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By (user no longer on site) OP   
43 weeks ago

Hi all my female best friend say she coming to see me then she says she not then it seems she only wants me to help herself days she been funny towards me over last month

And tonight she ask me mind her son while she went out go out on a date witch I was please for her but 10 minuted later I had to goto to mums as she need help family comes 1st. I try to call my friend to emtell but she didn't answer. Then she called me asking were am I I said I need to help mum n she went of phone.

I hope I am not gonna lose her but I feel she not much of friend lately I feel guilty for letting her down but she let me down few times now I think I lost her

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
43 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

You're right, family comes first. Maybe have a chat with her and tell her how you feel

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By *udding RoseWoman
43 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

Your family are important too, you have to be there for your mother when she needs you!! Family come First.

It seems like your friend is messing you about and taking advantage of your good nature.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
43 weeks ago


"You're right, family comes first. Maybe have a chat with her and tell her how you feel"
inam when she calls me I would perfer face to face meet with her she been funny with me over last month or so

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
43 weeks ago


"Your family are important too, you have to be there for your mother when she needs you!! Family come First.

It seems like your friend is messing you about and taking advantage of your good nature. "
am thinking thqt she will say I don't realieses am doing it

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By *ou only live onceMan
43 weeks ago

London

On the basis of this and last night's thread, OP, I think you and your friend need a good chat to work things out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
43 weeks ago


"On the basis of this and last night's thread, OP, I think you and your friend need a good chat to work things out. "
last night spent time with her son but today is diffarqnt I do need to chqr with her

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By *ndycoinsMan
43 weeks ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

She is playing you for a fool.Tell her to do one,she's no friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
42 weeks ago


"She is playing you for a fool.Tell her to do one,she's no friend."
she doesn't feel like one at the minute

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By *adCherriesCouple
42 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"She is playing you for a fool.Tell her to do one,she's no friend."

This, tell her where to go, block and delete

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

I think you need to have a chat with your friend and let her know how you feel and set some boundaries, because it sounds like she’s taking advantage of your kindness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
42 weeks ago


"I think you need to have a chat with your friend and let her know how you feel and set some boundaries, because it sounds like she’s taking advantage of your kindness. "
think she is iknw whqt she is gonna say don't realise she doing it

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan
42 weeks ago

Little clacton

Sounds like she`s just using you

I`d just ignore her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
42 weeks ago


"Sounds like she`s just using you

I`d just ignore her

"
easy said and donee

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
42 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think you and your friend need a good chat. If she says she doesn't realise she's doing it tell her that now you've told her that her behaviour is upsetting you, you expect her to realise in future and stop acting that way. It's all about boundaries, they can be difficult to set but if you're clear about what you find acceptable it helps.

You might hear some things from her that you don't like and she might want to put some of her own boundaries in place.

Good luck with your chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
42 weeks ago


"I think you and your friend need a good chat. If she says she doesn't realise she's doing it tell her that now you've told her that her behaviour is upsetting you, you expect her to realise in future and stop acting that way. It's all about boundaries, they can be difficult to set but if you're clear about what you find acceptable it helps.

You might hear some things from her that you don't like and she might want to put some of her own boundaries in place.

Good luck with your chat. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
42 weeks ago


"I think you and your friend need a good chat. If she says she doesn't realise she's doing it tell her that now you've told her that her behaviour is upsetting you, you expect her to realise in future and stop acting that way. It's all about boundaries, they can be difficult to set but if you're clear about what you find acceptable it helps.

You might hear some things from her that you don't like and she might want to put some of her own boundaries in place.

Good luck with your chat. "
thanka for thqt

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
42 weeks ago

East Sussex

You're welcome Derek

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
42 weeks ago


"You're welcome Derek"
she won't speak to me now

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
42 weeks ago

East Sussex


"You're welcome Derek she won't speak to me now"

Is that after you tried having the boundary setting conversation?

