normal fab user then? I agree. And sometimes they don't feel the same back but we still have a nice hot chat about kink! It's fine!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"Message for Mrs Shivs from my hot mate. He says : unless the person has had some form of head injury, she is everyone's type?

Please "

Not that kinda thread?

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
41 weeks ago

Aberdeen


"Yeah, sometimes.

Veris are the bane of my life and I’m trying to get better at not snooping to see who they’ve met previously for this reason.

But a lot of people don't display sexual veris.....

True but I’m still going to look

If all they all look nothing like I do I’m going to assume I’m not their type.

Can someone please tell Mrs Shiv that unless the person has had some form of head injury, she is everyone's type?"

MrsShiv you are delectable and everyones type bar the head injury contingent

Done

MrsAbz

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
41 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that.

Mrs TMN x

Must be nice"

Try it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that.

Mrs TMN x

Must be nice

Try it "

I’m a man on fab, do you think I haven’t?

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that.

Mrs TMN x

Must be nice

Try it "

I can collectively speak for the guys here and say we have been, with horrible results

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
41 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that.

Mrs TMN x

Kinda like a normal fab user then? I agree. And sometimes they don't feel the same back but we still have a nice hot chat about kink! It's fine!"

Uh oh, normal? Danger, Brucey, danger!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that.

Mrs TMN x

Must be nice

Try it

I can collectively speak for the guys here and say we have been, with horrible results "
fr

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
41 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that.

Mrs TMN x

Must be nice

Try it

I’m a man on fab, do you think I haven’t? "

I don't know, I'm not a man. Does all the pondering about whose type you are make it easier, though? Or yield more positive results?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that.

Mrs TMN x

Must be nice

Try it

I’m a man on fab, do you think I haven’t?

I don't know, I'm not a man. Does all the pondering about whose type you are make it easier, though? Or yield more positive results? "

No. But less messages sent = less rejection. Quick maths

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"I had an ex who wasn’t my type and I wasn’t his. He was very outdoorsy and competent and I’m a really good liar and said I was too on our first date. Fast forward a few years and we’re trying to put up a tent in the rain, he’s shouting, I’m crying (with laughter, the whole thing was a shit show) and he goes ‘THIS IS WHY PEOPLE HAVE TYPES’ and tbh that was fair.

Looks wise? I veer away from my type all the time as attraction isn’t just based on looks, so why would I expect them to only care about looks?

I love this! Yeah, if someone is looking for a sporty type I'm never going to be able to fake compétence

J

I thought it would be a ‘fake it till you make it’ type situation and I would learn as we went along.

All I’ve learnt is if there’s a zombie apocalypse, I’m f*cked."

I'm hoping my life is never dependent on me being able to play rounders.

J

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By *ookie46Woman
41 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I never really worry about my looks or my body and like others have said it’s more am I interesting, funny, able to hold the type conversations that you just get lost in …….

And I never display sexual veris or ask for them so no one would really be able to come to a conclusion of what “type” I like whether that be physical or personality wise

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
41 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that.

Mrs TMN x

Must be nice

Try it

I’m a man on fab, do you think I haven’t?

I don't know, I'm not a man. Does all the pondering about whose type you are make it easier, though? Or yield more positive results?

No. But less messages sent = less rejection. Quick maths"

So you haven't tried it? Make your mind up, Stephen

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

"

I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky

J

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky

J"

So that’s a tick on “any hole/poles a goal” then

Anyone else?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
41 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky

J"

Julie. Repeat after me. Only wanting to get naked with people you like isn't being ridiculously picky.

Mrs TMN x

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky

J

So that’s a tick on “any hole/poles a goal” then

Anyone else? "

Well not your pole or glory hole if that helps narrow it down

J

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky

J

So that’s a tick on “any hole/poles a goal” then

Anyone else?

Well not your pole or glory hole if that helps narrow it down

J"

Penis only sadly, I’m very picky too in that regard

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By *inkylipsWoman
41 weeks ago

Debauchery

All the time….. as I no normally in everyday life out on the street or a public setting with my clothes on hardly any would be interested.

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By *ruceyyMan
41 weeks ago

London


"All the time….. as I no normally in everyday life out on the street or a public setting with my clothes on hardly any would be interested. "

Are you kidding!? That body is not hiding itself through any clothes kinky!

