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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have spent months trying to get my wife to see a single guy - she is wayyyyy to much into women and i wanted this as one for the pervy memory books - anyway spent ages getting her turned on by it - i took her to him - and waited out side the house as she went in -she was out in ten minutes saying the coffee cup she was given wasnt clean and the carpets were so dirty they crunched as she walked on them!!!

is she being fussy and what now!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you spent months persuading her, maybe she wasnt really up 4 it.

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

not in the least

just got higher standards than you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

excuse me, are you speaking for someone else?

It was a perhaps, just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol your right there!!!

as to being into it - she was very much so - just was really nervous about meeting on her own! - besides i thought it would help even out the over the top preference she has for women!!!! guess i was wrong lol

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon


"excuse me, are you speaking for someone else?

It was a perhaps, just my opinion"

sorry was refering to the op

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"excuse me, are you speaking for someone else?

It was a perhaps, just my opinion"

your fine i understood exactly what you were saying

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

may be she would be happier meeting in her own house with you out of sight but still on hand in case of any problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think i may shut up now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just sounds like an excuse to get out the house to me, im sure if it was a woman in the same house she wouldnt have left so quick, if she dont want to meet men you cant force her to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just out of interest, who chose the man and set the meet up, maybe i wont shut up yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just sounds like an excuse to get out the house to me, im sure if it was a woman in the same house she wouldnt have left so quick, if she dont want to meet men you cant force her to"

i had never thought of that! i will ask her later - although she assures me she was fine with it until she was put off by the dirty cup / carpet! she thought if he couldnt clean the carpet then what was his own hygiene like - i am not pushing any more - just see what happens - although i suspect your right - if a woman had been there would the cup have been over looked? would she have even got to a cup of coffee! lol guess not

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

dont blame her to be honest if she thought the house wernt very clean ,first impressions n that , ok she seems to have come round to meeting a single just give her time ,if it happens thats a bonus

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just out of interest, who chose the man and set the meet up, maybe i wont shut up yet"

oh i did! only because everytime she comes on line she keeps getting distracted by women .... i thought it would take ages if i left here with the pc .... i really am going to think this through again arent i

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of interest, who chose the man and set the meet up, maybe i wont shut up yet

oh i did! only because everytime she comes on line she keeps getting distracted by women .... i thought it would take ages if i left here with the pc .... i really am going to think this through again arent i "

i will now rest my case and shut up

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Lesbian tendancies perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally i dont see why you are pushing her to do this, your profile says you are straight, so would you let a guy shag your arse if she asked you too? maybe you would, i dont know you so have no idea, but just trying to make you think about the situation your putting her in, i fully understand men getting off on seeing their wifes with another man but if you know shes only doing it for you and not really enjoying it would you still find that a turn on? if the answers yes id be seriously worried baout you lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

It sounds very much like she didn't want to be there to me.....and no amount of persuading by you could make her stay there.

Just a thought though, why would you want to persuade your wife to do something she doesn't sound like she wants to do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lesbian tendancies perhaps? "

I dont think that was a fair comment - we got into this because of me and once in it she discovered she is really turned on by women - loves it in fact - women seem to be more enthusiastic in this and want it more and that turns her on - plus with women its not just banging away - her words not mine - to say that she has lesbian tendancies because of this isnt really fair - however her best night ever was a gang bang with 3 other women so what do i know!!!!!

seriously though - she is not opposed to men - far from it - i guess just it has to be the right type of guy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It sounds very much like she didn't want to be there to me.....and no amount of persuading by you could make her stay there.

Just a thought though, why would you want to persuade your wife to do something she doesn't sound like she wants to do?"

sorry to be boring but she did want to do it! she was nervous about how etc and without me - if you knew her then you would know that to be true - i went with her and i waited out side and there was no issues apart from it was not the right situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suggest a meet at ikea on a quiet day, use a show room, the carpets will be clean and the cups 2, take a flask

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"personally i dont see why you are pushing her to do this, your profile says you are straight, so would you let a guy shag your arse if she asked you too? maybe you would, i dont know you so have no idea, but just trying to make you think about the situation your putting her in, i fully understand men getting off on seeing their wifes with another man but if you know shes only doing it for you and not really enjoying it would you still find that a turn on? if the answers yes id be seriously worried baout you lol"

no of course not .... if she didnt want to do it that would be the end of it ....

