FabSwingers.com forum: Are winks a waste of time?

By *hatismyrealname OP Man
41 weeks ago

Canterbury

Would appreciate your thoughts people.

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
41 weeks ago

In the clouds

I ignore them

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By *ittlebirdWoman
41 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Pretty much

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By *ure_heatMan
41 weeks ago

Solihull

Nah - I always review mine. Useful for starting a convo when there's a mutual attraction / mutual winking.

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By *eroLondonMan
41 weeks ago

Mayfair

I find them somewhat pointless and perfunctory in their use. I rarely check my winks and I never send them.

I suspect they are more useful to couples to gauge an interest...I think...

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
41 weeks ago

manchester

"Would appreciate your thoughts people."

We only respond to male winks.

We won’t respond to messages as stated.

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By *xl PoseMan
41 weeks ago

West Lothian

I've winked in the past & then been blocked!, so i don't bother anymore

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By *r SproutMan
41 weeks ago

the middle

I don’t look at mine and I don’t send them. I’d rather send a message

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By *lan157Man
41 weeks ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

They are pointless .

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
41 weeks ago

Gloucester

We use them to show we are interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I understand why ppl use them but I personally don't really look or respond to winks.

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By *affron40Woman
41 weeks ago

manchester

I don’t look at them

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By *illy IdolMan
41 weeks ago

Midlands

I've met a few on here which started from a wink, so I'd say they're definitely not a waste of time

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

They're incredibly important events in my life.

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By *obilebottomMan
41 weeks ago

All over

They are ok to show an initial interest

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By *i-Guy-75Man
41 weeks ago

"Would appreciate your thoughts people."

No, especially for us introverts

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By *naswingdressWoman
41 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I ignore them.

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By *xfordjohnMan
41 weeks ago

Oxford

I think they had meaning once upon a time but now I can't understand why people send them when they obviously have no intention of following up or expecting a reply. I mostly ignore them now.

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By *hatismyrealname OP Man
41 weeks ago

Canterbury

Thanks everyone - a complete cross section of views , lol.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
41 weeks ago

Essex

I’ll look very occasionally..

I’ve winked back twice.. got ignored…

Yeah. Pretty much a waste

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By *omRachCouple
41 weeks ago

Wirral

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By *ueerKinkyCoupleCouple
41 weeks ago

Cambridge (She/They And They/Them)

I look at the profiles of winkers but I’d only get in touch with them if they had a decent profile, public pics and they were a good match.

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By *omRachCouple
41 weeks ago

Wirral

We tend to ignore winkers, if you want to talk to us then just message us (simples)

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By *bi HaiveMan
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41 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

For men to send out? Quite possibly. They'll generally be lost in a large pule.

For men to recieve? Hell no. I've met many that initiated contact via a wink.

But then it's easier for guys to keep tabs on what will be a much lower number, much like messages.

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By *entleman of FortuneMan
41 weeks ago

Hull

Bit of a strange one most women ignore them, I don't send them for that reason, but at the same time I receive winks from ladies, from some of the same lady's that say they ignore winks. Bit of a strange one really.

Assume it's a volume thing, guys generally get nothing consistently - women's profiles are a different world often with hundreds of messages.

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By *londebiguyMan
41 weeks ago

Southport

I've had meets from them.

Even good chats and friends on the site from them.

So I say wink away

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By *ittle. BeaverWoman
41 weeks ago

Launceston

Yup! I never remember to check them. Same goes for the random friends requests

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41 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I don't look at them and I don't think I've sent one either. I'd rather just send a message.

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By *ellaboo400Couple
41 weeks ago

Gorebridge

I check mine and most are single men which were not looking for but we've had a few conversations start from a wink. I see it as a polite non pushy way of saying were interested in talking to you but no pressure so I don't see why people hate it so much especially when everyone complains about the messages they receive, not everyone reads every profile so seeing someone you like and sending a wink without reading a novel is a great way to start something I think

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By *ife NinjaMan
41 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Completely useless

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
41 weeks ago

Debauchery

We ignore them, we tell people we ignore them right at the top of our profile in bold writing and they still keep sending them *facepalm* it filters out the people who can’t or won’t read I guess?