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Online yeh, but maybe more to do with their style/pictures.

Looks wise not really, im not sure what they go for looks wise.

But if there's a lady wearing all designer everything and all of her pictures are her at flashy looking establishments then I'd think she wouldn't be into me as thats not what I'm about.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky

J

So that’s a tick on “any hole/poles a goal” then

Anyone else?

Well not your pole or glory hole if that helps narrow it down

J

Penis only sadly, I’m very picky too in that regard "

Hurrah, we have both sank each other's battleship. Anyone else want to see if their pole or hole is my goal?

Sorry for the tangent Stephen.

J

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky

J"

What if you were blindfolded?! Asking for a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Sometimes you gotta just go for it.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained is what I say

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"Online yeh, but maybe more to do with their style/pictures.

Looks wise not really, im not sure what they go for looks wise.

But if there's a lady wearing all designer everything and all of her pictures are her at flashy looking establishments then I'd think she wouldn't be into me as thats not what I'm about."

Think that’s one of the biggest ones for me

“Would I be able to afford/keep up with her type of lifestyle”

It’s no surprise these days that all the very beautiful women have endless pictures of them on expensive holidays, high end resorts in Dubai, out on big yachts.

It’s about knowing my limits. Have I swiped on these type of women and matched? Sure. Could I keep myself to that lifestyle of level of luxury she clearly used to? No. So why bother

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
41 weeks ago

Southampton


"Sometimes you gotta just go for it.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained is what I say"

I have given up making myself look like a wally I shall just perv privately lol

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky

J

What if you were blindfolded?! Asking for a friend "

You are definitely my type you gorgeous woman. April Entice...?

Also to further derail Pickle's thread, I love being blindfolded but not sure I could do it with unknown people even with a chaperone. I've thought about though...

J

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Even if I think they’re out of my league, I just pull up my big boy pants and go for it.

What’s the worst that can happen, they say no.

I’d rather that than have loadsa conversation etc then get ghosted

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky

J

Julie. Repeat after me. Only wanting to get naked with people you like isn't being ridiculously picky.

Mrs TMN x"

I'm repeating

J

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
41 weeks ago

chichester

I just take a punt. They can only ignore / say no. Then it’s a case of throw more dice and see what numbers come up

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"Online yeh, but maybe more to do with their style/pictures.

Looks wise not really, im not sure what they go for looks wise.

But if there's a lady wearing all designer everything and all of her pictures are her at flashy looking establishments then I'd think she wouldn't be into me as thats not what I'm about.

Think that’s one of the biggest ones for me

“Would I be able to afford/keep up with her type of lifestyle”

It’s no surprise these days that all the very beautiful women have endless pictures of them on expensive holidays, high end resorts in Dubai, out on big yachts.

It’s about knowing my limits. Have I swiped on these type of women and matched? Sure. Could I keep myself to that lifestyle of level of luxury she clearly used to? No. So why bother "

Oh fair. I do the exact same with men. If they're talking on dating sites about holidays abroad and have a fancy car - I swipe left. What's the point?

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky

J

What if you were blindfolded?! Asking for a friend "

Damn, I did that thing of assuming you're actually the friend. So maybe, who's your friend?

J

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
41 weeks ago

Aberdeen


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky

J

What if you were blindfolded?! Asking for a friend

Damn, I did that thing of assuming you're actually the friend. So maybe, who's your friend?

J"

Me! I volunteer to be the friend pick me please

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

In answer to the OP, yes I say no to guys who I just think are out of my league. I did this morning. My photos seem to give an impression that I don't think I would live up to. Must take some more.

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
41 weeks ago

Telford

I never really think about to be honest. I do get messages from gym guys who are really buffed up and everytime I wonder how someone clearly dedicated to there body finds my massive obese self attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"Online yeh, but maybe more to do with their style/pictures.

Looks wise not really, im not sure what they go for looks wise.

But if there's a lady wearing all designer everything and all of her pictures are her at flashy looking establishments then I'd think she wouldn't be into me as thats not what I'm about.

Think that’s one of the biggest ones for me

“Would I be able to afford/keep up with her type of lifestyle”

It’s no surprise these days that all the very beautiful women have endless pictures of them on expensive holidays, high end resorts in Dubai, out on big yachts.

