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By *elix Sighted OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Cloud 8

This is, I assure you, a purely hypothetical situation. Not actual or hyper pathetic. But I been wondrin innit.

Imagine for a moment you fancy someone on fab. You would *love* to meet them but you know for sure they aren’t interested. There’s no innate incompatibility or derision, just a lack of lustful desire.

And imagine this person is regularly vocal about needing a right good see-un to, but never finding the right person.

If this person was to eventually reach out to you, would your dignity override your desire? Or would you accept fab is fab and it’s someone you want so what the hell?

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
42 weeks ago

Essex

I couldn’t be a desperation shag. No matter how fit I thought they were.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
42 weeks ago

your head

Nope. I've got no interesting in having sex with someone if the feeling isn't mutual.

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By *otmyrealname99Man
42 weeks ago

Manchester

I'm lost, you fancy them but there's no lustful desire?

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

How do I know for sure they aren't interested? Have they told me before ?

If I've never spoken to this person, and they got in touch , then the answer would be different to if they had declined to meet me prior, and were just at the any hole is a goal stage.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
42 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"This is, I assure you, a purely hypothetical situation. Not actual or hyper pathetic. But I been wondrin innit.

Imagine for a moment you fancy someone on fab. You would *love* to meet them but you know for sure they aren’t interested. There’s no innate incompatibility or derision, just a lack of lustful desire.

And imagine this person is regularly vocal about needing a right good see-un to, but never finding the right person.

If this person was to eventually reach out to you, would your dignity override your desire? Or would you accept fab is fab and it’s someone you want so what the hell?"

If they're reaching out then surely there's interest and attraction on their part?

Even if it takes a while to appear....

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By *eliWoman
42 weeks ago

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If they've made it clear there's not any desire I wouldn't have sex with them. I couldn't. Maybe with bucket loads of lube but once that's known I don't think I could go there.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago


"I couldn’t be a desperation shag. No matter how fit I thought they were.

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This op.

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By *estarossa.Woman
42 weeks ago

Flagrante

How do know for sure they aren't interested, and how do you know their reasons for eventually reaching out?

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Desperate

No.

Hanging on to something that will never happen... No

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By *oo..Woman
42 weeks ago

Boo's World

Pity fucks are never good, I'd say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago


"How do I know for sure they aren't interested? Have they told me before ?

If I've never spoken to this person, and they got in touch , then the answer would be different to if they had declined to meet me prior, and were just at the any hole is a goal stage. "

This also op.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
42 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Nope, if they weren't interested then, then I would not be interested now.

Sounds like a manipulation to me

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

If I know for sure they aren’t interested in me and then they contact me out of desperation. I’d politely decline the offer.

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
42 weeks ago

Durham

Ultimately, the decision to engage in casual sex is a personal choice that varies from person to person. It's important to be honest with yourself and your potential partners about your intentions and expectations to avoid misunderstandings.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

I'd meet them for a social because they can't fairly judge you by a couple of pics and text.

If they still ain't interested then I'm legging it out and they can pay for my coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

It sounds specific…

Ask her. What have you got to lose?

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago


"This is, I assure you, a purely hypothetical situation. Not actual or hyper pathetic. But I been wondrin innit.

Imagine for a moment you fancy someone on fab. You would *love* to meet them but you know for sure they aren’t interested. There’s no innate incompatibility or derision, just a lack of lustful desire.

And imagine this person is regularly vocal about needing a right good see-un to, but never finding the right person.

If this person was to eventually reach out to you, would your dignity override your desire? Or would you accept fab is fab and it’s someone you want so what the hell?"

Lusting over a fabber who you say isnt interested but she puts it that she needs a good shag but you are lusting over someone you cannot have. Is this certain she does not want you?

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By *affron40Woman
42 weeks ago

manchester

This is why I prefer to meet people at big socials. Then you just do or don’t connect and it’s really simple. If I ‘knew’ someone wasn’t interested I wouldn’t meet them one on one at all.

