FabSwingers.com forum: What gets you into bed?

By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.

What does it for you?

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

All of that except the eye contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a wonder how we’ve not had sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Errr...consent?

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"It’s a wonder how we’ve not had sex"

As you stated earlier, you have the power to say no.

As I learned.

*sobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the best way to get me into bed too, funnily enough. Engage my mind and I’m yours. Talk passionately about social issues and other woke snowflake stuff and I’ll do whatever you want.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Errr...consent?"

Obviously! Blimey!

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Tiredness always gets me into bed lol

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

Spark my interest through conversation, discussion and jokes. Make me feel valued and wanted, rather than just someone who's in the right place at the right time. Mental attraction is way more important than physical, any day of the week.

Or just lie back and offer me grapes, honey and ice cream to eat from your naked body......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s a wonder how we’ve not had sex

As you stated earlier, you have the power to say no.

As I learned.

*sobs"

I could never say no to you

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

Running out of logs for the fire.

On the other hand Estella, a click of your fingers would work too.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Tiredness always gets me into bed lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tiredness always gets me into bed lol"

I’m going to have to wear you out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tiredness always gets me into bed lol"

Tiredness doesn’t get me into bed. It usually ends with me on the sofa

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

Or just lie back and offer me grapes, honey and ice cream to eat from your naked body......"

(Whispers…I have an almighty crush on you and am doing a little dance that you’ve posted)

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By *erdyCurvyInkedPervyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"This is the best way to get me into bed too, funnily enough. Engage my mind and I’m yours. Talk passionately about social issues and other woke snowflake stuff and I’ll do whatever you want.

Completely this for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Errr...consent?

Obviously! Blimey!"

Sorry, it's just that...I'm really uncomplicated

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

I did A-level Sociology - wanna talk about Phenomenology?

(I don't actually remember much about Phenomenology off the top of my head but I remember finding some interest in it at the time).

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Humour, kindness. A spark of wit that I can bounce off.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Running out of logs for the fire.

On the other hand Estella, a click of your fingers would work too.

Oh bless you, click away!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just l8ke men motecinteelgent than me. There not hard to find

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I just l8ke men motecinteelgent than me. There not hard to find"

I love that I actually know what you have said!!

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Errr...consent?

Obviously! Blimey!

Sorry, it's just that...I'm really uncomplicated

Oh I see! Sorry I thought you meant I wasn’t including consent in mine! Sorry I read that wrong!!

I get ya!

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

I did A-level Sociology - wanna talk about Phenomenology?

(I don't actually remember much about Phenomenology off the top of my head but I remember finding some interest in it at the time). "

Yasss. Phwoaaaar!

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By *uascaireMan
over a year ago

Dundalk

This…just so as your irises enlarge at the same rate as my dick does…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

I did A-level Sociology - wanna talk about Phenomenology?

(I don't actually remember much about Phenomenology off the top of my head but I remember finding some interest in it at the time). "

I read about this in a book called ‘at the existentialist cafe’ and it sounds phenomenal

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

I did A-level Sociology - wanna talk about Phenomenology?

(I don't actually remember much about Phenomenology off the top of my head but I remember finding some interest in it at the time).

I read about this in a book called ‘at the existentialist cafe’ and it sounds phenomenal

Lived experience is something I’m passionate about in my line of work.

In particular the idea of lived experience leadership.

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

"I just l8ke men motecinteelgent than me. There not hard to find

I love that I actually know what you have said!!

Rseacrh sowhs taht pordvdeid the frsit and lsat ltteer are in the crrceot palce egnilsh can be udnresootd rgeradelss of where the other leettrs are.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I just l8ke men motecinteelgent than me. There not hard to find

I love that I actually know what you have said!!

Rseacrh sowhs taht pordvdeid the frsit and lsat ltteer are in the crrceot palce egnilsh can be udnresootd rgeradelss of where the other leettrs are."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

Well for a start, if someone starts dictating, then it's not a conversation is it?

For me, sharing core (for me anyway, maybe I'm too long in the tooth) values such as courtesy, respect, dignity, honour, selflessness, diplomacy and empathy go a long long way.

A person doesn't have to have an astounding intellect to spark my interest, but a distinct lack of values will definitely get my warning lights flashing.