It’s about knowing my limits. Have I swiped on these type of women and matched? Sure. Could I keep myself to that lifestyle of level of luxury she clearly used to? No. So why bother

Oh fair. I do the exact same with men. If they're talking on dating sites about holidays abroad and have a fancy car - I swipe left. What's the point?"

That’s interesting, I always assumed that was a guys issue, not a woman’s

These beautiful women i see on yachts and expensive resorts in Dubai, I don’t assume they are minted and paying for themselves. I assume their beauty is giving them access to guys that can afford to give them a luxury lifestyle that I can’t match

Very interesting to hear you think in a similar way

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By *weetiepie99Woman
41 weeks ago

cardiff

I definitely shoot my shot, never really on here, but away from here definitely. I have more pics on other apps and hide nothing, so they can see exactly what they are going to get, or not as the case may be.

On a side note...is 'fawning'the right word?...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
41 weeks ago

East Sussex


"In answer to the OP, yes I say no to guys who I just think are out of my league. I did this morning. My photos seem to give an impression that I don't think I would live up to. Must take some more.

"

I don't feel that way about our photos but some men form an impression of me based on my age that I know I can't live up to. That's not me assuming it's very obvious from what they say.

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
41 weeks ago

London

ALWAYS in real life. But this site contravenes the law of classical logic and the law of attraction.

I got messages from all kinds of bodies, ages personalities and genders and their preferences never fail to surprise me. I liked to discover so many men into mature and curvy or chubby women here. This site is changing my perspective, liberating my mind and healing my insecurities because is pure human exciting madness. It's never too late to change

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By *cottish guy 555Man
41 weeks ago

London

I don't have a type. If I like them then I like them.

Am constantly surprised when anyone shows an interest in me and stunned if they have any interest in playing with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"Online yeh, but maybe more to do with their style/pictures.

Looks wise not really, im not sure what they go for looks wise.

But if there's a lady wearing all designer everything and all of her pictures are her at flashy looking establishments then I'd think she wouldn't be into me as thats not what I'm about.

Think that’s one of the biggest ones for me

“Would I be able to afford/keep up with her type of lifestyle”

It’s no surprise these days that all the very beautiful women have endless pictures of them on expensive holidays, high end resorts in Dubai, out on big yachts.

It’s about knowing my limits. Have I swiped on these type of women and matched? Sure. Could I keep myself to that lifestyle of level of luxury she clearly used to? No. So why bother

Oh fair. I do the exact same with men. If they're talking on dating sites about holidays abroad and have a fancy car - I swipe left. What's the point?

That’s interesting, I always assumed that was a guys issue, not a woman’s

These beautiful women i see on yachts and expensive resorts in Dubai, I don’t assume they are minted and paying for themselves. I assume their beauty is giving them access to guys that can afford to give them a luxury lifestyle that I can’t match

Very interesting to hear you think in a similar way "

It's not even wether I could keep up with the finances (which I couldnt) it's more vaules. And I am being judgmental here but, for somebody to show off that image it makes me feel like they care more about their image than their connections with others.

I've had 2 girlfriends who were "brand girls" 1 of them would dig me out for spending loads on music gear but had over 100 pairs of designer shoes?

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By * and R cple4Couple
41 weeks ago

swansea

I really don't think anyone should just go from pictures on here as pictures can be extremely deceiving.

The right angles and filters and you have a totally different person.

If we like someone I do tend to have a nose through their veris and profile to see if they have a type before I message..

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
41 weeks ago

Leeds

I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago

Interesting interesting

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
41 weeks ago

Maidstone


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs "

Imagine how that feels being single and 50

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

Imagine how that feels being single and 50 "

Achey? Idk

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs "

I assure you that is NOT true

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
41 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I’ve been at this for decades and I’m still constantly amazed when someone fancies me. It’s not that I don’t expect to be someone’s type … more that I never *assume* I will be. I don’t take it for granted.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
41 weeks ago

Maidstone


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

Imagine how that feels being single and 50

Achey? Idk "

Depressing is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

Imagine how that feels being single and 50

Achey? Idk

Depressing is what it is. "

This calls for wine.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs "

….. getting married. You are absolutely 100 percent someone’s type.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


" It is daunting I get that. But they’re just people right. Not their fault they’re so attractive "

Thanks, that's such a comfort

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
41 weeks ago

Maidstone

I honestly never worried about being someone's type when I was on here as a couple, because I really didn't care. I was already someone's type. Turn out I wasn't though.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
41 weeks ago

London


"I really don't think anyone should just go from pictures on here as pictures can be extremely deceiving.