Hades

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By *edeWoman
41 weeks ago

the abyss

Uuhh to me yes as I don't use or look at them

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Waste fecking time.

Get real

Send msg

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By *hunky GentMan
41 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Blimey it's hard enough to get a reply to a message, never mind a wink.

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By *aomilatteCouple
41 weeks ago

Midlands

Pointless to some but not others. We've had winks that have led to a hot meet, 99% lead to nothing.

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By *LiamMan
41 weeks ago

Midlands

Yes.

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By *wannafreakyouMan
41 weeks ago

london

When I first jumped on here I was using them a lot but got nothing back lol. Now I don’t send them but if someone I like the look of winks at me I’ll wink back to show I’m interested

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
41 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I like them

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By *olfandtazCouple
41 weeks ago

Bristol

We do check ours and message couples if we like how they look

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By *orksguy1965Man
41 weeks ago

Howden

I wink just to show im interested in them and hope it will be a icebreaker.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
41 weeks ago

Reading

I look at them and sometimes wink back.i would rather a wink than a hi.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
41 weeks ago

Maidstone

Not with me

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
41 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Winks? I think they’re cute.

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By *olarbear73Man
41 weeks ago

Glasgow

They’ve worked for me

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By *r TriomanMan
40 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I respond to the ones that I received, if if it's a man that's winked; I just send a polite "no thanks" message.

However, winks that I send out to single females or MF couples are mostly ignored; which is why I very, Very rarely send them.

Winks a waste of time? Yes they are when it's me sending them; no, when it's me receiving them.

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By *ssex-coupleCouple
40 weeks ago

clacton on sea

We’d really rather someone just hello than winked at us.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
40 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire

depends who from!

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By *ust want fun 888Man
40 weeks ago

nearby

I’m beginning to think so, and also think messaging is a waste of time as well

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
40 weeks ago

London

I think they're fine, I've been happily winked at now and again

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By *orny-DJMan
40 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

"I ignore them"

Me too

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By *restonCouple555Couple
40 weeks ago

preston

If we're interested in the profile we'll send a message.

If the profile isn't complete enough to know if we're interested or not, we'll send a wink on the off-chance. Nothing to lose, and from time to time it pays off.

Must be nice to be so in-demand you don't even bother to look at your winks. We like getting them, even when nothing comes of it.

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40 weeks ago

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By *randmrsbigboobsCouple
40 weeks ago

romsey

Not necessarily

I do look through them time to time and sometimes message a profile that has winked us

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
40 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

They are harmless and have worked in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Don’t think they are

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
40 weeks ago

London or Bedford

TRUE - Stopped using them yeeeeaaaars ago

And if a lady Winks me, I ignore it...Coz I’m petty

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
40 weeks ago

Middle England

We find them a waste of time. Even if we wink back it doesn't go anywhere. We prefer just to meet face to face.

It's quite possibly a throw back to speed dating. Don't think it's really relevant today.

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By *HE ONLY PLAN IS NO PLANMan
40 weeks ago

Westmidlands

Well said Bellaboo ,a non pushy way of showing an interest in a couple /profile .

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By *agnar1980Man
40 weeks ago

Poole

I send winks to see if there is an interest there. I know I should send a message but couples & females get so many messages, I just feel a wink is better than a quick hi message. Let’s them know you are interested & leads them to my rubbish profile. lol

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By *lint-EverhardMan
40 weeks ago

Perpignan and cap

I like em, both giving and recieving. "Hey there, take a look" type of thing.

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast

I've had winks from profiles and when I've winked back that's the end of the interaction.

If you send a wink and it is responded to then it's up to you to make the first move in regard to messaging. It's not up to the person you've winked.

In the past I've had people wink and follow it up immediately with a message that just said "Sent you a wink there" or "Just winked you".