I'm aware I'm probably not being too succinct or clear, but that's just me probably rambling on like a stuck record (I find it much easier to talk in person as opposed to writing stuff down?).

Gonna stop now before I make myself sound even more stupidly dull n boring.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

I did A-level Sociology - wanna talk about Phenomenology?

(I don't actually remember much about Phenomenology off the top of my head but I remember finding some interest in it at the time).

Yasss. Phwoaaaar!"

I had a Marxist Feminist Sociology teacher. I agreed with a lot of what she said but held out a bit and argued for a Phenomenological point of view on the issues we discussed, as I recall. I should refresh my memory - shame I don't have my old notes!

But I think Sociology is also a general way of looking at and interrogating the world as well as it is about specific schools of thought, and I've never lost that I think.

What are your interests in it?

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By *uascaireMan
over a year ago

Dundalk

A willing enthusiastic woman…I’m a man?????

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

Well for a start, if someone starts dictating, then it's not a conversation is it?

For me, sharing core (for me anyway, maybe I'm too long in the tooth) values such as courtesy, respect, dignity, honour, selflessness, diplomacy and empathy go a long long way.

A person doesn't have to have an astounding intellect to spark my interest, but a distinct lack of values will definitely get my warning lights flashing.

I'm aware I'm probably not being too succinct or clear, but that's just me probably rambling on like a stuck record (I find it much easier to talk in person as opposed to writing stuff down?).

Gonna stop now before I make myself sound even more stupidly dull n boring.

I like what you’ve written a lot

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By *lueseasWoman
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

This is an excellent list. I would only add a cheeky, naugthy glint in the eye...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sound even more stupidly dull n boring.

You don't...but very much like OP, you make my teeth itch

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"sound even more stupidly dull n boring.

You don't...but very much like OP, you make my teeth itch"

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

What gets me into bed... people who don't take life too seriously but have a little seriousness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

Well for a start, if someone starts dictating, then it's not a conversation is it?

For me, sharing core (for me anyway, maybe I'm too long in the tooth) values such as courtesy, respect, dignity, honour, selflessness, diplomacy and empathy go a long long way.

A person doesn't have to have an astounding intellect to spark my interest, but a distinct lack of values will definitely get my warning lights flashing.

I'm aware I'm probably not being too succinct or clear, but that's just me probably rambling on like a stuck record (I find it much easier to talk in person as opposed to writing stuff down?).

Gonna stop now before I make myself sound even more stupidly dull n boring.

I like what you’ve written a lot

Aww thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

"Debate not Dictate" I like that saying....

& I'm going to use it....

Debate Don't Dictate

Sometimes people dictate in the forums when it should be just debates....(from my experience anyway)!!!!

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I can be laughed into bed.

Humour is such an attractive quality, especially on someone where it’s effortless, witty and well timed.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I can be laughed into bed.

Humour is such an attractive quality, especially on someone where it’s effortless, witty and well timed. "

Well timed like next to a bed?

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Mutual chemistry.. The kind that gets us beneath the surface in a matter of minutes in conversation. Openess, a warm heart, natural attentiveness and a dirty smile.

A kiss that makes me juice and some biting of my neck. Get the neck AND nipples and you're in.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

when im knackered

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

"Mutual chemistry.. The kind that gets us beneath the surface in a matter of minutes in conversation. Openess, a warm heart, natural attentiveness and a dirty smile.

A kiss that makes me juice and some biting of my neck. Get the neck AND nipples and you're in.

Would that be organic chemistry?

Good evening my Norse goddess.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Sometimes my husband gets me into bed. He gently lifts my bad leg up on the days it doesn't want to be moved

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Hope

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Laughing and being chilled

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By *eliusMan
over a year ago

Henlow

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

Yep all that and hobnobs! Or a Krispy Kreme…

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

A rum and , a packet of dolly mixture and a a bit of flattery does it every time!

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"A rum and , a packet of dolly mixture and a a bit of flattery does it every time!

*rum and cola

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brain and mind always

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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

Humour and intelligence coupled with a great personality, for me.