The right angles and filters and you have a totally different person.

If we like someone I do tend to have a nose through their veris and profile to see if they have a type before I message.. "

That's why I think chatting on here is so important. You get a feel for the person, although often it's tricky on here with the limited text chat function.

From there we'd possibly meet up, rare but it does happen. And if anything happens after that then fabulous. If not, then I've made a new friend.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
41 weeks ago

Maidstone


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

Imagine how that feels being single and 50

Achey? Idk

Depressing is what it is.

This calls for wine. "

Might stretch to rum... don't think wine will cut it right now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I honestly never worried about being someone's type when I was on here as a couple, because I really didn't care. I was already someone's type. Turn out I wasn't though. "

You’re my type and you know it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

Imagine how that feels being single and 50

Achey? Idk

Depressing is what it is.

This calls for wine.

Might stretch to rum... don't think wine will cut it right now "

Are we day drinking?

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal”

I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky

J

What if you were blindfolded?! Asking for a friend

You are definitely my type you gorgeous woman. April Entice...?

Also to further derail Pickle's thread, I love being blindfolded but not sure I could do it with unknown people even with a chaperone. I've thought about though...

J"

Ooooo... I'll check my walking calendar!!

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"I honestly never worried about being someone's type when I was on here as a couple, because I really didn't care. I was already someone's type. Turn out I wasn't though. "

Yeh. I know that feeling. It’s definitely the disappointment of knowing they tick all your important boxes. And none of that maters if you don’t tick theirs.

*woody pulls up a chair and sighs.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
41 weeks ago

Maidstone


"

Are we day drinking? "

If I didn't have to work tomorrow I'd say hell yes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

Imagine how that feels being single and 50 "

That sounds like opportunity knocking!!

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
41 weeks ago

kent


"I honestly never worried about being someone's type when I was on here as a couple, because I really didn't care. I was already someone's type. Turn out I wasn't though.

Yeh. I know that feeling. It’s definitely the disappointment of knowing they tick all your important boxes. And none of that maters if you don’t tick theirs.

*woody pulls up a chair and sighs. "

Oh... would you like a group cuddle?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"

Are we day drinking?

If I didn't have to work tomorrow I'd say hell yes!! "

Yeah I forgot about that. Work.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
41 weeks ago

Maidstone


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

Imagine how that feels being single and 50

That sounds like opportunity knocking!! "

I thought that. It's hard work and no gain so far

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"I really don't think anyone should just go from pictures on here as pictures can be extremely deceiving.

The right angles and filters and you have a totally different person.

If we like someone I do tend to have a nose through their veris and profile to see if they have a type before I message.. "

That is my worry... People build an image in their heads of how you present yourself in photos - or is that just ne superimposing my worries perhaps! Who knows until you meet

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"I honestly never worried about being someone's type when I was on here as a couple, because I really didn't care. I was already someone's type. Turn out I wasn't though.

Yeh. I know that feeling. It’s definitely the disappointment of knowing they tick all your important boxes. And none of that maters if you don’t tick theirs.

*woody pulls up a chair and sighs.

Oh... would you like a group cuddle?"

Do you want to see a grown man cry ?

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By *estarossa.Woman
41 weeks ago

Flagrante


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

Imagine how that feels being single and 50 "

I could have written this.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
41 weeks ago

London


"I honestly never worried about being someone's type when I was on here as a couple, because I really didn't care. I was already someone's type. Turn out I wasn't though. "

Don't take that rejection too hard. People change over time. From your forum posts you seem like the kind of person that I like. From your pictures I'd say the kind of person I'd like to meet.

The rest would depend on how we interacted and if we were comfortable and happy to possibly take things further.