Again when I've winked back or replied to say that I had, the conversation doesn't go any further.

If winks are really to gauge interest then who's interest is being gauged?

Your own or the person you are winking?

Some seem to use them as a lazy way to get others to do all the heavy lifting and start the conversation.

I've just looked at my winks now and there are some going back over a year that I've never seen before so that tells you how often I look at them.

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By *otuseater11Man
40 weeks ago

IRVINE

Still use them great way of starting a conversation.

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By *ackonceagain1777Couple
40 weeks ago

West Mids

We quite like them x

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By *apiomanMan
40 weeks ago

Shipley

I think they are preferable to a one line cut and paste message.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
40 weeks ago

Flagrante

"Would appreciate your thoughts people."

We bulk delete them but do say this in our profile

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By *ysizeMan
40 weeks ago

Nottingham

Well I like a cheeky little wink,

You never know where they might lead

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By *imply DeeWoman
40 weeks ago

Wherever

Only use them while playing forum games, useless otherwise but I understand how it can work for some.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
40 weeks ago

Leeds

We have had some good meets that started with a wink, so not always a waste of time.

Mrs

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By *ee VianteWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I check my winks and if someone I find interesting winks at me, I wink back.

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
40 weeks ago

Gloucester

It’s a shame a lot of people seem to ignore them. We will wink back if interested in who sends us winks then usually wait for them to message. If we wink first and get a wink back we will send a message introducing ourselves. If we aren’t interested we just delete the wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Yes sad to say

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By *ris GrayMan
40 weeks ago

Dorchester

They are the bees knees to me

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By *luebutterflyCouple
40 weeks ago

Sphincter on Sea

We look at them but very rarely wink back. We prefer a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

It's another thing to keep track of, so I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Utterly pointless. Our profile asks people not to send them, message instead. We get plenty of winks but very few messages..

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By *restonCouple555Couple
40 weeks ago

preston

TBH winks wouldn't be pointless if people understood how to use them correctly.

Sent wink: "I/We have seen your profile and like it, I/we would appreciate it if you would look at ours to see if you like it, are return a wink if you do."

Returned wink: "I/We have seen your profile and like it too, and I am/we are signalling now that a private message would be welcome."

It's a very good and simple way of facilitating introductions while avoiding too much embarrassment or disappointment for either party. The British are after all reputed internationally for their expertise in social etiquette. Clearly that reputation is somewhat ill-founded, but the fact remains that good manners work well as long as everyone has them.

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By *riel13Woman
40 weeks ago

Northampton

Depends who you're winking, I think

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Doesn’t matter. I’m gon send them anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I send more winks than messages and quite often get a response. I also always check mine and respond if I'm interested.

I hate sending a bunch of well thought out messages and getting no response for some other reason, just feels like I've wasted so much time and effort.

So winks only take a second and don't waste anyone's time, better than just saying "Hi!"

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By *stbury DavenportMan
40 weeks ago

Nottingham

Apparently so. I try them anyway, though. Just in case there's anyone who doesn't ignore them.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

They’ve been the starting point of a few conversations for me … seems loads don’t even look at them but clearly some do

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By *entleswinger69Man
40 weeks ago

Plymouth

Yes absolutely

Very rare so people reply, and yes I know I’m not for everyone but yeah I don’t think they work much at all.

Saying that I always reply to winks

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"Thanks everyone - a complete cross section of views , lol. "

What else did you expect from a forum made up of different people from different walks if life

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
40 weeks ago

Durham

I believe it’s subjective as they can be used to represent flirtation, playfulness, or a sign of agreement. However, mainly they’re widely accepted as a not very useful.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
40 weeks ago

Central

No. I use them and meets have resulted from them.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
40 weeks ago

Middle England

"TBH winks wouldn't be pointless if people understood how to use them correctly.

Sent wink: "I/We have seen your profile and like it, I/we would appreciate it if you would look at ours to see if you like it, are return a wink if you do."