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Arranging for her to fuck single men is'nt going to make anyless Bi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"personally i dont see why you are pushing her to do this, your profile says you are straight, so would you let a guy shag your arse if she asked you too? maybe you would, i dont know you so have no idea, but just trying to make you think about the situation your putting her in, i fully understand men getting off on seeing their wifes with another man but if you know shes only doing it for you and not really enjoying it would you still find that a turn on? if the answers yes id be seriously worried baout you lol

no of course not .... if she didnt want to do it that would be the end of it ...."

well she didnt want to do it, so guess thats the end of it then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Arranging for her to fuck single men is'nt going to make anyless Bi "

this is probably going to promote a lot of heat in here but i think it will a) be a turn on for her to come back and tell me in detail - especially as she doesnt do either single guys or guys that much and b) it will give her some time on the hetro side of things because some men out there are good!

she may have this bi thing a little out of balance - just a thought and one i will now no doubt get hung for

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"

Arranging for her to fuck single men is'nt going to make anyless Bi

this is probably going to promote a lot of heat in here but i think it will a) be a turn on for her to come back and tell me in detail - especially as she doesnt do either single guys or guys that much and b) it will give her some time on the hetro side of things because some men out there are good!

she may have this bi thing a little out of balance - just a thought and one i will now no doubt get hung for "

It still all sounds like it is what YOU think she might like and what YOU think she wants.

It sounds like she doesn't want the same thing as you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"personally i dont see why you are pushing her to do this, your profile says you are straight, so would you let a guy shag your arse if she asked you too? maybe you would, i dont know you so have no idea, but just trying to make you think about the situation your putting her in, i fully understand men getting off on seeing their wifes with another man but if you know shes only doing it for you and not really enjoying it would you still find that a turn on? if the answers yes id be seriously worried baout you lol

no of course not .... if she didnt want to do it that would be the end of it ....

well she didnt want to do it, so guess thats the end of it then "

if she says no then it is!!!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Are you being non pushy enough to give her the choice to say no?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Push her too hard and you may end up pushing her away.......I would be very careful with this as it does'nt sound as if she really wants to play with the men at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u know i believe in karma and u just might push her into the arms of another single guy who is not a pushy git who is more concerned with his own gratification than hers!!

away to burn my bra in disgust!!if i could find the bloody thing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as much chance of making her less bi as there is making me read every instruction manuel from front to back with every electrical item I buy before plugging it in............

just not gonna happen lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol just knew i would get hung for it!!! ------- just shown her all the updated messages

her response to the ladies is 'thankyou for being so nice' and her response to me is ' i deserve all i get for being so pushy and a bloke lol'

ok i will end this now and go and run my lovely wife a hot bubble bath and pour her a nice glass of wine xxx

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Well i deffo know if we showed up for any kinda meet and the place was anthing but clean we would also be heading out the door too

Steve

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

this is why in another post i said as a single guy meeting cpls.

I like to talk to the lady. to find out what she want to do as i have found some times it`s not the same as the hubby wants to happen.

and as far as i`m concerned the lady has the last word

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"lol just knew i would get hung for it!!! ------- just shown her all the updated messages

her response to the ladies is 'thankyou for being so nice' and her response to me is ' i deserve all i get for being so pushy and a bloke lol'

ok i will end this now and go and run my lovely wife a hot bubble bath and pour her a nice glass of wine xxx"

Ah now that sounds like a wise woman to me

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"this is why in another post i said as a single guy meeting cpls.

I like to talk to the lady. to find out what she want to do as i have found some times it`s not the same as the hubby wants to happen.

and as far as i`m concerned the lady has the last word "

There are two to a couple, the BOTH of us have the last word when it comes to our meets.

If a single male only wanted to speak to me and dismiss what the male half wanted to add we wouldn't dream of meeting him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol just knew i would get hung for it!!! ------- just shown her all the updated messages

her response to the ladies is 'thankyou for being so nice' and her response to me is ' i deserve all i get for being so pushy and a bloke lol'

ok i will end this now and go and run my lovely wife a hot bubble bath and pour her a nice glass of wine xxx"

add some flowers and wine and chocolates and a nice expensive pressie!!! xx

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon


"this is why in another post i said as a single guy meeting cpls.