And remember, you're pickle's type, and he's well fussy.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
41 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"That is my worry... People build an image in their heads of how you present yourself in photos - or is that just ne superimposing my worries perhaps! Who knows until you meet "

Well if you will insist on taking such great photos, Midders …

.

I’m thread detailing a bit here, but it’s struck me when meeting forumers at social nights how many people comment on what they expected me to be versus what I am. It’s not usually anything important though. Just stuff like “Oh! You’re tall!” or “You’re not Scottish!”

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
41 weeks ago

Leeds


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

….. getting married. You are absolutely 100 percent someone’s type. "

Yeah but he's stuck with me

I'm still waiting for him to do a runner before the big day!

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
41 weeks ago

Leeds


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

Imagine how that feels being single and 50 "

No thanks.

I'm not playing who's worse off, I'm allowed off days/weeks too.

Keep your eye rolls.

Mrs

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
41 weeks ago

Reading

I dont message anyone. So anyone messaging me is showing interest. But yeah i still worry im not their type.

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By *ad NannaWoman
41 weeks ago

East London

Where sex with men is concerned I quickly realised-after my marriage ended-that men of all shapes, sizes, ages, race, education and wealth will want sex with me.

I don't try to second guess them or wonder why they want to see my ugly body naked.

I'm just a vagina with boobs.

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By *NKED_n_KINKYCouple
41 weeks ago

Watford

I'm always nervous approaching my 'Type'. I'm one of those who will scroll through their veris and see their 'Type' before sending a message. Or look at a couples profile to see what their partner looks like and compare myself to them.

To be fair my Gorgeous hubby has more faith in me and my body and usually makes the first move for me.

So far everytime I've been so wrong and apparently I am indeed my 'types' Type.

;-) C xx

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
41 weeks ago

Southampton


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

Imagine how that feels being single and 50

Achey? Idk

Depressing is what it is.

This calls for wine.

Might stretch to rum... don't think wine will cut it right now "

** passes a double rum

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
41 weeks ago

Bradford

Well I've got amaseing blue and magic fingers and over 4o years experience of been good with women knowing how to make them laughter and feel cherish and desired and never had a knock back from any woman that's ever met me .but after years of no luck here I had given up and was here for forums .I suppose id got to stageyof thinking it was not going to happen anymore . then came angel. And at end of the day you only need to be right for one .im not swinging kind of guy wanting sex with loads of women . one would do me.but I'm lucky enough to have two I've still got Maya .

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By *o scandalousWoman
41 weeks ago

Glasgow

All the time.

Getting older it’s hard to believe you’re going to be someone’s type, let alone the person you likes type.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
41 weeks ago

Maidstone


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

Imagine how that feels being single and 50

Achey? Idk

Depressing is what it is.

This calls for wine.

Might stretch to rum... don't think wine will cut it right now

** passes a double rum "

Cheers!

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
41 weeks ago

Southampton


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

Imagine how that feels being single and 50

Achey? Idk

Depressing is what it is.

This calls for wine.

Might stretch to rum... don't think wine will cut it right now

** passes a double rum

Cheers! "

Cheers !

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
41 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

This is why I like clubs. You can tell in an instant if attraction is there and mutual.

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By *ornycougaWoman
41 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

Um yes and no. I punch way above my weight on here. I used to get messages from incredibly hot guys and thing "seriously? Me??? Nah fella I'm not your type". But whilst I remain flattered by their interest, I've stopped thinking that people are out of my league just because they mainly meet 'perfect 10' 20 somethings and I don't match their type.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
41 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"I've stopped thinking that people are out of my league just because they mainly meet 'perfect 10' 20 somethings and I don't match their type. "

You do know you’re a ‘perfect 10’ fiftysomething though, right?

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By *assConductorMan
41 weeks ago

the wild

I can be a dude so I generally don't shoot my shot, but especially to women with an alt/punk/goth aesthetic (which I like). For some reason I always feel like I'm not their type.

Also my laid back nature feels like a detriment when I find myself attracted to a very outgoing, boisterous woman.

All of that is just me being in my head too much.

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By *estarossa.Woman
41 weeks ago

Flagrante


"I've stopped thinking that people are out of my league just because they mainly meet 'perfect 10' 20 somethings and I don't match their type.