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By *hrek101Man
42 weeks ago

Herts

I assume any fuck is a pity fuck anyway

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By *elix Sighted OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Cloud 8


"It sounds specific…

Ask her. What have you got to lose? "

Ha! I knew someone would assume that! Honestly, it really isn’t. I just had one of those mind wandering thoughts in my head I wanted out there for other perspectives. For what it’s worth I wouldn’t be a last chance shag. Either they like me or you don’t and I wouldn’t mind being part of a small ‘roster’, but not as a backup for when they’ve exhausted all other avenues.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
42 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

Careful you don't wear out that think-noodle Felix

J

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
42 weeks ago

Worcester

Why would they reach out to you if they weren’t interested in you?

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By *amie HantsWoman
42 weeks ago

Atlantis

No if someone didn’t want me the way I wanted them then I’d lose interest pretty quickly. For me attraction grows in the moments of anticipation.

I wouldn’t wait around hoping to be a last resort if they get desperate enough. I am really really into myself and wouldn’t do that to me

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By *eroLondonMan
42 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"You would *love* to meet them but you know for sure they aren’t interested."

I would leave them alone in the first instance.


"If this person was to eventually reach out to you, would your dignity override your desire?"

I would press upon them their change of heart, get some affirmation that they are genuine from their renewed interest and take things from there. I would continue to think with my head until things developed before thinking of my desires.

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By *elix Sighted OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Cloud 8


"You would *love* to meet them but you know for sure they aren’t interested.

I would leave them alone in the first instance.

If this person was to eventually reach out to you, would your dignity override your desire?

I would press upon them their change of heart, get some affirmation that they are genuine from their renewed interest and take things from there. I would continue to think with my head until things developed before thinking of my desires."

A sound response. So not rejection out of hand but a chance for them to explain.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
42 weeks ago

Leeds

If the attraction isn't mutual no, I'm not being someone's quick fix or a desperation shag.

Mrs

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By *edeWoman
42 weeks ago

the abyss

If they reach out to me they must be fecking desperate so if I had the time then why not do myself a favour at the same time

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
42 weeks ago

East Sussex

I'm one of those people who loses all interest in people who aren't interested in me so by the time they got round to me it would be way to late.

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By *eroLondonMan
42 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"If they reach out to me they must be fecking desperate so if I had the time then why not do myself a favour at the same time "

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They were leaving the ultimate best until last.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

I know myself. I’d say yes in a heartbeat. Even though I know I shouldn’t and I should respect myself. I just don’t.

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By *a LunaWoman
42 weeks ago

South Wales


"I'm one of those people who loses all interest in people who aren't interested in me so by the time they got round to me it would be way to late."

This.

I like to be lusted after. Wanted. Adored even!

So if they showed no interest in me before, then no. They can go and seek carnal solace elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago


"I'm one of those people who loses all interest in people who aren't interested in me so by the time they got round to me it would be way to late.

This.

I like to be lusted after. Wanted. Adored even!

So if they showed no interest in me before, then no. They can go and seek carnal solace elsewhere."

I want that too. But I’m just so desperate to be wanted I’d say yes

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By *imi_RougeWoman
42 weeks ago

Portsmouth

No, because I want to be wanted for the right reasons.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
42 weeks ago

Somewhere else

https://youtu.be/-qgpewMCVjs?si=iIKMBfr5Jy9mKO-K

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By *elix Sighted OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Cloud 8


"I know myself. I’d say yes in a heartbeat. Even though I know I shouldn’t and I should respect myself. I just don’t. "

I’m ashamed to say that a small part of me thinks this too. Which is why I asked the question in the first place - because I believe I would still be tempted if it were someone I liked, even though they may have previously overlooked me (for everyone else in a 500 mile radius )

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By *ad NannaWoman
42 weeks ago

East London


"I'm one of those people who loses all interest in people who aren't interested in me so by the time they got round to me it would be way to late.

This.

I like to be lusted after. Wanted. Adored even!

So if they showed no interest in me before, then no. They can go and seek carnal solace elsewhere.

I want that too. But I’m just so desperate to be wanted I’d say yes "

Oh Pickle

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By *ad NannaWoman
42 weeks ago

East London

If they were seriously hot I'd be wondering why they reached out to me...for all of three seconds; then I'd say yes

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