Returned wink: "I/We have seen your profile and like it too, and I am/we are signalling now that a private message would be welcome."

^^ This. We send a wink back if we've received one and checked out the profile of the one who initiated it. That's as it were the opening gambit. However, that's where the trail stops.

So why did the person send the first wink; are they then expecting us to do all the arranging, chasing up, messages??

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By *eroLondonMan
40 weeks ago

Mayfair

I'm sorry but I don't fully agree.

"...winks wouldn't be pointless if people understood how to use them correctly."

What is there to understand? It's a simple click and not an apparatus of levers and pulleys. The end result is still the same even if your whimsical method below is applied...

"Sent wink: "I/We have seen your profile and like it, I/we would appreciate it if you would look at ours to see if you like it, are return a wink if you do.""

"Returned wink: "I/We have seen your profile and like it too, and I am/we are signalling now that a private message would be welcome."."

Obviously.

As previously mentioned it's a perfunctory action; I don't send winks. Indeed I haven't sent one for over three years, other than those which are part of a forum game or a challenge (an equally pointless exercise).

I've sat next to 'women friends' at a social who have shown me their 'wink tally', with the number varying between 350 and 600++ winks. A wink from a single man - no matter how well-intentioned with all the airs and graces - will simply languish like a forgotten waif in some obscure orphanage.

No woman of substance has the time or the wherewithal to sift through an ever-increasing mountain of winks. Hence their limited use. In fairness they are useful to a small minority.

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By *na64Woman
40 weeks ago

Manchester

"Yup! I never remember to check them. Same goes for the random friends requests "

This!

Never remember to look and random friend request are ignored

I do check my “who’s looking at you” though

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By *ris GrayMan
40 weeks ago

Dorchester

Yes

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast

I've mentioned on here before that I haven't sent a first contact message or wink in 4 years but I have tested a theory once in regard to fabs and winks.

I took part in a fabathon and a winkathon that were both taking place at the same time.

I winked and fabbed every single woman and couple that said they were in on both threads and that filters allowed.

It was a few years ago so I can't remember the combined total but it was somewhere in the region of 35-40.

I didn't get a single wink or fab in return.

It proved a point that so many take part in those threads for the validation alone but have zero intention of ever reciprocating.

It's a little like the ask in private answer in public threads.

I've probably taken part in 25-30 of those and asked 100 questions, most of which have been answered.

In return I've had about half a dozen questions from people who aren't on my friends list.

Many things are said on the forums to gauge reactions or garner interest but are no more than lipservice.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

No woman of substance has the time or the wherewithal to sift through an ever-increasing mountain of winks. Hence their limited use. In fairness they are useful to a small minority."

Hadn't really thought of that

...before, I would of said "wink" is a useful tool that's been rendered useless by people's attitude towards it. It's a harmless why of showing interest, that's treated with a strange distain by many fabbers

Having said that...women have to "sift through an ever- increasing mountain" of messages too

GULP!

Does that mean messaging is also only useful to a small minority?

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By *hunky GentMan
40 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

No.

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By *hristopherd999Man
40 weeks ago

Brentwood

"Would appreciate your thoughts people."

Totally

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By *orbidden eastMan
40 weeks ago

london dodging electric scooters

I reckon they work sometimes if you’re lucky

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By *aggy dollsCouple
40 weeks ago

Bradford

Yes because then you have to wink with the other eye, so you're better off just blinking and saving time

(How many people are now sat there winking with both eyes intermittently?

Mr H

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By *ecretSmile22Couple
40 weeks ago

Teesside

"Would appreciate your thoughts people."

Yes very much would much prefer a good message and face picture if the person is genuine. If they are not for us we message back letting them know politely.

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By *ezandCCouple
40 weeks ago

Telford

We think it’s a good way to say hi, if you don’t get one back or a message you know they aren’t interested.

Shame most people don’t seem to like them

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By *anted by NightMan
40 weeks ago

Shangri-La

"Blimey it's hard enough to get a reply to a message, never mind a wink.