I like to talk to the lady. to find out what she want to do as i have found some times it`s not the same as the hubby wants to happen.

and as far as i`m concerned the lady has the last word

There are two to a couple, the BOTH of us have the last word when it comes to our meets.

If a single male only wanted to speak to me and dismiss what the male half wanted to add we wouldn't dream of meeting him."

never ment it to sound as if i cut out the hubby i dont but lots times when they get to my house its only the hubby who has made all the arangments

so finding out what the lady likes as well seems right to me.

as with this thread she some times does not know what has been said before hand

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"this is why in another post i said as a single guy meeting cpls.

I like to talk to the lady. to find out what she want to do as i have found some times it`s not the same as the hubby wants to happen.

and as far as i`m concerned the lady has the last word

There are two to a couple, the BOTH of us have the last word when it comes to our meets.

If a single male only wanted to speak to me and dismiss what the male half wanted to add we wouldn't dream of meeting him.

never ment it to sound as if i cut out the hubby i dont but lots times when they get to my house its only the hubby who has made all the arangments

so finding out what the lady likes as well seems right to me.

as with this thread she some times does not know what has been said before hand "

Totally agree,and there should be communication with both half of the couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Arranging for her to fuck single men is'nt going to make anyless Bi

this is probably going to promote a lot of heat in here but i think it will a) be a turn on for her to come back and tell me in detail - especially as she doesnt do either single guys or guys that much and b) it will give her some time on the hetro side of things because some men out there are good!

she may have this bi thing a little out of balance - just a thought and one i will now no doubt get hung for

It still all sounds like it is what YOU think she might like and what YOU think she wants.

It sounds like she doesn't want the same thing as you."
I was thinking the same thing. She should be able to choose who she wants to play with and you seem concerned she's spending too much time with the ladies. Dont see why you're pushing this if she's not 100% up for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Arranging for her to fuck single men is'nt going to make anyless Bi

this is probably going to promote a lot of heat in here but i think it will a) be a turn on for her to come back and tell me in detail - especially as she doesnt do either single guys or guys that much and b) it will give her some time on the hetro side of things because some men out there are good!

she may have this bi thing a little out of balance - just a thought and one i will now no doubt get hung for

It still all sounds like it is what YOU think she might like and what YOU think she wants.

It sounds like she doesn't want the same thing as you. I was thinking the same thing. She should be able to choose who she wants to play with and you seem concerned she's spending too much time with the ladies. Dont see why you're pushing this if she's not 100% up for it."

i guess i deserve this! - she is now in the bath smiling at my 'sillyness; - apparenty i deserve all i get for posting my thoughts in to the forum and that that will teach me! - i honestly wouldnt push her into anything - we do have fantasys that are different to each others and from time to time we act them out to give each other pleasure - i guess this is more mine than hers but if she didnt want to do it i would never go there - sorry if i offended anyone!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Pour youself a glass of that wine and relax

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pour youself a glass of that wine and relax "

blooming good idea! i have a bottle and its mine lol nite nite and Merry Christmas!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"i have spent months trying to get my wife to see a single guy - "

NO...... she didn't want to do it.

If Jason ever tried to push me into something that I wasn't keen on, we'd stop swinging and I'd probably divorce him.

You my friend, are out for yourself.

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

I think I would be more into women than single men. untill we get in to the swing of it lol were happy meeting couples. I do enjoy it a lot. It is a big bonus if the lady is bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont blame her clean houses are a must for any meet

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I think she should meet on her own like me x

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"I suggest a meet at ikea on a quiet day, use a show room, the carpets will be clean and the cups 2, take a flask"

pmsl!

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"this is why in another post i said as a single guy meeting cpls.

I like to talk to the lady. to find out what she want to do as i have found some times it`s not the same as the hubby wants to happen.

and as far as i`m concerned the lady has the last word

There are two to a couple, the BOTH of us have the last word when it comes to our meets.