Gotta have something else to do once the wild monkey dance is over.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

If she's wearing blue underwear

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"Mutual chemistry.. The kind that gets us beneath the surface in a matter of minutes in conversation. Openess, a warm heart, natural attentiveness and a dirty smile.

A kiss that makes me juice and some biting of my neck. Get the neck AND nipples and you're in.

Would that be organic chemistry?

Good evening my Norse goddess.

Organic yes

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

"Mutual chemistry.. The kind that gets us beneath the surface in a matter of minutes in conversation. Openess, a warm heart, natural attentiveness and a dirty smile.

A kiss that makes me juice and some biting of my neck. Get the neck AND nipples and you're in.

Would that be organic chemistry?

Good evening my Norse goddess.

Organic yes

BTW, Did you ever see the drawing I sent you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laughter x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Laughter x"

Knock, knock......

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I've noticed you around, um

I find you very attractive

Would you, um

would you go to bed with me?

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I've noticed you around, um

I find you very attractive

Would you, um

would you go to bed with me?"

Now I’ve got that song in my head!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Laughter x

Knock, knock......

You with a bacon toasty, shoes and blue condoms???

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I've noticed you around, um

I find you very attractive

Would you, um

would you go to bed with me?

Now I’ve got that song in my head!!"

You're welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s a wonder how we’ve not had sex"

Yooooo, beat me to it

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Extreme tiredness

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"It’s a wonder how we’ve not had sex

Yooooo, beat me to it

We’re totally incompatible.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Laughter x

Knock, knock......

You with a bacon toasty, shoes and blue condoms???

We're a match made in heaven.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Chemistry. Without chemistry, which I can't quite explain why I have with some and not in the slightest with others, it'll never be more than a platonic thing. So chemistry as a base. A basic thing that's needed.

On top of that? I adore passion, passionate people. When there's something that makes someone's eyes light up, where they lean in to waffling excitedly about a topic. That ability to care about something, to embrace it. Very hot. If someone can combine that with the ability to make me think, to challenge me but not fall out when I disagree?

I like those who have a humour that's compatible with mine, tactile to a certain degree. I like people who possess a level of emotional maturity, who are able to discuss things as well as they can listen. Who are kind to others, show respect and thoughtfulness.

What definitely gets me in to bed? When I feel desired. Wanted by that person. Not because I have a vagina but because I'm me. I like feeling wanted, desired, whatever. I like feeling like there's more than the physicality that makes someone want to fuck me. If someone can convey that? Perfect.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

The last house on the left…

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

Er...I’M A MAN

Just ask

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By *antricSeeker60Man
over a year ago

Durham

Those who understands and embraces both their own desires and the needs of their partner, creating a safe and passionate space for exploration and mutual pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

Er...I’M A MAN

Just ask"

LMFAO this!!!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It’s usually because I’m tired and want a Kip.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A great smile, and boobs, simple but effective

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By *hunkyBuggaMan
over a year ago

Devon

Humour, confidence and easy conversation…. I can chat with the best of them so need someone to bounce off.

I think I have a good sense of humour and I think laughing and taking the mick is vital for that connection

I’m generally quite confident in most things and find that attractive in others.

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Personality

Humour

Light in there eyes

Window to the soul

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

Get into my mind, look me in the eye and touch that little bit of my neck behind my ear

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By *aughtycandyCouple
over a year ago

chams west Midlands

My man

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By *orders-cplCouple
over a year ago

middx cpl

has to be a good kisser dose it for me every time

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By *onameyet2Man
over a year ago

chorley

"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?

What does it for you?

"Debate not Dictate" I like that saying....

& I'm going to use it....

Debate Don't Dictate

Sometimes people dictate in the forums when it should be just debates....(from my experience anyway)!!!!"

Prefer mass debates myself

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By *tilettoaddictTV/TS
over a year ago

Nottingham / London, but mostly in and around London when free

Being told 'Get to bed... You've pulled'

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I have definitely been laughed straight into bed s couple of times. But otherwise you have to engage my mind. Head fuck me and ill be wet already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The chance of a wank

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Personality

Humour

Light in there eyes

Window to the soul

Oh and warm the bed up before I get in

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By *o_yeur_eyes_onlyMan
over a year ago

Londontown

"Hello"..... Usually works on me

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