You do know you’re a ‘perfect 10’ fiftysomething though, right? "

I was just thinking that RTG

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
41 weeks ago

Hell


"Inspired by MrsAbz’s thread, do you ever feel like you’re not going to be someone’s type?

Like you think they’re too attractive? Or maybe they’re too slim/ athletic and they won’t like you?

Or do you not care and just shoot your shot regardless?

"

I feel like this all the damn time

And then no, I definitely do not shoot my shot

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
41 weeks ago

Bradford


"This is why I like clubs. You can tell in an instant if attraction is there and mutual. "

I've never understood this concept

In that setting . but never experienced a club .

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
41 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders


"This is why I like clubs. You can tell in an instant if attraction is there and mutual.

I've never understood this concept

In that setting . but never experienced a club ."

Well it works for me. Saves ping pong messaging and trying to find convenient times for both parties to meet only to figure out you aren't compatible for whatever reason

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By *assConductorMan
41 weeks ago

the wild


"I can be a shy* dude so I generally don't shoot my shot, but especially to women with an alt/punk/goth aesthetic (which I like). For some reason I always feel like I'm not their type.

Also my laid back nature feels like a detriment when I find myself attracted to a very outgoing, boisterous woman.

All of that is just me being in my head too much."

Shy* dude; what a word to miss.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
41 weeks ago

Bradford


"This is why I like clubs. You can tell in an instant if attraction is there and mutual.

I've never understood this concept

In that setting . but never experienced a club .

Well it works for me. Saves ping pong messaging and trying to find convenient times for both parties to meet only to figure out you aren't compatible for whatever reason"

That makes a lot of sense .

Call me old fashioned lol

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
41 weeks ago

Worcester


"I always feel like I'm not going to be anyone's type at the moment.

Mrs

Imagine how that feels being single and 50 "

My goal is to still be single at 50.

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By *viatrixWoman
41 weeks ago

Redhill

We all are someone’s McDreamy.

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41 weeks ago

I’m definitely not my types type

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"We all are someone’s McDreamy. "

And I bet that machine is currently out of order too.

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By *viatrixWoman
41 weeks ago

Redhill


"We all are someone’s McDreamy.

And I bet that machine is currently out of order too. "

Lol not in my backyard!

My milkshake brings all the boys to my yard…

My Mcflurry machine always works lmao.

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By *apperleymanMan
41 weeks ago

Nottingham

I know that me being being old(er), stocky and bald I am not going to be a lot of other peoples ‘type’ - as other posters have said that’s why I like clubs..

It would be a boring world if we all liked her thing.

Also I stopped having a ‘type’ a while ago, realised I was limiting myself however I do tend to end up with busty brunettes so go figure..

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"Online yeh, but maybe more to do with their style/pictures.

Looks wise not really, im not sure what they go for looks wise.

But if there's a lady wearing all designer everything and all of her pictures are her at flashy looking establishments then I'd think she wouldn't be into me as thats not what I'm about.

Think that’s one of the biggest ones for me

“Would I be able to afford/keep up with her type of lifestyle”

It’s no surprise these days that all the very beautiful women have endless pictures of them on expensive holidays, high end resorts in Dubai, out on big yachts.

It’s about knowing my limits. Have I swiped on these type of women and matched? Sure. Could I keep myself to that lifestyle of level of luxury she clearly used to? No. So why bother

Oh fair. I do the exact same with men. If they're talking on dating sites about holidays abroad and have a fancy car - I swipe left. What's the point?

That’s interesting, I always assumed that was a guys issue, not a woman’s

These beautiful women i see on yachts and expensive resorts in Dubai, I don’t assume they are minted and paying for themselves. I assume their beauty is giving them access to guys that can afford to give them a luxury lifestyle that I can’t match

Very interesting to hear you think in a similar way

It's not even wether I could keep up with the finances (which I couldnt) it's more vaules. And I am being judgmental here but, for somebody to show off that image it makes me feel like they care more about their image than their connections with others.

I've had 2 girlfriends who were "brand girls" 1 of them would dig me out for spending loads on music gear but had over 100 pairs of designer shoes?"

Even if I had the money, I wouldn't buy designer shoes. My ex is obsessed with status and luxury - never my values and I don't find offers from men to take me to Michelin restaurants etc attractive. The sports car, the designer clothes etc - that just says not for me. Even here.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
41 weeks ago

kent


"I really don't think anyone should just go from pictures on here as pictures can be extremely deceiving.

