FabSwingers.com forum: No internal monologue

By (user no longer on site) OP
42 weeks ago

So I just web-searched a question that I was curious about and it seems there ARE other people out there who also have the same or similar thing going on too. I've always wondered how people always have so so much to verbally express and chat about all the time, because my mind is usually fairly empty unless I'm consciously and actively focusing on thinking about something, which is why I enjoy texting and messaging much more than in person interaction.

Does anyone here have the same or similar thing themselves and what are you're experiences having it?

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

My mind is constantly loud and buzzing…it’s when it gets silent that I worry lol.

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By *stellaWoman
42 weeks ago

London

What I’d give for no internal monologue! It’s a cacophony in here!

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

I'm not the chattiest, but my head is always noisy with a million thoughts. I cannot comprehend having no internal monologue, it must be quite peaceful.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
42 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Interesting, mine never usually shuts up and I'm very quiet in person.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
42 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I’ve always been a kylie fan.

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By *eliWoman
42 weeks ago

I'd love that. I get brief moments of it during certain things but most of the time my mind is chaotic. Like right now I have about eight different things running through my mind.

Maybe I wouldn't actually like it that much. It would be a relief at first but I might find it disconcerting. Are you happy with it OP?

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
42 weeks ago

London

I don't have an internal monologue in the sense that I don't think in language but my mind is always racing at a million miles an hour so still very noisy with thoughts.

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By *oodmessMan
42 weeks ago

yumsville

Much the same OP. I don't mind calls much as I don't get them, though no, unless there's something needing my attention, I have a few things to do and plan to do them some time in the future otherwise it's like paper on a breeze.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
42 weeks ago

Reading

I enjoy listening as well as talking so I like a talkative person.

when I was younger I could talk for England but as I've gotten older I've become quieter.

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By *ealitybitesMan
42 weeks ago

Belfast

I do have an internal monologue but I suffer from aphantasia and anhedonia.

The former is an inability to fantasise and the latter an inability to experience pleasure.

Luckily I'm not at the extreme edge of the anhedonia spectrum as I'm ok in the moment so my internal monologue is more about what is happening right now rather than excitement or anticipation of something to come or an analysis of things that have already happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

mine is a voice over by Wylie Coyote

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By (user no longer on site) OP
42 weeks ago

"I'm not the chattiest, but my head is always noisy with a million thoughts. I cannot comprehend having no internal monologue, it must be quite peaceful. "

It's incredibly peaceful I must admit. You could probably hear a pin drop in there lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
42 weeks ago

"My mind is constantly loud and buzzing…it’s when it gets silent that I worry lol. "

May I ask why you get worrisome when you're mind goes quiet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
42 weeks ago

"What I’d give for no internal monologue! It’s a cacophony in here!"

Ah bless you Estella.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
42 weeks ago

"Interesting, mine never usually shuts up and I'm very quiet in person.

On the other hand, i'm quiet in person mainly because there's not much happening inside my mind lol.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
42 weeks ago

Cumbria

"I do have an internal monologue but I suffer from aphantasia and anhedonia.

The former is an inability to fantasise and the latter an inability to experience pleasure.

Aphantasia is really similar to lack of an internal monologue for me, in the sense that it’s really hard to conceive.

Genuinely hard to imagine not being able to visualise things.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

"My mind is constantly loud and buzzing…it’s when it gets silent that I worry lol.

May I ask why you get worrisome when your mind goes quiet?"

Hate silence lol x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
42 weeks ago

Central

It's great that I have this, as I'm able to ask myself so much.

Whilst dialogue is one style of being interactive, we can be beyond words, in silence

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By *edeWoman
42 weeks ago

the abyss

No inner monologue sounds heavenly. Mine is more like a d*unk debate team rave where no one likes me and doesn't mind saying so

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Narrator. - Woody reads the post, - nods in agreement with a smile which turns into a small laugh. …. He now shakes his head knowing that he knew he wasn’t the only one who has a friendly voice inside his head….

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By (user no longer on site) OP
42 weeks ago

"I'd love that. I get brief moments of it during certain things but most of the time my mind is chaotic. Like right now I have about eight different things running through my mind.

Maybe I wouldn't actually like it that much. It would be a relief at first but I might find it disconcerting. Are you happy with it OP?"

Awh do you think? Gosh! that sounds intense Meli. If that were me, by the end of the day or even by midday, I'd be knackered lol. It would be a bit strange at first probably, but then eventually you'd get used to it, perhaps.

Good question. Hm, well as my mind has always been this way, it just feels natural to me so I'm neither happy or unhappy with it, same thing with being on the spectrum I guess. It just 'is' if that makes sense? I love the peace it gives me, but also it can be hard to socialise too because my mind is fairly empty unless I really focus on actively thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

I usually have at least 5 conversations going on in my head at any time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
42 weeks ago

"My mind is constantly loud and buzzing…it’s when it gets silent that I worry lol.

