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Telephone to heaven (grief)

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By *stella OP   Woman
42 weeks ago

London

My best mate’s father just died, and he’s just told me. Finding the words for him, when my own father passed just a year ago, and you know the grief is unbearable is difficult. There are no words, just love. In fact, the words “just love” were my father’s last words.

It made me want to have a telephone to heaven so I could speak to him directly again, and tell him all the things. And how much I just love him.

What would you be saying if you had a telephone to heaven?

Love to all those dealing with grief - solidarity.

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By *nked and Ms InkedCouple
42 weeks ago

nr wrexham

I’m so sorry for the loss, and the pain you’re both going through. Sending gentle healing hugs xx

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
42 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders


"My best mate’s father just died, and he’s just told me. Finding the words for him, when my own father passed just a year ago, and you know the grief is unbearable is difficult. There are no words, just love. In fact, the words “just love” were my father’s last words.

It made me want to have a telephone to heaven so I could speak to him directly again, and tell him all the things. And how much I just love him.

What would you be saying if you had a telephone to heaven?

Love to all those dealing with grief - solidarity.

"

Love to you and your friend, sometimes you don't need words. I like to think about sending hugs to my Mum and Dad and hope they feel it

My town has a little white and gold postbox you can write letters meant to heaven and post them. Such a good idea I think. Though I don't think I need to use it, happy sending my hugs into the ether

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By *inkygentkentMan
42 weeks ago

Maidstone

It is really difficult, isn't it? I miss telling my Dad about all the things I've been doing and hearing his words of advice. Really miss his sense of humour too

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By *o_yeur_eyes_onlyMan
42 weeks ago

Londontown

Sorry for your, and your friends, recent loss Estella. You're right, words don't really mean much in the face of death. Sometimes just being there, holding a hand, a long embrace, acts of service, checking in... make all the difference. Just love is a beautiful way of seeing things..... Sending just love and prayers your way

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By *stella OP   Woman
42 weeks ago

London

Thank you

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By *issmorganWoman
42 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I talk to my mum dad and sister everyday, even though they've all been gone a good while.

If I see something that reminds me of them or that they'd have laughed at, I tell them.

I think they're always with us and when someone is grieving it's good for them to be able to talk about ther loved one and know they are remembered.

Grief is such a hard personal road to go down.

I like the growing around grief model, where your grief is still there, but new experiences and events can mean there is still an enjoyment of life too.

Lots of love to anyone who is missing someone .

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

I give my messages to God and God passes them along. I’m grateful for her presence and the way in which she reminds me they are still there. God works in mysterious ways, but it’s no mystery that she’s allowing those we lost to live within us

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By *eliWoman
42 weeks ago

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Sending you love Estella.

The grief does feel insurmountable but then one day it doesn't lessen, it just becomes more manageable.

I'd probably call E. Tell her about all the things I've done that we'd wanted to do together. No actually, I wouldn't.

I'd tell her about the fingerprints of everyone who has touched my heart since. I'd tell her about the little signs of beauty I've found in my day, that day. Those things she'd excitedly send me photos of, her joy at being alive infectious. I'd tell her about the perfect ice cold drink I had in the morning, the snowdrops I excitedly clapped at finally seeing.

I'd tell her thank you for loving me - the scared little girl who spoke far too much about Greek mythology and Gothic literature. The angsty emo teen with rage and hurt and tiredness. The young woman who thought she had to do it all and shut everyone out so she could. Before she realised that love is far more of a superpower than we know. Not a weakness.

And she'd call me a soppy bitch once more and I'd know she still loves me.

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By *stella OP   Woman
42 weeks ago

London

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By *londebiguyMan
42 weeks ago

Southport


"My best mate’s father just died, and he’s just told me. Finding the words for him, when my own father passed just a year ago, and you know the grief is unbearable is difficult. There are no words, just love. In fact, the words “just love” were my father’s last words.

I would say to have such emotion and grief like this is a sign of a life lived well.

X

It made me want to have a telephone to heaven so I could speak to him directly again, and tell him all the things. And how much I just love him.

What would you be saying if you had a telephone to heaven?

Love to all those dealing with grief - solidarity.

"

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
42 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania


"My best mate’s father just died, and he’s just told me. Finding the words for him, when my own father passed just a year ago, and you know the grief is unbearable is difficult. There are no words, just love. In fact, the words “just love” were my father’s last words.

It made me want to have a telephone to heaven so I could speak to him directly again, and tell him all the things. And how much I just love him.

What would you be saying if you had a telephone to heaven?

Love to all those dealing with grief - solidarity.

"

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