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

This sounds like you want more than friends and she knows that and is taking advantage of your kindness

Drop the dead weight mate, you’ll be better off without her

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By *rispyDuckMan
42 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Sounds like it’s a ‘1 sided’ friendship & you being used mate . Take the advised people have said & don’t be afraid to cut people off that a leeching on your good nature . Friends come & go like a revolving door

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By *rispyDuckMan
42 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Don’t play 2nd place the back up man!

The kids call it being ‘a simp’

You are no1 champ

If she’s a real friend will treat you better

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

I feel for you Derek as you sound like a good friend to her and obviously we are hearing just a snapshot of the friendship but it does sound very one sided if she can’t understand you needed to put family as the priority in this instance then she clealry a very selfish individual, my advice would be to leave her now and end all communication if she does value the friendship she will be in touch … and then you can have the conversation as recommended above. Hope it works out

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago


"Don’t play 2nd place the back up man!

The kids call it being ‘a simp’

You are no1 champ

If she’s a real friend will treat you better "

My man

Too right. Gotta ask yourself. If a man treated you this way, would you be asking a forum for advice?

Don’t let a pretty face and some tits cloud your judgement. She’s treating you like a fool and your letting her coz she’s got a vagina

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
42 weeks ago

Southampton


"Hi all my female best friend say she coming to see me then she says she not then it seems she only wants me to help herself days she been funny towards me over last month

And tonight she ask me mind her son while she went out go out on a date witch I was please for her but 10 minuted later I had to goto to mums as she need help family comes 1st. I try to call my friend to emtell but she didn't answer. Then she called me asking were am I I said I need to help mum n she went of phone.

I hope I am not gonna lose her but I feel she not much of friend lately I feel guilty for letting her down but she let me down few times now I think I lost her "

Ah that's pretty rubbish.. I'm sorry this has happened... hope you are able to sort things out x

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By *oodmessMan
42 weeks ago

yumsville

If it's only been a day or couple of days since whatever has happened, and if you've called/left a text then it's for her to have a think, calm down and get in touch. You have done as much as you can to get in touch, so give some space and leave it for a while - there is no point pestering as it only winds people up.

The working week starts Monday so she'll be busy so don't expect anything. If she doesn't get in touch all week, try again toward the latter end of the week. If she's still not replying, then she's made the decision about friendship not you.

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By *ascaIMan
42 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

You only get one mum, you’ll find other ‘friends’ like her. Whatever the outcome you did the right thing.

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By *ellaboo400Couple
42 weeks ago

Gorebridge

That's awful, sometimes people mistake kindness for weakness I'm afraid. If my friend did that to me I would have to think twice about being friends with them at all x

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By *uiet_69Man
42 weeks ago

Near

I will pray for you

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By *ellinever70Woman
42 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Were you looking after her son when you got the phone call from your mum?

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By *orny-DJMan
42 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea


"You're welcome Derek she won't speak to me now"

Then I'd say that tells you everything you need to know about her.

She clearly knows she's been taking the piss and now that you're bringing it up, instead of showing any consideration for you, she'll simply move onto the next chap she can use.

You're far better off without people like her in your life, I'm afraid.

She's no friend

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By *ora the explorerWoman
42 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Sounds like she’s taking advantage of your good nature Derek x

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By *agic johnsonMan
42 weeks ago

morden

Dude , do what every woman on here does to me lol , ignore her ,reverse the role ,if she sees the error of her ways maybe she could change , but you should only give a person one chance imo ,once bitten and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Well, there’s one side of the story……

If it’s true, dude, and that’s how it played out, if she decides she will only be your friend when you’re doing something for her, I can tell you now you don’t need a friend like that.

I bet you, she’s telling a different side of the story to her mates.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
42 weeks ago

Southampton


"Dude , do what every woman on here does to me lol , ignore her ,reverse the role ,if she sees the error of her ways maybe she could change , but you should only give a person one chance imo ,once bitten and all that "

Every woman?? Nothing quite like generalising....

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