This

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By *ecky and justCouple
40 weeks ago

Godalming

No, they’re not a waste of time.

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By *ubbie300Couple
40 weeks ago

Bawtry

We look at winks, if there is mutual interest we will make contact.

If not then we delete them

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By *imi_RougeWoman
40 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Yes, I just delete mine

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I look at them and I like profile find them attractive I wink back but not that often thou

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By *adCherriesCouple
40 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Yes, I never look.

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By *rsGigglerWoman
40 weeks ago

Stourbridge

Sometimes a wink is the start of something fabulous.

Other times I miss them first time around, but if I'm checking out the profile at a later date and notice they have winked before, it could make me more inclined to drop a message.

They are definitely a useful tool

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
40 weeks ago

Lingfield

Speaking as a 'single' male I'd say yes, largely a waste of time but so is writing a lot of nice personalised messages. It's a question of spending my precious time targeting specific couples with a nice message and then doing lots of winks to anyone else in the hope that it gets some sort of response in the form of a wink, message or follow up viewing.

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
40 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"Sometimes a wink is the start of something fabulous.

Other times I miss them first time around, but if I'm checking out the profile at a later date and notice they have winked before, it could make me more inclined to drop a message.

They are definitely a useful tool

Was just about to type this

We're the same

S xxx

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By *entleman JayMan
40 weeks ago

Wakefield

I don’t think anything has come from a wink.

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By *entleman JayMan
40 weeks ago

Wakefield

Correction. It did. I met a lady from one. Just before Christmas. She was lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Never sent one. Never responded to one. I just delete without looking at the sender

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

we review them, see if were interested, and also send them if were interested but unsure if were someones type

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
40 weeks ago

chichester

Had a few fuck meets off back of winks

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By *exy Bi FemWoman
40 weeks ago

Peterborough

Winks are a good way to see that someone is interested without the pressure. If the feeling is mutual then you can start a chat

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By *ou only live onceMan
40 weeks ago

London

No, I don't think so. For all those that delete or never check them, there's some that do, so what's to lose.

I think they're a good way of letting someone know you've noticed them. I like them.

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By *adCherriesCouple
40 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Another thing that bugs me about winks is when you actually wink back and never hear from them again. Its like they wink and then want you to put all the effort in by composing a message back.

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By *xfordjohnMan
40 weeks ago

Oxford

I posted above that i thought winks were a waste of time then almost immediately afterwards received a wink, followed by a message from the winker. They (couple) hadn't seen the forum thread and actually do want to meet, so I'll have to change my view - winks are great!

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By *hatismyrealname OP Man
40 weeks ago

Canterbury

All great answers people - so I still don’t know if to bother winking or not

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By *mf123Man
40 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

No they once changed my life

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By *ascaIMan
40 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

If it means I get fully erect when I see one then it’s surely not a waste of time.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
40 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"All great answers people - so I still don’t know if to bother winking or not

Try it and find out for yourself, what you got to lose? But what have you to gain. You'll only know if you try instead of asking random ppl on the forums...

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
40 weeks ago

Horsham

I think of them more as a time saving thing.

It saves me the time to write a message, it also saves the time of the person gets my message not read it and just delete it.

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By *urora1912Woman
40 weeks ago

Norfolk East anglia

I use a wink to show interest and I check mine to see if anyone peeks an interest for me too

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
40 weeks ago

Kent

I ignore them.

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By *hunky GentMan
40 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I use a wink to show interest and I check mine to see if anyone peeks an interest for me too

You do have very nice peaks.

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By *heitaliandreamerMan
40 weeks ago

Northampton

In my case if i am lucky i get 1 wink a month so it is not a bad idea for me to reply to it.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
40 weeks ago

Chatham

For me personally, yeah I never check em

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By *a LunaWoman
40 weeks ago

South Wales

Yes. Just message!