The right angles and filters and you have a totally different person.

If we like someone I do tend to have a nose through their veris and profile to see if they have a type before I message..

That is my worry... People build an image in their heads of how you present yourself in photos - or is that just ne superimposing my worries perhaps! Who knows until you meet "

I worry less about the photos and more about the perception derived from words. I'm quiet in real life, softly spoken and happy to be a wallflower and listen to others hold court. I'm alway honest about this in messages and on forums. There are a lot of big personalities here, and I don't want to be mistaken for being the same - I think that would lead to bigger disappointment than anything presented through the pics Xx

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
41 weeks ago

kent


"I honestly never worried about being someone's type when I was on here as a couple, because I really didn't care. I was already someone's type. Turn out I wasn't though.

Yeh. I know that feeling. It’s definitely the disappointment of knowing they tick all your important boxes. And none of that maters if you don’t tick theirs.

*woody pulls up a chair and sighs.

Oh... would you like a group cuddle?

Do you want to see a grown man cry ? "

Seen it before - and done it myself, in fact. Wouldn't phase me, and it would certainly provoke Ailsa's sympathy

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By *ellinever70Woman
41 weeks ago

Ayrshire


"I don’t think they’re TOO attractive for me, and that’s a different question to what you’re asking.

But I often think that I’m not a woman’s type. Because I’m a guy who notices the front of men’s health magazines, and I noticed all the profiles on this forum that the ladies fawn over, i’t’s a very society accepted perfect man image. Am I an idiot thinking like that? Probably.

I’m late 40s average height slim male.

So often think I’m not a ladies type.

"

What you see on here is a very small snapshot...and therefore a very small number of women fawning over a particular type of man

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By *mf123Man
41 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I dont like trying to be inside someones head i might lose my place in my own head if i do

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
41 weeks ago

Southampton


"I dont like trying to be inside someones head i might lose my place in my own head if i do"

You definitely don't want to get inside my head.... .... other places are available though

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By *inkylipsWoman
41 weeks ago

Debauchery


"All the time….. as I know normally in everyday life out on the street or a public setting with my clothes on hardly any would be interested.

Are you kidding!? That body is not hiding itself through any clothes kinky!"

Well it must be the face

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
41 weeks ago

Essex

Sexually there is a type that I will shy away from, because unless you are 100% switch that’s a recipe for disaster…

Physically…. I don’t give a shiny shit. If I’m not attractive to someone they shouldn’t approach.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"Sexually there is a type that I will shy away from, because unless you are 100% switch that’s a recipe for disaster…

Physically…. I don’t give a shiny shit. If I’m not attractive to someone they shouldn’t approach."
What about you messaging/ approaching them?

Is there a physical type that you’d be shy about messaging

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By *edeWoman
41 weeks ago

the abyss

This is why I never approach anyone ever at anytime

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
41 weeks ago

Essex


"Sexually there is a type that I will shy away from, because unless you are 100% switch that’s a recipe for disaster…

Physically…. I don’t give a shiny shit. If I’m not attractive to someone they shouldn’t approach. What about you messaging/ approaching them?

Is there a physical type that you’d be shy about messaging"

No. I just don’t approach out of sheer laziness to be honest.

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By *stellaWoman
41 weeks ago

London


"Inspired by MrsAbz’s thread, do you ever feel like you’re not going to be someone’s type?

Like you think they’re too attractive? Or maybe they’re too slim/ athletic and they won’t like you?

Or do you not care and just shoot your shot regardless?

"

I feel this all the time.

And then I appear to go after people who are a pattern and not a healthy one.

So there’s a lot to unpack.

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By *hristopherd999Man
41 weeks ago

Brentwood


"Inspired by MrsAbz’s thread, do you ever feel like you’re not going to be someone’s type?

Like you think they’re too attractive? Or maybe they’re too slim/ athletic and they won’t like you?

Or do you not care and just shoot your shot regardless?

"

Constantly and no

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By *ou only live onceMan
41 weeks ago

London

I think I'm fairly good as sussing out when I won't be someone's type.

It's not that I think I'm unattractive, but I know I'm a fairly acquired taste in society writ large, so will assume I'm not someone's type until suggested otherwise.