May I ask why you get worrisome when your mind goes quiet?

Hate silence lol x"

Ahh I see!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
42 weeks ago

"No inner monologue sounds heavenly. Mine is more like a d*unk debate team rave where no one likes me and doesn't mind saying so

Oh jhee! That sounds.. interesting. Sorry to hear that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
42 weeks ago

"Narrator. - Woody reads the post, - nods in agreement with a smile which turns into a small laugh. …. He now shakes his head knowing that he knew he wasn’t the only one who has a friendly voice inside his head….

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By *lexm87Man
42 weeks ago

Various

"mine is a voice over by Wylie Coyote"

I had to think about this for a minute. It might be the deepest comment seen today.

Meep, meep

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By *eliWoman
42 weeks ago

"I'd love that. I get brief moments of it during certain things but most of the time my mind is chaotic. Like right now I have about eight different things running through my mind.

Maybe I wouldn't actually like it that much. It would be a relief at first but I might find it disconcerting. Are you happy with it OP?

It is intense but also... I like it. I like that my mind is constantly on the go and yet it can find respite and comfort in things. I like that I'm able to process several things, think about a multitude - it has, does and always will serve me well in work when you're having to think about multiple steps in order to achieve the desired outcome. The nuances, the little details that might be skipped over.

It just is makes perfect sense. Being neurospicy isn't a gift, but equally, it's not a curse. I hate when people say it's a strength. Or treat it like it's something bad. It's neither. It just is. Much the same way our minds different ways of operating is.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
42 weeks ago

North West

I don't really have an internal monologue. Nor can I easily visual things. If you ask me to imagine an apple in my mind, I won't "see" an apple. I obviously know what an apple looks like, but I can't conjure one up in my consciousness. Maybe I'm broken?

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By *onameyet2Man
42 weeks ago

chorley

Externally I’m always on the go but my mind is normally calm, I was in a very bad place a few years ago and had to retrain myself to stop all the chatter, it’s a nice place to be now

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
42 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

My mind is a constant myriad of thoughts and pictures, it moves fast and gets distracted easily.

One minute I'm concentrating on what on I'm doing next thing my mind is asking me what a tiger would like without stripes? Or how sad the Cows might never know when their birthday is?

Who invented socks? And wonder what the first sock was made from? Clouds, I love them....so many types, I always need to see what type of cloud it is in the sky so I'll then spend half an hour looking at the sky.

Then I forget what I was meant to be doing

before getting distracted again

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By *ad NannaWoman
42 weeks ago

East London

Do you count in your head?

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By *lexA68Man
42 weeks ago

Durham

No internal monologue, I just tend to do stuff and see what happens.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
42 weeks ago

London

"What I’d give for no internal monologue! It’s a cacophony in here!"

Same here. It never stops.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
42 weeks ago

Maidstone

Like most of the women who've contributed, I have constant thoughts (voices) in my head. If I spend more than a day on my own, I start talking them out loud.

Research (I presume scanners) show women's brains (including trans women) are wired differently.

OP, have you ever learnt a new language? Due to my heritage (Chinese Malaysian), I can speak four languages (most recent acquisition is BSL, British Sign Language).

I think in different languages too and when my brain started to think in sign language, it felt like a dormant part of my brain suddenly coming alive.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
42 weeks ago

Manchester

There's a video that was doing the rounds on social media a little while ago in which a guy interviews a woman because she said she has no internal monologue and he couldn't understand how that's possible. And, to be honest, me neither. I always have a monologue running. As I type this message I 'hear' the words in my mind. I'm always thinking - although I'm not saying that's a good thing. In fact, it contributes to anxiety because sometimes what I think about is how things could go wrong. Some peace and quiet would be nice and restful, I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Talking is a relief I can’t wait to get all my thoughts out there. With maturity comes listening skills. There are some wonderful perspectives, stories and points of view you learn from when you listen

Funnily enough if you think back to the person you’ve enjoyed talking to the most you’ll find they spent most of the time listening

So being quiet like the original poster makes you a sensational conversationalist in theory

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
42 weeks ago

Basingstoke

"Do you count in your head?"

I do this... a lot! Every step I take, when I'm chopping vegetables, listening to the clock ticking.

But I rarely have a voice in my head. Except when I'm overthinking

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
42 weeks ago

North West

"Like most of the women who've contributed, I have constant thoughts (voices) in my head. If I spend more than a day on my own, I start talking them out loud.

Research (I presume scanners) show women's brains (including trans women) are wired differently.

OP, have you ever learnt a new language? Due to my heritage (Chinese Malaysian), I can speak four languages (most recent acquisition is BSL, British Sign Language).

I think in different languages too and when my brain started to think in sign language, it felt like a dormant part of my brain suddenly coming alive."

I can switch between my brain operating in English and Spanish pretty easily, but it's not an actual voice or a monologue. I dunno how to describe it

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