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By *ootyfruityCouple
40 weeks ago

andover

I like a wink, don’t usually respond with a message, but wink back

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By *oiluvfunMan
40 weeks ago

Penrith

After over 10 years of being in Fab, I cannot remember receiving a first time message from a solo female, but I’ve received winks aplenty, which have lead to bigger things

Ergo, from my perspective/experience; how would the ladies contact guys, it there was no wink option available……?

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Lots of people use them as a first sign of interest - in honesty i forget they are there

Its interesting when you click on a profile and it says xx winked at you xx weeks ago .. I'm like ohhh they might be interested!!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
40 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

It won’t let me wink for some reason. And I I always forget to look at winks anyway so yeah waste of time for me

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By *henomenalPandaMan
40 weeks ago

Torbay

Never had a problem with them, it's the polite way of just saying your interested without the ladies/couples freaking out with a message there probably never gonna read either and lost in there 100s of so called messages they receive, if they reciprocate they do if they don't they don't

I've had more great times starting from just a wink then anything else here

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
40 weeks ago

Reading

"TBH winks wouldn't be pointless if people understood how to use them correctly.

Sent wink: "I/We have seen your profile and like it, I/we would appreciate it if you would look at ours to see if you like it, are return a wink if you do."

Returned wink: "I/We have seen your profile and like it too, and I am/we are signalling now that a private message would be welcome."

Very much this.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
40 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We use them sometimes to show interest.

It’s usually someone who’s either a little younger than our norm or not the standard person we usually meet.

It’s a ‘hi, we like you, so have a look at our profile and see if you like us back’

If we get one back we’ll send a message. It’s sometimes better than sending a message and it being unread.

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By *ecretSmile22Couple
31 weeks ago

Teesside

Yes much prefer a nice message and face pic. We delete anyone who sends dick pics

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By *icketToRudeCouple
31 weeks ago

Wellingborough

We think winks are good and will wink back accordingly if someone takes our fancy. They work well as initial nod and an expression of interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

For me. No, I like a wink, it shows me if so sone had seen me and likes me enough to get my attention.

For them, yes. I’ve sent a few wink (don’t get me started on first messages) and nothing happened with them.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
31 weeks ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

They serve a purpose to those who use them.

As expressed they are a possible sign of mutual attraction and possible starting point for open conversation.

Think of them as a simple swap left or right, if you match, we'll then you can take it to the next level.

Some will like it others won't.

But it's an additional feature which the site provides which allows the start of member interaction, like forums, chatrooms and messaging services do.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

I dont really check them, if i do they are usually from guys with no profile pic and blank profile, i mean how am i supposed to know if im interested? So never usually bother with winks

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By *lue collar bradMan
31 weeks ago

Interesting read .. I do finding getting winks nice as its just a oh hello .... as the impression I get is that couples and females get bombarded with messages so just a wi k to say have a quick look there's some info on my profile and if you like wink back .

If I send a message and I don't get a reply it's more of a slap in my ugly face than an ignored wink

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By *MrandMrsRedxCouple
31 weeks ago

Wiltshire

We love winks, we use them if we find a profile we are attracted to, then if we get a wink bank we’ll open a conversation

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By *rHotNottsMan
31 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

So I’ll wink back at profiles if they wink me and I’m Interested. But I’ve noticed about half then don’t message.

I think it’s unwritten law that the first winker in a winking pair event sends the first message , keeps things fair & going in turns etc

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
31 weeks ago

London

I Never look at them or check who has visited my profile. Just Fabs immediately, and messages days later.

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By *ife NinjaMan
31 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Waste of time

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By *mber SkiesWoman
29 weeks ago

Cwmderi

I just don’t get why people from far away would ? It’s not likely your ever going to meet as there miles away & even if they say they would travel to you been there with some & it never happens

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

I love them!

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By *exyScientistsCouple
29 weeks ago

Castlebar

"Nah - I always review mine. Useful for starting a convo when there's a mutual attraction / mutual winking. "

Same as...if its someone we like the look of!