If a single male only wanted to speak to me and dismiss what the male half wanted to add we wouldn't dream of meeting him.

never ment it to sound as if i cut out the hubby i dont but lots times when they get to my house its only the hubby who has made all the arangments

so finding out what the lady likes as well seems right to me.

as with this thread she some times does not know what has been said before hand "

I as another seasoned swinger very much agree with the comments of oldgit! I met a couple where the lady was only playing to please her husband, who for medical reasons could no longer perform. For me to partake in activity she was not completely comfortable with woulf be tantamount to rape. I hate to admit this in the forums but I feined brewers droop to extract her from the situation.

I'm sure he will try to find someone else.........and this will probably be where she packs his bags for good!

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By *artin216Man
over a year ago

Spilsby


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Arranging for her to fuck single men is'nt going to make anyless Bi

this is probably going to promote a lot of heat in here but i think it will a) be a turn on for her to come back and tell me in detail - especially as she doesnt do either single guys or guys that much and b) it will give her some time on the hetro side of things because some men out there are good!

she may have this bi thing a little out of balance - just a thought and one i will now no doubt get hung for

It still all sounds like it is what YOU think she might like and what YOU think she wants.

It sounds like she doesn't want the same thing as you. I was thinking the same thing. She should be able to choose who she wants to play with and you seem concerned she's spending too much time with the ladies. Dont see why you're pushing this if she's not 100% up for it.

i guess i deserve this! - she is now in the bath smiling at my 'sillyness; - apparenty i deserve all i get for posting my thoughts in to the forum and that that will teach me! - i honestly wouldnt push her into anything - we do have fantasys that are different to each others and from time to time we act them out to give each other pleasure - i guess this is more mine than hers but if she didnt want to do it i would never go there - sorry if i offended anyone!!! "

I can understand why people will push boundaries, its what its all about, sounds like it was no more than a misjudgement on your part as to where exactly your wife draws her line.

I feel a lot of the comments made by others are similar to my first thoughts when i seen this thread, i have met women who were not comfortable being pushed, but there husbands wernt prepared to accept it.

Its good you came back though and swallowed up the onslaught, for your sillyness....most people would never admit they made a mistake...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely swinging is only really good when you are all relaxed - consenting and enjoying yourselves. With the months of pressure put on to her to perform your tasks I bet she was more clenched and uptight and stressed than ever. Imagine if the roles were reversed and you were being pushed to do anal with a guy by her - how would you feel? Would you find it really relaxing knowing that she was outside in the car because you had enjoyed being with women too much and she wanted to see your bi side. We rekon she should get the dildo talcum powder and sandpaper out and pressure you into it lol!

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine


"just sounds like an excuse to get out the house to me, im sure if it was a woman in the same house she wouldnt have left so quick, if she dont want to meet men you cant force her to

i had never thought of that! i will ask her later - although she assures me she was fine with it until she was put off by the dirty cup / carpet! she thought if he couldnt clean the carpet then what was his own hygiene like - i am not pushing any more - just see what happens - although i suspect your right - if a woman had been there would the cup have been over looked? would she have even got to a cup of coffee! lol guess not "
think theres been a lot of answers that you dont like on here and are speaking for both of you ,so why dont you leave the pc to the mrs give her a bit of time on it on her own and let HER come in here and answer most of the forum users ,and if you leave on her own to answer most of this topic you might see where this is going....just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with her then you can watch and maybe she will feel comfortable with you there.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm the months persuading bit would ring alarm bells

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For what is obviously a huge step for her you should have perhaps paid attention to her comfort levels and invited the guy to your own home where she'd have felt on safer and familiar territory. Just an observation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

HI All

Just thought i would pop in - This is the Wife - or Sandie to those that know me - i just want to say thank you - it has been lovely reading all the messages and for the most part you are all quite right in what you say - those that know me understand i am keen on the bi side in this - which is funny as i had never thought of it until hubby suggested we play - having said that i am happy to some extent to act out the odd fantasy or two as i would hate to say no unless i really had given it some thought - having said that i have found that reality is not as exciting as the dream when it comes to single guys and i am reluctant to have my bubble burst any more - still going to play with cpls and i am estatic to play with bi fems - im even more pleased with what a absolute lovely bunch you all are xxxxx and thanks for not being so hard on the bloke in this relationship xxxxx

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