On here, it can be pretty obvious - they might specify so on a profile - or their type is clear from the people they meet.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
41 weeks ago

Stratford

I have a few types. Sometimes I just know and it makes the banter and interactions incredible.

Other times I don’t think I’m there type at all, but we still have great interactions. Then they drop it to me that they just didn’t think I was interested and I look at them confused like ‘bruh ’

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By *ou only live onceMan
41 weeks ago

London

Oh, and I have more than one type - I'm greedy like that. But there is definitely one 'type' of mine that I know my chances with are more limited than others, if that makes sense...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"This is why I never approach anyone ever at anytime "

But it’s working out ok so don’t change

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"Sexually there is a type that I will shy away from, because unless you are 100% switch that’s a recipe for disaster…

Physically…. I don’t give a shiny shit. If I’m not attractive to someone they shouldn’t approach. What about you messaging/ approaching them?

Is there a physical type that you’d be shy about messaging

No. I just don’t approach out of sheer laziness to be honest. "

You’re such an icon I literally want to be you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"Sexually there is a type that I will shy away from, because unless you are 100% switch that’s a recipe for disaster…

Physically…. I don’t give a shiny shit. If I’m not attractive to someone they shouldn’t approach. What about you messaging/ approaching them?

Is there a physical type that you’d be shy about messaging

No. I just don’t approach out of sheer laziness to be honest.

You’re such an icon I literally want to be you"

There should be an ‘in’ somewhere in that sentence

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I never worry I’m my type’s type physically. I do take heed about being my type’s type in non physical ways. Mostly because I have a loud, direct, all over the place personality and that can be too much for someone who is my type and I’m theirs physically.

I can and have found someone aesthetically pleasing but their personality not at all. Equally, I’ve been amongst the company of someone who makes me feel like they find me physically attractive but they want to put up with my personality despite it not being for them. That is difficult to hide and just feels gross.

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By *indergirlWoman
41 weeks ago

somewhere, someplace

Too many insecurities to do the first approach so to speak, I tend to wait to be the one contacted. And over the years I've been surprised at who has approached me based on how they look, who they've met etc etc as I never thought they'd meet me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I think I'm fairly good as sussing out when I won't be someone's type.

It's not that I think I'm unattractive, but I know I'm a fairly acquired taste in society writ large, so will assume I'm not someone's type until suggested otherwise.

On here, it can be pretty obvious - they might specify so on a profile - or their type is clear from the people they meet."

I get you. I feel the assuming you’re not someone’s type until suggested otherwise bit especially on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I have a few types. Sometimes I just know and it makes the banter and interactions incredible.

Other times I don’t think I’m there type at all, but we still have great interactions. Then they drop it to me that they just didn’t think I was interested and I look at them confused like ‘bruh ’"

Ain’t no way a thicc girl didn’t think she was your type?! Ain’t no way!!!

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
41 weeks ago

Essex


"Sexually there is a type that I will shy away from, because unless you are 100% switch that’s a recipe for disaster…

Physically…. I don’t give a shiny shit. If I’m not attractive to someone they shouldn’t approach. What about you messaging/ approaching them?

Is there a physical type that you’d be shy about messaging

No. I just don’t approach out of sheer laziness to be honest.

You’re such an icon I literally want to be you

There should be an ‘in’ somewhere in that sentence"

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
41 weeks ago

Maidstone


"I have a few types. Sometimes I just know and it makes the banter and interactions incredible.

Other times I don’t think I’m there type at all, but we still have great interactions. Then they drop it to me that they just didn’t think I was interested and I look at them confused like ‘bruh ’

Ain’t no way a thicc girl didn’t think she was your type?! Ain’t no way!!!"

He's lying. I know I'm his type

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago


"I have a few types. Sometimes I just know and it makes the banter and interactions incredible.

Other times I don’t think I’m there type at all, but we still have great interactions. Then they drop it to me that they just didn’t think I was interested and I look at them confused like ‘bruh ’

Ain’t no way a thicc girl didn’t think she was your type?! Ain’t no way!!!

He's lying. I know I'm his type "

I know too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
41 weeks ago

Thanks everyone.

And remember to always consider, are you your type’s type?

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