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By *iz78Woman
29 weeks ago

wirral

I use them because I'm shy

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By *ustintime69Man
29 weeks ago

Bristol

I like giving them because I get tongue tied

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
29 weeks ago

Bradford

Prefer message saying you read the profile and there something that interested you .but winks are good

Are oK you can look at the other person profile and respond or not .

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

"Nah - I always review mine. Useful for starting a convo when there's a mutual attraction / mutual winking. "

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Each to our own.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

We have used winks in the past to see if their is interest.

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By *iddle ManMan
29 weeks ago

Walsall

I think they have a place and they mean more to some than others. Surely a wink is testing the water and letting people know you are intrigued.

A message is always better but again, some on here are inundated with those aswell, you could be a Shakespeare in waiting and your message will fall by the wayside.

A wink must mean you would like to know more an dif the recipient does not respond, you have your answer.

There may be a better alternative but for now that's what we have in this site so go with it.

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By *ealitybitesMan
29 weeks ago

Belfast

I rarely look at winks and the last time I did there were some from 6 months previously that I'd never seen.

I didn't realise I had email notifications turned on for winks because I've never had an email when I got a wink until yesterday.

When I clicked on the link in the email it took me to my wink page but there was no wink from said profile.

The last wink showing was from months ago.

I searched for the person and it says on their profile that they winked me yesterday but there is nothing showing at my end.

I didn't wink back for numerous reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

I just got winked by another cock pic! This thread has been worthwhile after all!

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By *hitney NeilWoman
29 weeks ago

Hiding in a marmite jar near you.

"I just got winked by another cock pic! This thread has been worthwhile after all!

Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuunnnnnnnnnnnnnn

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By *ingo00Man
29 weeks ago

Cowley

Those who enjoy receiving them are the least likely to receive them and those who find them pointless are the most likely to receive them I believe, I'd be the former

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

"I just got winked by another cock pic! This thread has been worthwhile after all!

Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuunnnnnnnnnnnnnn

Which direction?

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By *hitney NeilWoman
29 weeks ago

Hiding in a marmite jar near you.

"I just got winked by another cock pic! This thread has been worthwhile after all!

Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuunnnnnnnnnnnnnn

Which direction?

Hello stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

"I just got winked by another cock pic! This thread has been worthwhile after all!

Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuunnnnnnnnnnnnnn

Which direction?

Hello stranger

I still keep getting marketing emails from that damn passage house hotel!

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By *ris GrayMan
29 weeks ago

Dorchester

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
29 weeks ago

wonderland.

"Would appreciate your thoughts people."
we look at them and sometimes respond

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
29 weeks ago

Herts

I don’t look at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

"I don’t look at them. "

I can’t wink.

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By *eah BabyCouple
29 weeks ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Can’t say we pay any or much attention, I’d say better to message if wanting a response

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By *imisugarWoman
29 weeks ago

Rugby

Depends- if I get a wink and there isn't much on the profile and no public pictures, I don't respond.

Sometimes I will wink back if I've liked what's on the profile and pictures.

Winks from hidden profiles- don't understand that one.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
29 weeks ago

Herts

"I don’t look at them.

I can’t wink. "

Autocorrect?

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Yes they're lazy. I delete them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

I think when you get a wink from someone you really fancy it’s the best thing ever! When it's from someone you don’t then it can be awkward…

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By *obilebottomMan
29 weeks ago

All over

I don't mind them

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By *asycouple1971Couple
29 weeks ago

midlands

Sometimes. A message would be better

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
29 weeks ago

Manchester

Yeaa. I’ve kinda concluded they are…

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By *ony MannMan
29 weeks ago

New York City New York USA

I don't use winks, but alway check them, once I met a shy peep, she was divine.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

We always look at our winks

Mrs

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By *omscoCouple
29 weeks ago

wembley

We check ours & wink back if interested x

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By *evonNewbiesCouple
29 weeks ago

Paignton

Winks are great to show interest. We use them for this purpose, if we don't get one back take it as a no thank you and we move on x

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